Face body reading: Prince Harry and Meghan Markle

[FBR] Okay. This is another video
on face and body reading.

Although I personally have
no interest in the royal family,

or the overall usefulness
of having one.

Here, I want to talk about

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle,

about the recent engagement,

and the interview they gave,

with BBC.

Let's get started.

[Mishal Husain, BBC]
Your Royal Highness,

and Meghan Markle,

congratulations to you both.

[MM] Thank you.

[BBC] Can we start with
the proposal,

and the actual moment
of your engagement?

[FBR] I don't know
the BBC interviewer,

but she is probably not
the best person

to conduct this, um,

sort of 'happy couple'
interview.

She has this asymmetric
expression on her face,

which indicates superiority.

She might be very cynical
about the whole thing.

She might not think
that it will last,

or she might be cynical
about love, in general.

She has also these
angular eyebrows,

which means that

she is very mentally
in control,

she wants to be right.

Also, on one side,
the left side,

you can see the
white of the eye,

underneath her pupil.

That indicates, um,
mental instability,

or potentially, even,
depression.

There is something

not particularly positive,
about her.

And then, personally,

I don't like the purple.
[Scoffs]

It has nothing to do
with the interview,

but, um, purple is a royal color.

I personally don't like it,

because it is a mixture

of a warm color, red;
and a cold color, blue.

In Christian religion,
it has to do

with the birth and death
of Christ.

It's a little bit, um,
in between life and death color.

It's not my favorite color.

Makes her look very cold,
like the Ice Queen.

Okay.

Let's go back to the...
happy couple.

[BBC] When did it happen?
How did it happen?

[PH] Uh...it happened, uh,
a few weeks ago.

Um, earlier this month...
here...at our cottage.

[FBR] Cottage? Understatement.
I think it is quite big.

[PH] A standard, typical
night for us.

[MM] A cozy night.
It was...

what were we doing?

Just roasting...chicken,
and having...

[PH] Roasting chicken.
Trying to roast chicken.

[MM] Trying. [Laughs]
Trying to roast a chicken.

And it was just
an amazing surprise.

It was so sweet, and...
[Inhales]

[FBR] A lot of eye contact.
A lot of touching.

A lot of mirroring.

Also, she has his hand
on her side.

Grasping it with two hands.

She doesn't want to
let go of him.

[MM] A natural,
and very romantic.

He got on one knee.
[Laughs]

[PH] Of course.

[BBC] Was it an instant
yes, from you?

[MM] Yes!!

As a matter of fact,

I could barely let you
finishing proposing.

[PH] Uh...

[FBR] They finish each other's sentences.

That's also very typical
for people in love.

[PH] So then, there was hugs,
and I had the ring in my --

[FBR] So, a lot of
illustrators.

He uses the arm to
illustrate the act.

He is overall in the interview
using a lot of illustrators.

Which is generally a good sign.

It's congruency

between the body language,
and what he is saying.

[PH] I was like, "Can I
give you the ring?"

She was like, "Oh yes! The ring!"

So, no, it was a really nice moment.

It was just the two of us.

And, um, I think I managed
to catch --

[FBR] Again, eye contact.

This is certainly
the first stage of love.

There is a lot of smiling,

gazing into each other's eyes.

Also, the attraction is caused

by a neurotransmitter, dopamine.

And, it gets people excited.

It's like a drug.

Suppression of serotonin,

which can even lead to
obsessive behavior.

So, there is no reasoning
at this moment.

They are just in love.

This is the first stage of love.

Later stages would be:

Becoming a couple.

That's what they are
starting to do, now.

Everything is very fast.

And, then, there is the stage of

disillusionment.

This is the stage when

the couple often breaks apart.

And, the relationship ends.

And this is the key:

to get beyond this stage.

The following stage would be:

to create a real, lasting love.

Often, years later,

and it often is
accompanied by marriage.

Potentially, having kids.

And this is based off,

not a physical attraction,

necessarily, but of respect.

And, um, to make this work,

at this stage, it is ideal

if the two people
have similar backgrounds.

Because, when it's about
upbringing of a child,

the couple will look at
their own parents,

and their own background,

because it's all they know,

and if they are compatible,

it makes it much easier.

Of course, they have

very different backgrounds,

which might lead
to difficulties, later.

Particularly, it's so unequal.

It's going to be

all about the royal family.

And very little
about her background.

This unequal background

will make it very hard, later,

to succeed in a relationship.

[Mishal Husain, BBC]
Quite a whirlwind.

Is that how it felt to you?

[Prince Harry sniffs.]

[FBR] The whirlwind?
Both are thinking.

[MM] I don't think --

[FBR] He is smiling.

He thinks, certainly,

it has been like
a whirlwind.

And that's also

what he likes about
the whole thing.

About being with someone

very unconventional.

From an American background.

Being very different
from the stiff royal family.

He is really excited.

[MM] I don't think
that I would call it a whirlwind.

[FBR] And she is
the responsible one.

She is saying it hasn't been
like a whirlwind.

But, you know --

here, they don't agree.

[MM] And, uh,
in terms of our relationship,

obviously, there have been layers,

[PH sniffs.]

[FBR] Now, he doesn't like that.

He sniffs.

He has a little bit of contempt,

with this asymmetric
facial expression.

This is, of course,

not what he likes
about the relationship.

He likes the spontaneous,
the unconventional.

And now she is, um,

explaining how
it hasn't been whirlwind.

[MM] Um, after we had
a good five, six --

[FBR] So he has --

sometimes when she speaks,

and she is sort of
the responsible one,

he is blinking, and he has this

sort of quite serious
expression on his face.

So this is not,
of course,

what he really likes
about her, and the relationship.

[MM] six months, almost,

with just privacy,
which was amazing.

[Inhales] Um...

But, no. I think
we were able

to really have so much time
[gulps]

just to connect --

[FBR] So here, sometimes,
when she looks at him,

and she is explaining something,

she looks very worried.

She has these wrinkles
on her forehead.

So, I don't know what this is.

It might be that she is
really sort of worried

at this stage in the relationship,

that
she might lose him.

She is also holding onto his hand, here,

with her two hands.

[MM] And we never went longer
than two weeks,

without seeing each other,

even though
we were obviously

doing a long-distance
relationship.

So...

[FBR] Here, he smiles,
a little bit.

[MM] It's, um...we made it work.

[BBC] How did you first meet?

[PH] Uhhhh...

Yes, we first met --

[FBR] Seem to have been good.

[PH] We were introduced
by a mutual friend.

Who, um, we will --

[MM] We should protect
her privacy.

[FBR] She is the responsible one.

She wants to protect her privacy,
of course.

[PH, MM] Protect our privacy, yeah.
Little too much of that.

[PH] And, um, but....

It was, it was literally...
it was through her.

And, then, we met

once, twice, back to back,
two dates in London.

Last...July?

[MM] Yes.

[FBR] Lot of back and forth.
Helping each other out.

Let's move a little later.

[MM] And then, I'm, you know --

because I'm from The States,
you don't grow up

with the same understanding
of the royal family.

[FBR] When she says
"royal family," he moves away.

He seems to be displeased
with the idea of the royal family.

[PH sniffs.]

[FBR] And he makes this
sniffing sound, again.

This seems to be an indicator of,
potentially, elements of contempt.

Something unpleasant. He did this before.

[PH] So, a week, and then going back,

and then, starting to film the next day,

four A. M. wake up call,
straight into set.

[MM] Right off the plane,
and straight --

[FBR] So she is basically
mirroring, now.

She is doing the same.

She is repeating what he said,

and using similar,
mirrored language.

[MM] -- to set, just coming back,
and doing it again.

[PH] I'm just trying to --
stay as close as possible.

[MM] There is a misconception,

that because I have worked

in the entertainment industry,

that this is something
I would be familiar with.

[FBR] He makes this, uh,
little mouth shrug.

He doesn't seem to like too much

when she talks about her background,

and her independent work, and so on.

And, she was married before.

So, it's probably not the most
pleasant thing to think about.

[MM] -- for, I guess,
six years, at that point.

And, working before that,

I've never been part of
tabloid culture.

I've never been in pop culture
to that degree, and --

[FBR] See, he doesn't like that,

when she talks about
her background.

[MM] And lived...
a relatively quiet life.

[FBR] Blinking a lot.

[MM] I didn't focus so much
on my job, and, um...

[FBR] That's very American,

to talk about a job.

He later talks a lot about 'team.'

He uses 'team' language.

Tackling, and so on.

And she often talks about herself,

and her job, and so on.

Which is also a difference in cultures.

It's very American.

[MM] Nurturing our relationship.

[PH] On us.

[MM] On us, yeah.

[FBR] When they talk about 'us,'
you know,

they like to live in the moment.

But, he doesn't want to think
about her past.

He likes thinking about them,
as a couple.

[MM] Of course it's disheartening.

You know, it's -- it's, ummm....

It's a shame, that that is
the climate,

in this world,

to focus on that, that would
be discriminatory

in a sense. But, I mean --

[FBR] He doesn't look pleased, again.

But, maybe that is about
the racial discrimination.

[MM] You know, at the end of the day

I am really just proud of who I am,

and where I come from, and

[FBR] See, he makes this little
mouth shrug, again.

Somehow, he doesn't like too much

when she talks about her,
her background.

This might also mean

that he is worried that his dad
does not approve of her,

that she is not interviewing

like a royal bride.

[MM] I think it makes it really easy

to just enjoy being together, and

[PH] Hmm.

[FBR] Yeah. Together.
That's what both like.

There is no doubt,
they are in love.

Question is, does it last.

[BBC] Now that it is all official,

Prince Harry, do you have that
sense,

that the combination of
the two of you,

and your different backgrounds,

that you, together,
represent something new?

[FBR] Different backgrounds.
He is pressing his lips together.

There is something he is hiding.

Something he is afraid of saying,
potentially.

[BBC] Something new, for
the royal family?

[PH] Um, I don't think
it is something new.

[FBR] So, she smiled.
She likes it,

that there is something new
to the royal family.

And now she is looking down,
when he says it is nothing new.

[PH] For me, it's uh....

an added member of the family.

It's uh, it's a -- another team player,

part of the bigger team.

[FBR] He uses a lot of
this 'team' language.

Maybe he likes rugby,
or cricket, or something.

[PH] All of us, we...

[FBR] I don't know anything
about him.

[PH] Everything, everything...

all the stars were aligned.

Everything was just perfect.

It was this beautiful woman,

just, sort of literally tripped
and fell into my life.

[MM laughs]

I fell into her life.

[PH] And the fact that --

[FBR] Very nice image.

[PH] She will be unbelievably good
at the job part of it, as well.

[BBC] Children?

[FBR] Interesting -- again a pause.

Doesn't look like they
talked about it.

Otherwise, they might have
looked at each other.

So, I don't think
they planned too much ahead.

[PH] Not currently, no.
[MM laughs]

[FBR] He is very humorous.

I mean, you have to
give it to him.

He is very humorous
and funny.

A little quirky, and, um, goofy,

but you know,
he is quite likeable.

She is also very good character.

Very outgoing, very friendly.

[FBR] Very refreshing.

[BBC] You've been at home a lot.

[PH, MM] Yes.

[PH] We've, uh -- well, we had to

sort of reverse the whole process.

And, cozy nights in,
in front of the television.

Cooking dinner, with, uh,

just the two of us, by ourselves.

In our little cottage.

Um, rather than going
out for dinner,

and being seen in public.

To be with each other,

without other people looking,

trying to take photos on their phones,

[FBR] She looked away.

She might have liked it better,

to have done more in public.

[MM] And we were able
to really get to know each other.

[FBR] So she is repeating, essentially,
what he said.

[PH] He looks slightly annoyed,
with the eye blinking.

[MM] Also to have friends over --

[FBR] Eye blinking.

Now she talks about friends, and family.

He looked away.

[MM] Any of those were, you know --

[BBC] Have you met the Queen?

[MM] I have, yes.

[PH] A couple times.

[BBC] What was she like?

[FBR] So now. What was interesting,

when she said "What was she like,"

he looked at her,

to make her answer the question
very quickly.

The Queen, his grandmother,
certainly very important to him.

And it's not very unusual.

Grandkids are often very close
to their grandparents.

These are often easier relationships

than with the parents directly.

[MM] It's incredible.

I think, you know, A, to
be able to meet her,

through his lens,

not just with his
honor, respect for her

as the Monarch, but

the love that he has for her,
as his grandmother.

[BBC] What was it like,

introducing Meghan
to your father and brother?

[PH] Ummm...

[FBR] Oh!

Big pause, here, and
closing the eyes.

[PH] Uh...

[FBR] Oh, no.

[PH] What was it like?

It was...exciting.

[FBR] So now, he is going back

to the sort of standard
P. R. routine.

"Exciting, everything fine."

This certainly shows that

he has not a good relationship

with his father and his brother,
and his family, even.

[PH] You know, I've been --

[FBR] He is scratching.

He is dissipating some anxiety.

[PH] A period of time when I
literally didn't tell anybody at all.

[FBR] He misspoke, even now.

So there is certainly an issue here.

If you want to have a lasting
relationship with a woman,

you have to be on good terms
with your dad.

You have to become a man

to have a proper relationship.

Otherwise, you are just a player.

And so this will be certainly
an issue, in the future.

[PH] William was longing to meet her.

[FBR] He is certainly
his mama's boy, here.

If she is daddy's girl,
the issue is twice as big.

[PH] As has William as well.
Fantastic support.

And then, my father --

[FBR] Shaking his head,
a little bit,

when he talks about
such fantastic support.

[PH] Um, the family together --

[FBR] He pulls the mouth back,

means it's a little
unpleasant thing

to talk about.

He is slightly embarrassed.

[PH] Solid support.

[FBR] Shaking his head.
Solid support. Apparently not.

[PH] And my grandparents,
as well,

have been wonderful
throughout this whole process.

And they've known
for quite some time.

[FBR] So now, he's
much more still,

when he talks about
the grandparents.

So, he has certainly
a good relationship

to the grandparents.

[BBC] And, Meghan,
your parents,

very happy for you obviously,

do you think they worry at all

[FBR] A little forced smile.
She is nervous.

[BBC] about the state
of what you're getting into?

[MM] Well, I'm sure, at the onset,

uh, both my parents --

[FBR] She is handling herself
very, very well.

[MM] were concerned. Swept up
in a media storm, that

[FBR] See he did a displeased
gesture, here.

Certainly doesn't like
the media storm.

[MM] was not part of
my life before that.

But they also have never
seen me so happy.

And, I think, also

once my friends --
[gulps] Excuse me.

[FBR] When she talks
about friends,

she has this worry lines,

and she is, um,
swallowing very hard.

Something about her friends,

and her background,

she is probably worried

that he doesn't approve,
somehow.

There is already these
dynamics.

Which is very unequal.

He being royal,

and she is just sort of
a regular girl,

also a
successful actress.

[MM] They were able
to meet Harry.

And my mom,
who Harry spent a lot of time with.

[PH] Yeah.

[FBR] She certainly likes the mom.

[MM] So much fun.
[PH] Her mom is amazing.

[FBR] He certainly agrees.

So, I think that her mom

is really representing
the unconventional, the new.

He is excited about this.

Very refreshing, to him.

[MM] It was just --
it was obvious, that

no matter what
we were being put through,

[FBR] "Put through."
Again, he makes a little sniff.

And he is scratching.

He certainly is displeased,
with the whole

having been "put through"
certain things.

[MM] It was just temporary, and,

that we were going to be able

to get through that.

So, everyone was really happy.

He has talked to my dad a few times.

Hasn't been able to meet him just --

[FBR] Little asymmetric smile,
potentially.

Or forced smile.

Doesn't think so high
of her dad.

Well it is interesting.

He has this beard.

And looking at photos of her dad,

he has a resemblance.

A very vague resemblance.

We will come back to this.

[MM] But, it's all been
worth every effort.

[PH] Mm-hmm.

[FBR] Very smiley now.

Nice to see.

[BBC] And your ring?

[PH] And the little diamonds
on the side

are from my mother's
jewelry collection.

To make sure she is with us
on this crazy journey together.

[FBR] That is very important
to him, of course.

He talks about "crazy,"

so that's what he likes.

He likes to be
unconventional, and crazy.

It is not by accident
that he chose the word.

[PH] Umm...And...

[MM] It's beautiful.

And he designed it.
It's incredible.

[PH, MM] Um...yeah.

[PH] Make sure it stays
on that finger.

[MM] Of course.
[Both laugh]

[FBR] Nice humor.
Very refreshing.

[BBC] What does it mean
to you, Meghan,

to have those stones
on your finger,

that once belonged
to Princess Diana?

[MM] Um, I think --

everything about, um,

Harry's thoughtfulness is --

and the inclusion of that,

and obviously, not
being able to meet his mom,

it's so important to me, to --
[Inhales]

to know, that -- [Sighs]

[FBR] She is sighing.

Potentially, this is a sign
that his mom is

overburdening, or too much,
for her, already.

[MM] -- that she is
a part of this, with us,

[FBR] He is looking down.

He is certainly sad
about his mother.

[MM] Being able to meet --

[FBR] Still looking down.

[MM] his aunts, and
also Julia...

[PH] Mm-hmm.

Just different people
who are so important to his mom.

I am able to, in some way,
know a part of her,

through them,
and of course through him,

and it's, um,

[FBR] Looking down, again.

Of course, there is the ring,

but he is looking down a lot.

[MM] It's incredibly special.

And, you know, to be able
to have this --

[FBR] Sadness.

[MM] Which sort of links --

[FBR] Again.

[BBC] What do you think

your mother would have
thought about Meghan,

or said about Meghan?

[PH] They'd be thick as thieves.
[Both laugh]

Without question.

[FBR] "Thick as thieves."

Of course, it's a saying,
there were thieves,

but he thinks of his mom
as being unconventional person,

and it's what he sees in her.

He is thinking of
his mom as an outlaw,

and potentially,
her as an outlaw, as well.

[PH] And she would be

over the moon,
jumping up and down,

so excited for me.

But then, as I said,

we'd have probably
been best friends,

[FBR] Best friends?

They don't need to be best friends.

There is a hierarchy in a family,

and the parents come
above the children.

They are not on the same level.

So that is the whole thing.

With a lasting marriage,

they have to form
something themselves,

something new.

They are so much soulmates,
at the moment,

because they have
similar history.

So he lost his mom.

There was a dysfunctional
relationship

between his dad and his mom.

And her parents divorced
when she was six, I read.

Her dad probably left.
Who knows?

So there is a lot of need
for both of them,

to create harmony
in the family.

It's a desire for kids,

especially the youngest,

to fix things, to create harmony.

So, he wants someone
to resemble mom,

somehow getting her back.

But, what he sees in her.

Indeed, Meghan is
a few years older.

She is the responsible one.

And she probably
wants to fix her own family.

In an unconscious way,
trying to hold onto her dad,

who potentially has left.

And sometimes, when we can't
fix these kind of things,

we go to an even bigger level.

So she is trying to amend things,

between the United States,
her background,

and the UK.

She is trying to make bridges.

Which is almost impossible for her,

to link these two countries,

and the different backgrounds.

And, by marrying him, somehow,

she brings her parents together.

She forces them back together,
to some degree.

Because now,
they are his parents-in-law.

This is often what
this harmony

is trying to do, here.

And this is, of course,

not necessarily a good
foundation for a relationship.

So, there will be too-high

expectations for her,
to replace his mother.

And, there will be
too-high expectations

for him, to be
her missing dad.

And, also, there is a strong link
at the moment.

Later when kids
are potentially involved,

also, considering
how unequal their status is,

she has to basically
deny her background,

and it's all about
his royal background.

This, of course,
creates big issues.

[PH] It is days like today

when I really miss
having her around.

And miss being able to share
the happy news.

But, with the ring,

and everything else
that's going on,

[MM] She's with us.

[PH] I'm sure she's with us.

Jumping up and down,
somewhere else.

[PH] So, similar to his mom,
Princess Diana,

she will be even more isolated
in the royal family.

First of all, she is not royal,
like Princess Diana.

But, then, her background.

She is mixed race.

She is American.

She's changing
to the Church of England.

She's becoming
a UK citizen.

And, she is giving up
her acting career.

This already indicates,
you know,

how much she has to adjust,

to basically fit in
on a superficial level.

But, you know, deep down,

she is just so different.

As is often the case,

history repeats itself.

His mom didn't survive
the pressure,

and now, she is almost
in a worse situation.

In any case,

it's a lovely couple,

and I hope very much
it lasts.

And, you know,

there is a good chance
it will work.

So, best of luck,
and congrats.

I hope you liked the video.

Talk to you later.

Bye.