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Hola a todos
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bienvenidos de regreso
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somos Daniel y Beverly para los que
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no nos conocen
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Hoy les vamos a compartir un nuevo video
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una continuacion del video
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Titulado: de un corazon herido a una restauracion
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Hoy les voy a compartir
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acerca de cuando tenemos una mama
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en lugar de una esposa
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Estas siendo la esposa de tu conyuge
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o estas siendo su mama?
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We got many questions
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about Bev can you please explain to us
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how can I stop being my husbands mother?
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And today in this video we want to share
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3 caracteristics of a wife from a husbands
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standpoint where his wife is a mom to him
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and later what the Bible says about our true
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design as wife
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we invite you to put subtitles
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if you are watching from your celphone
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it is in the upper right corner
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or from your PC on the lower right corner
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Bueno, como se ve una esposa que actua
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como mama?
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Hay 3 cosas que te quiero compartir
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para responderte como vemos a una mama
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La primera es que nos controla siempre
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siempre busca como controlar la situacion
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siempre te dice como vestirte
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te controla en cuanto a que haces,
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como gastas tu dinero
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y siempre necesita saber donde
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estas cada minuto del dia
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la segunda es que manipula
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y esto es cuando quiere obtener
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lo que ella quiere a traves de ti
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llorando, poniendose triste
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intentando controlar la situacion
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en ese momento
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como por ejemplo si quiere un
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viaje familiar te dira algo como
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"tu nunca haces nada para la familia"
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y comienza a llorar porque el
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esposo siempre esta ocupado
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y entonces nos sentimos mal
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y justo ahi es donde logra controlar
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y el ultimo punto es instruir
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ella se siente mejor que el esposo
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o su pareja y solo lo quiere instruir
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una caracteristica clave de ser mama
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es instruir a tu esposo
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y ahi lo estas minimizando
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porque no le das su lugar
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como lider si lo estas educando
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como entonces el podra ser el lider
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que tu quieres que el sea
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en el hogar
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Gods words says
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1 Timothy 2:11-14
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we studied what this
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bible verse says
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on how Gods design for
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marriage should look like
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the first key word is
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Serenity
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and looking for the definition
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of serenity
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I found it said:
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that serenity is someone who is calm
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relaxed and applied to a human
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it is a person who is capable of acting in
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a rational way in every moment
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someone who does not get carried away by
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impulse or emotions
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what happens when we are with our
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husband and waiting for him to do
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what he should do
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like change a light bulb
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and it just doesnt happen?
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emotions kick in,
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we get desperate
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we want to control it
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and that is when we go from
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being a wife to being a mother
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we stop being a person with serenity
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Let a woman learn in silence with all submission.
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12 And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence.
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In the caracteristics that Daniel shares
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where I man feels more like a
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child and less like a spouse
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we see that it is where the wife
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takes the role of educating him
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telling him how to dress
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how to behave
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where he can go
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where he cant go
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but God says:
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12 And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence.
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Because the underlying statement
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is I am better than you
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I am who should be in a
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leadership position
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because you are clueless
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and the third caracteristic
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is to be under the coverage of
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our husband
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because Gods word says:
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And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.
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We are the emotional part in the relationship
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we are who give love
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but that same way
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our emotions can kick in
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and be a negative point
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where we let ourselves get carried
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away with our emotions
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and easily the enemy
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can tempt us with a "solution"
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that looks like the correct one
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but takes us to destruction
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and because of the emotions
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we fall into this easily
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that is why we are to submit to our
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husbands authority
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when we adopt the role of a
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manipulator either with an
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affliction personality
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or with a dominant one
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we are trying to have authority
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over our husband
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so he does what we think is correct
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and again we become his mom
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and you could tell me Bev
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how can I submit to my husband
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who is not aligned to God
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who doesnt even believe in God
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well, you have tried to change him
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in your own strength
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controlling him, manipulating
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and even teaching him
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and it has not worked
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its time to put in practice
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Gods word
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and that with serenity and
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submission
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we can fight this battle
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on our knees
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not with our strategy
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let me share with you our testimony
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when I learned this lesson
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when Daniel found where
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Inspira Hotel was going to be
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I day and night
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tried to teach, control, and manipulate
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convincing him that this
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was not the place God wanted
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for us
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I only saw weeds,
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bushes and destruction
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it was an abandoned place
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that I could not see any
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potential that a business could run
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and less a hotel
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well, turns out that I was carried over
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by my emotions
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by my motherhood instincts
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protector, that wants it all to be
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plug and play
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and this did not look like it at all
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however God had given Daniel a vision
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that was beyond my eyes
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a perfect plan that together
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with Daniel we would restore this place
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and in the process of doing it
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our marriage too was being
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restored
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I learned that God gives the vision to
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my husband and my job
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as a suitable helper
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is to intercede so that Daniel
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can submit to the will of God
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not to mine or what I at a simple
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glance can say is correct
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Antes de terminar este video te
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quiero compartir otro testimonio
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que creo es importante sepas
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cuando yo regrese
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nuestro matrimonio
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llego a un nivel nunca antes
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experimentado
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nunca habiamos estado
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tan feliz
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y nuestra restauracion llego a un estado
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donde Dios nos ha dado
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mas que abundancia de bendiciones
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en nuestro matrimonio
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en un pasado tambien fuimos
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restaurados
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pero eran restauraciones en falso
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lo que hoy te compartimos
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en este video, las 3 caracteristicas
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control, manipulacion e instruccion
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siento que son las armas mas letales
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que destruyen un matrimonio
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y si nosotros podemos
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removerlas de nuestro ADN
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y dejan de tratar de controlar
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a su esposo solo imaginate
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las posibilidades
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del gozo como esposa que vas a
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experimentar
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a ti esposo te digo:
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tu esposa esta comportandose
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asi porque esta frustrada
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se siente insegura
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y piensa que debe tomar el rol
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de lider y ponerse los pantalones
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y tener que controlarte
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manipularte e instruirte
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pero si tu esposa le devuelves esa
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responsabilidad a tu esposo
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imagina cuanto stress te quitaras de
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tus hombros
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el solo vivir en plenitud
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mi esposa ahora es plena
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porque esta gozosa de entregarme
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de vuelta mis responsabilidades
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y sabes esto es beneficioso
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porque me presiona a mi
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para tomar mi lugar
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de cabeza de hogar
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porque mi esposa por mucho tiempo
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tomo este lugar
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una mujer independiente por tanto tiempo
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siendo la proveedora de nuestro hogar
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por muchos años que yo
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me acomode y decia
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mi esposa se encargara
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mi esposa lo hara
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pero sabes ahora yo tengo
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esta responsabilidad
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de tomar mi lugar
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como administrador de lo que Dios
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me dio la vision de ser
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y ahora estamos encajando
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nuestro matrimonio para estar
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en el diseño de Dios
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y esta es la clave
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siguiendo el modelo
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fundamental de Dios
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para el matrimonio
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y asi este pueda ser estable
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aun despues de tu restauracion
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nadie ninguna persona podra destruirlo
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esto es todo lo que quiero decir
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pero mi esposa, bebe quieres
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agregar algo?
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We thank you for being here with us
