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Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.88,0:00:18.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like everyone here\Nto take a moment, right now,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.40,0:00:19.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and close your eyes.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.62,0:00:22.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Go ahead. Close your eyes, please.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.85,0:00:27.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I want you to imagine\Nthat you are 11 years old.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.23,0:00:30.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s the holidays ...
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.01,0:00:33.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are asleep in your bed,\Ndreaming away.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.10,0:00:35.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.15,0:00:44.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now open your eyes.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.19,0:00:50.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those two sounds, those thuds,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.48,0:00:54.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are what woke me up\Non the morning of December 31, 1989,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.34,0:00:59.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and those sounds were\Nmy mother’s skull being smashed in
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.31,0:01:01.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while she was being suffocated,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.72,0:01:04.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,15 feet away from my bedroom.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.61,0:01:09.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I then counted 12 footsteps
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.82,0:01:14.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as they slowly walked down the hallway,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.85,0:01:17.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then they stopped at my door.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.24,0:01:22.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew at that moment\Nthat if I had looked up,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.13,0:01:26.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wouldn’t be standing here today.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.56,0:01:30.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Twenty-five days later,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.16,0:01:33.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,police exhumed my mother’s body\Nfrom underneath my father’s new home
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.52,0:01:35.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our neighboring state of Pennsylvania.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.99,0:01:40.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Little did I know at that moment
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.57,0:01:44.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I was about ready\Nto embark on a journey
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.37,0:01:46.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to discover what resilience is,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.29,0:01:49.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to turn my “why” into “what now?”
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.86,0:01:53.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to realize that sometimes\Nthe answer that you seek
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.06,0:01:55.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is not necessarily\Nthe answer that you need.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.37,0:02:02.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father murdered my mother,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.92,0:02:06.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my life was changed forever.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.53,0:02:15.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just as my mother’s skull was smashed in,\Nso was the innocence of my youth.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.45,0:02:21.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, instead of deciding which video game\NI was going to play with my friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.24,0:02:24.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or which action figure\NI was going to get at the toy store,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.80,0:02:27.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was faced with\Na different set of questions.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.14,0:02:33.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Being torn from my home, my dog\Nand my whole way of life,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.57,0:02:37.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was wondering,\N“Where am I going to live?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.06,0:02:39.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Will I get a new mommy and daddy?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.01,0:02:41.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What the hell is foster care?”
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.69,0:02:44.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And most importantly,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.35,0:02:47.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“How did I get here?”
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.18,0:03:01.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father’s selfish act
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.44,0:03:04.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,turned not only\Nmy own life upside down,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.02,0:03:09.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but affected an entire community,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.96,0:03:11.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the community of Mansfield, Ohio,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.54,0:03:14.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the audience that sits\Nhere before me right now.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.91,0:03:19.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And little did we know that our tiny town\Nof 25,000 people at that time
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.83,0:03:23.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was going to be thrust\Ninto the national spotlight
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.03,0:03:27.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a trial that was\Nso horrific in its nature.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.52,0:03:37.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I testified at trial for two and half days
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.11,0:03:38.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,against my father,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.52,0:03:40.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as the key witness for the prosecution,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.38,0:03:42.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I heard the murder happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.83,0:03:48.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I worked with them\Nbecause I was angry, I was hurt,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.80,0:03:50.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I was determined.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.35,0:03:55.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was determined to put my father\Nin the one place that he belonged:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.47,0:04:00.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in prison for life.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.62,0:04:05.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Little did I realize\Nthat when I testified at trial,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.98,0:04:09.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was actually working through\Nmy own trauma,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.30,0:04:11.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I was going through an action -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.85,0:04:13.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because at that point in my life,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.99,0:04:16.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like I had no control\Nover anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.85,0:04:18.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had no say in where\NI was going to live,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.86,0:04:21.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was stuck in a foster care home\NI didn’t want to be in,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.59,0:04:24.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was separated from my family\Nand I was abandoned by my family.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.64,0:04:29.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the one thing that I could do,\Nthat I could make a difference in,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.26,0:04:31.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is testifying.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.88,0:04:39.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But one thing always evaded me,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.06,0:04:42.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it continued to evade me\Nthe rest of my life:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.35,0:04:44.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.66,0:04:48.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why did my father,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.47,0:04:51.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my own flesh and blood,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.88,0:04:55.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,commit such a horrific and heinous act?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.14,0:05:03.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And how could he so selfishly\Nturn not only his own life upside down,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.07,0:05:04.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,destroy my mother’s life,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.44,0:05:07.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but destroy and affect\Nan entire community
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.56,0:05:10.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was so connected to this trial?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.06,0:05:20.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I struggled for the next 25 years\Nwith this question,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.84,0:05:25.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so much so that I took myself\Nto Los Angeles, California,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.56,0:05:28.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after getting out of music school,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.37,0:05:32.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I wanted\Nto do something with this story.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.80,0:05:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to do something positive with this,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.08,0:05:37.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I was not going\Nto let this define me.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.57,0:05:43.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went as far as to creating a film
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.54,0:05:47.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a two-time Academy Award winner,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.18,0:05:48.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the result
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.74,0:05:51.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was “A Murder in Mansfield.”
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.49,0:05:56.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I want to take a moment
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.25,0:05:59.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to say that over that 25 years,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.48,0:06:04.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my father manipulated, deceived,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.61,0:06:10.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,did everything he could in his power\Nto have me rescind my testimony,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.06,0:06:12.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have me represent him\Nat the parole board
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.81,0:06:14.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help him get out,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.14,0:06:17.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,anything that this man could do\Nto manipulate me,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.22,0:06:21.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I always just wanted\Nmy father’s love, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.02,0:06:23.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I had already lost one parent,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.08,0:06:26.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and despite as gruesome as everything was,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.44,0:06:28.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wasn’t prepared to lose another.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.87,0:06:33.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, in the film’s final scene,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.56,0:06:37.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I confront my incarcerated\Nfather in prison.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.78,0:06:40.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And finally, finally,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.48,0:06:42.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I’m going to get that moment,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.54,0:06:46.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I’m going to have that moment\Nwhere I can ask this man,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.32,0:06:47.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“Why?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.60,0:06:48.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why, Dad?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.88,0:06:50.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why did you do this?”
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.61,0:06:55.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.81,0:07:00.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In what is definitely\Na very heartbreaking scene,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.12,0:07:05.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my father is unable to answer.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.02,0:07:10.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hidden below the depths\Nof narcissism and self-protection,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.96,0:07:12.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he denies any wrongdoing.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.73,0:07:19.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was at that moment that I realized
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.88,0:07:23.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I had taken back\Nthe power in that room
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.30,0:07:25.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by confronting my father\Nfinally, and saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.81,0:07:28.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“You did this. I want to know why.”
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.97,0:07:32.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I never got the answer to my question.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.97,0:07:36.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you know what?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.77,0:07:38.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was a failure.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.43,0:07:40.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I failed as filmmaker,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.92,0:07:42.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I failed as a human being -
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.42,0:07:46.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never got the answer\Nto the one question that I wanted!
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.25,0:07:52.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I realized something,\Nbecause like most things in life,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.67,0:07:54.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,failure often disguises as success.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.99,0:07:59.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I realized that: what if\Nthe answer that I was seeking
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.63,0:08:01.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wasn’t really the answer that I needed?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.85,0:08:06.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hmm, it’s an interesting concept, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.92,0:08:10.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, life will never ever\Nreally give us the answer
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.51,0:08:12.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the whys that we want, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.74,0:08:15.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It just doesn’t.\NLife doesn’t work that way.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.37,0:08:19.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I thought, “Well, there’s got\Nto be something to this, right?”
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.90,0:08:21.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I thought, well -
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.35,0:08:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we go through a traumatic event,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.14,0:08:27.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,human beings are natural empaths.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.41,0:08:30.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We want to know why, “Why? Why?”
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.08,0:08:34.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why did the gunman walk into a school\Nand shoot up a bunch of children?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.34,0:08:37.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why did terrorists fly planes\Ninto two towers in New York City
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.56,0:08:39.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and kill 3,000 people?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.44,0:08:43.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why did a husband\Nselfishly murder his wife?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.16,0:08:48.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I did a little bit of a deep dive,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.12,0:08:50.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I discovered what researchers call
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.68,0:08:53.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the mirror-neuron system.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.68,0:08:57.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, researchers classify\Nthe mirror-neuron system
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.75,0:09:02.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as this group of cells in our brain\Nthat lies in our limbic system
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.46,0:09:06.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is responsible for compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.63,0:09:08.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s how we relate to one another.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.35,0:09:12.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I thought, “Okay, so there’s\Na little bit of science behind this.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.54,0:09:14.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I’m not too far off base here.”
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.72,0:09:18.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I come back to my why -
Dialogue: 0,0:09:18.78,0:09:20.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my why, my why ...
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.46,0:09:22.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just want to know why.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.64,0:09:24.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I really realized something.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.06,0:09:29.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“Why?” looks into the past,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.47,0:09:33.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but “what now?” ...
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.07,0:09:35.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“What now?” looks to the future.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.89,0:09:41.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, what if our approach\Nto trauma is all wrong?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.99,0:09:44.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What if instead of saying\N“Why? Why? Why?”
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.71,0:09:47.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and trying to understand\Nand justify in our heads
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.97,0:09:49.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why these horrible things happen,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.43,0:09:54.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we instead say, “What now?\NWhat are we going to do about it?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.47,0:09:58.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What can push us forward\Nand lead us through the trauma?”
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.42,0:10:01.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I argue that that is being of service.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.52,0:10:04.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is doing something\Nthat helps the greater good.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.39,0:10:07.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For me, creating my film,\Nwhen I set out,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.90,0:10:10.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted to heal myself\Nand help one person,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.93,0:10:13.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I could show in the film,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.24,0:10:17.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as plain as day, and be as honest\Nand open as I can for the camera
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.76,0:10:20.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to show everything that’s going on
Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.25,0:10:22.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to show that you can\Nreally work through trauma.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.80,0:10:26.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was my way of giving back\Nbecause I know that people would see this.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.24,0:10:27.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had hoped to change one life,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.74,0:10:31.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in fact I ended up\Nchanging thousands of lives,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.17,0:10:33.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is a really cool thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.76,0:10:36.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So anyways, back to this:\Nwhat if in our approach to trauma,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.84,0:10:38.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we lead ourselves through service
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.82,0:10:41.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that ends up pushing us\Nthrough the trauma?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.99,0:10:48.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See, I realized that my “what now” began\Non the morning of December 31, 1989,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.26,0:10:50.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I knew that my mother was dead,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.02,0:10:54.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I knew I had to do something about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.52,0:10:56.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I worked with investigators,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.64,0:10:58.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got into the courtroom, I testified,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.57,0:11:01.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had a whole wonderful community -
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.40,0:11:04.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of these individuals\Nare sitting in this audience -
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.02,0:11:05.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that pillared me up,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.65,0:11:07.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that brought to me the resilience.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.57,0:11:10.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my quest for resilience\Ncontinued then.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.43,0:11:14.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was in high school,\NI dove head-on into the arts,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.05,0:11:16.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because as a child,\Ngrowing up in this community,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.75,0:11:19.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have always had wonderful art programs.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.51,0:11:22.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And art is what lead me through my trauma.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.23,0:11:25.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It lead me to create,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:25.65,0:11:28.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which helped me get to my “what now”
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.37,0:11:32.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s a really wonderful place to be.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.70,0:11:38.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that community continues to be with me\Nas I work in Los Angeles as a filmmaker,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.29,0:11:41.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I have a different\Ngroup of friends now,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.55,0:11:44.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a different community,\Na more expanded community,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.86,0:11:46.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that also supports resilience
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.74,0:11:50.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that also understands\Nthe “what now” of the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.54,0:11:55.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But don’t just take my word for it
Dialogue: 0,0:11:55.22,0:11:58.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because when you go through\Nthese types of things,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.65,0:12:00.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you end up making other friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.86,0:12:07.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is my friend James Gribble -\Nor Gribbs, as he likes to be called.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.60,0:12:09.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 2008,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.86,0:12:14.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James set off on a life-changing journey\Nto travel the world for two years.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.98,0:12:18.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,His first stop was\Nthe African nation of Zambia,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.40,0:12:21.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where he was going to fish
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.03,0:12:25.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for one the world’s rarest\Nand most prized fish to catch:
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.37,0:12:26.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a tiger fish.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:28.88,0:12:32.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James arrived at this remote island\Non the Zambezi River,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:32.63,0:12:35.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sat down on a stool and was dehydrated,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.41,0:12:37.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fainted onto sand
Dialogue: 0,0:12:37.76,0:12:40.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and broke his C4 and C5 vertebrae
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.89,0:12:44.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and became a quadriplegic immediately.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.71,0:12:48.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But Gribbs didn’t …
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.43,0:12:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,didn’t say, “Why? Why?”
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.10,0:12:53.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, his father was a rugby coach,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.38,0:12:57.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,took to his immediate rehabilitation,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.64,0:12:59.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his whole family rallied around him,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.50,0:13:01.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and James often said,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:01.51,0:13:04.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“You can’t feel sorry for me\Nbecause I don’t feel sorry for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.46,0:13:06.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I’m on my journey.”
Dialogue: 0,0:13:06.37,0:13:08.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And through doing that,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:08.69,0:13:11.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James had a passion, which was golf,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.80,0:13:14.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and James was determined\Nto get back on the links,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:14.14,0:13:16.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,determined to rehabilitate himself.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.26,0:13:19.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So [after] tens of thousands\Nof hours of rehabilitation,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.03,0:13:23.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James partnered with a company in Germany,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:23.72,0:13:27.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and helped to bring to market \Na device called
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.77,0:13:30.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the ParaGolfer,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.12,0:13:32.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which put James back on the links.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.77,0:13:35.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, the ParaGolfer is designed
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.23,0:13:39.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help spinal cord victims,\Nstroke victims, get back and play sport.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.04,0:13:45.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James is also someone\Nwho took his why, put it in the past
Dialogue: 0,0:13:46.13,0:13:47.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and faced the “what now.”
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.74,0:13:51.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the work that he has done\Nhas been adopted by doctors and clinicians
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.39,0:13:53.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in his native country of Australia
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.80,0:13:56.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to treat spinal cord injury.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.25,0:14:04.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when it comes to resilience,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.83,0:14:07.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it really is a team sport.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.48,0:14:11.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wouldn’t be standing here\Nif it wasn’t for members of this audience
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.72,0:14:13.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the community that pillared me up.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:13.53,0:14:16.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wouldn’t be standing here if it wasn’t\Nfor the resilience of the arts
Dialogue: 0,0:14:16.87,0:14:18.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and me diving into that.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:19.99,0:14:22.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was a freshman at music school,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.24,0:14:25.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I heard a great quote,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:25.22,0:14:26.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was by Aristotle.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:26.52,0:14:30.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It says, “We are what we repeatedly do.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.05,0:14:34.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Excellence, therefore,\Nis not an act, but a habit."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.71,0:14:38.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, so is resilience.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:44.44,0:14:46.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I’m here to say ...
Dialogue: 0,0:14:48.31,0:14:51.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,biography is not destiny.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:54.44,0:14:59.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can be both the author\Nand the audience of your life.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.14,0:15:02.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:02.60,0:15:04.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)