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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.60,0:00:05.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Azim Khamisa: We humans\Nhave many defining moments in our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.00,0:00:08.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes these moments are joyous,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.84,0:00:11.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes they are heartbreaking,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.24,0:00:12.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tragic.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.24,0:00:18.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But at these defining moments,\Nif we are able to make the right choice,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.92,0:00:21.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we literally manifest a miracle
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.88,0:00:24.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in us and others.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.48,0:00:27.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My only son Tariq, a university student,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.92,0:00:32.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kind, generous, a good writer,\Na good photographer,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.40,0:00:35.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,had aspirations\Nto work for National Geographic,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.84,0:00:37.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,engaged to a beautiful lady,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.92,0:00:41.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,worked as a pizza deliveryman\Non Fridays and Saturdays.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.32,0:00:44.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was lured to a bogus address
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.60,0:00:45.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by a youth gang.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.16,0:00:49.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in a gang initiation,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.88,0:00:53.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a 14-year-old shot and killed him.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.96,0:00:58.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The sudden, senseless death
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.32,0:01:02.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of an innocent, unarmed human being;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.72,0:01:05.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the overwhelming grief of a family;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.76,0:01:13.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the total confusion as you try\Nto absorb a new, hideous reality.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.96,0:01:16.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Needless to say it brought\Nmy life to a crashing halt.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.00,0:01:19.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the hardest things\NI've ever had to do
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.48,0:01:22.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was to call his mother,\Nwho lived in a different city.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.72,0:01:25.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How do you tell a mother\Nshe's never going to see her son again,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.80,0:01:27.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or hear him laugh,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.28,0:01:28.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or give him a hug?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.52,0:01:32.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I practice as a Sufi Muslim.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.52,0:01:34.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I meditate two hours a day.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.68,0:01:36.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And sometimes,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.96,0:01:40.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in deep trauma and deep tragedy,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.24,0:01:42.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is a spark of clarity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.16,0:01:46.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what I downloaded in my meditation
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.04,0:01:49.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that there were victims\Nat both ends of the gun.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.40,0:01:54.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's easy to see that my son\Nwas a victim of the 14-year-old,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.28,0:02:00.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a little bit complicated to see\Nthat he was a victim of American society.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.04,0:02:03.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that begs the question,\Nwell, who is American society?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.52,0:02:04.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, it's you and me,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.80,0:02:08.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I don't believe\Nthat society is just happenstance.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.76,0:02:12.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think we are all responsible\Nfor the society we've created.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.56,0:02:17.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And children killing children\Nis not a mark of a civil society.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.12,0:02:20.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So nine months after Tariq died,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.04,0:02:23.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started the Tariq Khamisa Foundation
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.84,0:02:26.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our mandate\Nat the Tariq Khamisa Foundation
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.52,0:02:28.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to stop kids from killing kids
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.00,0:02:31.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by breaking the cycle of youth violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.80,0:02:33.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And essentially we have three mandates.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.72,0:02:37.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our first and foremost\Nis to save lives of children.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.20,0:02:41.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's important to do.\NWe lose so many on a daily basis.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.60,0:02:44.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our second mandate
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.28,0:02:49.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to empower the right choices\Nso kids don't fall through the cracks
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.60,0:02:53.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and choose lives of gangs and crime\Nand drugs and alcohol and weapons.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.36,0:03:00.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And our third mandate is to teach\Nthe principles of nonviolence,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.16,0:03:03.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of empathy, of compassion,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.36,0:03:04.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of forgiveness.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.76,0:03:07.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I started with a very simple premise
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.72,0:03:09.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that violence is a learned behavior.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.96,0:03:11.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No child was born violent.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.72,0:03:15.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you accept that as a truism,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.12,0:03:18.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nonviolence can also be\Na learned behavior,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.28,0:03:19.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you have to teach it,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.64,0:03:21.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because kids are not going to learn that
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.00,0:03:23.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through osmosis.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.20,0:03:27.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Soon after that,\NI reached out to my brother here,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.12,0:03:31.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the attitude\Nthat we had both lost a son.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.32,0:03:32.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My son died.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.60,0:03:34.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He lost his grandson\Nto the adult prison system.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.40,0:03:36.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I asked him to join me.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.76,0:03:41.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As you see, 22 years later,\Nwe are still here together,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.16,0:03:43.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I can't bring Tariq\Nback from the dead,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.96,0:03:46.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can't take Tony out of prison,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.04,0:03:48.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the one thing we can do
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.04,0:03:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is make sure no other young people\Nin our community
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.12,0:03:53.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,end up dead or end up in prison.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.36,0:03:55.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With the grace of God,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.96,0:03:58.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Tariq Khamisa Foundation\Nhas been successful.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.88,0:04:01.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have a safe school model
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.72,0:04:03.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which has four different programs.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.80,0:04:06.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first one is a live assembly\Nwith Ples and me.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.76,0:04:08.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are introduced,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.04,0:04:10.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this man's grandson killed this man's son,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.12,0:04:11.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and here they are together.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.48,0:04:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have in-classroom curriculum.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.60,0:04:17.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have an after school mentoring program,\Nand we create a peace club.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.92,0:04:19.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm happy to share with you
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.44,0:04:23.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that besides teaching\Nthese principles of nonviolence,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.36,0:04:27.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are able to cut suspensions\Nand expulsions by 70 percent,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.92,0:04:30.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is huge.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.16,0:04:31.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.32,0:04:32.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which is huge.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.44,0:04:35.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Five years after Tariq died,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.88,0:04:38.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and for me to complete\Nmy journey of forgiveness,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.80,0:04:41.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went to see the young man\Nwho killed my son.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.16,0:04:42.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was 19 years old.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.96,0:04:47.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I remember that meeting\Nbecause we were --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.08,0:04:49.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he's 37, still in prison --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.24,0:04:52.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but at that first meeting,\Nwe locked eyeballs.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.08,0:04:54.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm looking in his eyes,\Nhe's looking in my eyes,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.92,0:04:58.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm looking in his eyes\Ntrying to find a murderer, and I didn't.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.60,0:05:01.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was able to climb through his eyes
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.36,0:05:03.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and touch his humanity that I got
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.36,0:05:06.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the spark in him\Nwas no different than the spark in me
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.00,0:05:08.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or anybody else here.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.28,0:05:11.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I wasn't expecting that.\NHe was remorseful.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.60,0:05:13.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was articulate. He was well-mannered.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.72,0:05:17.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I could tell that my hand\Nof forgiveness had changed him.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.00,0:05:21.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So with that, please welcome\Nmy brother, Ples.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.48,0:05:24.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.92,0:05:31.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ples Felix: Tony is my one\Nand only daughter's one and only child.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.36,0:05:34.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tony was born to my daughter,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.88,0:05:37.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who was 15 when she gave birth to Tony.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.76,0:05:41.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mothering is the toughest\Njob on the planet.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.20,0:05:46.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is no tougher job on the planet\Nthan raising another human being
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.36,0:05:49.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and making sure they're safe, secure
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.04,0:05:51.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and well-positioned\Nto be successful in life.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.60,0:05:56.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tony experienced a lot of violence\Nin his life as a young kid.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.00,0:05:58.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He saw one of his favorite cousins
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.68,0:06:01.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be murdered in a hail\Nof automatic weapon fire
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.20,0:06:03.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and gang involvement in Los Angeles.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.56,0:06:06.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was very traumatized\Nin so many different ways.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.36,0:06:08.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tony came to live with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.64,0:06:11.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted to make sure\Nhe had everything a kid needed
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.84,0:06:13.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be successful.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.12,0:06:17.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But on this particular evening,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.12,0:06:18.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after years of being with me
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.52,0:06:21.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and struggling mightily\Nto try to be successful
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.12,0:06:24.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to live up to my expectations\Nof being a successful person,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.56,0:06:28.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on this one particular day,\NTony ran away from home that evening,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.80,0:06:31.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he went to be with people\Nhe thought were his friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.60,0:06:33.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was given drugs and alcohol
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.08,0:06:34.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he took them
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.36,0:06:37.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because he thought\Nthey would make him feel carefree.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.64,0:06:41.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But all it did was\Nto make his anxiety go higher
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.16,0:06:42.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to create a more ...
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.32,0:06:48.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more deadly thinking on his part.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.28,0:06:50.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was invited to a robbery,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.72,0:06:52.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was given a 9mm handgun.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.72,0:06:56.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And at the presence\Nof an 18-year-old who commanded him
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.36,0:06:59.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and two 14-year-old boys\Nhe thought were his friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.52,0:07:02.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he shot and killed Tariq Khamisa,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.76,0:07:04.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this man's son.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.84,0:07:10.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are no words, there are no words
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.28,0:07:14.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can express the loss of a child.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.24,0:07:17.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At my understanding\Nthat my grandson was responsible
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.72,0:07:19.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the murder of this human being,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.44,0:07:22.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went to the prayer closet,\Nlike I was taught by my old folks,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.68,0:07:24.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and began to pray and meditate.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.84,0:07:27.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The one thing that Mr. Khamisa\Nand I have in common,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.32,0:07:30.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we didn't know this,\Nbesides being wonderful human beings,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.28,0:07:31.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that we both meditate.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.53,0:07:32.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.92,0:07:34.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was very helpful for me
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.40,0:07:37.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it offered me an opportunity\Nto seek guidance and clarity
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.92,0:07:43.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how I wanted to be of support\Nof this man and his family in this loss.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.72,0:07:45.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And sure enough, my prayers were answered,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.80,0:07:48.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I was invited\Nto a meeting at this man's house,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.76,0:07:51.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,met his mother, his father,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.60,0:07:54.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his wife, his brother, met their family
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.68,0:07:59.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and had a chance to be in the presence\Nof God-spirited people led by this man,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.92,0:08:02.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who in the spirit of forgiveness,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.12,0:08:04.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,made way, made an opportunity for me
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.68,0:08:08.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be of value and to share with him\Nand to share with children
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.68,0:08:13.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the importance of understanding the need\Nto be with a responsible adult,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.92,0:08:16.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,focus on your anger\Nin a way that's healthy,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.32,0:08:17.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,learn to meditate.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.80,0:08:20.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The programs that we have\Nin the Tariq Khamisa Foundation
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.84,0:08:23.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,provide so many tools\Nfor the kids to put in their toolkit
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.92,0:08:26.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so they could carry them\Nthroughout their lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.20,0:08:29.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's important that our children\Nunderstand that loving, caring adults
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.52,0:08:31.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,care for them and support them,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.08,0:08:35.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's also important\Nthat our children learn to meditate,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.32,0:08:36.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,learn to be peaceful,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.00,0:08:38.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,learn to be centered
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.48,0:08:40.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and learn to interact\Nwith the other children
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.80,0:08:42.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a kind, empathetic
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.80,0:08:44.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and wonderfully loving way.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.96,0:08:46.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need more love in our society
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.64,0:08:49.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's why we are here\Nto share the love with children,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.88,0:08:52.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because our children\Nwill lead the way for us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.52,0:08:55.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because all of us\Nwill depend on our children.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.12,0:08:58.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As we grow older and retire,\Nthey will take over this world for us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.72,0:09:02.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so as much love as we teach them,\Nthey will give it back to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.48,0:09:03.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Blessings. Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.88,0:09:07.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.40,0:09:14.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,AK: So I was born in Kenya,\NI was educated in England,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.12,0:09:16.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my brother here is a Baptist.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.88,0:09:18.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I practice as a Sufi Muslim.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.48,0:09:20.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's African American,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.76,0:09:23.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I always tell him,\NI'm the African American in the group.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.68,0:09:25.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was born in Africa. You were not.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.40,0:09:27.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:27.72,0:09:29.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I naturalized as a citizen.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.92,0:09:31.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm a first-generation citizen.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.92,0:09:35.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I felt that, as an American citizen,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.72,0:09:38.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I must take my share of the responsibility
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.88,0:09:41.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the murder of my son.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.84,0:09:45.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why? Because it was fired\Nby an American child.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.56,0:09:48.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You could take the position,\Nhe killed my one and only son,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.48,0:09:50.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he should be hung from the highest pole.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.52,0:09:54.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How does that improve society?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.48,0:09:57.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I know you are probably wondering\Nwhat happened to that young man.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.56,0:10:03.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's still in prison.\NHe just turned 37 on September 22,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.52,0:10:05.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I have some good news.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.44,0:10:08.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've been trying\Nto get him out for 12 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.24,0:10:11.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He finally will join us a year from now.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.48,0:10:15.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.24,0:10:20.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm very excited to have him join us,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.00,0:10:23.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I know we've saved him,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.12,0:10:26.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but he will save\Ntens of thousands of students
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.60,0:10:29.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when he shares his testimony
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.12,0:10:32.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in schools that we are present at\Non a regular basis.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.52,0:10:35.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When he says to the kids,\N"When I was 11, I joined a gang.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.88,0:10:38.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was 14,\NI murdered Mr. Khamisa's son.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.80,0:10:41.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've spent the last\Numpteen years in prison.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.40,0:10:44.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm here to tell you: it's not worth it,"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.48,0:10:47.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do you think the kids\Nwill listen to that voice?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.12,0:10:49.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, because his intonations
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.68,0:10:52.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will be of a person\Nthat pulled the trigger.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.00,0:10:57.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I know that he wants\Nto turn the clock back.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.48,0:11:00.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, that's not possible.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:00.16,0:11:02.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wish it was. I would have my son back.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.76,0:11:05.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brother would have his grandson back.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.92,0:11:09.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I think that demonstrates\Nthe power of forgiveness.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.64,0:11:13.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what's the big takeaway here?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.40,0:11:18.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I want to end\Nour session with this quote,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.16,0:11:20.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is the basis of my fourth book,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.88,0:11:22.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which incidentally,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.76,0:11:25.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the foreword for that book\Nwas written by Tony.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.80,0:11:30.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it goes like this:\Nsustained goodwill creates friendship.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.76,0:11:32.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't make friends\Nby bombing them, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.00,0:11:34.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You make friends by extending goodwill.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.92,0:11:36.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That ought to be obvious.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.36,0:11:38.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So sustained goodwill creates friendship,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.84,0:11:41.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sustained friendship creates trust,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.28,0:11:43.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sustained trust creates empathy,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.72,0:11:46.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sustained empathy creates compassion,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.12,0:11:48.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sustained compassion creates peace.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.20,0:11:50.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I call this my peace formula.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:51.00,0:11:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It starts with goodwill, friendship,\Ntrust, empathy, compassion and peace.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.00,0:11:59.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But people ask me,\Nhow do you extend goodwill
Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.76,0:12:02.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the person who murdered your child?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.80,0:12:05.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I tell them, you do that\Nthrough forgiveness.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:05.36,0:12:07.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As it's evident it worked for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.52,0:12:09.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It worked for my family.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.44,0:12:12.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What's a miracle is it worked for Tony,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.12,0:12:14.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it worked for his family,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.28,0:12:17.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it can work for you and your family,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.52,0:12:20.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for Israel and Palestine,\NNorth and South Korea,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.52,0:12:23.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for Iraq, Afghanistan, Iran and Syria.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.40,0:12:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can work for\Nthe United States of America.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:26.68,0:12:29.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So let me leave you with this, my sisters,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.96,0:12:31.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a couple of brothers --
Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.32,0:12:33.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.32,0:12:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that peace is possible.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.04,0:12:37.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How do I know that?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:37.76,0:12:39.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I am at peace.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.64,0:12:41.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you very much. Namaste.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.64,0:12:44.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)