ftp.acc.umu.se/.../Enricos_semi_serious_stand_up_comedy.webm

there is a bug

I can not realy on clicking on the terminal to open a link in a browser

because there is currently a bug in konsole with a k

that opens link in random browsers

and i learned that i have a browser installed that i didnt know existed

its called eric6

and if you have the eric python
graphical development environment installed

it contains a browser and it maps it to mine

and if you have a terminal that for some reason open browsers at random

you get links to open in that

so ill copy and paste the urls

it will be slighly slower

i think i have 5 minutes still to go

time passes quickly when you have fun

audience: install terminator!

enrico: no

if look at my blog, there is a list of my
requirements for terminal emulators

and the reason they all suck

all the bits that do not work

now terminator is in that list,
it has things that dont work for me

but we have the upstream for
lxterminal at the conference

that has seen the list and went like

that i implemented 2 days ago

that is in my todo list now

that, let me have a look at the code,
yes i can do it

im working on it

and so thank you

3 minutes i believe

2

well, in the meantime, i will read something

that i guess everyone
should had read before entering

which is, i will ramble freely
about debian

and everything else i care about

and you are going to have the misfortune

of figuring out what it is that
i also care about

i will cover topics including

but specially, not limited to,

anarchism, relationships, sex, violence

society, stereotypes and expectations

and i will always be talking about debian

really

i expect that this talks will be both

unsuitable and insightful for pretty much

any kind of audience that i can think of

and first 3 minutes of it are
about making sure

you understand what will be
the remaining 27

and have a chance to leave

after 3 minutes if you leave

you are kinda seen by everyone or something

but some shy people might

i dont know

no, at any point in the talk

if anybody want to safe word out

and ill explain what the safe word is

but if anybody want out and

lalala i dont want to hear anymore

raise your hand, i will stop

black the screen

?? my ?? file will show up in my clumsy attempt

to black the screen, and waiting for you to leave

the room before resuming, so

??

quotations that are famous anarchists have said

hundreds of years ago about debian

like this could be about mailing list discussions

for example

i guess i can begin

chapter one: disclaimers

sorry, I was supposed to be introduced

I was born...

is it on? okay

it gives me great pleasure to introduce a man that

that pushed me into the maintainers process about

seven years ago

Enrico Zini

so, chapter one: disclaimers

i will let people know my better introducer

Aida: anyhow if you are still a little dark

in the end, just ask a young person or google

i mean, dont take your computer for a ??

i mean ?? afterwards

Enrico: that songs talks about dogging

which is an interesting topic to kind of give

an idea about the rest of the thing

its good to give you an idea about the level

of the rest of the discussion

so you know what is going to happen

dogging redirect to public sex

its one of the famous

anyone safewording outs?

you okay?

its a british thing apparently

a british are famous for steam engines

and dogging and a bunch of other things

hot and cold water, ?? but dogging in this case

and dogging like debian has

a code of conduct

its good that we found a liquor tap

which people who are doing things seriously

there is more if you goggle

but yeah, its always sex in public spaces

its usually done with cars

in cars, im not sure someone might

but i personally wouldnt recommend it

its not my thing

theres a code that if you would like to be seen

while you do it, you leave the light on

inside the car

if you want to be followed into another's place

you flash your lights

i think there was a thing about raising the windows

but im not sure about that

theres a wonderful documental from BBC

where you can find

ask the british

so this set

Aida: theres a sense of dispossition

leave now

right, we can begin

about the debian social contract

and Emma Goldman said once that

Every daring attempt to make a great change

in existing conditions, every lofty vision of

new possibilities for the human race

has been labeled Utopian

we do

im going to talk about many topics

that we all know have so much in common

Anarchism, poliamory, BSDM and free software

and after all, they are about people

consensually, doing things together, right?

people consensually doing things together

so its different communities, with some overlaps

they are different communities of people

consensually doing things together and

there a lot to talk, theres a lot to learn

from each other, because for a reason

or another all this communities are focus on

different aspects of aspects of consensually

doing things together

anarchism might focus more on the political side

BDSM might focus more on the consensual side

and on the things that you do, free software

and poliamory have a lot of focus on the political

the doing things, the consensual and ?? everything else

chapter 2: BDSM

Lysander Spooner talking about proprietary cloud

service providers said that

A person is no less a slave because they are allowed

to choose a new master once in a term of years

so, BDSM

we freesoftware people think that we are clever

because we have recursive acronyms

BDSM stands for

Bondage disco is an interesting concept

we could expanded later im sure it can go somewhere

Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission

who was in the debian contributors this afternoon

has worked on code that submits debian developers

sorry, submit debian contributors to the site

but its not the same thing

so its a chained acronym

BD, DS, SM (Bondage Discipline, Dominance Submission, Sado Masochism)

so thats the first thing we have in common

clever acronyms

so its about some of those things

i think BDSM is really interesting not just because

of whips but also for having develop over the years

a lot of awareness about power relationships

its in the acronym, dominance-submission-discipline

with that in mind i have a BDSM freesoftware definition

i refuse to be bound by software

i cannot negotiate with

and how i negotiate with software

well, if i have the source code i can come to terms

with it and nogiating my interaction and if i dont

the source code or i dont have the ability to change it

then im stuck, right?

so i think thats a pretty good definition of freesoftware

im very proud of that

so thats another way to coceptualize freesoftware that

i think that can be understood really well by people

who may struggle with the four freedoms or the 10 points

of the ??

so thats one thing that could be carried across

theres another acronym that i would like to submit

to your consideration which is this

Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is Okay (YKINMKBYKIOK)

which i said but i should expand it for those that dont

find it obvious

kink is something people do

and something that some other people might not want to do

in the BSDM community is costumary to say

your kink is not my kink but your kink is okay

the idea is to be non judgamental but at the same time

to pull oneself out from somebody that one doesnt want to do

in my opinion, this is the final solution

for the VI vs EMACS problem

im really eager to carry this into the freesoftware

community, it would solve a lot of things

other interesting things about BDSM is awareness about

confort zones i know when im doing something im confortable with

i know my limits i know the limits i have i do not want to push

i learned to communicate all this

otherwise dissaster happens

there are safewords to prevent dissater to happen

safeword means a word that means stop everything right now

no matter what

there is even level of safe words

common standard traffic lights green, yellow, red

green means yeah, bring it on

yellow means this is getting intense, but do go on

red means stop right now or i will call the police

once i manage to manage to wiggle free of this

incidentally safe words are something we dont have in debian

and i would be interested to have

there are things that i see in mailing lists that i would like

to safeword out

there is the clause the mail browser option yes

it works pretty well, but then some people might take decisions

and then... well, its a concept i think should be explored

theres this nice gift that tell me that i can zoom, yes

"No means no", unless there has been a long discussion first,

and a safeword is in place, in which case "Fuzzy purple unicorn" means "no"

thats the idea of safewords and "no means no" is an important

concept in most of the BSDM community

theres the some fringes in there but i think is unimportant

theres an interesting thing coming from the BDSM comunity

is the awereness that really, when no means no

is easier to say yes

if im around a person that says, would you like to have tea

and i say mmm nooo?

and i go like: but do have tea, tea is good

and im like no

and it goes: but its really good tea

then i start feeling really unconfortable and chances are

i dont want to drink anymore tea in my whole life

which is a shame, because i might like tea

incidentally, you can have consent explain with tea

video: if you are still struggling with consent

just imagine instead of iniciating sex, you are making them a cup of tea

you said: hey, would you like a cup of tea?

they go: omg, fuck yes, i would fucking love a cup of tea

thank you

then you know they want a cup of tea

if you say: hey would you like a cup of tea?

they are like: hmmm, you know, im not really sure

but you could make him a cup of tea or not

you could make him a cup of tea... or not

but be aware they might not drink it

and if they dont drink it, then if they dont drink it

then, and this is the important part, dont make them drink it

just because you made it, doenst mean you are entitled to watch them

drink it

and if they say: no thank you

then, dont make them tea. That is all

enrico: i highly recommend this video

consent is important, ill come back to it later

theres another thing that i really like about BDSM

its a concept wich is aftercare

the idea is that after you are having a person, bound... whatever

and you both have push your comfort
zones a little further than usual

when the whole thing ends, there's a
moment of recovering

getting back inside the comfort zones of love,
of celebration

which is called aftercare, which is
something

that we dont do much in debian

we do debian release parties. Aftercare for release

we are out of the bindings of the free spirit

and then we get back into the comfort zone

of freedom and gcc transition and breaking
unstable

but there could be moments of celebration

after each vote on something

there could be solidarity towards the people

that werent represented on the results
of the election

or high fives after springs and
lots of efforts

thats another thing that, in part we do,

but could do more, because more hacks
is nice

except if one does not like hacks

at first, approach people at front
if you want to hug

and signal that you want a hug,
before entering their personal space

do not hug people from the back,
that short of things

chapter previous + 1: poliamory

Emma Goldman said:

If love does not know how to give and
take without restrictions,

it is not love, but a transaction
that never fails to lay stress

on a plus and a minus

poliamory is according to wikipedia

the practice, desire or acceptance
of intimate relationships

that are not exclusive with respect to

other sexual intimate relationships,
and, this is important,

with knowledge and consent from
everyone involved

so, a fling on the side dont ask, dont tell

its generally not considered poliamory

unless, theres knowledge and consent about
the dont ask dont tell part of it

that is the concept

the poliamory community has some
interesting things for us to learn

one was pointed out in Vaumarcus
a couple of years ago

nod if you want to be credited

that wasnt a nod, i can take it as a ??
consense

Rhonda pointed out something along
the line of

if somebody takes good care of one
of your packages

you should be happy, rather than angry

the poliamorous community uses the word
compersion a lot

which is exactly the feeling you get when
somebody else also takes good care

of one of your packages

talking about that

we currently allow only one value
in the maintainer field in debian control

which means that packages takes over
are traumatic experiences

because the previous maintainer is dump
in favor of a new one

and values can only be replaced

if values could be added instead and
removed when they dont make sense anymore

then the whole concept of somebody not
maintaining a packages ?? and so on

could be solved by other people joining in
and relationships evolving, right?

so thats a proposal for policy

another interesting thing that comes out of
the poliamorous greater cloud of people

is that different people have different
definitions of love

different needs, different definitions of love
even

so it happened to me to have a conversation
with a person and say

so, how do you define love?
whats love for you?

oh, great you asked me
that is fantastic because

its not an standard thing

if you ask a random person what is love
often the result is... its love, right?

so, the definition ive adopted recently
and im still very happy about is this

[I love you:]
[my world is better with you in it]

with and idea like that, you can see
how it is possible

to love several people at once

it does not mean that one has
specific expectations

towards the people one loves

otherwise, life becomes difficult and
theres only 24h in a day

there are people that makes my world better
but they dont smell in a way that i like

and stuff like that

[laughs]

and the distinction between romantic love
and sexual love could be made

you can see how the whole concept of relationship
gets deconstructed

and one can have sexual, romantic
sexual and romantic

no sexual, no romantic but plans for life

??

life gets really interesting

and fortunately theres only 24h in a day
and i like ?? every night

but we were talking about anarchism as well

so i have done my ?? as well

the readical idea than relationships can
be something that is negotiated

between the people involved

thats so radical

why isnt like that all the time?

to me is a big problem if a relationship
is something that is bound by rules

that are not mutually agreed on
by the people involved, right?

but, some call it, relationship anarchy

so, going on, im 4 minutes behind

Voltairine de Cleyre about
new debian contributors

and trusting lintian warmings said:

anarchism, to me, means not only the denial
of authority, not only a new economy,

but a revision of the principles of morality

It means the development of the individual
as well as the assertion of the individual

It means self-responsible, and not leader
whorship

so self-reponsability before blinding
trusting lintian warmings

back to consent, i thought a lot about consent
because, having a person mildly say yes

does not feel like right

when things get complicated
you need to know what you are doing

what situation you are putting yourself into

which isnt often easy. Especially, if you
dont know the person

you have in front of you. And if you dont
know the person you have in front of you

you might not know what situation
you are putting yourself into

and you deny consent until
you feel some trust

you need to know that the person asking
a question really is able to acept

any answer and take it seriously

that is not necessarily true if you have
an application manager

that asks a question to an applicant
some applicants go... [i dont know]

what do you think of the social contract
and the applicant goes like...

its perfect! i have no problem with it
but... can you trust that?

and you need to feel that you have
alternatives, because if an applicant thinks

if they say, i really do not understand why
in the DFSG we have an article about ??

they might feel like if they say that
they will not become debian developers

because something

so if one doesnt feel theres
an alternative

if things go wrong, there is ways out
and so on

then consent is hard

sometime ago, i came up with the idea of

be selfish when you ask, honest when
you reply, and when others reply

take them seriously, and if any of this
does not stand, i find it hard to trust

that we are in a consensual situation

and unfortunately i see little education
for consent

in standard education, there is not much
consent

dear child, this is
what you would like to do today

this is what is important for you today

otherwise, bad things happen

or in the workplace, there is often
little consensuality

the whole thing begins with, i need
to buy part of your consent with money

some people are lucky to get paid
for what they really want to do

some people not

we will be followed by the cheese and wine
BOF, so there will be alcohol

alcohol is not an excuse for breaking
consent

and incidentally i heard reports of
borderline situations happening

at debconf, if something makes you
uncomfortable, you can talk to people

at frontdesk

if people in frontdesk makes you
uncomfortable, you can talk to me

if both me and frontdesk makes you
uncomfortable, call the police

audience: [inaudible]
good point

thats a very good point

can i have 5 more minutes?

practical advice

suppose you want relationship advice
or work advice

they are pretty much the same,
like this is a nice article about

how to deal with abusive relationship
or bad work places

keep them tired,
keep them too busy to think

keep them emotionally involved
reward intermittently

keep the crises rolling,
things will be better when...

we figured some time ago that if you go on
a situation thinking, it will be better

it never will

keep real rewards distant, and so on

more practical advice
i can give links later

this is an excellent article

[what technical recruiters
can learn from online dating]

i highly recommend it, because then
you can really see the recruiter email

very similar to some shady person
somewhere coming from behind

and saying: do you come here often?

more relationship advice from
99 ways to ruin an open source project

how to ruin the trust of the community

exert excessive control

never give anyone else commit access

i dont know what that was,
require an unparseable unicode character

ignore concerns voiced in issues

do any of this in a relationship and
it wont last long, right?

and so on

i highly also recommend this thing
making relationships suck

its a wonderful read, i can provide links
somehow later

i dont know where to publish them
but we can work it out

theres also this

BSDM advice, tips for new dominants

so, tips for new packages maintainers

you will fuck up

and so on

i guess is time to close, i hope
i gave an idea on how to carry across

advise thought quite a lot over the years
between one domain to another

when theres an interesting point
that will overlap

and id like to close recalling
my definition of love

dear debian and dear everyone contributing
to debian

my world is better with you in it
<3

thank you, thank you, thank you

talkmaister: any questions?