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← Necessity of Communication in Marriage - Clint Leiter

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Showing Revision 2 created 11/20/2017 by Carrie Spradlin.

  1. The verse that comes to my mind here
  2. as I was thinking about what I might share
  3. in a practical way,
  4. with not only the two couples,
  5. but everyone else here that's married,
  6. is taken from Ecclesiastes 3:7.
  7. It says, "There is a time to be silent,
  8. and a time to speak."
  9. And I'm thinking of this in the realm
  10. of the necessity for communication.
  11. There's a time to be silent,
  12. and then in my application here,
  13. that silence is the silence of listening.
  14. Listening skills.
  15. And there's a time to speak
  16. which would be the communicative skills.
  17. There's a time for both of those
  18. in the necessity of communication.
  19. And in the Bible, the word "speak"
  20. is used 454 times.
  21. So that's a lot of communication
  22. advocated in the Bible.
  23. And in the realm of a living, vital,
  24. working marriage,
  25. communication is so important.
  26. You know, we can fall to silence -
  27. maybe as a defensive mechanism.
  28. We withdraw.
  29. But silence just builds walls, doesn't it?
  30. We've used those terms before, surely -
  31. a wall of silence?
  32. We don't want that.
  33. Sometimes silence can
    be simply self-centered.
  34. It's about me.
  35. And I withdraw at other times.
  36. It can be defensive.
  37. Oh, just pulling back as a mechanism
  38. to defend myself in silence.
  39. Other times, it can actually be
  40. an offensive weapon.
  41. You know, the cold shoulder of silence.
  42. But when we need to speak,
  43. there's a positive duty
  44. to talk things out.
  45. You've got problems that
    need to be addressed.
  46. You've got to listen.
  47. You've got to speak.
  48. You've got decisions that need to be made.
  49. You've got to listen.
  50. You've got to speak.
  51. You need to express needs and desires.
  52. You've got to communicate that.
  53. And yes, sometimes,
    dissatisfaction's, right?
  54. You've got to know when
    to be silent and listen,
  55. as well as when to speak,
  56. because no one's telepathic.
  57. We can't read minds.
  58. Sometimes, I think my
    wife is almost there,
  59. where she can,
  60. but the reality is,
  61. we can't read each other's minds.
  62. We've got to communicate, right?
  63. And so that's the thought on my mind
  64. here this morning.
  65. There's a time to be silent,
  66. and there's a time to speak.
  67. And so from this day forward,
  68. going forward from here,
  69. you guys have got
    to get together and talk.
  70. Talk about things.
  71. It's so vital.
  72. Think about this.
  73. It's worthwhile to note.
  74. With the Tower of Babel,
  75. all God did was break
    down their communication.
  76. That was all He had to do.
  77. He changed language,
  78. and so now, they're no longer
  79. able to communicate.
  80. And whenever you're not
    able to communicate,
  81. then anything constructive
  82. goes out the window.
  83. So, a time to be silent
  84. and a time to speak.