A couple dance that improves you | Martynas Stonys and Egle Regelskis | TEDxVilnius
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0:05 - 0:07Egle Regelskis: Hello,
everybody! My name is Egle. -
0:07 - 0:09Martynas Stonys: And I'm Martynas.
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0:09 - 0:11ER: And we are Lindy Hop dance teachers,
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0:11 - 0:14but we call ourselves
simply "Lindy hoppers." -
0:14 - 0:18We have our dance studio
and work as full-time dancers. -
0:19 - 0:22MS: And we're going to tell you
how couple dancing -
0:22 - 0:24can improve your personality.
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0:25 - 0:26(Laughter)
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0:26 - 0:28ER: Yes, sure.
MS: Yes, sure. -
0:28 - 0:30ER: I'm going to give you four words,
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0:30 - 0:32and you're going to make your own sentence
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0:32 - 0:35at the end of our speech
with these four words, all right? -
0:35 - 0:37Here we go: "men,"
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0:37 - 0:38"women,"
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0:38 - 0:40"happy,"
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0:40 - 0:41"dance."
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0:41 - 0:46Most of you probably agree with me
that women, more than men, like to dance -
0:46 - 0:47or want to learn how to dance.
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0:47 - 0:51A woman usually asks
her husband, boyfriend, -
0:51 - 0:53roommate, a friend
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0:53 - 0:57to sign up for the dance classes
or just to move on the dance floor -
0:57 - 0:59at some party, doesn't she?
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0:59 - 1:02Not for all, but for some men,
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1:02 - 1:06first dance touch sometimes happens
before the wedding, -
1:07 - 1:10when the bride takes her groom
to learn a wedding waltz. -
1:10 - 1:14And in this case, this first touch
of dancing in a couple -
1:14 - 1:16sometimes is the last one.
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1:16 - 1:18And it's so sad!
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1:18 - 1:22Waiting for one of the happiest days
of your life to come is not very easy. -
1:23 - 1:26MS: But we see lots of people
dancing around us. -
1:26 - 1:29And they want more and more of it.
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1:29 - 1:31ER: That's what business
we are involved in. -
1:31 - 1:33MS: Helping people to dance
and dance more and more. -
1:34 - 1:38But when we started working
as full-time dance instructors, -
1:38 - 1:42I had a big question for myself,
"Why should people dance? -
1:42 - 1:45And why do people dance?
Why should I dance?" -
1:45 - 1:48I asked this question of my friend,
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1:48 - 1:51he was a 50-year-old American,
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1:52 - 1:57and he said he would lose his arm
if he could dance as I could. -
1:58 - 2:01And do you imagine that - losing
an arm for the ability to dance? -
2:01 - 2:02ER: That's horrible!
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2:02 - 2:05MS: But he couldn't say why.
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2:05 - 2:08And we started asking our students,
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2:08 - 2:11"Why do you come to class?
Why do you dance? Why do you like it?" -
2:11 - 2:13And they usually start with -
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2:13 - 2:16ER: They always say,
"I forget all the problems I have." -
2:17 - 2:21MS: Exactly! They come,
they dance, they relax, -
2:21 - 2:23because they are in this moment.
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2:23 - 2:26Actually, that's how Lindy Hop
came to this world. -
2:26 - 2:30It was the time of the Great
Depression in the States, -
2:30 - 2:34and people saved their last money
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2:34 - 2:37so that they could go on Friday night
and Saturday night to just dance -
2:37 - 2:40and forget all the problems
and troubles they had, -
2:40 - 2:42just to be happy.
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2:42 - 2:45ER: Do you think time has changed now?
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2:45 - 2:47MS: Do you think people
are so different now? -
2:47 - 2:49ER: Now.
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2:53 - 2:55(Laughter)
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2:55 - 2:59Well, I believe most of you like dancing
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2:59 - 3:03because you all have your favorite music
you like to move to it, right? -
3:05 - 3:11But if I ask you, "Do you prefer dancing
in a couple more than dancing solo?" -
3:11 - 3:14I'm sure most of you would think
that you don't know, -
3:14 - 3:16or you didn't learn how to dance.
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3:16 - 3:19That's why you would choose dancing solo.
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3:19 - 3:20MS: Because it's so much easier.
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3:20 - 3:24ER: Martynas and me,
we love dancing, a lot. -
3:24 - 3:29And we are here today
so that you all would fall in love -
3:29 - 3:32with dancing more than you are now.
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3:32 - 3:34Especially dancing in a couple.
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3:35 - 3:39MS: But why is dancing
and dancing in a couple so great? -
3:39 - 3:42First of all, of course, it's music.
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3:42 - 3:44Is there anyone who doesn't like music?
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3:45 - 3:46(Audience) No!
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3:46 - 3:47MS: Nice!
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3:47 - 3:53So, you hear your favorite song
on radio or YouTube or from your Ipod, -
3:53 - 3:57you tap your foot, you shake
your head, you want to clap. -
3:57 - 3:59That's it! You are already dancing!
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3:59 - 4:01That's how your dancing starts.
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4:01 - 4:03ER: So, it's a body movement.
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4:04 - 4:08We have our bodies,
and we want to use our bodies. -
4:09 - 4:11Why not sports?
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4:11 - 4:14Yeah, working out
in a gym is a lot of fun, -
4:14 - 4:17that's what so many people do ... not!
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4:17 - 4:18(Laughter)
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4:18 - 4:22So, sports is more about winning
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4:22 - 4:26and, for example, making love is not.
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4:26 - 4:29Sometimes the process itself
gives you more pleasure than the result. -
4:30 - 4:33So dancing is more
about being in the moment -
4:33 - 4:35than working out for a goal.
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4:35 - 4:39MS: But why not solo dancing
but couple dancing? -
4:39 - 4:43It's like comparing masturbation
to people making love. -
4:43 - 4:45(Laughter)
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4:45 - 4:46I'll show you.
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4:46 - 4:49(Laughter) (Applause)
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4:50 - 4:51Dancing, dancing -
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4:51 - 4:53ER: In dancing, guys, in dancing.
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4:53 - 4:57MS: So, here it's me dancing,
like simple steps. -
4:57 - 5:02I'm happy with myself,
and not maybe because it's me dancing. -
5:02 - 5:05But if I can dance this with Egle -
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5:05 - 5:07see, she's smiling naturally.
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5:07 - 5:10I'm smiling and it's
a completely different story. -
5:11 - 5:13It's fun sometimes to be alone,
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5:13 - 5:20but dancing with each other
gives you so much more fun. -
5:20 - 5:27And a couple dancing is a connection
between a man and a woman. -
5:27 - 5:30ER: Here we go, we had to see
a man and a woman. -
5:31 - 5:32Yeah, that's a connection.
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5:32 - 5:33MS: A boy and a girl.
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5:33 - 5:35(Laughter)
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5:35 - 5:36Or two women.
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5:36 - 5:39ER: You see? Two women can dance too.
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5:39 - 5:41MS: Or two men.
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5:41 - 5:43(Laughter)
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5:43 - 5:44She loves it.
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5:44 - 5:47ER: But why Lindy Hop?
Why do we dance Lindy Hop? -
5:47 - 5:49MS: Because it's jazz music.
It's jazz, period. -
5:50 - 5:52We can come together and dance
because we know rhythm. -
5:53 - 5:55And we can improvise it.
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5:55 - 5:57So no steps are important.
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5:57 - 6:01It's just by the rhythm, by the moment,
and giving influence to your partner. -
6:01 - 6:04ER: Or getting influence
from your partner. -
6:04 - 6:09You know that usually there is one leader
and one follower in a couple. -
6:09 - 6:11Usually there is in any couple dance.
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6:11 - 6:13And Lindy Hop is the same:
one leader and one follower. -
6:13 - 6:15MS: No, no, no, no.
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6:15 - 6:17MS and ER: One leader and one follower.
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6:17 - 6:18(Laughter)
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6:18 - 6:21ER: And you actually would be surprised
how women who are used to lead -
6:21 - 6:26and be first in their lives
or to be heads, necks in their families, -
6:26 - 6:29enjoy following after a while
or letting the man be the master, -
6:29 - 6:31at least while dancing.
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6:31 - 6:34But Lindy Hop wouldn't be
such a great dance -
6:34 - 6:38if I had to follow all the time
because I am a woman who likes to lead -
6:38 - 6:40or likes to be first,
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6:40 - 6:43and sometimes it's really hard
to shut me down. -
6:43 - 6:46But here's the thing
why I love Lindy Hop best. -
6:46 - 6:49Our dance is communication.
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6:49 - 6:52My partner says
what to do and how to do, -
6:52 - 6:54and I accept that.
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6:54 - 6:57But we both hear the music,
whatever it is. -
6:57 - 7:01Our dance is improvisation
and body communication, -
7:01 - 7:03how we feel this music.
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7:04 - 7:06So, I'm allowed to talk in my dancing.
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7:07 - 7:08Not all the time of course.
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7:08 - 7:11But I can say what I want to say
if I want to say. -
7:12 - 7:16MS: So, accepting these rules
makes our dancing more fun. -
7:17 - 7:19I'm showing her
the most I want to be done, -
7:19 - 7:22and how I want these moves to be done.
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7:22 - 7:26ER: So, because this dance
is about communication, -
7:26 - 7:27we socialize a lot.
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7:27 - 7:31And it looks like this: imagine
here is the social dancing party, -
7:31 - 7:35and I come to a person
I would like to ask for a dance, -
7:35 - 7:37a person I do not necessarily know
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7:37 - 7:40and say, "Hi! Want to dance?"
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7:40 - 7:42MS: Yeah, sure.
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7:42 - 7:43(Laughter)
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7:43 - 7:45ER: So we dance. We dance.
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7:45 - 7:48After one song, I or Martynas,
or someone else - -
7:48 - 7:50MS: Want more?
ER: Yes, sure. -
7:50 - 7:52So we dance more.
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7:52 - 7:55After a couple of songs,
I can say, "Thank you," -
7:55 - 7:58and go to another person
I would like to dance with. -
7:58 - 8:03And, again, we dance,
we change, we dance, we change. -
8:03 - 8:06So, the more partners you change,
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8:06 - 8:09the more chances you get better dances.
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8:09 - 8:11MS: Oh come on! You should have limits.
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8:11 - 8:12ER: I do have limits,
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8:13 - 8:15but [not on] changing partners in dancing.
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8:16 - 8:17(Laughter)
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8:17 - 8:19Changing partners makes a better dancer
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8:19 - 8:21because you have to adjust
your body movements -
8:21 - 8:23to another's body movements.
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8:23 - 8:26And it makes you listen more than talk.
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8:26 - 8:30And when I start understanding
different body languages, -
8:30 - 8:33it gives me more
intelligence and confidence. -
8:33 - 8:36And you know, we have such students -
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8:36 - 8:40I won't lie, more men than women -
who don't hear the beat. -
8:40 - 8:42(Laughter)
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8:42 - 8:46They're always either slow
or either hurried, but never in the music. -
8:46 - 8:49They don't need music to dance actually.
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8:49 - 8:53And it's really hard to dance with them
if you hear the beat. -
8:53 - 8:58MS: And you could think
that for them to learn how to dance -
8:58 - 9:01is impossible, and you
wouldn't be right, actually. -
9:01 - 9:05Sometimes it takes a week,
sometimes it takes a month, -
9:05 - 9:07and sometimes it takes even a year,
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9:07 - 9:12but if they keep coming to classes,
if they just keep trying and keep dancing, -
9:12 - 9:16somehow they just feel their energy,
they just feel the beat, the rhythm, -
9:16 - 9:17and they start finally dancing.
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9:17 - 9:22ER: So the strangest thing is that they
still don't look very good in dancing, -
9:22 - 9:24but it's not the point.
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9:24 - 9:26The feeling is much more important.
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9:26 - 9:30So the feeling of dancing
with them is so much better. -
9:31 - 9:34That's why we say, "One can walk,
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9:34 - 9:35MS and ER: one can dance."
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9:35 - 9:38ER: Everyone can feel the music. Everyone.
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9:38 - 9:40And for them, for these guys,
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9:41 - 9:45it's really hard to manage
to sign up for the dance classes -
9:45 - 9:48because they know they can't dance,
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9:48 - 9:50but they want this so badly.
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9:50 - 9:53And they're very shy,
modest, quiet people, -
9:54 - 9:59and they think everybody around them
is so much better dancers, -
9:59 - 10:00so much better sellers,
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10:00 - 10:02so much better students,
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10:02 - 10:04so much better dancers -
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10:05 - 10:06people in general.
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10:06 - 10:10But when they train the skill
of how to communicate in a couple, -
10:10 - 10:12how to dance with another person,
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10:13 - 10:15they shine, they become more confident,
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10:15 - 10:20because they can ask
a completely unknown person to dance. -
10:20 - 10:22At least just one.
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10:22 - 10:24Or maybe two.
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10:24 - 10:28Or maybe find a girlfriend,
or maybe change their lives somehow. -
10:28 - 10:30MS: Look at us so many years ago.
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10:30 - 10:32(Laughter)
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10:32 - 10:35ER: It's just five years
because, before Lindy Hop, -
10:35 - 10:37we were not in a couple.
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10:38 - 10:40But Lindy Hop changed us.
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10:40 - 10:45Before knowing this dance,
I couldn't stand in front of 20 people -
10:45 - 10:48and read my report without blushing
and a shaky voice. -
10:49 - 10:52And look at us now!
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10:54 - 10:55Yeah, we're here.
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10:55 - 10:57I think we have a better
hair style now, right? -
10:57 - 10:59(Laughter)
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10:59 - 11:02But I'm not saying
I'm not nervous at the moment. -
11:02 - 11:04Standing here is the biggest
experience we've ever had -
11:04 - 11:08because in our class we have
up to 60 to 70 people - -
11:08 - 11:12and here it's a lot more. Yeah!
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11:12 - 11:14Lindy Hop changed you somehow.
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11:14 - 11:15MS: Yes, of course.
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11:15 - 11:17When I started dancing Lindy Hop,
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11:17 - 11:21or before that, I was shy
and not confident about myself -
11:21 - 11:23in all kinds of life situations.
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11:24 - 11:28You know, a big challenge for me
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11:28 - 11:31was buying a beer or drink at the bar.
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11:31 - 11:34You know this feeling
when the bartender doesn't see you at all? -
11:34 - 11:36ER: Awwww!
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11:36 - 11:38MS: Do you think that it impresses girls?
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11:38 - 11:39ER: Mm-hmm!
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11:39 - 11:42MS: I'm not saying I'm the first one
getting their drink now. -
11:42 - 11:44Usually it's Egle.
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11:44 - 11:45(Laughter)
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11:45 - 11:50Ladies first. Or unless I buy a drink
for her, so then I'm the first one. -
11:50 - 11:51ER: All right!
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11:51 - 11:56MS: But if we get into a situation
where we can dance, -
11:56 - 11:58and especially if I can dance with Egle,
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11:58 - 12:01we just improvise
and dance to any kind of music, -
12:01 - 12:04and then people look at us, they smile,
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12:04 - 12:07we get small talks;
girls talk to me a lot. -
12:07 - 12:08It's a big boost for my ego.
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12:08 - 12:10(Laughter)
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12:10 - 12:14ER: Yeah, so if you treat yourself
[with] this big of confidence, -
12:14 - 12:15at the beginning,
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12:16 - 12:21after you start knowing how to dance,
and communicate with other people, -
12:21 - 12:22another person,
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12:23 - 12:25you're going to treat yourself ...
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12:26 - 12:28[with] this big of confidence.
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12:28 - 12:31Plus, more intelligence and more listening
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12:31 - 12:35what you can give to other people
but not just get. -
12:35 - 12:38And then you evaluate yourself
as a better person, -
12:38 - 12:42you deserve to get a better life,
and you become more happy. -
12:42 - 12:45On the one hand, it's just a couple dance.
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12:46 - 12:50But all these things,
rules, changing partners, -
12:50 - 12:53asking what's wrong, asking what's right,
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12:53 - 12:56saying, "Thank you," improve people.
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12:56 - 12:59And instead of being a dancer -
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13:00 - 13:01here we go!
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13:01 - 13:03(Laughter)
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13:03 - 13:06And always looking down and shy and so on,
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13:06 - 13:08you become, or you can become,
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13:08 - 13:13a person and a dancer
from the big picture. -
13:14 - 13:16MS: And we had one student
who came to us and said, -
13:16 - 13:18"Thank you, thank you so much."
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13:18 - 13:20We asked, "Why? What happened?"
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13:20 - 13:25He said he was at some party
with his university friends, new friends, -
13:25 - 13:28and he picked up the most
beautiful girl at that party, -
13:28 - 13:31just because he could dance
with her like no one else -
13:31 - 13:33for two or three hours straight.
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13:33 - 13:35(Laughter)
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13:35 - 13:39Of course, the relationship
after that lasted for two weeks. -
13:39 - 13:40ER: That's not the point actually.
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13:40 - 13:41(Laughter)
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13:41 - 13:43They were happy dancing together.
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13:43 - 13:46All right, guys,
now we're going to show you -
13:47 - 13:50why we call Lindy Hop "The dance."
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13:51 - 13:53Yeah, that's ok.
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13:54 - 13:57I believe most of you know samba,
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13:57 - 14:02salsa, cha-cha, house, maybe funk.
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14:03 - 14:05We know most of these dances,
but we don't know the steps. -
14:05 - 14:06There's no need.
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14:06 - 14:09If you know how
to communicate in a couple, -
14:10 - 14:12you can dance most of these dances.
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14:12 - 14:18Pretty much. I mean, at least
you're able to move to that kind of music -
14:18 - 14:20because dancing, first of all,
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14:20 - 14:23is the rhythm and connection
between partners. -
14:24 - 14:28You don't need even
the steps sometimes, all right? -
14:28 - 14:29MS: Do you want to see some dancing?
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14:29 - 14:31ER: Yeah.
MS: Yeah. -
14:32 - 14:33ER: All right. Where is the music?
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14:33 - 14:34(Music)
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14:34 - 14:36MS: So we get slow swingers.
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14:36 - 14:37(Music stops)
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14:37 - 14:38Aaaaah!
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14:39 - 14:40ER: Again, please.
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14:40 - 14:43(Slow swing music)
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14:43 - 14:45Let's say this is our basic.
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14:45 - 14:48MS: And with this dance,
we are more happy than you are -
14:49 - 14:51because you watch and we dance.
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14:51 - 14:53And let's -
-
14:53 - 14:54(Charleston music)
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14:54 - 14:56It's Charleston.
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14:57 - 14:59I know it's fast.
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15:02 - 15:04And remember when we told you
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15:05 - 15:10the rhythm is more important
than the dance and the dance steps. -
15:13 - 15:15Let's stop it.
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15:20 - 15:23ER: All right. I think we need
to repeat it again. Yes? -
15:23 - 15:24Let the music -
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15:24 - 15:27(Applause)
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15:27 - 15:29Let's do it again.
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15:30 - 15:31(Samba music)
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15:31 - 15:34MS: Ok, now we got some
South American rhythms. -
15:35 - 15:38And we can dance
and we can do the same thing. -
15:39 - 15:43ER: Yeah, but add some more hips,
and it looks like - -
15:43 - 15:45(Swing music)
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15:45 - 15:47MS: Music, music.
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15:48 - 15:50(Funk music)
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15:50 - 15:52Now we've got funk.
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15:54 - 15:55(House music)
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15:55 - 15:57Have you danced to house music?
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15:57 - 16:00Have you ever seen a couple
dancing to house music? -
16:04 - 16:08(Applause) (Cheers)
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16:14 - 16:15ER: Uh!
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16:16 - 16:18Audience: Ah!
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16:18 - 16:21(Applause)
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16:23 - 16:25That all was improvisation.
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16:25 - 16:27MS: Yeah, improvisation. Sure -
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16:27 - 16:30ER: And body connection.
And there is the music again. -
16:31 - 16:35MS: But, again, coming back
to the question, -
16:35 - 16:38"Why do people want to dance Lindy Hop?"
-
16:38 - 16:40and "Why does this community
attract people so much?" -
16:41 - 16:44ER: Well, I think we found the answer.
This is not because of swing music. -
16:45 - 16:49MS: It's because it's pure improvisation.
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16:49 - 16:51ER: Yeah, very -
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16:51 - 16:56MS: Big improvisation.
And a huge variety of music. -
16:56 - 17:01And, of course, it's completely pure fun.
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17:01 - 17:02And no other meanings.
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17:02 - 17:08ER: Do you remember those four words
I gave you at the beginning of our speech? -
17:08 - 17:12You have to make your own sentence
with these four words. -
17:12 - 17:15I'm going to give you
my sentence. It's very easy. -
17:15 - 17:20Men and women are happy
when they dance together. -
17:20 - 17:23MS: Now it's your turn to start dancing.
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17:23 - 17:25ER: Thank you so much!
That was Martynas. -
17:25 - 17:26MS: And Egle.
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17:26 - 17:29(Applause)
- Title:
- A couple dance that improves you | Martynas Stonys and Egle Regelskis | TEDxVilnius
- Description:
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Martynas Stonys and Egle Regelskis, dance instructors, show how couple dance, especially Lindy Hop, can improve people's lives in many aspects, making you a happier and a more confident person.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
- Video Language:
- English
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- Duration:
- 17:53