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Look at my two arms.

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My right arm...

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it can do calligraphy,

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it has written...

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hundreds of poems.

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It can invite the bell.

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And yet, my right hand[br]is never...

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proud of itself.

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My right hand will[br]never tell my left hand,

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"You are good for nothing.

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"You don't write any poem,

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you don't practice calligraphy."

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Why?[br]Because in my right hand...

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there is the wisdom of[br]equanimity, "upeksha."

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It knows that it is the left hand[br]at the same time.

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And it behaves[br]according to that wisdom.

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One day I was using my left hand[br]to hold a nail...

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I wanted to hang something[br]on the wall.

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And my right hand[br]was using the hammer.

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That day I don't know why[br]it was not so skillful...

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Instead of pounding the nail,

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it pounded my finger.

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The moment it made the mistake[br]and created suffering,

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it put down the hammer[br]and took good care right away.

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It did not have to say, "I'm sorry."

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But the way it behaves is perfect.

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It considers the left hand as itself.

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There's no distinction that...

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"You know, I am the right hand.[br]I'm taking care of you, the left hand.

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You have to remember that!"

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So it practices[br]the emptiness of loving,

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emptiness of transmitting[br]in a very perfect way.

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And we know that in our body,[br]in our consciousness,

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there is that wisdom we call[br]"the wisdom of non-discrimination."

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The sanskrit term is nirvikalpajnana,

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the wisdom of non-discrimination.

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This means discrimination...

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This is non-discrimination[br]wisdom.

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We have it. We have that seed[br]of wisdom within us

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within our body,[br]within our consciousness.

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We can develop it[br]in order to...

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to have its guidance[br]in our daily life.

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We have to treat our partner,[br]our mother, our children...

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we have to treat other groups[br]in exactly the same way.

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The Hindus should treat[br]the Muslims in that way;

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the Muslims should treat[br]the Hindus in that way.

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Whites should treat Blacks in that way;

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Blacks should treat Whites in that way.

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Israelis and Palestinians...

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they should look at each other[br]like the right and the left hands.

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Only the wisdom of non-discrimination[br]can bring about true peace, true love.

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And it will help remove the fear.

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I don't think that the right hand[br]is afraid of the left hand,

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and that the left hand[br]is afraid of right hand,

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because both of them have[br]the wisdom of non-discrimination.

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They know that they belong to each other;[br]they are inside of each other.

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Everything that happens to the right hand[br]will happen to the left hand.

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The suffering of one finger...

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is the concern of all ten fingers.

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This is the way[br]we have to train ourselves.

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Mindfulness, looking deeply...

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is the only way for us to touch[br]the nature of interbeing

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that can make the wisdom of[br]non-discrimination manifest.

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If we act, if we love, if we give...

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according to this spirit[br]of non-discrimination,

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we can only create[br]happiness and well-being.

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I remember 15 years ago,

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I had the first chance to [br]taste a peanut butter cookie.

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It was at the Zen center[br]in Tassajara.

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I liked it very much.

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I learned that, in order to make peanut [br]butter cookies, you have to prepare...

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before putting the cookies into the oven[br]you have to separate...

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to make individual cookies.

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But when the cookies[br]come to the oven,

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they begin to discriminate[br]against each other,

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push [each other] a little bit[br]on the other side,

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"Let me be in the central position!"

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"You are ugly!"

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"You are not brown,[br]beautiful like me!"

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"You don't deserve that place!"[br]And then...

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discrimination begins to take place.

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And the war,[br]and the suffering.

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They don't know that they are one.

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And that is very much the way[br]we deal with each other

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because we don't know[br]how to touch our ground of being.

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We have lost our wisdom[br]of non-discrimination.

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When I spoke to you about[br]Four Elements of True Love,

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I did not say much about[br]Upeksha [non-discrimination].

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because Upeksha is difficult.

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Upeksha comes after Mudita [joy]...

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after Karuna [compassion],[br]and after Maitri [lovingkindness].

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The first element of true love[br]is Maitri,

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the capacity of offering[br]joy and happiness.

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Karuna, the capacity of removing the pain,[br]the sorrow and transforming them.

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And joy [Mudita] - True love[br]should be able to give us joy.

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When we cry all day, all night,

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we know that[br]our love is not true love.

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And finally the fourth element of true love[br]is Upeksha.

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That is translated "equanimity."

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Equanimity is exactly[br]the wisdom of non-discrimination.

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When you are a true lover,[br]you don't discriminate anymore.

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The one who loves[br]and the one who is loved,

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you become one.

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Your beloved is you.

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And you are your beloved.

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Only by having that kind of[br]wisdom of equanimity,

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your love becomes perfect.

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And there will be no suffering,[br]no discrimination.

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And if, looking into[br]the nature of your love,

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you don't see any element of equanimity,[br]you have to practice.

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Because the love that is based[br]on notions of self and other,

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and "this" is outside of "that,"[br]that love is not deep yet.

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If you are a psychotherapist,

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I think you can learn a lot[br]from this teaching.

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According to psychotherapy,

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the aim of the therapy is to regain,[br]to restore a healthy self.

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But even if you have a so-called[br]healthy self, you continue to suffer

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because you cannot[br]come out of your self.

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You are still locked[br]in the idea of self.

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That is why suffering continues.

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The true relief is[br]you get out of the notion of self.

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In a relationship,[br]if the self is still very strong,

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you know what will happen.

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There will be clash[br]between self and self.

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To give up your self,[br]to become one with your beloved...

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is to practice non-self.

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And your degree of happiness,[br]understanding and love...

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will increase by 1000 times.

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In this perspective, I think [br]the teaching of the Buddha can...

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can help a lot with psychotherapy.

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Looking deeply to realize[br]the nature of interbeing,

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to know that the self is[br]only made of non-self element,

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That kind of practice can greatly[br]enhance the quality of the healing.

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Only with that practice [br]fear can be dealt with.