0:00:00.000,0:00:01.932 Hola unconventionals. I'm Amelia. 0:00:01.932,0:00:02.950 And I'm JP. 0:00:02.950,0:00:06.317 And we are living our unconventional life[br]here in Cuenca Ecuador. 0:00:06.317,0:00:09.496 And we encourage you to live yours[br]whatever that may be. 0:00:09.496,0:00:12.076 Today we're going to talk about[br]overcoming your fears 0:00:12.076,0:00:15.401 or as JP likes to say, [br]"Kicking your fears in the butt." 0:00:15.401,0:00:19.432 Yes. We had to overcome a lot of fears[br]to sell all of our stuff 0:00:19.432,0:00:22.559 and move to another country here[br]to Cuenca Ecuador. 0:00:22.559,0:00:24.612 And we're going to talk about[br]some of the things we did 0:00:24.612,0:00:27.036 to help us overcome those fears[br]in this video. 0:00:27.036,0:00:30.116 But before we get started, please take[br]a moment to subscribe 0:00:30.116,0:00:33.577 and ring that bell so you get notified on[br]all of our upcoming videos. 0:00:33.917,0:00:52.510 [Music] 0:00:53.294,0:00:56.419 We're going to share our 9 tips[br]for overcoming your fears. 0:00:56.419,0:01:00.515 These are kind of in chronological order[br]based on the way we did them 0:01:00.515,0:01:02.612 and also kind of how they [br]just fall naturally. 0:01:02.612,0:01:07.462 Exactly. And even though we're going to [br]gear our tips around expating like we did, 0:01:07.462,0:01:11.109 we use these for other things as well[br]like starting our YouTube Channel, 0:01:11.109,0:01:17.856 or speaking Spanish so I think they're[br]pretty useful tips regardless of your fear. 0:01:17.856,0:01:22.231 Exactly. And our first one is [br]defining your big why. 0:01:22.231,0:01:25.189 Your big why is probably the most[br]important part of this 0:01:25.189,0:01:27.792 because without that you won't have[br]the motivation to do it. 0:01:27.792,0:01:32.648 And it can't be the why that your[br]family or friends think you should do 0:01:32.648,0:01:35.074 or society pressures you to do. 0:01:35.074,0:01:37.614 It has to really come from the core[br]of who you are. 0:01:37.614,0:01:41.606 Exactly. Our big why came when JP[br]had his health scare 0:01:41.606,0:01:44.497 and the doctor told him[br]he could have been paralyzed. 0:01:44.497,0:01:45.306 Or dead. 0:01:45.306,0:01:46.617 Yeah. That was pretty terrifying. 0:01:46.617,0:01:51.657 1mm. 1mm he said and I would have[br]either been paralyzed from the neck down 0:01:51.657,0:01:55.400 or dead. And that really made us [br]reevaluate our priorities. 0:01:55.400,0:01:57.844 It did. We went through a heck of a lot[br]that year. 0:01:57.844,0:02:00.579 We had already wanted to move [br]to another country 0:02:01.239,0:02:03.048 and that really helped us.. 0:02:03.598,0:02:05.230 It pushed us right over the edge. 0:02:05.230,0:02:07.560 Yeah. Exactly. It totally pushed[br]us over the edge. 0:02:07.560,0:02:10.230 Because we realized that tomorrow[br]is no guarantee. 0:02:10.230,0:02:13.491 You have to live everyday like it could be[br]your last day on this planet. 0:02:13.491,0:02:15.536 Because it could be. You never know. 0:02:15.536,0:02:16.635 Yeah, you never know. 0:02:16.635,0:02:19.593 So a lot of people spend their whole life [br]working toward retirement, 0:02:19.593,0:02:21.820 and then the retirement never comes. 0:02:21.820,0:02:25.243 Or they have some health issues and[br]they aren't able to.. 0:02:25.243,0:02:27.577 live their retirement dreams. 0:02:27.577,0:02:30.056 We certainly did not want to wait.[br]We didn't want to put it off. 0:02:30.056,0:02:32.251 And I'm really grateful that we did. 0:02:32.251,0:02:34.728 It sucks obviously that JP went[br]through all of that, but 0:02:34.728,0:02:36.522 thanks to that we're here. 0:02:36.522,0:02:40.370 Yeah. It led us here into this [br]unconventional adventurous life. 0:02:40.370,0:02:41.925 Yes. Exactly. 0:02:47.265,0:02:50.508 Tip number 2 is to [br]identify your true fear. 0:02:50.508,0:02:52.029 What are you really afraid of? 0:02:52.029,0:02:54.692 For me it was getting rid of everything[br]that I owned. 0:02:54.692,0:02:58.582 I spent a lot of time and money [br]getting my house all decked out 0:02:58.582,0:03:01.703 just the way I liked it with all the [br]furniture and everything 0:03:01.703,0:03:04.615 and the thought of selling it all[br]was really scary. 0:03:04.615,0:03:09.821 For me I think it was a combination [br]of fear of the unknown 0:03:09.821,0:03:13.350 and also fear of losing control. 0:03:13.350,0:03:15.940 Because there was so many things[br]I didn't know about. 0:03:15.940,0:03:21.217 I didn't know anything about Ecuador[br]or Cuenca or living in another country. 0:03:21.217,0:03:23.703 I knew I wanted to do it, but we had [br]thought Mexico 0:03:23.703,0:03:26.974 and I had already been there so I felt[br]a little more comfortable with that. 0:03:26.974,0:03:30.317 And what's going to happen once we[br]get there? 0:03:30.317,0:03:32.032 Are we going to be able [br]to find a place to live? 0:03:32.032,0:03:33.435 What about the dogs? 0:03:33.435,0:03:35.395 Are we going to like it?[br]Are we going to hate it? 0:03:35.395,0:03:36.529 Is it safe? 0:03:36.529,0:03:39.768 Amelia was very afraid of us[br]finding a place to live. 0:03:39.768,0:03:41.330 I was very fearful of that. 0:03:41.330,0:03:44.156 I think she thought we were going[br]to end up living on the street. 0:03:44.156,0:03:45.615 I did not think that. 0:03:45.615,0:03:48.260 But it was stressful to me. 0:03:48.260,0:03:49.768 I just wanted to get settled. 0:03:49.768,0:03:51.462 But you know what? All of it[br]worked out. 0:03:51.462,0:03:54.503 I sold all of my stuff and the more[br]of it I got rid of 0:03:54.503,0:03:56.170 the more I wanted to get rid of. 0:03:56.170,0:04:01.100 It was liberating! I felt like I was free[br]of the weight of my possessions. 0:04:01.100,0:04:05.954 Yeah and I have to say it was a process[br]for me to let go of my fear 0:04:05.954,0:04:09.328 and let go of my need to have control[br]over everything because 0:04:09.328,0:04:11.312 that's just not the way it works here. 0:04:11.312,0:04:15.023 And I think I'm pretty chillaxed [br]as a result. 0:04:15.023,0:04:16.006 Very tranquilo. 0:04:16.006,0:04:21.243 Yes. I've definitely learned to relax[br]and roll with things better now. 0:04:26.583,0:04:29.380 Number 3 is stop cancel clear. 0:04:29.380,0:04:31.592 That's right. Think positive. 0:04:31.592,0:04:33.673 Change your thoughts to positive ones. 0:04:33.673,0:04:36.945 We all have negative thoughts running[br]through our heads all the time 0:04:36.945,0:04:41.658 some of us more than others and when[br]you catch yourself with a negative thought 0:04:41.658,0:04:45.746 you just stop cancel clear and replace it[br]with a positive one. 0:04:45.746,0:04:48.207 Yeah and I'm gonna throw worrying [br]in there too because 0:04:48.207,0:04:52.240 I worry a lot or I did worry a lot about 0:04:52.240,0:04:54.530 what's going to happen if this doesn't work[br]or that doesn't work 0:04:54.530,0:04:56.937 and I was driving myself crazy. 0:04:56.937,0:04:58.067 And me too. 0:04:58.067,0:05:02.493 Yes. I had to remind myself to quit[br]worrying. To be present. 0:05:02.493,0:05:07.522 And to trust the outcome. And I did[br]and it helped a lot. 0:05:07.522,0:05:10.660 If you catch yourself thinking [br]negative thoughts you just say 0:05:10.660,0:05:11.822 It's all going to work out. 0:05:11.822,0:05:12.927 Everything's going to work out. 0:05:12.927,0:05:14.915 I'm going to do what it takes[br]to make this happen. 0:05:14.915,0:05:15.870 Right. 0:05:15.870,0:05:18.813 You just change the thought.[br]And it works for anything. 0:05:18.813,0:05:20.591 I used to be really afraid of falling. 0:05:20.591,0:05:25.170 Because I was afraid I was going to[br]break my back or my neck if I fell. 0:05:25.170,0:05:27.990 And I just changed those thoughts with 0:05:27.990,0:05:31.697 I'm healthy. I'm strong. I'm doing my[br]physical therapy. I'm not going to fall. 0:05:31.697,0:05:33.209 And if I do I'll be ok. 0:05:33.209,0:05:37.106 And I think I effectively proved[br]that I can survive a fall. 0:05:38.296,0:05:41.283 After a week ago I fell and sprained[br]my ankle. 0:05:41.283,0:05:44.128 Yeah and when you were lying flat[br]on your belly. 0:05:44.128,0:05:47.478 On the camera and the gimble[br]in the middle of the street. 0:05:47.478,0:05:51.457 And I survived. My back is fine.[br]My back and neck were fine. 0:05:51.457,0:05:56.557 My ankle wasn't. Neither was my elbow,[br]my hand or my other wrist. 0:05:56.557,0:06:00.202 My camera got a scratch, [br]but my back was fine. 0:06:00.202,0:06:04.423 Exactly. Yeah and truly what's the worst [br]that can happen? 0:06:04.423,0:06:06.828 That's what I have to remind myself[br]when I'm really stressed out. 0:06:06.828,0:06:09.098 Well the worst that can happen[br]would be if you're dead. 0:06:09.098,0:06:11.960 Yeah. So as long as that doesn't happen. 0:06:11.960,0:06:15.636 And we're remarkably good at staying[br]alive, us humage. Us humans. 0:06:15.636,0:06:16.839 Us humage. 0:06:16.839,0:06:19.294 Humage! A new word for human: humage. 0:06:19.294,0:06:24.964 Yeah, so if you catch yourself thinking [br]this isn't going to work out 0:06:24.964,0:06:28.172 or I can't do it or I'm scared or whatever 0:06:28.172,0:06:29.614 just tell yourself you can. 0:06:29.614,0:06:32.548 And I know maybe that sounds like it's[br]easier said than done 0:06:32.548,0:06:37.357 but it really truly does work. There's[br]a lot of power in your thoughts. 0:06:37.357,0:06:40.738 I got this idea from my old [br]business coach, Sandy. 0:06:40.738,0:06:42.167 Hi Sandy if you're watching. 0:06:42.167,0:06:44.113 She really helped me with this because 0:06:44.113,0:06:47.750 I used to have this issue a lot of dwelling[br]on the negative and she used to say, 0:06:47.750,0:06:49.289 "Just say stop cancel clear." 0:06:49.289,0:06:50.786 Yeah. It works! 0:06:50.786,0:06:51.692 It does work. 0:06:56.712,0:07:00.765 Our fourth tip is to accept your fear.[br]It is ok to be afraid. 0:07:00.765,0:07:04.092 Yes. Fear is a natural human response[br]to uncertainty. 0:07:04.092,0:07:09.434 Yeah so don't beat yourself up if you're[br]feeling insecure, nervous, afraid, etc. etc. 0:07:09.434,0:07:13.177 It can actually be a really good thing[br]if you identify that fear 0:07:13.177,0:07:17.415 and channel that into doing your homework,[br]doing your research, 0:07:17.415,0:07:21.162 paying attention to all the details[br]you need to do 0:07:21.162,0:07:25.171 to make sure everything is in order[br]I think you'll be better off. 0:07:25.171,0:07:28.085 Fear can actually be a benefit as long as[br]you don't end up with 0:07:28.085,0:07:29.738 analysis paralysis. 0:07:29.738,0:07:32.799 And if you don't let the fear paralyze you[br]into inaction. 0:07:32.799,0:07:35.346 Exactly. That's analysis paralysis. 0:07:35.346,0:07:37.596 This one right here. 0:07:37.596,0:07:41.060 I know! I get overwhelmed sometimes[br]and I can't do anything. 0:07:41.060,0:07:46.481 And I research and research and research[br]and then I get to the point where 0:07:46.481,0:07:48.567 the switch flips and I'm done. 0:07:48.567,0:07:50.791 I've made up my mind and I'm good to go. 0:07:50.791,0:07:55.689 But I spend so much time [br]laying the groundwork for the decision. 0:07:55.689,0:07:57.111 And sometimes that's a really good thing 0:07:57.111,0:08:01.073 especially if it's a very big decision[br]like moving to another country. 0:08:01.073,0:08:04.454 Yeah, we researched this [br]for months before we 0:08:04.454,0:08:08.569 actually we had researched it for about [br]a year and a half before we finally moved. 0:08:08.569,0:08:11.950 Right we took our time and definitely did [br]our homework and 0:08:11.950,0:08:15.327 tried to prepare ourselves as much as[br]we could, but we were still afraid. 0:08:15.327,0:08:19.421 And it was about 3 months before we[br]actually made the decision to do it 0:08:19.421,0:08:23.019 and then it took another over a year[br]to actually pull the trigger 0:08:23.019,0:08:23.953 and get it done. 0:08:23.953,0:08:24.608 Exactly. 0:08:24.608,0:08:28.410 So take your time, but spend that time[br]doing your research and your homework. 0:08:28.410,0:08:29.854 And getting ready. 0:08:34.733,0:08:37.902 Accepting your fears leads us into[br]tip number 5 and that is to 0:08:37.902,0:08:40.212 educate yourself to reduce your fears. 0:08:40.212,0:08:44.345 There are lots of ways to educate yourself[br]depending on what you're doing. 0:08:44.345,0:08:48.741 In terms of becoming an expat, you can[br]watch YouTube channels like ours. 0:08:48.741,0:08:54.106 Read books, read magazines, [br]read online forums 0:08:54.106,0:08:56.180 like International Living [br]has a helpful forum. 0:08:56.180,0:08:58.790 Facebook has a lot of groups like Ecuador.. 0:08:58.790,0:09:02.510 Expats in Ecuador and Cuenca Expats. 0:09:02.510,0:09:06.448 There are forums [br]for pretty much any destination 0:09:06.448,0:09:08.232 that you're thinking about moving to. 0:09:08.232,0:09:11.977 You can find a lot of support and [br]information on social media for sure. 0:09:11.977,0:09:16.959 Some of the information isn't necessarily[br]accurate you gotta verify it. 0:09:16.959,0:09:21.102 But a lot of people are really helpful and[br]they really want to share that information 0:09:21.102,0:09:25.013 with other people who are considering doing[br]what they have already done. 0:09:25.013,0:09:28.385 I know we really enjoy helping people do[br]what we've done. 0:09:28.385,0:09:30.739 And live our unconventional life. 0:09:30.739,0:09:32.220 Yes we do. 0:09:32.220,0:09:35.950 But I will say doing the.. starting to do[br]the research did help. 0:09:37.370,0:09:39.680 I guess because it helps take away that[br]fear of the unknown. 0:09:39.680,0:09:44.649 At least it did for me. So I started to[br]relax once we started to learn more. 0:09:44.649,0:09:47.721 I guess I felt like I knew what to expect. 0:09:48.181,0:09:50.603 That's one reason we started[br]our YouTube channel. 0:09:50.603,0:09:53.551 I watched every video [br]I could find on Cuenca 0:09:53.551,0:09:55.813 and some of the other places [br]we were looking at. 0:09:55.813,0:10:01.109 I didn't feel like they really provided[br]enough information, enough detail 0:10:01.109,0:10:03.487 for me because I'm a very [br]detailed oriented. 0:10:03.487,0:10:06.576 If you've watched any of our videos,[br]you can probably tell that. 0:10:06.576,0:10:11.623 And I want to make sure that we can [br]help other people fill in those gaps 0:10:11.623,0:10:13.203 as much as we can. 0:10:13.203,0:10:13.868 Exactly. 0:10:19.267,0:10:23.036 Number 6 on our list of 9 things to do[br]to overcome your fears 0:10:23.036,0:10:25.582 is to talk to people who have already done it. 0:10:25.582,0:10:28.703 We kinda mentioned this in number 5. 0:10:28.703,0:10:31.274 You can see how there's a bit of a [br]method to our madness 0:10:31.274,0:10:33.428 and it all works together in harmony. 0:10:33.428,0:10:35.385 It is a natural process. 0:10:35.385,0:10:37.879 There are a lot of people on [br]the social media forums 0:10:37.879,0:10:41.403 especially Facebook that will talk to you[br]and help you through this process. 0:10:41.403,0:10:42.860 People are very supportive. 0:10:42.860,0:10:44.309 And the ones that aren't, just block them. 0:10:44.309,0:10:48.375 And you know this tip works,[br]as the other ones do, 0:10:48.375,0:10:49.688 works for any type of fear. 0:10:49.688,0:10:51.946 When I first started doing [br]business development 0:10:51.946,0:10:53.624 I didn't know what in the heck [br]I was doing. 0:10:53.624,0:10:56.842 So I reached out to a couple business [br]development people 0:10:56.842,0:11:00.175 that I had just gotten an email[br]introduction through 0:11:00.175,0:11:03.928 and they were really nice and sat[br]down and chatted with me 0:11:03.928,0:11:06.211 about how they did things and [br]gave me some advice. 0:11:06.211,0:11:08.304 And that helped me immensely. 0:11:08.304,0:11:10.352 It definitely helped me overcome my fears. 0:11:10.352,0:11:12.879 I did the same thing [br]when I started my company. 0:11:12.879,0:11:16.863 I met with SCORE counselors who had[br]already started their own business. 0:11:16.863,0:11:18.143 They helped me out quite a bit. 0:11:18.143,0:11:21.411 I met with other business owners [br]in different fields and they helped me out. 0:11:21.411,0:11:24.183 It just really helps to talk to people [br]who have already done it. 0:11:24.183,0:11:26.362 It makes it seem more real[br]and more possible. 0:11:26.362,0:11:27.822 Exactly. Well said. 0:11:27.822,0:11:28.800 Thank you. 0:11:33.820,0:11:36.316 Tip number 7 is to find support. 0:11:36.316,0:11:38.805 People who are already doing right now 0:11:38.805,0:11:41.719 or in the same stage of the process [br]that you are. 0:11:41.719,0:11:45.729 Exactly. It's really helpful to have [br]somebody that you can talk things out with. 0:11:45.729,0:11:47.766 Also as an accountability partner. 0:11:47.766,0:11:51.463 It helps a lot to have somebody there[br]to hold you accountable 0:11:51.463,0:11:53.894 to make sure you actually do[br]what you say you're going to. 0:11:53.894,0:11:54.846 Yes it does. 0:11:54.846,0:11:56.754 It's amazing how that works. 0:11:56.754,0:11:59.603 It really is. Accountability really helps. 0:11:59.603,0:12:04.397 You can find support on LinkedIn and[br]Facebook and those types of groups. 0:12:04.397,0:12:05.614 Meetup groups are great. 0:12:05.614,0:12:08.960 Any time you can meet somebody[br]in real life for a coffee. 0:12:08.960,0:12:13.023 If you're a guy and you need a wingman.[br]Wingmen are a great source of support! 0:12:15.253,0:12:17.620 Ok! Moving on! 0:12:22.741,0:12:26.493 Number 8 on our list of 9 tips[br]to overcome your fears is.. 0:12:26.493,0:12:28.829 make a list and small chunk it. 0:12:28.829,0:12:31.514 Small chunking it is a JP-ism. 0:12:31.514,0:12:35.371 Yes. I wrote a book about [br]how to start a business, a dotcom 0:12:35.371,0:12:36.755 after I sold my company. 0:12:36.755,0:12:39.275 And I went around and did[br]public speaking 0:12:39.275,0:12:41.398 and one of my concepts was[br]small chunking it. 0:12:41.398,0:12:44.750 It basically just means breaking[br]larger tasks into smaller ones. 0:12:44.750,0:12:46.841 And you just keep checking stuff[br]off the list. 0:12:46.841,0:12:49.466 And that can really help alleviate fear. 0:12:49.466,0:12:52.088 It gives you that sense of [br]accomplishment as well. 0:12:52.088,0:12:54.423 And you're slowly moving towards[br]your goals 0:12:54.423,0:12:56.529 but it's much more manageable that way. 0:12:56.529,0:13:00.601 We are both list masters, list meisters. 0:13:00.601,0:13:02.665 I know I love crossing stuff off! 0:13:02.665,0:13:04.346 She's really the list maker. 0:13:04.346,0:13:06.640 She's even more so than I am. 0:13:06.640,0:13:09.290 We're always operating our [br]whole life off a list. 0:13:10.190,0:13:13.114 I have about 2 dozen of them[br]on my phone right now. 0:13:13.114,0:13:16.495 The lists are awesome because not only[br]does it help you focus 0:13:16.495,0:13:19.436 on the smaller things that you need[br]to do to get things done, 0:13:19.436,0:13:22.528 you have that sense of accomplishment[br]for checking stuff off, 0:13:22.528,0:13:27.402 but it really helps alleviate the fear[br]when it comes to a really big project 0:13:27.402,0:13:28.953 like moving to another country. 0:13:28.953,0:13:32.609 There are so many moving parts and[br]so many tasks to do when you have to leave. 0:13:32.609,0:13:34.279 You have to sell everything you own. 0:13:34.279,0:13:37.565 You've got the estate sale. [br]The house sale. The car sale. 0:13:37.565,0:13:41.622 You gotta work on your visas. [br]Your travel plans. Pet travel. 0:13:41.622,0:13:44.737 There's just so many things on the list[br]that you have to do 0:13:44.737,0:13:48.719 that having a list and checking things[br]off as you go through it 0:13:48.719,0:13:52.575 and also writing dates on things and[br]using a calendar to make sure 0:13:52.575,0:13:56.817 you don't miss dates like we did with[br]one of Alicia's shots. 0:13:56.817,0:13:58.507 Oh yeah. That's right. 0:13:58.507,0:14:01.478 So it's really helpful to have[br]all this stuff organized. 0:14:01.478,0:14:02.486 It is. 0:14:08.006,0:14:10.782 Tip number 9. Fake it until you make it! 0:14:12.042,0:14:15.220 I'm going to lump this in with getting [br]out of your comfort zone 0:14:15.220,0:14:16.598 and acting as-if. 0:14:16.598,0:14:18.424 Yeah. Acting as-if you've already done it. 0:14:18.424,0:14:19.389 Exactly. 0:14:19.389,0:14:22.316 You know a lot of people are faking it[br]right now you just don't even know it. 0:14:22.716,0:14:23.415 True. 0:14:23.415,0:14:27.187 Yeah. A lot of people have fears and they[br]don't let it paralyze them 0:14:27.187,0:14:28.799 or stop them from moving forward. 0:14:28.799,0:14:30.539 They're just faking it until they make it. 0:14:30.539,0:14:32.721 Yeah. You definitely gotta [br]believe in yourself. 0:14:32.721,0:14:36.287 And also accept that you're gonna be[br]uncomfortable at times. 0:14:36.287,0:14:37.897 It's gonna be scary at times. 0:14:37.897,0:14:41.039 You may think about changing[br]your mind at times. 0:14:41.039,0:14:43.360 I know we did several times. 0:14:43.360,0:14:45.396 We were like, "Do we really want to[br]leave the country?" 0:14:45.396,0:14:48.065 You might start second guessing yourself[br]and questioning yourself, 0:14:48.065,0:14:50.087 but that's why all these tips are helpful. 0:14:50.087,0:14:53.749 So to circle back around, [br]when that happens you want to say, 0:14:53.749,0:14:54.922 What's my big why? 0:14:54.922,0:14:56.212 Yeah. Why am I doing this? 0:14:56.212,0:14:59.448 And if you can tie all of these into [br]your big why 0:14:59.448,0:15:01.071 it keeps you motivated. 0:15:01.071,0:15:02.928 Yeah. You've talked to your support group. 0:15:02.928,0:15:04.355 You've done your education. 0:15:04.355,0:15:06.126 You know you want to do this. 0:15:06.126,0:15:09.984 Time to face your fears and[br]fake it until you make it. 0:15:09.984,0:15:11.267 You can do it. We did it. 0:15:11.267,0:15:13.279 If we can do it, anybody can! 0:15:13.279,0:15:14.129 That's right. 0:15:19.839,0:15:21.467 That's all for today unconventionals. 0:15:21.467,0:15:24.638 Hopefully you will find this list helpful[br]and useful. 0:15:25.478,0:15:26.913 It helped us out a lot. 0:15:26.913,0:15:28.271 We were really afraid. 0:15:28.271,0:15:31.276 We may have looked like we were calm[br]and collected on the outside 0:15:31.276,0:15:33.293 but on the inside we were scared to death. 0:15:34.523,0:15:37.632 So doing these things, it's kind of [br]naturally what we did 0:15:37.632,0:15:40.751 but we kind of also figured some of them[br]out along the way 0:15:40.751,0:15:42.695 and they really helped us a lot. 0:15:42.695,0:15:45.186 If you like our video, please remember to[br]give us a thumbs up. 0:15:45.186,0:15:46.966 Let us know if you liked it or not. 0:15:46.966,0:15:49.831 And also please remember [br]to share this video 0:15:49.831,0:15:53.033 if you know other people going through[br]the same stuff that we went through 0:15:53.033,0:15:54.912 and that perhaps you're going through now, 0:15:54.912,0:15:57.196 please help other people by[br]sharing this with them. 0:15:57.196,0:16:00.647 Yes. And join our group. [br]Join our Facebook group. 0:16:00.647,0:16:03.854 Our Facebook group, Amelia And JP's[br]Unconventional Community. 0:16:03.854,0:16:05.959 I'll put a link to that in our blog post. 0:16:05.959,0:16:07.640 Yes, we are here to provide you support. 0:16:07.640,0:16:10.658 And everybody else. We've already got[br]a lot of members. 0:16:10.658,0:16:12.185 Welcome everybody to the group. 0:16:12.185,0:16:13.255 Hola. 0:16:13.255,0:16:15.357 And everybody is willing [br]to help each other. 0:16:15.357,0:16:17.854 It's a great place to get support from [br]people who are going through 0:16:17.854,0:16:19.853 the same thing that you are right now. 0:16:19.853,0:16:21.303 Absolutely. 0:16:21.303,0:16:22.431 Alright, that's it for today. 0:16:22.431,0:16:23.596 See you soon. 0:16:23.596,0:16:24.773 ¡Chao! 0:16:25.861,0:16:27.497 She sure likes it under there. 0:16:27.497,0:16:28.839 What are you doing Daisy? 0:16:32.046,0:16:34.356 This is just for practice I assume.