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I'm entering into the world of

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shidduchim (dating for marriage) for

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my sons.

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Your name is, Yael? --Yael

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Yael Mizrachi

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I have quadruplet sons

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Ah, mazal tov

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And they are 21 now

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this is when they were born

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Rav Ovadia Yosef was their sandak

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Wow

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We are neighbors

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Oh, how fun, what a privilege

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This is how they look today

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Ben Tsion, Yosef, Shlomo, and Yishai

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What sweethearts

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They're very sweet

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I've been praying for their marriages

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since the day they were born

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I went through each stage, but shidduchim

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always scared me

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and with God's help, I want to marry off

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all 4 of them

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Just like their brises were together...

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Maybe you'll find me quadruplet girls

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The whole topic of shidduchim is very hard

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for me. Their attitude towards

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"older singles," meaning that a guy or

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young woman, who are actually a boy and

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a girl, who are over 21 are past their

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prime. We need to mourn and pray

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as though...what are you talking about?!

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I need somebody...her priority needs

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to be "I'm marrying a man of Torah"

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of sacrificing for the Torah. These are

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young men for whom Torah is of supreme

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value. Do you want to start?

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Let's start with Ben Tsion

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Where does he study?

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He studies at Hebron Yeshiva

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Yes? --A boy who's clever, cute, very

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smart. Learns very nicely

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He's the heart of the home

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Wherever you need him, he's there

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Then we come to Shlomo, who studies in

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TIfrach.

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Marriage market. The mother is trying to

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sell her sons.

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Why is this the parents' decision at all?

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You take such a sensitive matter, marriage

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Which is a beautiful, romantic thing

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And they make it into a kind of commerce

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You're helping to marry them off?

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Look, what do you mean by "helping"? We're

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not people of financial abundance.

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What should I match you up with?

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For example, I'll call somebody "Listen,

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I have a suggestion." So she'll say,

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"OK, I'm prepared to give this

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"What are they giving?" I need answers

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They talk about this matter right away?

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They get to it. That's the reality. You

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can't get around it. --Right

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Look, of course we'll commit to...and

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we'll take loans, but this...

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But we're talking about minor sums

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I understand

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I'm not talking about an apartment at all

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I'm talking about helping them

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I don't think there can be a connection

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between Yael and me.

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She's a stranger, whom I don't know

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Who represents in my eyes everything that

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caused my being cut off from my son

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Who represents the society that I am so

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angry at. And I question whether this is

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the woman who can help me get Omer back

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I'll think about several possibilities.

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With God's help

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I've challenged you, huh? --Yes, totally

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Fascinating--great.-Thanks very much

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Let's see if it's really possible

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to create a real conversation between

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2 extremely different worlds