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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.99,0:00:01.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,slurp, music
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.59,0:00:11.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so what is empathy
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.12,0:00:14.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and why is it very different from sympathy
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.75,0:00:17.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,empathy fuels connection,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.30,0:00:20.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sympathy drives disconnection
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.26,0:00:21.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,empathy, it is very interesting.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.35,0:00:27.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Theresa Wiseman, is a nursing schoar, who studied professions,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.13,0:00:30.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,very diverse professions where empathy is relevant
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.14,0:00:31.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and came up with
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.28,0:00:33.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,4 qualities of empathy.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.36,0:00:33.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Perspective taking - the ability to
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.72,0:00:36.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take the perspective of another person
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.19,0:00:36.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or .. or
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.49,0:00:36.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,recognise the perspective as their truth
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.76,0:00:37.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,staying out of judgement, not easy when you enjoy it as much as most of us do .. (crowd laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.75,0:00:39.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Recognising emotion in other people and in communicating that
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.76,0:00:42.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Empathy is feeling with people and to me I always think that empathy is kind of sacred space
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.29,0:00:43.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when someone has gone into a deep hole and they shout out from the bottom
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.31,0:00:45.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.83,0:00:47.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.97,0:00:51.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.83,0:00:56.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.26,0:01:01.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.26,0:01:03.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hey I am stuck, it's dark
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.89,0:01:06.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and overwhelmed
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.28,0:01:08.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then we say
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.40,0:01:10.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hey! I'm down. I know what it is like
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.33,0:01:12.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,down here and you are not alone
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.13,0:01:13.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sympathy is oooh....
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.81,0:01:15.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(crowd laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.91,0:01:18.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's bad, uh uh (Crowd laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.11,0:01:20.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,uhhhh... no
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.72,0:01:22.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You want a sandwich?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.48,0:01:24.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ummm... (Crowd laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.27,0:01:26.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Empathy is a choice and it is vulnerable choice
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.94,0:01:33.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in order to connect with you, I have to connect with something in myself that knows that feeling.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.34,0:01:39.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rarely, if ever, does an empathic response begins with at least
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.26,0:01:43.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Crowd laughter) I had a ..., yeah, and we do it all the time
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.02,0:01:44.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you know why? Somebody just shared something with us, that is incredibly painful
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.45,0:01:48.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.90,0:01:50.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we are trying to silver lining it
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.93,0:01:54.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I dont think that is a verb, but I am using it as one
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.61,0:01:56.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are trying to put a silver lining around it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.93,0:01:58.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, ......... I had a miscarriage
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.23,0:02:01.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh.. at least you know you can get pregnant.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.03,0:02:02.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think, my marriage is falling apart
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.12,0:02:05.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At least, you have a marriage
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.16,0:02:07.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Crowd laughter
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.11,0:02:11.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,John is getting kicked out of school
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.02,0:02:13.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At least, Sarah is an A student
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.30,0:02:15.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But one of the things we do some times
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.25,0:02:20.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the face of very difficult conversations, is
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.15,0:02:22.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we try to make things better
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.37,0:02:25.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I share somehing with you that is very difficult, I'd rather you say
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.03,0:02:26.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(sigh)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.24,0:02:30.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I dont even know what to say right now, I am glad you told me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.33,0:02:32.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Pause) Because the truth is,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.66,0:02:36.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rarely can a response, make something better.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.07,0:02:38.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What makes something better is connection
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.30,0:02:46.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pause
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.92,0:02:49.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Music
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,