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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.81,0:00:02.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's an African proverb that goes,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.83,0:00:05.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"The lion's story will never be known
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.51,0:00:07.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as long as the hunter\Nis the one to tell it."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.27,0:00:13.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More than a racial conversation,\Nwe need a racial literacy
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.54,0:00:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to decode the politics\Nof racial threat in America.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.34,0:00:20.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Key to this literacy is a forgotten truth,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.61,0:00:24.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the more we understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.89,0:00:28.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that our cultural differences\Nrepresent the power
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.46,0:00:30.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to heal the centuries
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.07,0:00:31.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of racial discrimination,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.92,0:00:33.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dehumanization and illness.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.50,0:00:37.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Both of my parents were African-American.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.85,0:00:39.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father was born in Southern Delaware,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.94,0:00:41.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my mother, North Philadelphia,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.43,0:00:45.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and these two places are as different\Nfrom each other as east is from west,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.75,0:00:48.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as New York City is\Nfrom Montgomery, Alabama.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.26,0:00:51.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father's way of dealing\Nwith racial conflict
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.71,0:00:55.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was to have my brother Bryan,\Nmy sister Christy and I in church
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.48,0:00:58.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what seemed like 24 hours a day,\Nseven days a week.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.36,0:00:59.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.41,0:01:04.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If anybody bothered us\Nbecause of the color of our skin,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.43,0:01:06.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he believed that you should pray for them,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.65,0:01:09.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,knowing that God\Nwould get them back in the end.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.48,0:01:10.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.26,0:01:14.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You could say that his racial-coping\Napproach was spiritual --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.56,0:01:16.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for later on, one day,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.53,0:01:17.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like Martin Luther King.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.66,0:01:21.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother's coping approach\Nwas a little different.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.12,0:01:23.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was, uh, you could say,\Nmore relational --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.92,0:01:26.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,right now, like, in your face,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.16,0:01:27.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,right now.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.83,0:01:29.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More like Malcolm X.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.22,0:01:30.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.56,0:01:32.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was raised from neighborhoods
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.16,0:01:34.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in which there was racial\Nviolence and segregation,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.62,0:01:36.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she was chased out of neighborhoods,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.73,0:01:39.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she exacted violence\Nto chase others out of hers.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.30,0:01:41.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When she came to Southern Delaware,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.31,0:01:43.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she thought she had come\Nto a foreign country.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.02,0:01:45.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She didn't understand anybody,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.09,0:01:48.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,particularly the few black and brown folks
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.98,0:01:52.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who were physically deferential\Nand verbally deferential
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.26,0:01:53.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the presence of whites.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.24,0:01:55.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not my mother.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.42,0:01:57.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When she wanted to go\Nsomewhere, she walked.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.67,0:01:59.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She didn't care what you thought.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.78,0:02:02.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she pissed a lot of people off\Nwith her cultural style.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.66,0:02:05.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Before we get into the supermarket,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.64,0:02:07.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she would give us the talk:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.39,0:02:10.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Don't ask for nothin',
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.11,0:02:11.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't touch nothin'.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.15,0:02:14.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you understand what I'm saying to you?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.17,0:02:19.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't care if all the other children\Nare climbing the walls.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.28,0:02:20.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're not my children.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.84,0:02:23.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you understand what I'm saying to you?"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.13,0:02:25.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In three-part harmony:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.69,0:02:26.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Yes, Mom."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.67,0:02:31.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Before we'd get into the supermarket,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.17,0:02:33.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that talk was all we needed.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.06,0:02:35.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, how many of you ever got that talk?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.19,0:02:38.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you ever give that talk?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.42,0:02:39.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.90,0:02:42.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you ever give that talk today?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.90,0:02:47.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother didn't give us the talk\Nbecause she was worried about money
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.27,0:02:48.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or reputation
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.46,0:02:49.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or us misbehaving.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.93,0:02:51.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We never misbehaved.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.26,0:02:52.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were too scared.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.02,0:02:54.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were in church 24 hours a day,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.70,0:02:55.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,seven days a week.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.88,0:02:57.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.68,0:02:59.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She gave us that talk to remind us
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.69,0:03:03.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that some people in the world\Nwould interpret us as misbehaving
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.92,0:03:05.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just by being black.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.12,0:03:10.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not every parent has to worry\Nabout their children being misjudged
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.46,0:03:12.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of the color of their skin,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.36,0:03:13.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just by breathing.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.71,0:03:16.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we get into the supermarket,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.69,0:03:17.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and people look at us --
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.89,0:03:19.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stare at us as if we just stole something.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.79,0:03:25.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every now and then, a salesperson\Nwould do something or say something
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.28,0:03:27.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they were pissed\Nwith our cultural style,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.67,0:03:29.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it would usually happen\Nat the conveyor belt.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.01,0:03:34.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the worst thing they could do\Nwas to throw our food into the bag.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.86,0:03:36.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when that happened, it was on.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.72,0:03:37.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.81,0:03:40.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mother began\Nto tell them who they were,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.04,0:03:41.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who their family was,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.60,0:03:43.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where to go,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.07,0:03:44.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how fast to get there.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.63,0:03:45.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.96,0:03:49.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you haven't been cursed out\Nby my mother, you haven't lived.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.13,0:03:50.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.78,0:03:52.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The person would be on the floor,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.47,0:03:55.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,writhing in utter decay and decomposition,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.59,0:03:57.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whimpering in a pool of racial shame.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.86,0:03:59.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.03,0:04:01.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, both my parents were Christians.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.00,0:04:05.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The difference is my father prayed\Nbefore a racial conflict
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.17,0:04:06.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my mother prayed after.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.88,0:04:08.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.81,0:04:11.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a time, if you use\Nboth of their strategies,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.84,0:04:14.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you use them in the right time\Nand the right way.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.07,0:04:16.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it's never a time --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.97,0:04:19.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's a time for conciliation,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.06,0:04:21.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's a time for confrontation,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.18,0:04:25.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's never a time to freeze up\Nlike a deer in the headlights,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.70,0:04:30.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's never a time to lash out\Nin heedless, thoughtless anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.06,0:04:32.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The lesson in this is
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.18,0:04:34.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that when it comes to race relations,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.100,0:04:37.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes, we've got to know how to pray,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.07,0:04:39.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,think through, process, prepare.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.63,0:04:41.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And other times,\Nwe've got to know how to push,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.91,0:04:43.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to do something.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.31,0:04:46.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm afraid that neither\Nof these two skills --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.61,0:04:47.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,preparing,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.55,0:04:49.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pushing --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.73,0:04:51.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are prevalent in our society today.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.99,0:04:58.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you look at the neuroscience research
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.80,0:05:02.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which says that when\Nwe are racially threatened,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.45,0:05:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our brains go on lockdown,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.14,0:05:06.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we dehumanize black and brown people.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.10,0:05:12.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our brains imagine that children\Nand adults are older than they really are,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.31,0:05:14.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,larger than they really are
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.01,0:05:16.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and closer than they really are.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.90,0:05:20.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we're at our worst,\Nwe convince ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.08,0:05:22.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they don't deserve\Naffection or protection.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.80,0:05:25.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the Racial Empowerment Collaborative,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.76,0:05:30.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we know that some of the scariest\Nmoments are racial encounters,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.30,0:05:34.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of the scariest moments\Nthat people will ever face.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.27,0:05:39.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you look at the police encounters\Nthat have led to some wrongful deaths
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.81,0:05:43.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of mostly Native Americans\Nand African-Americans in this country,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.07,0:05:45.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they've lasted about two minutes.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.27,0:05:48.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Within 60 seconds,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.24,0:05:50.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our brains go on lockdown.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.73,0:05:52.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we're unprepared,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.14,0:05:53.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we overreact.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.68,0:05:55.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At best, we shut down.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.84,0:05:58.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At worst, we shoot first\Nand ask no questions.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.80,0:06:03.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine if we could reduce\Nthe intensity of threat
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.26,0:06:04.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within those 60 seconds
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.16,0:06:07.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and keep our brains\Nfrom going on lockdown.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.70,0:06:11.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine how many children\Nwould get to come home from school
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.95,0:06:13.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or 7-Eleven
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.13,0:06:15.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without getting expelled or shot.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.26,0:06:19.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine how many mothers\Nand fathers wouldn't have to cry.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.34,0:06:27.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Racial socialization can help young people\Nnegotiate 60-second encounters,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.18,0:06:29.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's going to take more than a chat.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.45,0:06:31.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It requires a racial literacy.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.56,0:06:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, how do parents\Nhave these conversations,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.73,0:06:36.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what is a racial literacy?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.72,0:06:37.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for asking.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.94,0:06:39.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.18,0:06:43.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A racial literacy involves\Nthe ability to read,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.54,0:06:46.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,recast and resolve\Na racially stressful encounter.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.35,0:06:50.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Reading involves recognizing\Nwhen a racial moment happens
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.79,0:06:52.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and noticing our stress reactions to it.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.96,0:06:55.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Recasting involves
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.83,0:07:01.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,taking mindfulness and reducing\Nmy tsunami interpretation of this moment
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.80,0:07:05.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reducing it\Nto a mountain-climbing experience,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.10,0:07:06.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one that is --
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.60,0:07:10.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from impossible situation\Nto one that is much more doable
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.25,0:07:11.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and challenging.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.05,0:07:16.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Resolving a racially stressful\Nencounter involves
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.32,0:07:18.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being able to make a healthy decision
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.47,0:07:22.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is not an underreaction,\Nwhere I pretend, "That didn't bother me,"
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.38,0:07:25.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or an overreaction,\Nwhere I exaggerate the moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.58,0:07:31.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, we can teach parents and children\Nhow to read, recast and resolve
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.83,0:07:36.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,using a mindfulness strategy\Nwe call: "Calculate, locate, communicate,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.83,0:07:38.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,breathe and exhale."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.11,0:07:39.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stay with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.66,0:07:41.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Calculate" asks,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.13,0:07:42.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What feeling am I having right now,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.89,0:07:45.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how intense is it\Non a scale of one to 10?"
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.33,0:07:50.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Locate" asks, "Where\Nin my body do I feel it?"
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.21,0:07:52.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And be specific,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.28,0:07:57.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like the Native American girl at a Chicago\Nfifth-grade school said to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.28,0:08:02.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I feel angry at a nine\Nbecause I'm the only Native American.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.02,0:08:05.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I can feel it in my stomach,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.76,0:08:08.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like a bunch of butterflies\Nare fighting with each other,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.62,0:08:11.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so much so that they fly up\Ninto my throat and choke me."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.54,0:08:14.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The more detailed you can be,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.05,0:08:16.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the easier it is to reduce that spot.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.70,0:08:17.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Communicate" asks,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.93,0:08:20.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What self-talk and what images\Nare coming in my mind?"
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.05,0:08:23.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you really want help,\Ntry breathing in
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.01,0:08:25.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and exhaling slowly.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.65,0:08:30.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With the help of my many colleagues\Nat the Racial Empowerment Collaborative,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.41,0:08:32.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we use in-the-moment stress-reduction
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.64,0:08:35.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in several research and therapy projects.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.88,0:08:40.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One project is where we use basketball\Nto help youth manage their emotions
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.65,0:08:43.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,during 60-second eruptions on the court.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.04,0:08:49.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another project, with the help\Nof my colleagues Loretta and John Jemmott,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.90,0:08:54.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we leverage the cultural style\Nof African-American barbershops,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.11,0:08:57.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where we train black barbers\Nto be health educators in two areas:
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.48,0:09:02.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one, to safely reduce the sexual risk\Nin their partner relationships;
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.53,0:09:03.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the other,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.91,0:09:05.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to stop retaliation violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.64,0:09:09.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The cool part is the barbers use\Ntheir cultural style
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.52,0:09:13.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to deliver this health education\Nto 18- to 24-year-old men
Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.36,0:09:14.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while they're cutting their hair.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.99,0:09:18.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another project is where we teach teachers
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.02,0:09:23.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to read, recast and resolve\Nstressful moments in the classroom.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.28,0:09:28.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And a final project, in which we teach\Nparents and their children separately
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.72,0:09:32.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to understand their racial traumas
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.07,0:09:36.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before we bring them together\Nto problem-solve daily microaggressions.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.39,0:09:41.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, racially literate conversations\Nwith our children can be healing,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.08,0:09:42.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it takes practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.99,0:09:45.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I know some of you\Nare saying, "Practice?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.21,0:09:46.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Practice?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.40,0:09:47.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're talking about practice?"
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.36,0:09:50.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, we are talking about practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.13,0:09:52.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have two sons.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.70,0:09:55.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My oldest, Bryan, is 26,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.40,0:09:57.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my youngest, Julian, is 12.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.07,0:10:00.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we do not have time\Nto talk about how that happened.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.84,0:10:02.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.58,0:10:03.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.44,0:10:05.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I think of them,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.88,0:10:07.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are still babies to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.24,0:10:09.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I worry every day\Nthat the world will misjudge them.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.89,0:10:14.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In August of 2013,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.97,0:10:17.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Julian, who was eight at the time,\Nand I were folding laundry,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.95,0:10:20.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which in and of itself\Nis such a rare occurrence,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.32,0:10:23.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I should have known something\Nstrange was going to happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.57,0:10:25.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the TV were Trayvon Martin's parents,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.81,0:10:27.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they were crying
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.03,0:10:30.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of the acquittal\Nof George Zimmerman.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.30,0:10:32.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Julian was glued to the TV.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.28,0:10:37.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He had a thousand questions,\Nand I was not prepared.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.13,0:10:38.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He wanted to know why:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.47,0:10:43.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why would a grown man stalk\Nand hunt down and kill
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.77,0:10:45.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an unarmed 17-year-old boy?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.58,0:10:48.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I did not know what to say.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.17,0:10:50.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The best thing that could\Ncome out of my mouth was,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.64,0:10:53.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Julian, sometimes in this world,\Nthere are people
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.64,0:10:55.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who look down on black and brown people
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.98,0:10:59.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and do not treat them --\Nand children, too --
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.21,0:11:00.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do not treat them as human."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.51,0:11:04.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He interpreted the whole situation as sad.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.98,0:11:06.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Voice-over) Julian Stevenson: That's sad.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.01,0:11:08.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"We don't care. You're not our kind."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.84,0:11:09.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Yes.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.02,0:11:13.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: It's like, "We're better than you."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.40,0:11:14.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Yes.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.58,0:11:17.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: "And there's nothing\Nyou can do about that.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:17.92,0:11:20.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you scare me,\Nor something like that,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.40,0:11:23.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I will shoot you\Nbecause I'm scared of you."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.05,0:11:24.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Exactly.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.78,0:11:26.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if somebody's stalking you --
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.68,0:11:28.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: It's not the same for everyone else.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.68,0:11:31.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: It's not always the same, no.\NYou've got to be careful.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:31.60,0:11:33.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: Yeah, because people\Ncan disrespect you.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.68,0:11:34.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Exactly.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.88,0:11:36.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: And think that you're,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.85,0:11:42.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You don't look --\Nyou don't look like you're ..."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.61,0:11:48.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like they're saying\Nthat "You don't look right,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.28,0:11:50.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I guess I have the right\Nto disrespect you."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.74,0:11:52.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Yeah, and that's what we call,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.97,0:11:54.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we call that racism.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.70,0:11:56.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we call that racism, Julian,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.54,0:11:59.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yes, some people -- other\Npeople -- can wear a hoodie,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:00.31,0:12:01.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and nothing happens to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.71,0:12:04.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you and Trayvon might,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.75,0:12:08.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's why Daddy wants you to be safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.38,0:12:10.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Voice-over) HS: And that's why --
Dialogue: 0,0:12:10.04,0:12:12.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: So you mean like,\Nwhen you said "other people,"
Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.62,0:12:15.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you mean, like if Trayvon was a white,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.36,0:12:18.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,um, that he wouldn't be\Ndisrespected like that?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.09,0:12:22.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Yes, Julian, Daddy meant white people
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.11,0:12:23.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I said, "other people," all right?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.53,0:12:27.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So there was a way in which\NI was so awkward in the beginning,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.49,0:12:29.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but once I started getting\Nmy rhythm and my groove,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.94,0:12:34.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started talking about stereotypes\Nand issues of discrimination,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.57,0:12:37.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just when I was getting my groove on,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:37.04,0:12:38.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Julian interrupted me.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.69,0:12:43.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Voice-over) HS: ... dangerous,\Nor you're a criminal because you're black,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.23,0:12:44.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're a child or a boy --
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.70,0:12:46.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is wrong,\Nit doesn't matter who does it.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.89,0:12:48.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: Dad, I need to stop you there.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:48.56,0:12:49.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: What?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.73,0:12:51.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: Remember when we were ...
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.56,0:12:53.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: So he interrupts me to tell me a story
Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.70,0:12:57.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about when he was racially threatened\Nat a swimming pool with a friend
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.37,0:12:59.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by two grown white men,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.04,0:13:00.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which his mother confirmed.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.91,0:13:03.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I felt happy\Nthat he was able to talk about it;
Dialogue: 0,0:13:03.78,0:13:05.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it felt like he was getting it.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:05.41,0:13:07.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We moved from the sadness\Nof Trayvon's parents
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.78,0:13:10.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and started talking about\NGeorge Zimmerman's parents,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.55,0:13:12.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which, I read in a magazine,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.58,0:13:14.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,condoned the stalking of Trayvon.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:14.85,0:13:17.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Julian's reaction to me was priceless.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.57,0:13:20.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It made me feel like he was getting it.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.08,0:13:22.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Voice-over) JS: What did\Nthey say about him?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:22.25,0:13:25.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Well, I think they basically\Nfelt that he was justified
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.51,0:13:27.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to follow and stalk --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:27.91,0:13:29.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: What the -- ?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.11,0:13:31.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Yeah, I think that's wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.05,0:13:32.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: That's -- one minute.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.49,0:13:36.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So they're saying he has the right\Nto follow a black kid,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.48,0:13:38.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,get in a fight with him and shoot him?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:39.79,0:13:41.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: As Julian was getting it,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.40,0:13:42.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started to lose it.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.47,0:13:45.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because in my mind's eye, I was thinking:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.49,0:13:48.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What if my Julian or Bryan was Trayvon?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.48,0:13:51.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I calculated my anger at a 10.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.99,0:13:55.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found, located, my right\Nleg was shaking uncontrollably
Dialogue: 0,0:13:55.29,0:13:56.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like I was running.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.02,0:14:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in my mind's eye,\NI could see somebody chasing Julian,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:00.03,0:14:02.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was chasing them.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.53,0:14:04.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the only thing\Nthat could come out of my mouth
Dialogue: 0,0:14:04.93,0:14:08.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was if anybody tries\Nto bother my child ...
Dialogue: 0,0:14:09.69,0:14:12.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Voice-over) HS: If anybody tries\Nto bother my child ...
Dialogue: 0,0:14:12.83,0:14:13.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mmm, mmm, mmm.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.02,0:14:15.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: What will happen?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.44,0:14:17.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Well, they better run.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.44,0:14:20.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: Because what?\NHS: I'm gonna get 'em.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.68,0:14:21.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: See? (Laughs)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:21.85,0:14:23.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: I'm gonna get 'em.\NJS: Really?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.68,0:14:24.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Oh, yeah.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.86,0:14:27.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: Then they're gonna get you\Nbecause they might have weapons.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:27.94,0:14:31.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Well, you know what, I'm gonna\Ncall police, too, like I should.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.11,0:14:32.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I feel like I wanna get 'em.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:32.72,0:14:35.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you can't; you're right,\Nyou can't just go chasing people.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:35.75,0:14:36.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: They can be armed.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.94,0:14:38.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Yeah, you right. Yeah, you right.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:38.87,0:14:40.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel like I wanna chase 'em.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:40.35,0:14:42.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: Plus they could be\Nan army or something.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:42.46,0:14:45.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: I know -- I feel like I wanna\Ngo get 'em, messing with my son.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:45.66,0:14:47.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:47.18,0:14:48.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: Um ...
Dialogue: 0,0:14:48.35,0:14:50.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: But you right. You gotta be careful.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.07,0:14:53.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And um, you gotta be careful.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:54.25,0:14:57.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You never know what some crazy people\Nwill think about you.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.76,0:15:00.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just as long as you believe\Nyou're beautiful
Dialogue: 0,0:15:00.92,0:15:03.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like Daddy believes\Nyou're beautiful and handsome,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:03.79,0:15:07.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Mommy believes you're beautiful\Nand handsome and smart.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:08.20,0:15:11.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you deserve to be on this planet,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:11.21,0:15:14.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just as happy and beautiful\Nand smart as you want to be.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:15.18,0:15:16.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can do anything you want, baby.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:19.06,0:15:23.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,HS: Racial socialization is not just\Nwhat parents teach their children.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:23.54,0:15:27.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's also how children respond\Nto what their parents teach.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:28.28,0:15:29.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is my child prepared?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:31.10,0:15:34.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can they recognize when a racial elephant\Nshows up in a room?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.29,0:15:38.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can they reduce\Ntheir tsunami interpretation
Dialogue: 0,0:15:38.58,0:15:40.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,down to a mountain-climbing adventure
Dialogue: 0,0:15:40.78,0:15:43.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they can engage and not run away?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:43.57,0:15:47.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can they make a healthy\Nand just decision in 60 seconds?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.51,0:15:49.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can I?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:50.10,0:15:51.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:51.66,0:15:53.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, we can.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:53.96,0:15:57.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can build healthier\Nrelationships around race
Dialogue: 0,0:15:57.54,0:16:01.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if we learn to calculate, locate\Ncommunicate, breathe and exhale
Dialogue: 0,0:16:01.96,0:16:05.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the middle of our most\Nthreatening moments,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:05.85,0:16:08.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we come face-to-face\Nwith our lesser selves.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.90,0:16:13.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you take the centuries of racial rage
Dialogue: 0,0:16:13.25,0:16:16.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that boils up in all of our bodies,\Nminds and souls --
Dialogue: 0,0:16:17.85,0:16:22.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and anything that affects our bodies,\Nminds and souls affects our health --
Dialogue: 0,0:16:22.66,0:16:25.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we could probably use\Ngun control for our hearts.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:26.67,0:16:29.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just want what all parents\Nwant for their children
Dialogue: 0,0:16:29.73,0:16:31.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we're not around:
Dialogue: 0,0:16:31.08,0:16:32.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,affection and protection.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:34.24,0:16:36.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When police and teachers see my children,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:36.82,0:16:38.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want them to imagine their own,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:39.40,0:16:42.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I believe if you see\Nour children as your children,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:43.70,0:16:45.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you won't shoot them.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:46.39,0:16:48.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With racial literacy, and yes, practice,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:48.94,0:16:53.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can decode the racial trauma\Nfrom our stories,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:53.10,0:16:55.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our healing will come in the telling.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:55.53,0:16:58.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we must never forget
Dialogue: 0,0:16:59.85,0:17:03.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that our cultural differences\Nare full of affection and protection,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:04.02,0:17:07.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and remember always\Nthat the lion's story will never be known
Dialogue: 0,0:17:07.96,0:17:10.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as long as the hunter\Nis the one to tell it.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:10.95,0:17:12.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you very much.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:12.17,0:17:17.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)