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Ukazujem Revíziu 12 vytvorenú 10/18/2016 od Joanna_PM.

  1. (waves sound)
  2. (woman) Do you know there are
    sounds everywhere?
  3. (Seagull cawing)
  4. I know that you don't hear them,
    but everywhere there's sound.
  5. When you open the door,
    that's a sound.
  6. When you knock on the door--
    What? Ring a doorbell.
  7. That's a sound. Right.
    (girl whining)
  8. What's that?
  9. - What does that mean?
    - Ayee
  10. Oh, a lion? A lion roar, right.
    Everything makes a sound.
  11. (Child talking inaudible)
  12. - Bah, bah...
    - You gonna be right back?
  13. I said that if you had a cochlear implant,
  14. you could talk on a telephone.
  15. Are you telling Amanda that?
  16. You telling - What are you telling
    Amanda, what?
  17. (Child talking inaudible)
  18. You telling Amanda about
    getting an implant?
  19. (Child talking inaudible)
  20. (beeping)
  21. ♪ (intro music) ♪
  22. (Peter Artinian) I was the oldest child
    in my family, and I'm deaf.
  23. I would never say
    I'd prefer to be hearing,
  24. I really am happy being deaf.
    It's very peaceful.
  25. Who would want to change that?
  26. In my heart I know
    this is who I am.
  27. ♪ (music) ♪
  28. If somebody gave me a pill
    that would make me hearing,
  29. would I take it? No way.
  30. I'd want to go to a hospital
    and throw it up,
  31. and go back to being deaf.
  32. I want to be deaf.
  33. So when all three of my children
    were born deaf too,
  34. I thought, "Great!
    My kids are just like me."
  35. I started signing to my oldest, Heather,
    when she was a baby in my arms.
  36. And now I look at her, and I'm amazed.
  37. At five she's already fluent in sign.
  38. So when Heather came to us
    and said she wanted this cochlear implant,
  39. it really upset me.
  40. I felt she was rejecting me and my wife.
  41. She wanted to be different,
    she wanted to hear.
  42. (Nita Artinian) It's very unusal
    for a five-year-old deaf child
  43. to say that she wants to hear
    and speak and use the telephone.
  44. I think it's because we're the only
    deaf family in our whole neighborhood.
  45. Heather wants to communicate
    with hearing people.
  46. I understand her motivation,
  47. but I just want her to be happy
    the way she is.
  48. A hearing person
    really can't understand
  49. how you could be happy
    if your child is born deaf,
  50. because everyone they know is hearing.
  51. So when my brother
    and his wife had twins,
  52. and found out one of them was deaf,
    they were just devastated.
  53. (Doctor) There we go.
  54. (drums beating)
  55. (Mari Mancini) When we found out
    Peter was deaf, we were very upset.
  56. - Oh yeah.
    - And, despite the deafness in the family,
  57. when we found out,
    it was a devastating blow.
  58. - Peter, finished?
    - [Inaudible]
  59. (Dr. Pat Chute)
    I just have a CD player here
  60. that I'd like you to listen
    to just to, sort of, get an idea,
  61. as to what hearing loss sounds like.
  62. They filtered out
    all of the frequency information
  63. above 250Hz
  64. even more than what your son
    is getting right now.
  65. That, what you just heard,
  66. that's probably even better
    than what your son is getting right now.
  67. I've never heard any simulation of that,
    so it's pretty amazing.
  68. I didn't know what they could hear,
    or if that's considered hearing.
  69. (Doctor) Being an audiologist
    for 25 years,
  70. it never gets any easier for me
    to tell a parent that their child is deaf.
  71. (Mari) Hearing that CD
    and thinking about Peter,
  72. it killed me,
    a part of me died.
  73. (Dr. Simon Farisier)
    With a cochlear implant,
  74. the child will be able to hear.
  75. There are some children
    who are so profoundly deaf,
  76. that they really don't get
    a whole lot of benefits
  77. from a hearing aid.
  78. And in those children,
  79. we're able to restore
    a good deal of hearing
  80. by performing this operative procedure
    during which we insert an electrode
  81. into the snail like portion
    of the child's inner ear, the cochlea.
  82. (Dr.Chute) The younger,
    the better. And why?
  83. Because when children are younger,
    they are learning language,
  84. it becomes a much more natural process
    than trying to learn language later on.
  85. (Dr.Farisier) When we do
    a cochlear implant, you know,
  86. in an eighteen-month-old,
    that child is able to hear,
  87. develop speech,
  88. and relates not to deaf people
    but to hearing people.
  89. (Mari) When he was first diagnosed,
    and the [DYL] just said,
  90. "Oh, he's an implant candidate."
  91. Um, our view was no way, we've heard
    the implant isn't that successful.
  92. It's really, you know,
    don't even bother looking into it.
  93. Then, word of mouth started
    trickling down to us
  94. that maybe we should investigate it.
  95. In this classroom
    there are several children
  96. who were born deaf,
    came into our infant progarm,
  97. have received cochlear implants,
    at two-and-half, three years of age,
  98. and now have been in our preschool program
    for a couple of years.
  99. And these children are getting ready
    to go into kindergarden next year.
  100. - Hello!
    - (Teacher) Hi! Say hi!
  101. - Hi!
    - Hi!
  102. (Teacher) Okay, everybody
    is gonna have a turn, okay?
  103. Shelby, can you ask everybody,
    "Is everybody ready?"
  104. - Everybody, are you ready?
    - Go ahead.
  105. ♪ Good Morning ♪
    ♪ Good Morning ♪
  106. ♪ How are you? ♪
    ♪ How are you? ♪
  107. (Mari) Shelby, was she born deaf?
    (Nassau) Okay Shelby was born deaf
  108. and she was implanted, I believe,
    at about two-and-half years.
  109. - And how old is she now?
    - She was five last December.
  110. So, in two-and-half years
    her speech has gotten that well?
  111. Right, and of course,
    when her implants are not on,
  112. she's a deaf child again.
  113. - Right.
    - Right.
  114. (Teacher) We'll try one together.
    Say "How are you Karena"
  115. - How are you Karena?
    - How are you?
  116. (Karena) I'm fine, thank you.
    (Teacher) Okay good! and--
  117. When we saw those kids,
    I was flabbergasted.
  118. These kids could hear.
  119. How are you, Karena?
  120. (Peter) The idea of this cochlear
    implant surgery is so scary.
  121. It's so invasive.
  122. They drill through the skull
    and have to go very deeply inside.
  123. I'm afraid that cochlear implants
    are going to create a bunch of robots.
  124. It just doesn't seem right
    for a deaf person
  125. because our natural communication
    is signing and being in the deaf world.
  126. ♪ (music) ♪
  127. When I was a child,
    and when my parents spoke,
  128. I was completely lost.
  129. I would watch their gestures
    and body language
  130. but I had no idea what they were saying.
  131. I could hardly communicate
    with them at all.
  132. But finally, I learned sign language,
  133. and I think that's when my life
    really began.
  134. ♪ (music) ♪
  135. (Peter) English is just moving
    lips, it has no meaning for me.
  136. But sign is so visual,
    it's got a motion.
  137. I could communicate for the first time.
  138. My fear is that if Heather
    were implanted,
  139. she wouldn't be part of deaf world
    or the hearing world.
  140. She'd be in some cochlear implant world.
  141. When Heather plays
    with her hearing friends,
  142. she does get frustrated.
  143. She turns to her mother and me
    and asks what they saying.
  144. Well, we don't know either.
    We're deaf too.
  145. I feel so helpless.
  146. She wants to communicate
    with them so badly,
  147. so she says she wants
    a cochlear implant now.
  148. Why do you want a cochlear implant now?
  149. Because I want to hear everything.
  150. (Nita) Everything?
    (Heather) I need to hear alarms,
  151. smoke detectors for fire,
    and what else?
  152. (Nita) Many different things.
    (Heather) A saw,
  153. nails being hammered into wood,
    the telephone,
  154. a saw cutting down a tree,
    cars crashing,
  155. horns beeping, beep beep!
    And what else?
  156. Hear all the people talking
    in Florida and New York.
  157. (Nita) Different states, huh?
    (laughter)
  158. I was close minded before.
    I didn't like the cochlear implant.
  159. I thought it didn't fit
    with the deaf world,
  160. but then I remembered
    what was it like for me as a child.
  161. I grew up in a family
    where I was the only deaf person,
  162. and where the whole town was hearing.
  163. It was very frustrating.
  164. I never learned how to speak,
    and I felt like an outcast.
  165. I don't want Heather
  166. to have to go through the same
    frustrations that I did.
  167. (Peter) I'm willing to look into it.
  168. But she's my daughter,
    and I don't want her to get hurt.
  169. I don't want her
    to be disappointed.
  170. I just want to make sure
    that Heather is happy.
  171. If she's happy, I'm happy.
  172. (Heather) I will talk
    and I will sign.
  173. My friends will be both
    deaf and hearing.
  174. I will try to share things
    with both deaf and hearing people.
  175. (laughs)
  176. (Peter) Heather told us
    that if she learns to speak,
  177. she'll help us.
  178. Then I realized she'll always
    be involved with us.
  179. She knows that even though
    she gets a cochlear implant,
  180. she'll always be deaf.
  181. (Mari) If your child was blind,
    and if there was a surgery
  182. to give him eyesight,
    would you do it?
  183. And I know even my parents
    would say they would do it
  184. in a heart beat.
  185. Well if you would do that,
  186. why wouldn't you want
    to offer your child the best
  187. and give him an implant?
  188. I'm the oldest of the three children.
    My parents are both profoundly deaf.
  189. (Mari) I had to go
    to the speech therapist
  190. for many many years
    to learn how to speak
  191. because I spoke like a deaf child.
  192. And I would get the ridicule
    of kids saying nasty things
  193. about my parents and the way they spoke.
  194. I would have to interpret for them,
    I would have to be their advocate.
  195. I didn't have a childhood.
    I grew up very fast.
  196. When I became older,
  197. I sort of rebelled against my parents.
  198. I tried so long to get away
    from deaf culture
  199. and tried so long to not being involved
  200. and then I had a child who was deaf.
  201. So, I think God prepared me
    for this challenge.
  202. We made a decision.
  203. We've decided to give Peter
    a cochlear implant,
  204. and put him in an all speaking program.
  205. Not one that teaches sign language.
  206. (Nancy Mancini)
    You are forcing him.
  207. Peter doesn't know
    what it means he can't hear.
  208. (Mari) I'm not forcing him.
    I'm giving him opportunities.
  209. There is a difference.
  210. (Michael Mancini)
    Deaf people will insult him.
  211. They'll fight with him.
  212. (Mari) You think deaf people
    will look down on him?
  213. (Michael) Yes. Yes I do.
  214. (Mari) I don't care
    what deaf people say.
  215. When I told you Peter was deaf,
    how did you react?
  216. (Nancy) I felt happy.
    (Mari) Happy?
  217. (Nancy) God blessed him.
    (Mari) What do you mean blessed?
  218. Why do you think it's a blessing?
  219. It's the first time we have
    a deaf member of the family, Mari.
  220. It makes me happy, that's all.
  221. (Mari) But dad, when you were growing up,
    it was tough right?
  222. And as a deaf person
    you had a hard time getting a job,
  223. communicating, right?
  224. When you were a little boy,
    how did you feel?
  225. (Michael) I was alone,
    no one talked to me.
  226. I rode my bike and I was by myself,
    I just stayed home.
  227. (Nancy) People froze
    when they saw deaf people.
  228. They couldn't even talk to us.
  229. I said, "What's wrong with you?
    Come on, what is it?"
  230. They were scared of deaf people.
    Isn't that true?
  231. (Mari) That's not what I want
    for Peter, mom.
  232. I want him to grow up
    with all the possibilities
  233. that his twin brother has.
  234. (Mari) This is daddy.
    (Chris) Look at your brother.
  235. Is that Christopher?
    Yeah? Yeah? That's Christopher.
  236. (Nancy Mancini)
    Mari loves this operation.
  237. Oh, it is so foolish!
    I'll take the baby.
  238. Mari can go away.
  239. Look, if she doesn't want the baby
    because he's deaf, I'll take him.
  240. And he can say bye-bye
    to mama, that's all.
  241. (Nita) In the process of researching
    the implant for Heather,
  242. I started to think maybe this would be
    something good for me too.
  243. I thought that maybe it would give me
    a better quality of life.
  244. I could communicate better,
    and hear sounds.
  245. (Peter) My wife started talking
    about a cochlear implant for herself!
  246. And I was shocked.
  247. I said, "Now you want one?
    But you are deaf."
  248. I thought you were proud to be deaf.
  249. She told me that I have to keep
    an open mind about all this.
  250. (Nita) I want a cochlear implant
    because I want to hear sound.
  251. I know I'd still be deaf,
  252. but maybe I'd feel better about myself.
  253. I would feel more comfortable
    in the hearing world.
  254. And I thought I'd go through with it
  255. to decide if Heather should get it.
  256. (Dr.Chute) One of the things I want you
    to understand about the implant
  257. is that the results that we see
    when we implant someone
  258. who's been deaf for a long time
    are not as good
  259. as when we implant a young child.
  260. For you, you would be able
    to hear um... people speaking,
  261. their voices.
  262. But you really won't be able
    to understand what they are saying.
  263. You will still have to lip-read.
  264. And in cases where the person
    can communicate with sign language,
  265. you'll still be most comfortable
    using sign language.
  266. (Nita) When I look at my daughter,
  267. she really wants a cochlear implant.
  268. She says, "I have hearing friends,
    and I want to talk to them."
  269. (Dr.Chute) When we think about
    a cochlear implant for your daughter,
  270. who's four-and-half,
    it's very different.
  271. Because she is at a point
    where she is still developing language
  272. and speech.
  273. We would expect, if we implanted her
    at the age of four-and-half,
  274. that she would be able to develop
    near-natural speaking skills.
  275. (Nita) Have you met other deaf people
    who are 20-35 years old
  276. and who got an implant as an adult?
  277. (Dr.Chute) Out of our 300 patients,
    we have only five of them
  278. that are like yourself.
  279. Most of the patients that we see
  280. who have been deaf very young
    or deaf from birth, and are older,
  281. don't really seek implants.
  282. (Nita) It makes me feel discouraged.
    I'm not surprised though.
  283. I knew it would be more difficult
    for an adult to learn language and speech
  284. even with an implant and therapy.
  285. I know that.
  286. But I learned that for a younger child,
    it's not as difficult.
  287. (Peter) We have to support Heather.
    She's young and has a lot of potential.
  288. For Nita and me... it's not gonna work.
  289. It's too late, and she decided
    to not to have it.
  290. I'm happy that she looked
    into it and made the decision
  291. for herself.
  292. But for Heather,
    it's a different situation.
  293. (Heather) Tonight I'll meet
    the girl with the cochlear implant.
  294. In New Jersey.
  295. She's ten years old,
    and her whole family is deaf,
  296. just like ours.
  297. New Jersey is really, really far.
    Like 60 miles.
  298. We drove for hours and hours
    and days and days.
  299. And finally we'll arrive.
  300. ♪ (music) ♪
  301. (Female) This is Stan,
    Diane, and Nancy.
  302. This is Heather, Peter
    and Nita.
  303. - (Heather) Do you like the implant?
    - (Nancy) Of course I like it.
  304. - (Heather) Can you use a telephone?
    - (Nancy) Yes, with something
  305. I plug into my processor.
  306. (Heather) Can you hear a baby cry?
  307. (Stan) She can hear a snake tail rattle.
  308. (Nancy) I saw a snake,
    I could hear it, yes.
  309. (Heather) Snake is very dangerous,
    it can choke you.
  310. Can you hear the animals in the zoo?
    The bears growl? Rawr!
  311. (Nancy) Yes, I could hear
    animals growl, any animal.
  312. - (Heather) Can you hear a house collapse?
    - (Nancy) I never saw a house do that.
  313. - (Heather) Can you hear a car crash?
    - (Peter) You think cars crash everyday?
  314. - (Heather) I saw it happen one time.
    - (Peter) Oh yeah, one time.
  315. - (Heather) Can you hear a ghost say boo?
    - (Nancy) I've never seen a ghost.
  316. (Heather) Boo!
    (laughter)
  317. (Heather) Oh I have another question.
  318. Can you hear different people
    talking at school?
  319. (Nancy) Well, really no one speaks.
  320. All the kids in my class are deaf.
    So they sign too.
  321. And somethimes they don't speak at all.
  322. But when I play with my hearing friends,
    and use my cochlear implant,
  323. sometimes I understand them
    and sometimes I don't.
  324. (Nita) Oh really? Because I've heard
    people say that with the cochlear implant
  325. you can understand everything?
  326. (Diane) No, not 100% like hearing.
  327. (Peter) So, can you show me
    how well you speak?
  328. (Nancy) My name is Nancy.
    My rabbit's name is [inaudible]
  329. My mom's name is Diane.
    My daddy's name is Stan.
  330. I live in [inaudible],
    in New Jersey.
  331. I have two rabbits. Rabbits.
  332. Rabbits.
  333. And one dog.
  334. (Stan) Nancy speaks sometimes
    at home, but being deaf,
  335. we can't tell if her speech is any good.
  336. So I ask my parents and they tell me
    she speaks very well.
  337. Like perfect.
  338. (Peter) Who do you socialize most with?
    Hearing or deaf?
  339. (Nancy) Mostly deaf people.
    (Nita) Your family is deaf.
  340. And all your friends are deaf,
  341. so how do you feel that you are
    the only family with the implant?
  342. How does that feel?
  343. (Diane) We never thought about it.
    We're positive people.
  344. There's no room for negativity here.
  345. We just want her to be happy.
  346. (Nita) I got one last question.
    Which do you like better:
  347. wearing a hearing aid
    or having an implant?
  348. What do you prefer?
  349. (Nancy) I prefer
    the cochlear implant. I really do.
  350. (Peter) I gotta say,
    I appreciate your openness.
  351. This is making us feel better.
    You are giving us good feedback.
  352. You know, I'm getting information
    from so many hearing people,
  353. I've had enough of that.
  354. We're deaf, you know what I mean?
  355. We're the same. Forget hearing people.
    (laughter)
  356. (Nita) I still need proof
    that the cochlear implant really works.
  357. I want to make sure
    it would be right for Heather.
  358. (Susan Cheffo)
    Do you wanna look at my implant?
  359. I got it two years ago.
    This is a microphone.
  360. The microphone goes on here.
    And now I hook up --(sight)--
  361. and now I can hear.
  362. I lost my hearing
    when I was already grown up.
  363. You want to touch it?
    You want the same?
  364. See this? Look at the processor.
    That's louder - good girl -
  365. I like it very much.
    Makes everything loud.
  366. I can hear, I can hear birds.
  367. Heather, do you hear birds? Now?
  368. (Heather) No, I'll hear them later.
  369. (Susan) You want to tell me
    why you want a cochlear implant?
  370. (Heather) Because
    hearing people don't sign.
  371. (Susan) Do you have good speech?
    Let me hear your voice.
  372. (babbling)
  373. (Susan) Shelby, Heather wants to get
    a cochlear implant, like Karena,
  374. like Lindsey, like Shelby,
    like who else? Christopher?
  375. (inaudible chat)
  376. (Heather) Why is everybody talking,
    and no one signs?
  377. (Nita) Because this school
    focuses on speaking.
  378. (Heather) Who? All of them?
  379. (Nita) Yes. At this school,
    they teach using speech.
  380. (Heather) How does she feel?
    (Teacher) Feel about what? The implant?
  381. Shelby how'd you like your cochlear?
  382. (Shelby) I like it. I can hear things.
  383. Do you want to play?
  384. (Teacher) Shelby, ask her,
    would you like to eat something?
  385. (Shelby) Do you want
    something to eat?
  386. (Teacher) Shelby, take her by her hand.
    (Shelby) What?
  387. (Teacher) Take her hand,
    take her back to the table.
  388. (Nita) It was such a struggle for Heather.
  389. She tried to communicate with them
    but none of them knew how to sign,
  390. and they knew nothing about deaf culture.
  391. So they don't have
    any deaf identity or self esteem.
  392. I feel bad for them,
  393. because they are only
    focusing on speech.
  394. It's because they all have
    hearing parents.
  395. I have to do more research,
  396. because I want Heather
    to have both worlds.
  397. To be able to go back and forth,
    to speak and to sign.
  398. (Shelby's Mom) Do you remember Heather?
  399. Heather is thinking about getting
    an implant, like you.
  400. See, right now she has hearing aids.
  401. Can we show Heather your implant?
    This is Shelby's cochlear implant.
  402. It has given her what she never
    could've gotten from hearing aids.
  403. This is the magnet
    that helps Shelby to hear.
  404. And underneath,
    if you take it off, you see?
  405. If you feel it there's a little bump.
    Do you want to feel it?
  406. Feel it? That's the internal part,
  407. that's the part that they do
    when they have surgery.
  408. Shelby wants to sing to you.
  409. Okay, go ahead.
  410. ♪ Wheels on the bus go round and round ♪
    ♪ Round and round ♪
  411. ♪ Round and round ♪
    ♪ The wheels on the bus go round and round ♪
  412. ♪ Oh, feel the sound ♪
  413. Oh, excuse me.
  414. (Nita) As the interpreter,
    did you understand
  415. what Shelby was saying?
  416. Were the words clear to you?
  417. (Interpreter)
    Yes, I understand her clearly.
  418. Her voice was very clear, yes.
  419. (Shelby's mom) I'm just explaining
    to Shelby, she doesn't understand
  420. the use of sign language,
  421. because she's never been exposed to it.
  422. They can't hear anything either,
    and they don't have an implant,
  423. and they don't have hearing aids.
  424. So this is the way they know
    how to talk. Okay?
  425. Give it to Heather and let her
    read like you read. Okay?
  426. (Nita) Heather, why don't you sign?
    The interpreter will speak.
  427. If you sign, then she'll voice for you.
  428. (Heather) No, I don't want to sign,
    I want to speak.
  429. - (Peter) Sign the story to your language.
    - (Heather) No.
  430. - (Peter) You'll sign she'll speak.
    - (Nita) Just leave her be.
  431. (Peter) Come on, I want you
    to sign the story, Heather.
  432. - (Heather) I want to speak.
    - (Nita) Alright, alright, let her be.
  433. (Peter) Alright.
  434. (babbling)
  435. (Interpreter) The p... the piano, no!
    (babbling)
  436. Where is spot. Is he under the bed?
    (babbling)
  437. Ah!
  438. Try the basket.
    (babbling)
  439. Ah! Ba!
  440. (clapping)
  441. (Nita) Okay. I know
    that we come from a deaf world
  442. and you are from the hearing world.
  443. But I want to know if you did any research
    to find out about deaf history,
  444. or sign language before you had
    the implant done on your daughter.
  445. Or did you just go ahead with it
    without any real information.
  446. (Shelby's mom)
    I guess we both felt
  447. that there were more options
    available to her
  448. if she were able to hear.
  449. Um, that life for her would be easier,
  450. more normal,
  451. where she wouldn't have
    any restrictions,
  452. even in a profession such as surgeon.
  453. I mean, something so simple,
  454. but if-- you can't rely
    on sign language and do surgery.
  455. (Peter) Does Shelby think of herself
    as a deaf person or a hearing person.
  456. (Nita) Yes I'd like to know that.
    What is her view of herself.
  457. Do you have any idea
  458. how she views herself
    with the cochlear implant?
  459. (Shelby's dad) She views herself
    as a hearing person.
  460. Without doubt, she definitely does.
  461. She doesn't know the deaf life at all.
  462. (Shelby's mom) Do you want
    to go outside with Heather and play?
  463. Ask Heather if she wants to play with you.
    (Shelby) Do you want to play?
  464. (babbling)
  465. (Nita) It seems that,
    with the cochlear implant,
  466. she doesn't use sign language.
  467. Why? Don't you allow it?
  468. When Shelby is six or seven,
    if she comes to you then,
  469. and wants to sign,
    will you tell her no?
  470. Or will you let her do it?
  471. (Shelby's mom) They feel,
  472. from the professionals
    that we've spoken to,
  473. speech therapist, etc,
  474. that sometimes the children
    may use it as a crutch
  475. and not be able to fully develop
    their speech and language.
  476. I know that deaf culture is a very,
    very important part of your life,
  477. and I guess it's hard for us
  478. to understand why you would want
    to keep Heather in that world
  479. and not broaden her horizons.
  480. (Nita) No, we would love for Heather
    to get involved with both worlds.
  481. Deaf people, hearing people, everything.
  482. But the point of this for us
    is that we are worried
  483. that the cochlear implant
    will change her identity.
  484. (Nita) It was really wrong
    for me to meet them.
  485. I felt they were smothering me
    and they thought I was stupid.
  486. But I'm just trying to do
    what's best for my family.
  487. Maybe Shelby's family
    feels ashamed of her deafness
  488. or embarrassed.
  489. Shelby's going to grow up
    thinking she was implanted
  490. because it's bad to be deaf.
  491. (Mari) Nita, she's happy
    in the hearing world.
  492. Leave her alone.
  493. Why does she have
    to have a deaf identity,
  494. (Nita) Because she doesn't
    even know what her deafness is.
  495. She has no idea because her parents
    didn't tell her she is deaf.
  496. She asks "what is sign language?"
    Mari, what is that?
  497. I felt so bad. I was really hurt.
    She doesn't sign at all.
  498. Not even one word.
    And she acts like a hearing person.
  499. (Mari) Why is it so important to be deaf?
    Yes, deaf people have beautiful language,
  500. but you miss out on so many other
    beautiful things in the world, like music.
  501. (Nita) I don't care about music.
    I can't hear it!
  502. (Mari) It's hearing a baby cry
    for the first time.
  503. Or being outside and hearing
    the beautiful rain.
  504. You can hear the rain falling
    on the ground.
  505. (Nita) Mari, you don't understand.
    Wait a minute. You are hearing.
  506. You can hear. I never hear.
    For me, this is normal.
  507. I can see the beautiful rain,
    I can taste the rain on my lips.
  508. It doesn't matter to me to hear it,
    it makes no sense to me.
  509. (Mari) But Nita, you never
    experienced hearing.
  510. I know what you are missing.
  511. (Nita) I thought about everything
    everyone said to me.
  512. And I've decided to just disregard it,
  513. and from now on,
    make the decisions for myself.
  514. People have been saying,
  515. "Oh, the cochlear implant's gonna
    make it better for Heather,
  516. she'll be able to communicate better."
  517. But I think my husband and I
    are going to do our best
  518. to give her a good education.
  519. So she'll be able to have
    a good life without the implant.
  520. Do you know why your father
    and I decided
  521. that the cochlear implant
    is not a good idea for you?
  522. It's because you are still young,
    you are only five years old,
  523. and you're starting to understand
    your deaf culture.
  524. You already have your language,
    sign language.
  525. (Heather) Deaf culture?
  526. (Nita) Deaf culture means
    that there's a group of deaf people
  527. who sign and live together.
  528. Hearing people use speech.
    That's their language in their culture.
  529. You are already involved in deaf culture
    because your parents are deaf.
  530. And we all sign together.
  531. (Heather) Is it easy to wear
    the implant and become hearing?
  532. (Nita) No, honey, it's not easy.
  533. Do you care that you are not
    getting the implant now?
  534. (Heather) I don't care. I don't care.
  535. ♪ (music) ♪
  536. You know a little bit,
    you know deaf sign,
  537. say, "Nice to meet you."
  538. Watch, "Nice to meet you."
  539. One, two, three.
  540. ♪ (singing Happy Birthday) ♪
  541. (Someone) Go, make a wish.
  542. (cheers)
    (applause)
  543. (babbling)
    Big grandma?
  544. (laughs)
  545. The book? On the cochlear?
  546. Oh I have it at home, I forgot it.
    Maybe later, I'll go get it. Okay?
  547. (Nita) You know
    we've changed our minds,
  548. we don't want a cochlear implant now.
  549. We want her to wait
  550. She's already confused.
    If she had an implant,
  551. they're telling me
    she's not allowed to sign
  552. and she has to speak,
    we're not ready for that.
  553. We decided to put it off,
    and we feel much better about it.
  554. Suppose when she starts
    to get older
  555. and she sees other children with cochlear,
  556. and she'll say, "Why don't I have that?"
  557. Why make her wait and suffer more?
  558. (Nita) You don't understand.
    She'll be missing out on deaf life.
  559. (Grandma) Forget deaf.
  560. You are a mother first,
    and you are a father first.
  561. You do what's right for that child.
  562. (Peter) Heather said to me,
  563. "I'm not ready to have a cochlear
    implant, I'm too afraid."
  564. I said that's fine.
    So give her time.
  565. (Grandma) It should not be
    her decision,
  566. you don't talk about this
    in front of the child
  567. because it's not her decision,
    it's your decision.
  568. (Peter) Oh right, come on, ma.
  569. (Grandma) Wait a minute,
    she says to me, "Grandma,"
  570. she says, "I want to communicate."
  571. This is what she said, communicate.
  572. I want --no, no-- she says,
    "I want to hear, same as you."
  573. What is that? So am I lying?
  574. (Peter) You really pushing,
    stop pushing me, ma.
  575. (Grandma) I want to push for her.
    Heather is an exception.
  576. She's extremely bright.
    She's a perfect candidate for cochlear.
  577. (Peter) I'll decide what's best
    for Heather. I'm her father.
  578. (Grandma) But that's your daughter.
    Don't you want the best?
  579. (Peter) I know what's best for her.
    (Grandma) No, you don't.
  580. (Peter) I know what I'm doing.
  581. (Grandma) My opinion you don't know
    what's best for her.
  582. (Peter) You are worried
    about what other people will think.
  583. (Grandma) I know what you
    went through growing up,
  584. I know the frustrations you have.
  585. (Peter) You don't, you don't have
    any idea what I went through.
  586. (Grandma) What?
  587. (Peter) You don't know
    what it's like to be deaf.
  588. (Grandma) Peter, Peter.
  589. I walked to the supermarket
    with you in the basket.
  590. Other people looking at you
    with hearing aids, and making fun of you.
  591. (Peter) I don't care
    what hearing people think!
  592. (Grandma) You don't understand,
    you weren't there! You didn't experience!
  593. You did not experience it as a parent.
    She will suffer more!
  594. - She's gonna suffer--
    - That's what you are thinking.
  595. No, it's not my thinking.
  596. Talk to the educators.
    Go to the conferences.
  597. The deaf world is changing.
  598. (Peter) Look at me, ma.
  599. Look at me, are you telling me
    I don't have a successful life?
  600. (Grandma) Tough life.
    (Peter) Look at me now, what do you think?
  601. (Grandma) Look, you are my son.
    I raised you from little boy and I love you.
  602. (Peter) Oh come on, you're changing
    your whole attitude.
  603. (Grandma) I'm not changing
    my attitude.
  604. (Peter) You are!
    (Grandma) Oh really?
  605. If you are born today,
    tomorrow you would go to a doctor
  606. for a cochlear implant.
  607. (Peter) Thank God
    I don't want an implant.
  608. (Grandma) Fine,
    you don't need a cochlear.
  609. - If you don't want it, don't take it.
    - Right.
  610. So what?
  611. - (Peter) Everybody is trying to pressure me.
    - (Chris) I could care less what you do.
  612. (Peter) Chris, did I complain to you
    about your decision? Did I?
  613. Did I say a word to you?
  614. (Chris) I'm not going to get angry
    because it's your daughter.
  615. (Peter) Did I complain to you?
  616. (Chris) If you don't want to do it
    for your daughter, that's your issue.
  617. (Peter) Heather is my child,
    and I'm not being close minded.
  618. Hearing people have their own way
    of looking at things.
  619. I have a deaf family. That is my life.
  620. She's always giving me a hard time.
  621. (Grandma) Peter, Peter.
  622. All I'm telling you, as a parent,
    and as a grandparent,
  623. you are choosing a tough road for Heather.
  624. (Peter) I'm the parent,
    you're not the parent.
  625. (Grandma) I said grandparent.
  626. (Peter) I'm the one who makes the decisions.
    (Grandma) I said, if you will understand-
  627. (Peter) This is my decision.
  628. (Grandma) Peter--
  629. (Peter) I never knew that you didn't
    really accept deafness until now.
  630. (Grandma) Peter, you only want
    to see what you want to see.
  631. (Peter) It's obvious you don't accept it.
  632. (Grandma) I would give my life for her.
  633. - (Peter) It's just a gamble.
    - (Grandma) It's not a gamble.
  634. (Peter) It is!
  635. (Grandma) Years ago it was a gamble.
    It is not a gamble now.
  636. Breaks my heart.
  637. Because I know
    what she's going to go through.
  638. They don't realize it.
  639. They don't know
    what the future holds for her.
  640. The frustrations that they went through,
  641. they don't remember
    because they were too young,
  642. but I saw the isolation.
  643. I saw them being ignored
    because they're deaf,
  644. because people can't communicate with them
  645. and I don't blame
    the hearing world for them.
  646. I mean, they are minority.
  647. The hearing world is not going
    to learn sign language.
  648. I don't want to make Heather hearing.
    I want to make her life easier.
  649. I can accept her deafness.
  650. What bothers me,
    is that it could be easier for her.
  651. (Peter) Hearing people
    think that deafness is limiting.
  652. That we can't succeed.
    I say no way.
  653. No way!
  654. Look at me, I'm deaf,
    and I'm successful.
  655. I work with computers,
    with [inaudible] downtown on Wall Street.
  656. I have to face the hearing world
    everyday at work.
  657. And it's tough.
  658. (inaudible chatting)
  659. I'm dependent on emails
    and interpreters.
  660. (babbling)
  661. And be honest, sometimes,
    yeah, I do feel limited.
  662. But the hearing world
    can be very, very selfish.
  663. There's a lot of discrimination
    against deaf people.
  664. One day Morning will have
    new configuration of queues.
  665. The honest truth is,
  666. I probably can't go that much further
    up the corporate ladder.
  667. (Mari) Mom, you know
    we're going forward with the implant.
  668. Next week, Peter is going
    to the audiologist for test,
  669. and then he'll definitely
    get the cochlear implant in January.
  670. (Nancy) A friend of mine asked me
    why he's getting it.
  671. I told him you wanted it,
    and they were very surprised.
  672. He feel sorry for him.
    What can I do?
  673. (Mari) You mean you are embarrassed
  674. about what other people
    will say about it?
  675. (Nancy) I'm embarrassed
    because you're making him hearing
  676. so he'll speak well.
  677. (Mari) My family is all hearing.
    And he's the only one who's deaf.
  678. (Nancy) His aunts and uncles
    are all deaf! He has a big deaf family.
  679. - It doesn't matter.
    - It does matter.
  680. I want him to have the opportunity
    to be anything he wants to be.
  681. - You're such a lousy daughter.
    - Mom says I'm a lousy daughter.
  682. - She just said that.
    - Oh, no stop that!
  683. She said I'm a lousy daughter
    because I want to implant my son.
  684. - How do you feel?
    - How do I feel?
  685. Yes dad, how do you feel?
    Do you think I'm a lousy daughter?
  686. (Michael) No no no
    (Grandma) Who's lousy?
  687. (Nancy) Mari, my daughter.
    My deaf friends wonder
  688. why a person like her,
    who helps deaf people,
  689. who even interprets for deaf people,
  690. wouldn't love her own child
    even if he's born deaf.
  691. A mother should love her child
    the way he is.
  692. (Grandma) Deaf people think
    that the hearing people
  693. are trying to make them hearing.
  694. Not true. I don't mean to insult you,
  695. but people have to realize
    that the world is changing.
  696. It's not to hurt deaf people
    it's to help them.
  697. I know it's hard for deaf people
    to accept this.
  698. Because it's like the floor
    has been pulled out
  699. from underneath a deaf person.
  700. I understand that.
  701. But you still can't stop the future.
    Can't stop the progress from happening.
  702. (inaudible chatting)
  703. (woman) Today, when parents
    find out their child is deaf
  704. they don't know
    what to do with the child
  705. and they just force an implant on them.
  706. These parents are selfish.
  707. My opinion is if you are born deaf,
    that's it.
  708. You're right, I agree with you.
  709. (Mari) Now you are all gonna
    come after me.
  710. We have decided to give
    our son Peter a cochlear implant.
  711. I want to give my son
    opportunities to live in both worlds.
  712. You feel that deaf people are inferior,
    so you want to implant your child
  713. in the hope that
    he will have a chance in the future.
  714. Is that what you are thinking?
  715. (Chris) It's not because we think
    deaf people are more limited,
  716. it's because the world's view
    of deaf people
  717. makes things more difficult for them.
  718. Well, look at me.
    I work for the New York Times.
  719. I've been a supervisor
    of 25 hearing people
  720. for the past five years.
    And I am deaf.
  721. I'm a former at my job
    and I control the whole shop.
  722. My boys can't live without me.
    And I'm stone deaf.
  723. (woman) A child is not a guinea pig.
  724. I think that the parent
    who forces implant on his child
  725. is not considering that child's feelings.
  726. The body belongs to the child.
  727. When he grows up, his parents
    can ask him then if he wants an implant.
  728. (Chris) But this is the best age
    for him to get an implant.
  729. So he'll have the best opportunity
    to learn speech and language.
  730. We wait till he's fifteen,
    it'll be too late.
  731. You know, we are not taking
    his deafness away,
  732. he'll know he's deaf,
    I'll teach him his deaf culture.
  733. (man) Do we think the implant
    can kill deaf culture yes or no?
  734. - Yes!
    - Yes!
  735. (Male) When someone is implanted
    he will migrate to the hearing world
  736. and won't bother with the deaf world.
  737. We can't determine
    what would have happened
  738. if the technology was available
    a long time ago.
  739. Who knows, maybe we'd all
    have implants, who knows?
  740. (woman) Pretty sure,
    we would look like robots.
  741. (man) Not all deaf people can develop
    good speech, and sound like hearing people
  742. maybe just 20%.
  743. So deaf culture will persist
    for many many more years.
  744. (woman) Deaf culture is wonderful.
    (cheers)
  745. (Mari) I think, at times,
    they're right, that I am betraying-
  746. well I know, I'm still into one,
  747. because here I took it as a sign
    from this woman,
  748. like, this child is just like me.
  749. You know, there is nothing wrong,
    he's part of our world.
  750. Leave him alone.
    And that kills me.
  751. But at the same time,
    I want the best for my child.
  752. And I want to give him
    the best opportunity I can.
  753. And the only way I know how
    is that there is this technology now
  754. that will enable him
    to become more functional
  755. in the hearing world.
  756. (Grandpa) The path, is to hear,
    that is the path.
  757. That is what the world is like outside.
  758. It is not intended for people
    to have a handicap. It happens.
  759. There's nothing wrong with that,
    but it's not intended.
  760. (Peter) Dad, I know what you think
    about the cochlear implant.
  761. I really do. But it seems to me
    you just don't trust my judgement.
  762. (Peter Sr.) You know, I don't trust
    that judgement right now, no.
  763. At one time, you and your wife said
    you were going to do the cochlear.
  764. - We didn't say that.
    - You were supporting it.
  765. - You were supporting it.
    - It's not so simple.
  766. Peter, at one time you were
    gonna go for the cochlear implant, okay?
  767. When Nita went to find out
    if she could have it done,
  768. and found out it may be too late,
    everything went the other way.
  769. - She changed her mind.
    - You don't know that.
  770. Well she's not doing it, is she?
  771. Yeah, but she made
    that decision on her own.
  772. And she decided that herself.
    She did that. She made her own choice.
  773. Now I think you are misunderstanding.
  774. If I didn't know you, I would say
    that you're an abusing parent.
  775. Because you have an opportunity
    to take a handicap and correct it.
  776. (Peter) Wait a minute dad, dad!
    I'm the one who told my wife
  777. to take Heather to the cochlear
    implant school.
  778. Do you remember that?
    When Heather came back home
  779. she herself said to me
    that she didn't want it.
  780. We asked, what happened?
  781. She says my mother told me
    that it's not good.
  782. (Peter) You think I'm lying to you?
  783. (Peter Sr.) You are preventing
    a cure for deafness to take place
  784. because you are so involved with the deaf
  785. that you really want your children
    to continue to be deaf,
  786. and if they function
    in the hearing world, that's fine,
  787. but they got to be deaf first.
  788. That's wrong.
  789. Dad, I have a deaf family.
    I plan to work very hard for them.
  790. (Peter Sr.) What about
    a family of cripples?
  791. A family of cripples? Cripples.
    Okay? Who can't walk.
  792. That's not what I'm talking about.
  793. We're talking about an implant,
    that's different.
  794. No it's not different. It's a handicap.
    It's a handicap.
  795. And when they have children
    they should break their legs so that-
  796. Wait a minute dad, you think
    deafness is a handicap.
  797. But I don't think deafness is a handicap.
    That's from my heart.
  798. I just can't hear.
  799. Dad, you raised me to be my own man.
  800. So now I'm being strong for my kids.
  801. If my children grow up to be successful,
    then what will you say?
  802. When they grow up,
    I'll say congratulations.
  803. What happens if they don't?
  804. Come on, you can't predict
    the future? I can't.
  805. Yeah, you can't predict the future,
  806. but you can give your children
    every opportunity that there is,
  807. which you are not.
  808. You are not giving them
    all the opportunities.
  809. You are picking for them.
  810. (Peter) Mom, I saw two different
    families. One deaf, and one hearing.
  811. The girl from the deaf family
    didn't speak well
  812. even though she had
    a lot of speech therapy.
  813. Her cochlear implant just didn't work.
  814. So what would happen
    if we implanted Heather.
  815. I understand what you are saying,
    and yes that's possible,
  816. the deaf family, it may not work.
  817. But, that's because that deaf family
    maybe is not making a full commitment
  818. to give them speech therapy,
  819. to expose them to as much
    as they can expose to
  820. in the hearing world.
  821. If you are not ready to do that,
    then you are right,
  822. don't give them a cochlear.
  823. In my heart, dad, I know
    Heather will be successful.
  824. That's my belief.
  825. I think that the cochlear implant
    is a waste for our family.
  826. (Grandma) You'd have
    to use the term abusive.
  827. I find it hard using that
    because they are my children.
  828. And they are good parents.
    But I can say they are abusive.
  829. They are good parents,
    but they are fearful.
  830. And I understand their feeling
  831. I'm trying to get them
    beyond this fear.
  832. They have to see these are their children
    and they are parents first.
  833. They have to stop hurting them.
  834. And to me, they are hurting them.
  835. Okay, now, here look look.
  836. Watch. See what we're doing?
    See? We're separating it.
  837. - Can you say that? Separating?
    - Separate
  838. - Terrific, Separating
    - Separa--
  839. (Grandma) That means, one quarter.
  840. - One, one, quarter.
    - One.
  841. (Grandma) Heather, where are you?
    Here it is. Come on over here.
  842. - What is this? What's this?
    - Measuring cup.
  843. You are fantastic! FAN-tastic!
    Measuring cup.
  844. - What does this smell like?
    - Cookie?
  845. Yes, it smells like a cookie.
    But it also smells like cinnamon.
  846. (babbling)
    Cinnamon, Cinn-a-mon.
  847. (inaudible babbling)
    Very good, cinnamon.
  848. Why do you want to speak so good? Why?
  849. That's a pretty good reason.
    You want to talk with hearing people.
  850. - Yes! With me! And grandpa.
    - Grandpa.
  851. - I love you more.
    - I love you more!
  852. (Peter) My mother thinks it's tragic
    that Heather can't speak
  853. like a hearing person.
  854. And I know that some people think
  855. that deaf people not implanting
    their children is abusive.
  856. But you know what?
  857. It's the same thing with hearing people.
    They automatically implant their children,
  858. and they don't know anything at all
    about deafness.
  859. And I say that's abusive.
  860. (children singing)
  861. (Shelby's mom)
    Shelby is doing amazing
  862. with the implant in first grade.
  863. I was actually surprised
  864. because I didn't know
    how she would be going
  865. into a mainstream class.
  866. I mean the first day I would know
    she's gonna come home crying.
  867. The transition was remarkable.
  868. (teacher) Shelby what's your
    favorite color?
  869. - Rainbow.
    - Rainbow!
  870. (Shelby's mom) She just fell right
    into the classroom
  871. and made new friends,
    and is listening to the teacher,
  872. and is doing everything
    a normal first grader does.
  873. (teacher) Everybody, today is our-
    (kids) Eighteenth day of school.
  874. (Shelby's mom) A lot of times
    when you said okay kids lets get up,
  875. and kids are getting up and pulling
    their chairs out, and that noise,
  876. Shelby can miss the next few instructions.
  877. But with this sound field box on her desk
  878. and with the teacher wearing
    the microphone her voice amplifies
  879. so Shelby can hear her.
  880. (teacher) Mix it up Shelby, mix it!
  881. (Chris) Any reaction from
    the other kids?
  882. (Shelby's mom) I explained
    to the children,
  883. Shelby has a cochlear implant
  884. and I asked them
    if they wanted to touch it,
  885. and all the kids went like this,
    and all the girls.
  886. But then there was one little girl
    that raised her hand,
  887. and when she got in line to touch it,
  888. everybody else wanted to come up,
    they all touched it, and they all were,
  889. you know, very satisfied with it.
  890. (Chris) It's an ornament.
  891. (Shelby's mom) Yeah, I don't think
    she realizes that she's deaf.
  892. She thinks she's just like
    everybody else.
  893. You are about to implant
    your son, and when I see him,
  894. I'm gonna cry.
  895. I think you are doing it
  896. because you really
    don't accept his deafness.
  897. You are thinking
    about your parents
  898. and you are afraid.
  899. When you look at your parents
    you look down at them
  900. because they are uneducated,
  901. and you don't want Peter
    to be like them.
  902. You don't want your children
    to be like any of us.
  903. No! I accept his deafness.
    I love my son!
  904. But if Peter can have a normal life,
    why not let him have it?
  905. - What do you mean normal?
    - He can be whatever he wants.
  906. And he'll speak for himself.
  907. (Nita) You want him to be brilliant.
    You want him to speak.
  908. You're making it sound
    like you don't want Peter
  909. to go to a deaf school
  910. because you think the education is so bad.
  911. (Mari) Nita! Deaf school stink!
    I don't want that for him.
  912. (Nita) Oh, that hurts!
    (Mari) Aw, Nita, Come on.
  913. (Nita) Wait a minute.
    Obviously you think
  914. that deaf people are behind.
  915. It doesn't seem that way to me.
    That is not right, no no.
  916. (Mari) The average deaf high school
    graduate reads at the fourth grade level.
  917. - That's it. That's all!
    - No... oh no, not all.
  918. (Mari) I didn't say all.
    I said most.
  919. (Nita) Oh god, wait a minute.
    Wait a minute.
  920. You said, oh this really bothers me.
  921. (Mari) I'm not saying
    that deaf kids are idiots. No!
  922. I'm just saying the school stink.
  923. (Nita) Deaf parents with deaf children
    know how to get them a good education.
  924. Everybody wants their kids
    to have a good education.
  925. But for you to implant your child
    at eleven month, oh no.
  926. Why now? now now now?
    He's still just a baby.
  927. You should love your child.
    Give your heart to your child.
  928. And when he gets older,
    the time is right,
  929. then give him an implant,
    don't destroy his emotional life,
  930. he's a beautiful, natural, deaf baby.
  931. (baby crying)
  932. (Nita) After talking to Mari,
    I was upset and angry.
  933. But it kind of woke me up.
  934. I asked my husband
    and he said it's true.
  935. Some deaf high schools
    do turn out students
  936. who only read at fourth grade level.
  937. I realized I've got to focus on my kids
  938. and find the best school for them.
  939. (Peter) I knew there was
    a deaf community in Maryland
  940. and I've heard the school there
    is one of the best in the country.
  941. Heather probably wanted
    a cochlear implant before
  942. because she wasn't exposed
    to the deaf world.
  943. In Maryland, there are
    so many deaf people,
  944. that she could really get
    involved with the deaf community.
  945. And that's what we want.
  946. (James Tucker)
    Hi there, who are you?
  947. - (Heather) Heather.
    - (James) Heather, nice to meet you.
  948. - And who are you?
    - Tim.
  949. - (James) Can you spell it?
    - (Tim) T-I-M.
  950. (James) Oh Tim, hi.
  951. (Teacher) Okay come on,
    we're going to read a story.
  952. Do you know the story
    of Mrs. Wishy Washy?
  953. Everybody take your seats.
    Heather, come on, come on join us.
  954. (Kid) "Oh, lovely mud," said the pig,
    "Oh, lovely mud," said the cow.
  955. And she rolled it around
    and around and around.
  956. (teacher) Hold on, shh.
    What do you think happens next?
  957. (Heather) The cow gets a bath?
    Hey! I was right!
  958. (teacher) That's right, in with the cow.
    Wishy Washy, wishy washy.
  959. (Peter) That's good, that's really good.
  960. (Nita) At the cochlear implant school
    in Long Island, they weren't signing,
  961. and Heather felt left out and couldn't
    get involved because everyone spoke.
  962. She felt alienated.
  963. But here, at this school,
    she's part of the group.
  964. Heather walked into that classroom
    with her eyes wide open.
  965. She was so excited
    when she saw those kids.
  966. She jumped right in
    and got involved.
  967. There was no stress on her
    to think about her speech.
  968. Communication was so natural for her,
  969. she didn't have to think
    about speaking or hearing.
  970. (Peter) Back in Long Island
    there was a huge hearing community
  971. and they are in charge
    and give us orders.
  972. But they really don't understand
    our deaf culture.
  973. I've tried to explain over and over,
  974. I just can't imagine having
    to continue doing this
  975. while my children are growing up.
  976. I don't want to deal with it.
  977. (James) I understand how you feel.
  978. The City of Frederick
    has brought together Deaf Americans.
  979. There is America, the big America,
  980. and deaf communities
    like this one within America.
  981. People here are very sensitive
    to the deaf community
  982. because this school has been here
    for over a hundred and thirty years!
  983. (Nita) We went to the store today,
  984. and I asked where
    I could find a baby bottle,
  985. and the sales lady signed back, aisle ten!
  986. I was so surprised, I was amazed.
  987. (James) It's true.
  988. Here in Frederick you'll often find
    waiters who sign, or bank tellers,
  989. doctors, nurses, there's a lot
    of deaf awareness here.
  990. (Peter) I just feel inspired here.
  991. I come here to the deaf world
    and I feel safe.
  992. In the hearing world
    I feel locked up in jail,
  993. I feel like I'm being held back.
    I really want to move here.
  994. (landlord) Painting is allowed,
  995. but you have to be able to cover it
    with one coat of paint when you leave.
  996. Whenever you move out, okay?
  997. (Peter) We've talked it over,
  998. and Nita and I feel it's right
    for our family to move to Maryland.
  999. (Nita) Peter and I are the parents
    of these three deaf children,
  1000. and we will do what we think is best.
  1001. People can't tell us what to do.
  1002. They tell us we should implant our child,
    put our children in oral programs,
  1003. so they should have
    speech therapy everyday,
  1004. we should do this and that
    because of their future.
  1005. I feel like I'm being forced
    to adhere to their wishes,
  1006. but you know what,
    I'm throwing it all away.
  1007. We're going to decide
    what's best for our children.
  1008. (Peter) We want to move to Maryland
  1009. because we believe
    that's what it's best for the kids.
  1010. (Grandpa) What we feel
    is that you're putting a fence
  1011. around the children
  1012. because you believe it's the right thing
    in raising them in that community.
  1013. (Grandma) You are moving,
    you are limiting your children.
  1014. - You are forcing them--
    - Ma-
  1015. (Grandma) Wait a minute-
    you are forcing them
  1016. to live only in the deaf world.
  1017. (Nita) That's not true. That is not true.
  1018. (Grandma) Nita, you told me before
    I don't want my daughter to suffer
  1019. the same way I did.
  1020. I would want her to hear music.
    I would want her to enjoy life,
  1021. I did not have that.
    Well, what are you doing now?
  1022. (Nita) Marion, when I saw
    the kids in that school,
  1023. I realized that because
    of their sign language,
  1024. their language and writing abilities
    were equal to the hearing kids.
  1025. (Grandma) You may be 100% correct.
    Maybe it's the best school
  1026. for the deaf in the world.
  1027. My feeling? You are moving your family
    to escape an issue that's going on here.
  1028. Cochlear implant.
  1029. (Peter) Ma, I know how you feel
    about the cochlear implant,
  1030. but I don't want the implant
    for Heather, that's it!
  1031. That's my final decision.
  1032. In Maryland we'll have more opportunities,
    more interpreters, more communication.
  1033. Deaf people are accepted there.
  1034. (Nita) Living in Maryland
    will be better for our kids.
  1035. We're a deaf family.
  1036. Peter and I grew up deaf,
  1037. we know what it's like growing up
    in a hearing culture.
  1038. We could do better for our kids!
    You don't understand deaf people--
  1039. (Grandma) You only want to accept one way,
    deaf way. There are both worlds here.
  1040. You only want deaf world
    for your children.
  1041. They have to live in both worlds.
    You! Why did you go for cochlear? Why?
  1042. - (Peter) She was curious.
    - (Grandma) Curious? That's bull.
  1043. She said to me,
    "I want to be like the same,
  1044. "I want to hear the music,
    I want to dance."
  1045. That's wanting to live in both worlds.
  1046. (Nita) So you are saying
    we're limiting our children?
  1047. That's ridiculous! We'll give them
    the best of everything.
  1048. (Grandma) Excuse me,
    can you read a recipe?
  1049. All by yourself without help?
    Do you understand a recipe? All of it.
  1050. (Nita) You really have to ask me that?
  1051. (Grandma) Do you understand--
  1052. (Nita) I don't understand
    how to read a recipe,
  1053. but it's not my fault,
    my parents didn't teach me.
  1054. - (Grandma) No kidding. But--
    - (Nita) But I am teaching Heather!
  1055. (Grandma) And what proof do you have
    that you're gonna be taught all that?
  1056. (Nita) Wait, wait wait, it's hard--
  1057. (Grandma) And Heather and Timothy
    gonna be taught all that?
  1058. (Nita) I feel so much pressure
    about this, I've had enough.
  1059. (Grandma) Because
    you don't want to accept it.
  1060. You are running away.
  1061. Are you running away
    because I'm pressuring you?
  1062. (Peter) No, come on, ma.
  1063. (Grandma) If you wanted the best
    for your kid's future,
  1064. you would be giving them a cochlear
    and the opportunity to have both worlds.
  1065. (Nita) I feel like your mother
    keep stifling me.
  1066. I feel like she's controlling us.
    I want her off my back!
  1067. (Peter) I know honey, I know.
    Ignore her. You're the mother.
  1068. We're going to move on
    with our plans okay?
  1069. She's only the grandmother.
    Just ignore her.
  1070. (Nita) I thought your parents
    would be proud of us.
  1071. That they would at least trust
    that we are doing the right thing.
  1072. But they think we're making
    the wrong decision.
  1073. (Peter) That's my parents.
    That's who they are.
  1074. If my father sees we're alright,
    he'll be alright with it.
  1075. But my mom is just being so heartless.
  1076. (Nita) I tried to share how I feel,
    she wouldn't let me!
  1077. She kept putting me down.
    Made me so angry. I tried so hard.
  1078. (Peter) Just ignore her,
    you take it too hard.
  1079. When we get to Maryland
    you'll be much much happier,
  1080. I promise you.
  1081. You'll meet a lot of new people there.
  1082. There's a big deaf community there
    that will accept you for who you are.
  1083. What's most important
    is our happiness.
  1084. You've been through so much.
    Come here.
  1085. (crying)
  1086. (Dr.Chute) Each one of our parents
    that come through
  1087. get the National Association
    for the Deaf's position statement
  1088. on cochlear implants.
  1089. And I think for you in particular,
    it's important that you read through this.
  1090. The position of the NAD is that,
    and to quote them,
  1091. they deplore the decision
    of the Food and Drug Aministration,
  1092. um, to support implantation in children.
  1093. (Chris) They could say what they want,
    they could bring anything they want,
  1094. they could bring the president
    of the NAD to my house, we don't care.
  1095. It's the child that has this hearing loss,
    proving him of an avenue to hear,
  1096. and that's the end of it.
  1097. The rest of it is bull.
  1098. (Mari) You know,
  1099. my picture is going to be plastered
    on a dart board
  1100. and the NAD is going to be
    throwing things at me,
  1101. because with the poster child
    of what not to do,
  1102. according to their rules.
  1103. (Dr.Chute) You think things
    are negative now,
  1104. when you going to do it,
  1105. the response of those deaf members
    of your family
  1106. are going to be extraordinarily
    strong at that point.
  1107. And the obvious reason for that is,
    you are taking a member of their society,
  1108. of their culture,
    and you are pulling them out.
  1109. And, all of that stuff about,
    what's the matter,
  1110. we're not good enough for him,
    um, what's the matter,
  1111. you are ashamed of us,
  1112. what's the matter,
    this is not the best life for him?
  1113. We've done perfectly well as deaf people.
    We're proud of being deaf.
  1114. We're happy people.
  1115. Why, why do you feel
    compelled to have to do this?
  1116. (Mari) In a couple of years,
    when Peter is responding,
  1117. his cousins are going to be turning around
    and asking a lot of questions.
  1118. So I think that, that's when
    the real fury is going to come up.
  1119. It's when the questions
    are going to be raised,
  1120. and how do you deal
    with something like that.
  1121. (Nita) When you see Peter
    with the implant,
  1122. will that make you
    change your mind and want it?
  1123. - (Heather) No, I don't want it.
    - (Nita) You don't want it... why?
  1124. (Heather) I don't want
    a cochlear implant.
  1125. (Nita) That's fine, it's your decision.
  1126. Whatever you are comfortable with.
  1127. (Heather) You told me you decided!
  1128. (Nita) We decided together,
    remember we agreed.
  1129. (Heather) Oh.
  1130. (crying)
  1131. - (Mari) What time did you get up?
    - (Michael) About three o'clock.
  1132. - (Mari) Why couldn't you sleep?
    - (Michael) Because I didn't feel like it.
  1133. I'm old!
  1134. (Mari) Were you up all night
    worrying about the implant?
  1135. - (Michael) No no.
    - (Nancy) I was worried. I was up all night.
  1136. (Grandma) Well I don't feel worried.
    I feel calm and relaxed.
  1137. (Nancy) Well I feel worried.
    Yes, I really do.
  1138. (Grandma) It'll be fine.
  1139. (Grandma) When my children
    were born, I would've never dreamed
  1140. that, you know, we'd be sitting here,
    you know, today, waiting for my grandson
  1141. to have this surgery on his ears
    to make him hear.
  1142. (Nancy) What if we lose
    deafness in the future?
  1143. And there are no more deaf people?
  1144. (Grandma) That's why you
    are upset, and I understand that,
  1145. and Peter and Nita, I'm sure
    feel the same way.
  1146. People will never forget what deafness
    is about because it's going to be history.
  1147. (Nurse) Ready to test?
    Here is the transmitter.
  1148. And now they look beautiful.
    Okay. They are all fine.
  1149. (Grandma) If I gave birth now
    to Peter, I don't mean to hurt you,
  1150. but I would definitely
    have the surgery,
  1151. because I know what it was like
    to raise deaf children.
  1152. Tough. Very tough.
  1153. (Doctor) Hi, everything went
    real well, no problems.
  1154. No problems. His face moves,
    he's breathing well,
  1155. he's in the recovery room,
    everything looks good.
  1156. (Mari) All good. So how long
    before we can see him?
  1157. (Doctor) Actually, if you go downstairs
    in about fifteen minutes
  1158. they'll probably let you in.
  1159. As soon as he's awake enough
    to know that someone's there.
  1160. - They'll let you in.
    - (Mari) Thank you very much.
  1161. (Doctor) I'll see you later.
  1162. (Nancy) This makes me want to cry.
  1163. I'm afraid he'll make fun of me.
  1164. (Grandma) No! He will never
    make fun of you.
  1165. (Nancy) He'll talk, so well,
    and I'm afraid he'll hurt me.
  1166. I feel so hurt.
    (crying)
  1167. (Mari) I'm going to go up
    to see him now.
  1168. (Nancy) Wait, if you give birth
    to another deaf child,
  1169. would you have the surgery again?
  1170. (Mari) Yes mom, I would.
  1171. (Michael) We're both deaf,
    that's all that matters.
  1172. (Mari) Where is he?
  1173. ♪ (music) ♪
  1174. (Mari) Go inside.
  1175. (Dr.Chute) I'm going to connect up
    the external transmitter here,
  1176. just gonna stick right on,
    hopefully, there we go.
  1177. Let me begin by telling you a few things.
  1178. What we're going to do is,
  1179. we're going to start to increase
    the current a little bit
  1180. on the most low frequency
    electrode that we've got.
  1181. One of several things may happen.
    We may not see anything at all.
  1182. We may see a negative response.
    We may see some sort of searching
  1183. or blinking or any of that,
  1184. so we're going to be paying
    very close attention
  1185. in terms of watching him.
  1186. Because that's what we really
    need to see. Okay?
  1187. Even though you've waited
    a long time for this,
  1188. and he's waited a long time,
    his ears were just born today.
  1189. I'm gonna go...
    one, two, three, go.
  1190. (machine buzzing)
  1191. Hi! That was so good!
    You did a great job!
  1192. This is still relatively low.
    One, two, three, go.
  1193. (machine buzzing)
  1194. You couldn't ask for anything
    better guys, I gotta tell ya.
  1195. Okay guys, right now he's been
    listening to each of the electrodes
  1196. which really is, you know,
    nothing very interesting
  1197. although he's been great.
  1198. We're going to turn the speech on.
  1199. One, two, three, okay?
    Peter? Peter? Peter?
  1200. Hi Peter! Hi baby boy!
    How are you? Hi buddy!
  1201. His ears are exactly five
    minutes old, okay?
  1202. So that's really the critical
    thing at this point,
  1203. to expose him to as much sound,
    and to make him-
  1204. (Mari) Chris, this is amazing,
    look at this.
  1205. (Dr.Chute) And to make him
    very happy about it.
  1206. (Mari) He's turning to her
    every time she's speaking.
  1207. (Mari) Peter, hi! Hi!
  1208. Hi Peter. Say Mamamama.
  1209. It's mommy.
  1210. (Baby Peter) Ah!
    (Mari) Peter! How big is Peter?
  1211. Sooooo big!
  1212. Ahhhhh!
  1213. (Mari) Good boy.
    Good boy.
  1214. (Chris) You hear daddy?
    That's my boy.
  1215. You copying daddy?
  1216. (Chris) It's a miracle.
    The cochlear implant
  1217. is providing my son
    with freedom and opportunity,
  1218. and the key to the world.
  1219. That's the opportunity
    that I'm providing to my son.
  1220. That's the criminal that my brother
    is doing to his family.
  1221. And it's abuse.
  1222. And I'll tell you right now,
  1223. I stand behind my decision
    a thousand, thousand percent.
  1224. Because my son will never go through
    what my brother had to go through.
  1225. Deaf culture as they know it, is done.
  1226. (Peter) Maybe it's true.
    Deaf people will become extinct.
  1227. And my heart will be broken.
  1228. Deaf culture is something
    to value and to cherish.
  1229. It's my culture.
  1230. If your hearing culture is wiped out
    hearing people would cry and feel lost.
  1231. And so would I.
  1232. ♪ (music) ♪
  1233. (chatting inaudible)
  1234. - HI, Peter.
    - Hi.
  1235. Good boy!
    Say hi again!
  1236. Say hi!