0:00:06.737,0:00:10.672 The slideshow is haunted,[br]so I'm going to just put this here - 0:00:10.672,0:00:12.100 (Laughter) 0:00:12.100,0:00:13.154 and just go with this. 0:00:13.154,0:00:15.080 Hello, thank you so much! 0:00:15.080,0:00:16.923 So, my name is Colin Wright. 0:00:16.923,0:00:23.528 I am very, very fortunate[br]to live a very unusual lifestyle. 0:00:23.528,0:00:26.498 I move to a new country[br]every four months 0:00:26.498,0:00:28.934 and do my best to live like a local, 0:00:28.934,0:00:31.912 and that country is decided on[br]by my blog readers, 0:00:31.912,0:00:33.742 they vote on what country I move to. 0:00:33.742,0:00:34.909 (Laughter) 0:00:34.909,0:00:37.260 And while there, I write books - 0:00:37.263,0:00:39.310 I write books for a living,[br]I'm an author - 0:00:39.310,0:00:43.378 and I write books about travel,[br]and about business, and philosophy, 0:00:43.378,0:00:45.739 relationships, science-fiction novels - 0:00:45.739,0:00:49.364 kind of whatever is interesting[br]to me at the moment. 0:00:49.364,0:00:53.698 And I feel very, very fortunate[br]to be able to pursue these interests, 0:00:53.698,0:00:56.908 these many interests of mine[br]that I geek out about all the time, 0:00:56.908,0:01:00.778 and to be able to do this for a living,[br]to share with other people for a living. 0:01:00.795,0:01:04.356 And the reason that I'm able to do this[br]is not happenstance, 0:01:04.356,0:01:08.647 it was a very intentionally[br]cultivated lifestyle. 0:01:08.647,0:01:11.807 I'd like to talk to you[br]about that idea of intentionality, 0:01:11.807,0:01:14.717 but first, I want to talk[br]to you about a shirt. 0:01:16.302,0:01:18.351 And it's a shirt that we all have, 0:01:18.351,0:01:20.995 probably, I'm guessing[br]most of us have this shirt. 0:01:21.225,0:01:25.028 It's the shirt that,[br]when you wake up in the morning, 0:01:25.028,0:01:28.839 and you go into your dresser, you know,[br]and you open up the shirt drawer, 0:01:28.839,0:01:33.132 you take it out and you[br]look at it, maybe try it on, 0:01:33.645,0:01:36.502 it doesn't quite go[br]with everything else that you're wearing, 0:01:36.502,0:01:40.959 it's shaped a little weird,[br]maybe it's a little boxy, a little short, 0:01:41.449,0:01:46.359 like the sleeve is a blousy, weird shape,[br]it doesn't quite fit you, 0:01:46.359,0:01:48.556 it's not a good fit for you 0:01:48.556,0:01:50.654 and what you're trying[br]to get out of a shirt. 0:01:50.654,0:01:53.463 So you fold it back up,[br]and you put it back in the drawer, 0:01:53.949,0:01:55.901 maybe put some other shirts on top of it, 0:01:55.901,0:01:58.141 so you don't have[br]to deal it again for a while. 0:01:58.141,0:01:59.305 (Laughter) 0:01:59.305,0:02:01.345 It sucks, because it's[br]a really nice shirt, 0:02:01.345,0:02:04.565 you spent a little bit of money on it,[br]but it doesn't quite fit you, 0:02:04.565,0:02:09.226 and so maybe someday, maybe someday[br]you will wear this shirt, but not today. 0:02:09.784,0:02:11.307 (Laughter) 0:02:11.307,0:02:12.723 And about seven years ago, 0:02:12.723,0:02:15.117 I found myself going[br]through that shirt routine 0:02:15.117,0:02:17.544 where I go in, take out[br]the shirt and look at it. 0:02:18.174,0:02:22.508 But on that day, I didn't follow through[br]with the rest of the routine. 0:02:23.010,0:02:27.402 On that day, I crushed it in my hand,[br]said, "Not today, shirt!" 0:02:27.402,0:02:28.607 (Laughter) 0:02:28.607,0:02:30.298 And I threw it on the floor. 0:02:31.671,0:02:32.807 What had changed? 0:02:34.157,0:02:37.334 Well, I realized, on that day,[br]seven years ago, 0:02:37.334,0:02:41.242 that I was ostensibly successful, 0:02:41.242,0:02:43.110 I was doing really well professionally, 0:02:43.110,0:02:45.854 I was running a branding studio[br]out of Los Angeles, 0:02:45.854,0:02:49.274 and I was a young person[br]making a great deal of money 0:02:49.274,0:02:51.612 and experiencing professional success. 0:02:51.612,0:02:53.061 And like a lot of young people 0:02:53.061,0:02:56.149 who make a great deal of money[br]for the first time in their lives, 0:02:56.149,0:02:57.909 I bought a lot of stuff. 0:02:58.458,0:03:03.157 And I filled my townhouse with stuff,[br]and I filled my drawers with stuff, 0:03:04.147,0:03:06.727 so I had all this excess clothing. 0:03:06.727,0:03:08.397 And holding up that shirt 0:03:08.397,0:03:11.941 really made apparent something[br]that I was thinking for a while. 0:03:11.941,0:03:14.614 Because I was thinking[br]of re-calibrating my life, 0:03:14.614,0:03:15.902 to try to move away 0:03:15.902,0:03:20.867 from the "work hard all the time to make[br]as much money as possible" lifestyle 0:03:20.867,0:03:24.800 that I was enjoying in some ways,[br]but was not truly fulfilling, 0:03:24.800,0:03:27.511 it wasn't allowing me[br]to do the things I wanted to do. 0:03:28.076,0:03:30.479 I was thinking, maybe[br]I can figure out a lifestyle, 0:03:30.479,0:03:31.758 a way that I could travel, 0:03:31.758,0:03:33.837 a way that I could[br]go out and see the world, 0:03:33.837,0:03:35.713 all these places I was hearing about. 0:03:35.713,0:03:39.516 But I don't know if you know anything[br]about the American education system, 0:03:39.518,0:03:41.516 we don't learn much about other countries. 0:03:41.516,0:03:42.368 (Laughter) 0:03:42.368,0:03:45.458 I was really hoping to get out,[br]see some of these other countries, 0:03:45.458,0:03:48.881 and see the real people there[br]rather than what you hear on "Fox News." 0:03:48.881,0:03:52.178 (Laughter) 0:03:52.178,0:03:55.986 And so, I was looking at all this stuff,[br]and suddenly, these things that I saw 0:03:55.986,0:03:58.721 as a representation[br]of how well I had done, 0:03:58.721,0:04:00.958 seems like anchors. 0:04:01.649,0:04:04.056 They were a bunch of anchors,[br]holding me back, 0:04:04.056,0:04:06.575 because I had to do something with them, 0:04:06.575,0:04:09.338 and they made sense in this space[br]while I was living there, 0:04:09.338,0:04:10.590 but if I wanted to travel, 0:04:10.590,0:04:13.017 I would have to do something[br]with all of this stuff. 0:04:13.017,0:04:16.244 And so I was thinking, well maybe[br]I'll get a smaller apartment, 0:04:16.244,0:04:17.582 just for the stuff. 0:04:17.903,0:04:20.741 You know, my shirts and things[br]can have their own place, 0:04:21.051,0:04:23.253 and I'll just pay for that[br]while I'm traveling, 0:04:23.253,0:04:25.678 so there will be this weird[br]common stuff apartment, 0:04:25.678,0:04:27.177 somewhere in the United States, 0:04:27.177,0:04:28.159 as I travel. 0:04:28.159,0:04:32.213 Or maybe just a storage space,[br]somewhere that I can keep my stuff. 0:04:32.758,0:04:34.397 But looking at that shirt - 0:04:34.397,0:04:39.132 this valuable shirt, it was nice, it was[br]a really somewhat expensive shirt - 0:04:39.813,0:04:42.281 and in that moment, I felt like Pharaoh, 0:04:42.871,0:04:46.133 I felt like I was burying myself[br]with my riches. 0:04:46.749,0:04:50.186 I had all of this valuable stuff,[br]sitting there in my home, 0:04:50.186,0:04:52.333 that I wasn't doing anything with. 0:04:52.909,0:04:54.481 I wasn't using the shirt. 0:04:54.881,0:04:56.972 I wasn't using[br]most of the stuff that I had, 0:04:56.972,0:05:01.440 it was sitting there,[br]collecting dust, as I hoarded it 0:05:01.440,0:05:03.631 so that nobody else could have it. 0:05:05.122,0:05:07.120 And it only hit me just then. 0:05:07.120,0:05:09.453 And so I crumpled the shirt,[br]thew it on the floor, 0:05:09.453,0:05:12.194 shouted at it for some reason,[br]I'm not sure why - 0:05:12.194,0:05:13.576 (Laughter) 0:05:13.576,0:05:15.685 I was more upset with myself[br]than the shirt. 0:05:16.266,0:05:18.468 And then I went through[br]the rest of my drawer. 0:05:18.664,0:05:24.034 And I held up each object and said,[br]"Is this valuable to me?" 0:05:24.034,0:05:25.442 Not "Is it just valuable?", 0:05:25.442,0:05:27.765 because almost everything[br]is valuable to someone, 0:05:27.765,0:05:29.717 "Is it valuable to me?" 0:05:29.717,0:05:32.178 And in the case of my clothing,[br]it was really easy. 0:05:32.178,0:05:35.493 I could say, "Have I worn this[br]in the last month?" 0:05:36.081,0:05:37.865 And if not, it went on the floor. 0:05:37.865,0:05:41.349 I went through the entire drawer,[br]pulled out all the shirts I hadn't worn, 0:05:41.349,0:05:43.516 went through the next drawer,[br]all of my pants, 0:05:43.516,0:05:46.610 went through the closets,[br]all of my jackets and my shoes, 0:05:46.610,0:05:49.347 went through the office,[br]all of the computers - 0:05:49.347,0:05:51.688 I had a bunch of spare computers,[br]for some reason. 0:05:51.688,0:05:52.710 (Laughter) 0:05:52.710,0:05:55.186 All the extra tools, and notebooks,[br]and art supplies, 0:05:55.186,0:05:59.173 all of these things I went through to see[br]what I was actually getting value from. 0:06:00.555,0:06:02.343 Very little of it. 0:06:02.963,0:06:06.378 Like 95 percent of everything I owned[br]was there on the floor. 0:06:06.382,0:06:07.823 And the pile was so big, 0:06:07.823,0:06:11.682 I had to take an entire room[br]in my flat to store it all. 0:06:11.682,0:06:15.566 I had a room full of stuff I wasn't using[br]that I was hoarding like Pharaoh. 0:06:17.926,0:06:19.489 There is a word for this - 0:06:19.489,0:06:22.309 not for hoarding, not for that,[br]there's many words for that, 0:06:22.309,0:06:23.423 none of them good - 0:06:23.423,0:06:25.443 but there's a word for what I was doing, 0:06:25.443,0:06:27.559 iteratively going through my life 0:06:27.559,0:06:30.350 and questioning the things[br]I took for granted. 0:06:31.583,0:06:33.498 It's called intentionality. 0:06:33.498,0:06:35.731 And intentionality, it's not a scary word, 0:06:35.731,0:06:38.245 it's something that we build up,[br]I think, very often, 0:06:38.245,0:06:40.591 but all it means is[br]doing things on purpose. 0:06:41.736,0:06:43.892 And that does require[br]that you have a purpose, 0:06:43.892,0:06:46.381 that you have some kind of goal,[br]off on the horizon. 0:06:46.669,0:06:48.579 Once you have that, once you understand 0:06:48.579,0:06:51.862 what you want to achieve,[br]where you want to go, 0:06:51.862,0:06:53.604 acting intentionality just means 0:06:53.604,0:06:56.480 looking at all the different aspects[br]of your life and saying, 0:06:56.480,0:06:58.251 "Does this help me get there?" 0:07:00.818,0:07:02.653 So, getting rid of those things 0:07:02.653,0:07:05.845 was a step that helped me[br]get to where I wanted to be. 0:07:05.845,0:07:09.357 And intentionality is something[br]that applies to all aspects of your life. 0:07:09.883,0:07:14.352 When we apply it to the things,[br]the possessions in our lives, 0:07:14.352,0:07:16.646 we tend to call this[br]minimalism, very often - 0:07:16.646,0:07:20.064 that's kind of the common moniker[br]for it these days, which is great - 0:07:20.064,0:07:21.932 and all minimalism is, 0:07:21.932,0:07:24.649 is focusing on the core,[br]what's important - 0:07:24.649,0:07:26.700 whatever that happens to mean to you - 0:07:27.410,0:07:29.135 and getting rid of the excess, 0:07:29.135,0:07:31.377 getting rid of all the stuff[br]that doesn't matter 0:07:31.377,0:07:35.832 so that you free up more time,[br]energy, and resources 0:07:35.832,0:07:38.248 to spend on the things that do matter. 0:07:38.248,0:07:43.295 So it's a reallocation of your efforts,[br]and attention, and your money, basically. 0:07:43.295,0:07:45.737 So if I spend less[br]on the things that don't matter, 0:07:45.737,0:07:48.082 I have more to spend[br]on the things that do matter. 0:07:48.082,0:07:49.739 It's an incredibly simple thing, 0:07:49.739,0:07:51.879 and yet it's something[br]that we tend to forget 0:07:51.879,0:07:55.833 because there's a lot of messages[br]telling us that to be someone, 0:07:55.833,0:07:58.822 we have to own this thing,[br]we have to own this brand, 0:07:58.822,0:08:02.965 we have to stand with this group[br]and be represented by this tribe. 0:08:03.616,0:08:05.119 And it's obviously not true, 0:08:05.119,0:08:06.843 we're never more ourselves 0:08:06.843,0:08:09.354 than when we're buying[br]and surrounding ourselves 0:08:09.354,0:08:12.318 with exactly the things that serve us, 0:08:12.318,0:08:14.907 that give us value[br]and nothing more than that. 0:08:15.387,0:08:16.845 But that's not very lucrative 0:08:16.845,0:08:20.094 for these companies that have things[br]that they want to sell a lot of. 0:08:20.094,0:08:24.142 So you have to pay a lot of attention[br]and really focus on intentionality 0:08:24.142,0:08:27.101 in order to remember this[br]as you're making purchases. 0:08:28.285,0:08:31.698 Now, the same thing[br]applies to relationships. 0:08:32.209,0:08:35.263 And this is something that a lot of us[br]don't think of, like ever, 0:08:35.263,0:08:37.243 because it's not polite, frankly. 0:08:37.243,0:08:38.546 (Laughter) 0:08:38.546,0:08:40.751 Because, just as[br]intentionality with your stuff 0:08:40.751,0:08:42.764 means going through[br]your things and saying, 0:08:42.764,0:08:46.494 "Which of these is valuable,[br]and which of them is dead-weight?", 0:08:48.094,0:08:51.189 going through your relationships[br]and doing the same 0:08:51.189,0:08:52.810 means looking at them and saying, 0:08:52.810,0:08:56.763 "Which of these is the most vitally[br]important relationships in my life? 0:08:57.303,0:08:59.466 Which of these is just good?" 0:08:59.865,0:09:03.034 You know, friendships[br]and relationships of convenience, 0:09:03.034,0:09:04.735 the person you sit next to at work, 0:09:04.735,0:09:06.504 that you happen to go to school with, 0:09:06.504,0:09:08.233 who happens to live next door - 0:09:08.233,0:09:09.905 valuable relationships, 0:09:09.905,0:09:12.732 maybe not the things[br]that should have all of your time, 0:09:12.732,0:09:15.873 they're great in context,[br]but these are not your best friends, 0:09:15.873,0:09:18.938 these are not your significant others,[br]these are not your family. 0:09:19.937,0:09:23.220 And then there is[br]those relationships that drain us, 0:09:23.220,0:09:26.047 that are actually[br]net-negatives on our lives, 0:09:26.047,0:09:28.139 and we tend to invest a lot in these 0:09:28.139,0:09:31.722 because it's not polite[br]to step out of a friendship, 0:09:32.442,0:09:35.661 to step away from a family member,[br]to give them less of your time 0:09:35.661,0:09:38.064 if they are actively harmful[br]to you and your life, 0:09:38.064,0:09:39.664 if they are a toxic relationship. 0:09:40.094,0:09:43.010 Being intentional[br]with your relationships, though, 0:09:43.010,0:09:45.845 it means really being[br]truthful with yourself and saying, 0:09:45.845,0:09:50.897 "Is this a person who deserves more[br]of my time, and intention, and energy?" 0:09:52.055,0:09:53.017 Do they? 0:09:53.422,0:09:55.052 And if not, if the answer is no, 0:09:55.052,0:09:58.418 free up that time, take it and give it[br]to the people who truly do, 0:09:58.418,0:10:02.455 the people who really add to your life,[br]who really make you feel better, 0:10:02.455,0:10:04.403 who help you get to where you want to be. 0:10:05.181,0:10:09.078 That's the root of intentionality,[br]it's doing it on purpose, 0:10:09.078,0:10:12.295 forming relationships[br]and maintaining relationships on purpose, 0:10:12.295,0:10:16.282 and making sure those really, really[br]truly valuable people in your life 0:10:16.282,0:10:18.627 get the attention from you[br]that they deserve. 0:10:20.008,0:10:21.597 Now, the same applies to work. 0:10:21.597,0:10:23.993 This is also a very[br]unpopular thing to say. 0:10:25.280,0:10:28.353 Because we judge our work[br]and our success within work 0:10:28.353,0:10:32.506 based on usually just one metric:[br]how much money are you making? 0:10:33.328,0:10:37.921 That's what shows if you're successful,[br]the family's proud of you, 0:10:37.921,0:10:40.636 but really, at the end of the day,[br]that's just one metric. 0:10:40.636,0:10:41.808 Money is great! 0:10:41.808,0:10:43.557 I mean, I'm not anti-money. 0:10:43.557,0:10:47.034 You need it, you need to have a roof[br]over your head, food on your table, 0:10:47.034,0:10:51.641 to provide a basic level of security[br]for yourself and the people around you, 0:10:52.012,0:10:57.549 but if you're acting intentionaly,[br]if you're doing work on purpose, 0:10:57.549,0:10:59.955 that means that you're looking at[br]that bigger goal, 0:10:59.955,0:11:02.227 that place that you want to be, 0:11:02.227,0:11:05.567 and questionning every choice[br]that you make within your profession, 0:11:06.232,0:11:09.341 saying, "Does this help me get[br]to that place where I want to be? 0:11:09.341,0:11:12.783 That place where I am more myself[br]than I have ever been before, 0:11:12.783,0:11:15.880 where I'm incredibly happy,[br]where I'm fulfilled on a deeper level, 0:11:15.880,0:11:18.302 and I feel like I'm doing work[br]that is valuable, 0:11:18.302,0:11:22.692 not just to me in the paychecks' sense,[br]but to somebody beyond me, 0:11:22.692,0:11:24.783 I feel like I'm contributing in some way." 0:11:26.647,0:11:28.481 And once you're able to question that, 0:11:28.481,0:11:32.746 you've looked at the three core[br]components of a healthy lifestyle - 0:11:32.746,0:11:34.777 and each and everyone of us 0:11:34.778,0:11:37.812 has a different idea[br]of what the ideal lifestyle is, 0:11:37.812,0:11:40.683 a different idea of the people[br]that we want in our lives, 0:11:40.683,0:11:43.351 the things that we want to have[br]surrounding us, 0:11:43.351,0:11:47.755 because if you buy the right things,[br]things actually can earn you happiness, 0:11:47.755,0:11:50.451 money can buy happiness[br]if you buy the right things - 0:11:50.451,0:11:54.458 the people in our lives[br]and the work that we do day-to-day. 0:11:54.778,0:11:57.797 These are all things that,[br]when in aggregate, 0:11:57.797,0:12:01.117 allow us to live a lifestyle[br]that when you look at it, it's you; 0:12:01.117,0:12:03.613 this is something that represents me. 0:12:04.254,0:12:07.329 The lifestyle that I live,[br]the incredibly bizarre lifestyle 0:12:07.329,0:12:10.154 where I travel around[br]and write all kinds of books, 0:12:10.154,0:12:12.666 my readers vote on where I go,[br]what's that about? 0:12:13.666,0:12:16.797 It's strange, but it looks just like me! 0:12:16.797,0:12:19.182 And the people who know me well[br]look at it and say, 0:12:19.182,0:12:22.054 "Oh yeah, that's totally Colin![br]That makes perfect sense." 0:12:22.594,0:12:24.311 And ideally, each and everyone of us 0:12:24.311,0:12:26.638 can look at our lives[br]and say the same thing. 0:12:27.319,0:12:30.084 These people I surround myself with,[br]this stuff that I own, 0:12:30.084,0:12:31.595 this work that I'm doing, 0:12:31.595,0:12:34.812 this is an accurate[br]representation of who I am. 0:12:36.091,0:12:37.680 That's the ideal. 0:12:38.558,0:12:40.822 And each and everyone of us[br]should be proud 0:12:40.822,0:12:45.322 to have our own individual path[br]toward that greater goal, 0:12:45.322,0:12:46.854 toward that purpose. 0:12:49.375,0:12:53.111 When you start[br]to live your life intentionaly, 0:12:53.111,0:12:55.294 it can look a little weird to people. 0:12:55.838,0:12:58.438 You're getting rid of your stuff, maybe. 0:12:59.107,0:13:01.136 It looks very strange to some people. 0:13:01.136,0:13:04.419 You may be buying more intentionaly,[br]buying fewer things, 0:13:04.419,0:13:06.652 hanging out with fewer people - 0:13:07.361,0:13:10.165 that can be a little bit awkward[br]to have that discussion - 0:13:10.367,0:13:12.760 and maybe taking on work[br]that isn't just lucrative, 0:13:12.760,0:13:14.160 it's not earning you as much, 0:13:14.160,0:13:16.657 it doesn't have the same[br]prestigious job title. 0:13:17.246,0:13:19.922 At the end of the day,[br]you may experience some push-back, 0:13:19.922,0:13:22.307 people may try to dissuade you 0:13:22.307,0:13:24.812 from moving in the direction[br]that you want to move in. 0:13:24.812,0:13:26.260 And that's okay, you know. 0:13:26.260,0:13:28.368 These are not people[br]who are horrible people, 0:13:28.368,0:13:31.183 these are people that are actually[br]very well-meaning people, 0:13:31.183,0:13:34.916 because if you look at the standard path[br]that we're offered, 0:13:34.916,0:13:36.965 pretty much from birth up until we die, 0:13:36.965,0:13:40.735 this is the path, this is where you start,[br]and then you do this, this, and this, 0:13:40.735,0:13:43.987 and then victory, you end up[br]at that finish line, at some point. 0:13:44.131,0:13:48.333 That path is like a great big highway,[br]it's an autobahn, okay? 0:13:48.333,0:13:51.381 It's well paved, it's well-lit,[br]there's a lot of signs everywhere 0:13:51.381,0:13:53.986 telling you exactly[br]how to get there, to this goal. 0:13:54.328,0:13:57.135 And if you start moving[br]toward a different goal, 0:13:57.135,0:14:00.316 you've moved off that well-lit path,[br]maybe there's potholes, 0:14:00.316,0:14:03.671 maybe it's not paved,[br]maybe it's like a little goat road, 0:14:03.671,0:14:05.694 like, you're just swerving off to the side, 0:14:05.694,0:14:09.839 very few people are taking this,[br]so they don't even bother to put up signs. 0:14:10.359,0:14:14.222 Maybe your lifestyle choice is so obscure,[br]nobody's done it before, 0:14:14.222,0:14:16.738 and so you're like carving your way[br]through the woods 0:14:16.738,0:14:18.403 to try to get to some unknown path. 0:14:18.403,0:14:21.112 And so the people in your life[br]will look at that and say, 0:14:21.112,0:14:23.650 "What the actual hell are they doing? 0:14:23.650,0:14:24.887 (Laughter) 0:14:24.887,0:14:29.008 I'm concerned for them![br]Where will they end up? 0:14:29.008,0:14:31.206 There's so many risks[br]associated with this." 0:14:31.206,0:14:32.703 And they're totally right! 0:14:32.703,0:14:34.592 Because people who care about you, 0:14:34.592,0:14:37.741 they want more than anything else[br]for you to be happy and secure. 0:14:38.851,0:14:40.812 And when you start acting intentionaly, 0:14:40.812,0:14:43.338 when you start questioning[br]everything in your life 0:14:44.148,0:14:47.024 and living on purpose, your purpose, 0:14:47.429,0:14:51.303 it can look very unsecure,[br]it can be less structurally stable, 0:14:51.303,0:14:53.600 so it makes sense[br]that they would question that, 0:14:53.600,0:14:55.789 and that they should question[br]what you're doing 0:14:55.789,0:14:57.560 and give you that valuable feedback. 0:14:58.725,0:15:01.619 But at the end of the day,[br]all you can do to convince them, 0:15:01.619,0:15:04.431 to show them that this is something[br]that's important to you, 0:15:04.431,0:15:06.641 that you're not going to take[br]ridiculous risks, 0:15:06.641,0:15:09.576 you're just trying to be happy,[br]you're trying to be more you, 0:15:09.851,0:15:12.029 is to show them the benefits, 0:15:12.497,0:15:14.480 tell them what you're up to, certainly, 0:15:14.480,0:15:16.647 but then show them[br]with the way that you live, 0:15:16.647,0:15:19.555 that you are happy,[br]that you're making smart decisions, 0:15:19.555,0:15:22.231 that this is something[br]that allows you to feel fulfilled 0:15:22.231,0:15:24.735 in a way that that highway never could. 0:15:26.604,0:15:29.452 And if they don't get it, that's okay. 0:15:30.255,0:15:33.634 Everybody has a different path,[br]they have theirs and you have yours. 0:15:35.052,0:15:38.504 And try to forgive,[br]don't hold it against them. 0:15:38.504,0:15:42.054 Not everybody has the opportunity[br]to take that step back, 0:15:42.054,0:15:44.716 and look at their life,[br]and then question everything. 0:15:44.716,0:15:48.871 It's not a luxury[br]that all of us are afforded. 0:15:51.086,0:15:56.170 But whichever direction you start heading,[br]whichever life choice you make, 0:15:56.170,0:16:00.043 do your best to be happy,[br]do your best to be fulfilled, 0:16:00.043,0:16:03.759 do your best to lay signs for other people[br]who might follow behind you 0:16:03.759,0:16:05.451 so that they can do the same. 0:16:06.208,0:16:11.434 And ultimately, however you live,[br]do your best to live on purpose. 0:16:11.434,0:16:12.474 Thank you very much. 0:16:12.474,0:16:15.937 (Applause)