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Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.74,0:00:10.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The slideshow is haunted,\Nso I'm going to just put this here -
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.67,0:00:12.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.10,0:00:13.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just go with this.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.15,0:00:15.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hello, thank you so much!
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.08,0:00:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, my name is Colin Wright.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.92,0:00:23.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am very, very fortunate\Nto live a very unusual lifestyle.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.53,0:00:26.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I move to a new country\Nevery four months
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.50,0:00:28.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and do my best to live like a local,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.93,0:00:31.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that country is decided on\Nby my blog readers,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.91,0:00:33.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they vote on what country I move to.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.74,0:00:34.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.91,0:00:37.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And while there, I write books -
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.26,0:00:39.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I write books for a living,\NI'm an author -
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.31,0:00:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I write books about travel,\Nand about business, and philosophy,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.38,0:00:45.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,relationships, science-fiction novels -
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.74,0:00:49.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kind of whatever is interesting\Nto me at the moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.36,0:00:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I feel very, very fortunate\Nto be able to pursue these interests,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.70,0:00:56.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these many interests of mine\Nthat I geek out about all the time,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.91,0:01:00.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to be able to do this for a living,\Nto share with other people for a living.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.80,0:01:04.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the reason that I'm able to do this\Nis not happenstance,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.36,0:01:08.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was a very intentionally\Ncultivated lifestyle.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.65,0:01:11.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd like to talk to you\Nabout that idea of intentionality,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.81,0:01:14.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but first, I want to talk\Nto you about a shirt.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.30,0:01:18.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's a shirt that we all have,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.35,0:01:20.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,probably, I'm guessing\Nmost of us have this shirt.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.22,0:01:25.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the shirt that,\Nwhen you wake up in the morning,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.03,0:01:28.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you go into your dresser, you know,\Nand you open up the shirt drawer,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.84,0:01:33.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you take it out and you\Nlook at it, maybe try it on,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.64,0:01:36.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it doesn't quite go\Nwith everything else that you're wearing,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.50,0:01:40.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's shaped a little weird,\Nmaybe it's a little boxy, a little short,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.45,0:01:46.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like the sleeve is a blousy, weird shape,\Nit doesn't quite fit you,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.36,0:01:48.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not a good fit for you
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.56,0:01:50.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what you're trying\Nto get out of a shirt.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.65,0:01:53.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you fold it back up,\Nand you put it back in the drawer,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.95,0:01:55.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe put some other shirts on top of it,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.90,0:01:58.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you don't have\Nto deal it again for a while.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.14,0:01:59.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.30,0:02:01.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It sucks, because it's\Na really nice shirt,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.34,0:02:04.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you spent a little bit of money on it,\Nbut it doesn't quite fit you,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.56,0:02:09.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so maybe someday, maybe someday\Nyou will wear this shirt, but not today.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.78,0:02:11.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.31,0:02:12.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And about seven years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.72,0:02:15.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found myself going\Nthrough that shirt routine
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.12,0:02:17.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I go in, take out\Nthe shirt and look at it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.17,0:02:22.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But on that day, I didn't follow through\Nwith the rest of the routine.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.01,0:02:27.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On that day, I crushed it in my hand,\Nsaid, "Not today, shirt!"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.40,0:02:28.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.61,0:02:30.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I threw it on the floor.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.67,0:02:32.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What had changed?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.16,0:02:37.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, I realized, on that day,\Nseven years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.33,0:02:41.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I was ostensibly successful,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.24,0:02:43.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was doing really well professionally,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.11,0:02:45.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was running a branding studio\Nout of Los Angeles,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.85,0:02:49.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was a young person\Nmaking a great deal of money
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.27,0:02:51.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and experiencing professional success.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.61,0:02:53.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And like a lot of young people
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.06,0:02:56.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who make a great deal of money\Nfor the first time in their lives,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.15,0:02:57.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I bought a lot of stuff.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.46,0:03:03.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I filled my townhouse with stuff,\Nand I filled my drawers with stuff,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.15,0:03:06.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I had all this excess clothing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.73,0:03:08.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And holding up that shirt
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.40,0:03:11.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,really made apparent something\Nthat I was thinking for a while.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.94,0:03:14.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I was thinking\Nof re-calibrating my life,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.61,0:03:15.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to try to move away
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.90,0:03:20.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from the "work hard all the time to make\Nas much money as possible" lifestyle
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.87,0:03:24.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I was enjoying in some ways,\Nbut was not truly fulfilling,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.80,0:03:27.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it wasn't allowing me\Nto do the things I wanted to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.08,0:03:30.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was thinking, maybe\NI can figure out a lifestyle,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.48,0:03:31.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a way that I could travel,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.76,0:03:33.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a way that I could\Ngo out and see the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.84,0:03:35.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all these places I was hearing about.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.71,0:03:39.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I don't know if you know anything\Nabout the American education system,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.52,0:03:41.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we don't learn much about other countries.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.52,0:03:42.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.37,0:03:45.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was really hoping to get out,\Nsee some of these other countries,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.46,0:03:48.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and see the real people there\Nrather than what you hear on "Fox News."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.88,0:03:52.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.18,0:03:55.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, I was looking at all this stuff,\Nand suddenly, these things that I saw
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.99,0:03:58.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a representation\Nof how well I had done,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.72,0:04:00.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,seems like anchors.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.65,0:04:04.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were a bunch of anchors,\Nholding me back,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.06,0:04:06.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I had to do something with them,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.58,0:04:09.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they made sense in this space\Nwhile I was living there,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.34,0:04:10.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but if I wanted to travel,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.59,0:04:13.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would have to do something\Nwith all of this stuff.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.02,0:04:16.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so I was thinking, well maybe\NI'll get a smaller apartment,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.24,0:04:17.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just for the stuff.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.90,0:04:20.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, my shirts and things\Ncan have their own place,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.05,0:04:23.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'll just pay for that\Nwhile I'm traveling,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.25,0:04:25.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so there will be this weird\Ncommon stuff apartment,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.68,0:04:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,somewhere in the United States,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.18,0:04:28.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as I travel.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.16,0:04:32.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or maybe just a storage space,\Nsomewhere that I can keep my stuff.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.76,0:04:34.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But looking at that shirt -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.40,0:04:39.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this valuable shirt, it was nice, it was\Na really somewhat expensive shirt -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.81,0:04:42.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in that moment, I felt like Pharaoh,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.87,0:04:46.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like I was burying myself\Nwith my riches.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.75,0:04:50.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had all of this valuable stuff,\Nsitting there in my home,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.19,0:04:52.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I wasn't doing anything with.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.91,0:04:54.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wasn't using the shirt.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.88,0:04:56.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wasn't using\Nmost of the stuff that I had,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.97,0:05:01.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was sitting there,\Ncollecting dust, as I hoarded it
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.44,0:05:03.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that nobody else could have it.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.12,0:05:07.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it only hit me just then.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.12,0:05:09.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so I crumpled the shirt,\Nthew it on the floor,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.45,0:05:12.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,shouted at it for some reason,\NI'm not sure why -
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.19,0:05:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.58,0:05:15.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was more upset with myself\Nthan the shirt.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.27,0:05:18.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I went through\Nthe rest of my drawer.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.66,0:05:24.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I held up each object and said,\N"Is this valuable to me?"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.03,0:05:25.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not "Is it just valuable?",
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.44,0:05:27.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because almost everything\Nis valuable to someone,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.76,0:05:29.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Is it valuable to me?"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.72,0:05:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the case of my clothing,\Nit was really easy.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.18,0:05:35.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could say, "Have I worn this\Nin the last month?"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.08,0:05:37.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if not, it went on the floor.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.86,0:05:41.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went through the entire drawer,\Npulled out all the shirts I hadn't worn,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.35,0:05:43.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,went through the next drawer,\Nall of my pants,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.52,0:05:46.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,went through the closets,\Nall of my jackets and my shoes,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.61,0:05:49.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,went through the office,\Nall of the computers -
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.35,0:05:51.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a bunch of spare computers,\Nfor some reason.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.69,0:05:52.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.71,0:05:55.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All the extra tools, and notebooks,\Nand art supplies,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.19,0:05:59.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all of these things I went through to see\Nwhat I was actually getting value from.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.56,0:06:02.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very little of it.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.96,0:06:06.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like 95 percent of everything I owned\Nwas there on the floor.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.38,0:06:07.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the pile was so big,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.82,0:06:11.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to take an entire room\Nin my flat to store it all.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.68,0:06:15.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a room full of stuff I wasn't using\Nthat I was hoarding like Pharaoh.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.93,0:06:19.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a word for this -
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.49,0:06:22.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not for hoarding, not for that,\Nthere's many words for that,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.31,0:06:23.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,none of them good -
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.42,0:06:25.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but there's a word for what I was doing,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.44,0:06:27.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,iteratively going through my life
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.56,0:06:30.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and questioning the things\NI took for granted.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.58,0:06:33.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's called intentionality.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.50,0:06:35.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And intentionality, it's not a scary word,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.73,0:06:38.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's something that we build up,\NI think, very often,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.24,0:06:40.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but all it means is\Ndoing things on purpose.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.74,0:06:43.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that does require\Nthat you have a purpose,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.89,0:06:46.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you have some kind of goal,\Noff on the horizon.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.67,0:06:48.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Once you have that, once you understand
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.58,0:06:51.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what you want to achieve,\Nwhere you want to go,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.86,0:06:53.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,acting intentionality just means
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.60,0:06:56.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looking at all the different aspects\Nof your life and saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.48,0:06:58.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Does this help me get there?"
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.82,0:07:02.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, getting rid of those things
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.65,0:07:05.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was a step that helped me\Nget to where I wanted to be.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.84,0:07:09.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And intentionality is something\Nthat applies to all aspects of your life.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.88,0:07:14.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we apply it to the things,\Nthe possessions in our lives,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.35,0:07:16.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we tend to call this\Nminimalism, very often -
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.65,0:07:20.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's kind of the common moniker\Nfor it these days, which is great -
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.06,0:07:21.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all minimalism is,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.93,0:07:24.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is focusing on the core,\Nwhat's important -
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.65,0:07:26.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever that happens to mean to you -
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.41,0:07:29.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and getting rid of the excess,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.14,0:07:31.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,getting rid of all the stuff\Nthat doesn't matter
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.38,0:07:35.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that you free up more time,\Nenergy, and resources
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.83,0:07:38.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to spend on the things that do matter.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.25,0:07:43.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it's a reallocation of your efforts,\Nand attention, and your money, basically.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.30,0:07:45.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if I spend less\Non the things that don't matter,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.74,0:07:48.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have more to spend\Non the things that do matter.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.08,0:07:49.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's an incredibly simple thing,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.74,0:07:51.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yet it's something\Nthat we tend to forget
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.88,0:07:55.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because there's a lot of messages\Ntelling us that to be someone,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.83,0:07:58.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have to own this thing,\Nwe have to own this brand,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.82,0:08:02.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have to stand with this group\Nand be represented by this tribe.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.62,0:08:05.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's obviously not true,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.12,0:08:06.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're never more ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.84,0:08:09.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than when we're buying\Nand surrounding ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.35,0:08:12.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with exactly the things that serve us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.32,0:08:14.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that give us value\Nand nothing more than that.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.39,0:08:16.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that's not very lucrative
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.84,0:08:20.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for these companies that have things\Nthat they want to sell a lot of.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.09,0:08:24.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you have to pay a lot of attention\Nand really focus on intentionality
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.14,0:08:27.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to remember this\Nas you're making purchases.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.28,0:08:31.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, the same thing\Napplies to relationships.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.21,0:08:35.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this is something that a lot of us\Ndon't think of, like ever,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.26,0:08:37.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it's not polite, frankly.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.24,0:08:38.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.55,0:08:40.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because, just as\Nintentionality with your stuff
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.75,0:08:42.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,means going through\Nyour things and saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.76,0:08:46.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Which of these is valuable,\Nand which of them is dead-weight?",
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.09,0:08:51.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going through your relationships\Nand doing the same
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.19,0:08:52.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,means looking at them and saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.81,0:08:56.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Which of these is the most vitally\Nimportant relationships in my life?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.30,0:08:59.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which of these is just good?"
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.86,0:09:03.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, friendships\Nand relationships of convenience,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.03,0:09:04.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the person you sit next to at work,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.74,0:09:06.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you happen to go to school with,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.50,0:09:08.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who happens to live next door -
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.23,0:09:09.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,valuable relationships,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.90,0:09:12.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe not the things\Nthat should have all of your time,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.73,0:09:15.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're great in context,\Nbut these are not your best friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.87,0:09:18.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these are not your significant others,\Nthese are not your family.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.94,0:09:23.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then there is\Nthose relationships that drain us,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.22,0:09:26.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are actually\Nnet-negatives on our lives,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.05,0:09:28.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we tend to invest a lot in these
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.14,0:09:31.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it's not polite\Nto step out of a friendship,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.44,0:09:35.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to step away from a family member,\Nto give them less of your time
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.66,0:09:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they are actively harmful\Nto you and your life,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.06,0:09:39.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they are a toxic relationship.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.09,0:09:43.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Being intentional\Nwith your relationships, though,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.01,0:09:45.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it means really being\Ntruthful with yourself and saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.84,0:09:50.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Is this a person who deserves more\Nof my time, and intention, and energy?"
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.06,0:09:53.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do they?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.42,0:09:55.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if not, if the answer is no,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.05,0:09:58.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,free up that time, take it and give it\Nto the people who truly do,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.42,0:10:02.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the people who really add to your life,\Nwho really make you feel better,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.46,0:10:04.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who help you get to where you want to be.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.18,0:10:09.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the root of intentionality,\Nit's doing it on purpose,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.08,0:10:12.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,forming relationships\Nand maintaining relationships on purpose,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.30,0:10:16.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and making sure those really, really\Ntruly valuable people in your life
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.28,0:10:18.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,get the attention from you\Nthat they deserve.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.01,0:10:21.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, the same applies to work.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.60,0:10:23.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is also a very\Nunpopular thing to say.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.28,0:10:28.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we judge our work\Nand our success within work
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.35,0:10:32.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,based on usually just one metric:\Nhow much money are you making?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.33,0:10:37.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what shows if you're successful,\Nthe family's proud of you,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.92,0:10:40.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but really, at the end of the day,\Nthat's just one metric.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.64,0:10:41.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Money is great!
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.81,0:10:43.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, I'm not anti-money.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.56,0:10:47.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You need it, you need to have a roof\Nover your head, food on your table,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.03,0:10:51.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to provide a basic level of security\Nfor yourself and the people around you,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.01,0:10:57.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but if you're acting intentionaly,\Nif you're doing work on purpose,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:57.55,0:10:59.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that means that you're looking at\Nthat bigger goal,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.96,0:11:02.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that place that you want to be,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.23,0:11:05.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and questionning every choice\Nthat you make within your profession,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.23,0:11:09.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,saying, "Does this help me get\Nto that place where I want to be?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.34,0:11:12.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That place where I am more myself\Nthan I have ever been before,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.78,0:11:15.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I'm incredibly happy,\Nwhere I'm fulfilled on a deeper level,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.88,0:11:18.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I feel like I'm doing work\Nthat is valuable,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.30,0:11:22.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not just to me in the paychecks' sense,\Nbut to somebody beyond me,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.69,0:11:24.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel like I'm contributing in some way."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.65,0:11:28.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And once you're able to question that,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.48,0:11:32.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've looked at the three core\Ncomponents of a healthy lifestyle -
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.75,0:11:34.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and each and everyone of us
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.78,0:11:37.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has a different idea\Nof what the ideal lifestyle is,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.81,0:11:40.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a different idea of the people\Nthat we want in our lives,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.68,0:11:43.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the things that we want to have\Nsurrounding us,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.35,0:11:47.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because if you buy the right things,\Nthings actually can earn you happiness,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:47.76,0:11:50.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,money can buy happiness\Nif you buy the right things -
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.45,0:11:54.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the people in our lives\Nand the work that we do day-to-day.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.78,0:11:57.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are all things that,\Nwhen in aggregate,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.80,0:12:01.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,allow us to live a lifestyle\Nthat when you look at it, it's you;
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.12,0:12:03.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is something that represents me.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.25,0:12:07.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The lifestyle that I live,\Nthe incredibly bizarre lifestyle
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.33,0:12:10.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I travel around\Nand write all kinds of books,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:10.15,0:12:12.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my readers vote on where I go,\Nwhat's that about?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.67,0:12:16.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's strange, but it looks just like me!
Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.80,0:12:19.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the people who know me well\Nlook at it and say,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:19.18,0:12:22.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh yeah, that's totally Colin!\NThat makes perfect sense."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.59,0:12:24.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And ideally, each and everyone of us
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.31,0:12:26.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can look at our lives\Nand say the same thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.32,0:12:30.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These people I surround myself with,\Nthis stuff that I own,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.08,0:12:31.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this work that I'm doing,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.60,0:12:34.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is an accurate\Nrepresentation of who I am.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.09,0:12:37.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the ideal.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:38.56,0:12:40.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And each and everyone of us\Nshould be proud
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.82,0:12:45.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have our own individual path\Ntoward that greater goal,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.32,0:12:46.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,toward that purpose.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.38,0:12:53.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you start\Nto live your life intentionaly,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.11,0:12:55.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it can look a little weird to people.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:55.84,0:12:58.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're getting rid of your stuff, maybe.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.11,0:13:01.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It looks very strange to some people.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:01.14,0:13:04.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may be buying more intentionaly,\Nbuying fewer things,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.42,0:13:06.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hanging out with fewer people -
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.36,0:13:10.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can be a little bit awkward\Nto have that discussion -
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.37,0:13:12.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and maybe taking on work\Nthat isn't just lucrative,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.76,0:13:14.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not earning you as much,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:14.16,0:13:16.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it doesn't have the same\Nprestigious job title.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.25,0:13:19.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the end of the day,\Nyou may experience some push-back,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.92,0:13:22.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people may try to dissuade you
Dialogue: 0,0:13:22.31,0:13:24.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from moving in the direction\Nthat you want to move in.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:24.81,0:13:26.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's okay, you know.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.26,0:13:28.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are not people\Nwho are horrible people,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.37,0:13:31.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these are people that are actually\Nvery well-meaning people,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.18,0:13:34.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because if you look at the standard path\Nthat we're offered,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:34.92,0:13:36.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pretty much from birth up until we die,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.96,0:13:40.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is the path, this is where you start,\Nand then you do this, this, and this,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:40.74,0:13:43.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then victory, you end up\Nat that finish line, at some point.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:44.13,0:13:48.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That path is like a great big highway,\Nit's an autobahn, okay?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:48.33,0:13:51.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's well paved, it's well-lit,\Nthere's a lot of signs everywhere
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.38,0:13:53.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling you exactly\Nhow to get there, to this goal.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.33,0:13:57.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you start moving\Ntoward a different goal,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.14,0:14:00.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've moved off that well-lit path,\Nmaybe there's potholes,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:00.32,0:14:03.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe it's not paved,\Nmaybe it's like a little goat road,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:03.67,0:14:05.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like, you're just swerving off to the side,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.69,0:14:09.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,very few people are taking this,\Nso they don't even bother to put up signs.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:10.36,0:14:14.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe your lifestyle choice is so obscure,\Nnobody's done it before,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.22,0:14:16.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so you're like carving your way\Nthrough the woods
Dialogue: 0,0:14:16.74,0:14:18.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to try to get to some unknown path.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.40,0:14:21.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so the people in your life\Nwill look at that and say,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:21.11,0:14:23.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What the actual hell are they doing?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.65,0:14:24.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.89,0:14:29.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm concerned for them!\NWhere will they end up?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:29.01,0:14:31.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's so many risks\Nassociated with this."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.21,0:14:32.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they're totally right!
Dialogue: 0,0:14:32.70,0:14:34.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because people who care about you,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:34.59,0:14:37.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they want more than anything else\Nfor you to be happy and secure.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:38.85,0:14:40.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you start acting intentionaly,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:40.81,0:14:43.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you start questioning\Neverything in your life
Dialogue: 0,0:14:44.15,0:14:47.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and living on purpose, your purpose,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:47.43,0:14:51.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it can look very unsecure,\Nit can be less structurally stable,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.30,0:14:53.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it makes sense\Nthat they would question that,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.60,0:14:55.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that they should question\Nwhat you're doing
Dialogue: 0,0:14:55.79,0:14:57.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and give you that valuable feedback.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.72,0:15:01.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But at the end of the day,\Nall you can do to convince them,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.62,0:15:04.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to show them that this is something\Nthat's important to you,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:04.43,0:15:06.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you're not going to take\Nridiculous risks,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:06.64,0:15:09.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're just trying to be happy,\Nyou're trying to be more you,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:09.85,0:15:12.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to show them the benefits,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:12.50,0:15:14.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tell them what you're up to, certainly,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:14.48,0:15:16.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but then show them\Nwith the way that you live,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:16.65,0:15:19.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you are happy,\Nthat you're making smart decisions,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:19.56,0:15:22.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that this is something\Nthat allows you to feel fulfilled
Dialogue: 0,0:15:22.23,0:15:24.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a way that that highway never could.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:26.60,0:15:29.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if they don't get it, that's okay.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:30.26,0:15:33.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everybody has a different path,\Nthey have theirs and you have yours.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.05,0:15:38.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And try to forgive,\Ndon't hold it against them.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:38.50,0:15:42.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not everybody has the opportunity\Nto take that step back,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.05,0:15:44.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and look at their life,\Nand then question everything.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:44.72,0:15:48.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not a luxury\Nthat all of us are afforded.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:51.09,0:15:56.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But whichever direction you start heading,\Nwhichever life choice you make,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.17,0:16:00.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do your best to be happy,\Ndo your best to be fulfilled,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:00.04,0:16:03.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do your best to lay signs for other people\Nwho might follow behind you
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.76,0:16:05.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that they can do the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:06.21,0:16:11.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And ultimately, however you live,\Ndo your best to live on purpose.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:11.43,0:16:12.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you very much.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.47,0:16:15.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)