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An app that helps incarcerated people stay connected to their families

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    One evening,
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    after watching the nightly news
    with my then five-year-old son,
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    he asked me a question I thought
    I would have a ton of time to answer.
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    I thought the complicated questions
    typically came at eight or nine years old,
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    but my son looked me in the eyes
    while I was tucking him in,
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    and with a very straight face he asked me,
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    "Daddy, why did you go to jail?"
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    My wife and I often
    thought about this moment.
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    We knew this question was coming,
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    and we wanted to handle it well.
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    But that night,
    I had a question to answer.
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    So I decided to tell my son
    how I ended up going to prison
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    when I was just a 15-year-old kid.
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    This picture was taken
    when I was 14 years old.
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    That's my mom,
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    my sister,
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    and that cute little baby,
    that's my niece.
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    She's 23 now,
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    and it drives me crazy every time
    I think about how old I'm getting.
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    (Laughter)
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    This was the last photo that I took
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    just a few weeks before I made
    the worst decision of my life.
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    A friend of mine and I,
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    we approached a man sleeping in his car,
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    pulled out a gun,
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    demanded the keys to his car
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    and sped off.
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    That decision landed me
    in front of a judge,
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    with my mom and my sister
    standing just a few feet behind me,
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    as they listened to me get sentenced
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    to eight years in adult
    maximum security prison.
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    This is the next family photo
    that I took with my mom.
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    But this time, it was taken
    in the prison visiting room.
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    Now don't let the waterfalls and the trees
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    and all that stuff
    in the background fool you.
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    (Laughter)
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    This was one of the hardest
    times of my life.
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    In fact, for the first two years,
    I battled depression
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    by living in denial
    about my prison sentence.
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    I would commonly say things
    to my mom like,
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    "I mean, Ma, I know you don't think
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    that this judge is really
    going to keep us here through Christmas."
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    And then, "... Valentine's Day."
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    And then, "... the last day of school."
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    And then, "... the first day of school."
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    And on and on.
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    I promised my mom that one day,
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    someone would see
    that I was drowning in those cells,
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    that someone would tell us
    that we could breathe again
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    because they just wanted
    to teach me a hard lesson.
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    But one day, as I'm walking around
    the prison rec yard
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    with my friend Danny B,
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    I asked him, "How long
    have you been here?"
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    He told me that he had
    already served 31 years.
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    My palms immediately got sweaty,
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    heart dropped down to my toes,
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    and it hit me like a ton of bricks.
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    Because that's the moment when I realized
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    that I would have to serve
    all eight of my years.
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    Now, the story of going
    to prison as a teenager
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    is not an uncommon one.
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    But for my family,
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    this was the most tragic thing
    that had happened in our lives.
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    I missed my family terribly.
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    And just like every other teenager,
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    I just wanted to open up gifts
    on Christmas morning
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    and graduate from high school
    with my friends.
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    And because of the intense
    security in prisons,
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    internet access is limited.
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    There's no easy emailing,
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    no texting
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    and definitely no social media.
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    This means that the meaningful moments
    like prom night or college graduation
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    or the tons of free content
    that you and I digest every day
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    very seldom gets shared with the cousin,
    sibling or best friend in prison.
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    I became very dark.
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    My childhood and the dreams of it,
    they disappeared.
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    And those slamming steel doors
    clanking shut every night
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    in the prison housing unit,
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    they forced me to grow up fast.
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    I can tell you firsthand
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    that there is something
    about the violent cards of prison
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    that completely cripple hope.
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    I even tried to push my mom away,
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    because I didn't want her to be subject
    to the collect calls
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    or the eight-hour drives
    for the one-hour visits,
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    those horrible body cavity searches
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    that she would experience
    coming into the prison visiting room.
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    But as many of you parents
    here know tonight,
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    you can't stop a mother's love.
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    (Laughter)
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    So what did my mom do?
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    She made a promise while sitting
    in a prison visiting room.
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    She promised she would write me a letter
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    or send me a picture
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    every day from that day forward
    until I came home.
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    I had six years left to do on a sentence,
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    our lives were completely
    crumbling around us,
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    and here comes this happy-go-lucky lady
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    prancing into a prison visiting room
    like I'm in summer camp,
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    with a new plan to send me
    a bunch of pictures.
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    (Laughter)
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    Such an interesting time.
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    Little did I know,
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    it would be my mom's letters
    that saved my life.
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    My mom would take pictures
    of a cheeseburger
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    or a mattress at a department store --
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    (Laughter)
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    and she would send them
    to me along with a letter
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    with a promise that one day
    I would enjoy a fat, juicy burger
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    or sleep on a comfortable bed.
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    My mom assured me
    that there was life after prison.
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    In fact, my best friends
    began living vicariously
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    through my mom's letters and photos --
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    (Laughter)
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    giving an entire prison unit a glimpse
    into what was happening in the world.
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    After eight years of nightmares
    of prison never ending,
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    being dehumanized,
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    strip-searched,
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    watching people get wheeled
    down the prison walkway in body bags,
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    I was finally released.
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    And I bet you can't guess
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    who was there to pick me up
    that cold morning in February.
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    (Laughter)
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    OK, you guessed it --
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    (Laughter)
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    my sister and my mom.
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    The years that we prayed for
    were finally in front of us,
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    and the pain of living
    behind bars was behind us.
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    Or so we thought.
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    Like me, most people in prison
    are coming home one day.
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    And unlike me,
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    many don't have the consistent support
    during and after incarceration that I had.
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    The struggle is real,
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    and even I struggled to find a job
    when I came home.
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    Each application that I filled out --
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    from grocery stores to mortgage companies
    to fashion retail --
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    they all included the same question,
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    glowing, pulsating,
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    waiting for me to add my check:
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    "Have you ever been
    convicted of a felony?"
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    Now, to be honest,
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    I knew that this moment was coming.
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    I knew I would have to face this issue.
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    So I leveraged the mental toughness
    that I built while going through prison.
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    But after being declined for over 40 jobs,
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    even I began to feel deflated.
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    I thought that I would get my life back
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    and that all those things were behind me
    and things would start looking up.
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    But that decision that I made
    when I was a 15-year-old kid
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    continued to haunt me
    even up until that moment.
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    But while on a job hunt,
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    one day, I ran across an application
    that asked the question,
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    but this time it was worded
    a little differently.
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    This time, the question asked:
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    "Have you been convicted of a felony
    within the last seven years?"
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    Now, after doing an eight-year
    prison sentence --
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    (Laughter)
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    I could honestly say that my conviction
    was over seven years ago.
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    I was able to answer that question
    with an honest "no,"
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    and finally, I landed my first job.
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    (Applause)
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    I was the guy who mixed paint
    at the paint store.
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    And eventually, customers
    would come into the store,
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    and they would ask me,
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    "Hey Marcus, how much do you charge
    to paint my kitchen?"
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    "Well, Ms. Johnson,
    we don't paint kitchens,
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    we sell you the paint
    so you can paint your own kitchen."
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    (Laughter)
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    A light bulb went off,
    and I launched a painting company
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    that became the conduit
    between the customers in the paint store
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    and the painters
    who needed consistent work.
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    After a year or so,
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    I left that paint store,
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    we grew our contracting company,
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    and since then, I have hired
    tons of other returning citizens.
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    (Applause)
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    I stand today with a felony,
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    and just like millions of others
    around the country
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    who also have that "F" on their chest
    that represents felony,
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    just as my mom promised me many years ago,
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    I wanted to show them
    that there was still life after prison.
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    I started living my best life,
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    and I couldn't believe
    that I was living on a cloud.
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    But my friends, the same ones
    I grew up with in those cells,
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    they would call me and constantly ask for
    pictures of this new life I was living.
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    If I traveled, they wanted pictures.
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    When I got married, they wanted pictures.
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    But I didn't have the time
    or the bandwidth to sit and write a letter
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    or print pictures from my phone.
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    I would commonly tell them,
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    "Dude, if I could just text you,
    my life would be so much easier."
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    And after searching the app stores
    for a solution to this problem
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    and not being able to find one,
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    we launched Flikshop.
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    (Applause)
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    I kid you not --
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    did you know that
    the prison phone business
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    created a billion-dollar industry?
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    Some of these businesses are predatory,
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    and so we knew we had to figure out
    how to disrupt this space.
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    Flikshop allows our family members
    to take a picture, add some quick text,
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    press send, and for 99 cents,
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    we print that picture and text
    on a real, tangible postcard
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    and mail it directly to any person,
    in any cell, anywhere in the country.
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    (Applause)
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    There are millions of families
    that are becoming torn apart,
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    simply because they don't have
    the time to write a letter,
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    figure out how to print
    a photo from their phone,
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    make a store run to go buy
    a box of envelopes
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    and then to the post office
    to go buy stamps.
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    We started by connecting 50 families.
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    And then 100 families.
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    And then 500 families.
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    And now, today, I am proud to say
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    that we've connected over 140,000 families
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    around the country.
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    (Applause)
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    We even commonly receive mail
    in my office overflowing my desk
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    from people in prison
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    like Jason.
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    Jason says, "I got about
    15 postcards last night
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    of so many words of motivation
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    that I had to write to you
    and just say thank you."
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    Or George, who writes,
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    "Today I received about six postcards
    with so much love ...
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    I do not know where this roof
    of love has come from."
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    I cannot believe how blessed I am
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    to sometimes be able to meet a child
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    who sends Flikshop postcards
    to their incarcerated parents.
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    Sometimes, I'm able to even
    go to the White House
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    and address the nation and talk about
    the need for criminal justice reform.
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    And this story is just incredible for me,
    because this wasn't always my life.
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    I remember very vividly living
    in a six-foot-by-nine-foot cell
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    with a man that was 22 years old
    and there to serve life plus 43 years,
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    and thinking in my head
    while I'm sitting in that bunk
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    that together, we probably
    would die in those cells.
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    Well, I know that our era
    of mass incarceration
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    and the things that we see on the news
    dealing with people going to prison
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    is a huge societal issue
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    that we all have
    to band together to help solve.
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    But I am confident
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    that if we're very intentional
    about building family connections
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    in environments where
    they're needed the most,
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    then this is a big step
    in the right direction.
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    I absolutely love this stage of my life,
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    this chapter, where
    I'm standing right now.
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    But you know who's having
    way more fun than me at this stage?
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    My mom.
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    (Laughter)
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    I love you, Ma. Thank you.
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    (Applause)
Title:
An app that helps incarcerated people stay connected to their families
Speaker:
Marcus Bullock
Description:

Over his eight-year prison sentence, Marcus Bullock was sustained by his mother's love -- and by the daily letters and photos she sent of life on the outside. Years later, as an entrepreneur, Bullock asked himself: How can I make it easier for all families to stay connected during incarceration? Enter FlikShop: an app he developed that lets families send quick postcards to loved ones in prison and help keep open a critical line of support.

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Video Language:
English
Team:
closed TED
Project:
TEDTalks
Duration:
15:06

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