Chasing belonging | Angela Damiani | TEDxFondduLac
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0:08 - 0:12Every one of us, unfortunately,
knows at least one person -
0:12 - 0:15who is suffering
with an issue with opioids. -
0:15 - 0:18And I would contend that each of us
has been personally affected -
0:18 - 0:20in some way or another
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0:20 - 0:24by the workforce shortages
due to demographic and cultural shifts -
0:24 - 0:25since the Great Recession.
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0:25 - 0:27What I have come here to establish today
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0:27 - 0:30is that both of these issues
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0:30 - 0:33are the downstream effects
of the same crisis -
0:34 - 0:36and the solution for both
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0:36 - 0:40is simple in nature
but profound in impact. -
0:41 - 0:43I uncovered this a few years ago,
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0:43 - 0:44and it took me a little while
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0:44 - 0:47to become articulate
about how to share it with others, -
0:47 - 0:51but this is the story of how it all began.
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0:51 - 0:54After a few years of hosting
social gatherings for our friends -
0:54 - 0:56and our friends of friends,
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0:56 - 0:59a group of us decided to take on
our biggest challenge yet: -
1:00 - 1:04an island party right off the coast
of the City of Milwaukee. -
1:04 - 1:07We were ill-prepared.
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1:07 - 1:09Being novices to event planning,
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1:09 - 1:11we forgot just about
all the main ingredients - -
1:11 - 1:15power, bathrooms, lights,
enough food and drinks. -
1:15 - 1:18And despite our poor planning skills,
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1:18 - 1:213,000 people showed up.
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1:21 - 1:22They listened to the music,
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1:22 - 1:24they danced on the prairie grass,
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1:24 - 1:27and we all watched
this bright orange sunset together. -
1:27 - 1:31How we managed to get away
without any liability insurance -
1:31 - 1:33or even any inkling of a negative incident
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1:33 - 1:35is only by the grace of God,
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1:35 - 1:36our good fortunes,
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1:36 - 1:39or perhaps our extreme naiveté.
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1:39 - 1:41After the crowds had disbanded,
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1:41 - 1:44a few of us that remained on the park
decided to run into the lake, -
1:44 - 1:46swimming under the stars
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1:46 - 1:48and reveling in what we had just created.
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1:48 - 1:49As I floated along
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1:49 - 1:52and listened to the laughter
of my best friends, I thought, -
1:52 - 1:54"This is it!
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1:54 - 1:56This is what we do now!"
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1:56 - 1:59I laugh a little bit when I think
about that moment in time -
1:59 - 2:02because all we had actually done
was host a really big party by mistake. -
2:03 - 2:07And yet there was something more to it,
and I could feel it that night. -
2:07 - 2:09We had somehow managed to create a space
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2:09 - 2:12for a few thousand strangers
to gather together -
2:12 - 2:15and to feel as though they belonged
to each other and to the park, -
2:15 - 2:18even if it was just
for a few moments in time. -
2:18 - 2:24Recreating that sense of belonging became
what fueled our every waking moment. -
2:24 - 2:25At a merciless pace,
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2:25 - 2:28we hosted hundreds of events
that drew thousands of attendees, -
2:28 - 2:29over and over,
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2:29 - 2:32always chasing that same high:
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2:32 - 2:33the reverberation that comes
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2:33 - 2:35from the confluence
of people gathering together -
2:35 - 2:38and feeling connected to one another.
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2:38 - 2:42The impact of those experiences
always had a really profound effect, -
2:42 - 2:45not only in our lives,
but on the lives of those who attended - -
2:45 - 2:47ones we could see
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2:47 - 2:49and ones we would
never be able to imagine. -
2:50 - 2:53After hosting a bunch
of different crazy experiences, -
2:53 - 2:56we realized what we were doing
was not exactly event planning - -
2:56 - 2:58it was something more.
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2:58 - 3:00We were studying what made people move,
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3:00 - 3:02how to get them to take action,
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3:02 - 3:05and how to change
a narrative about a place. -
3:05 - 3:08For the collective method we honed,
we coined a new term: -
3:08 - 3:10"social architecture" -
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3:10 - 3:12the conscious design of an environment
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3:12 - 3:16that shifts the social behavior
of a population towards a goal. -
3:16 - 3:20This transformative practice requires
sincere thoughtfulness about inclusion -
3:20 - 3:23and deep investment in network development
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3:23 - 3:26prior to the beginning
of planning the new event. -
3:26 - 3:29What it results in,
besides high event attendance, -
3:29 - 3:32is meaningful buy-in from key constituents
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3:32 - 3:36and some of the most diverse programs
that the City of Milwaukee has to offer. -
3:36 - 3:37Social architecture
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3:37 - 3:42changes how people interact
with both cities and companies alike. -
3:42 - 3:44And while I stumbled
into a makeshift career -
3:44 - 3:45through fun and frivolity,
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3:45 - 3:48I also discovered that belonging -
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3:48 - 3:51the true by-product
of social architecture - -
3:51 - 3:52is the solution
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3:52 - 3:56for a growing public health crisis
called social isolation. -
3:56 - 3:58And now that I know that,
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3:58 - 4:01I feel more empowered than ever
to take on this epidemic -
4:01 - 4:04by socially architecting
all areas of our lives, -
4:04 - 4:06including our workplace,
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4:06 - 4:09where everyone goes every single day.
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4:10 - 4:11Now, candidly,
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4:11 - 4:14it took us about 10 years
to establish this practice, -
4:14 - 4:18and as we were working through that,
the world shifted around us. -
4:18 - 4:19Technology accelerated
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4:19 - 4:24and changed the way our social systems,
communication, and the economy all work. -
4:24 - 4:25We live in a time
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4:25 - 4:28of infinite possibilities
to connect to one another, -
4:28 - 4:32and yet as a society,
we are actually growing lonelier. -
4:32 - 4:35There are 212 different
social media platforms -
4:35 - 4:37available on the marketplace,
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4:37 - 4:40and they're all designed
to bring people together. -
4:40 - 4:41And yet it turns out
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4:41 - 4:44people who spend two hours
or more on social media -
4:44 - 4:47are two times more likely to feel lonely.
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4:47 - 4:51People have hundreds, if not thousands,
of social media connections, -
4:51 - 4:52and yet in stark contrast,
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4:52 - 4:54since 1985,
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4:54 - 4:58the number of people
who can claim to have no close friends -
4:58 - 5:01has increased from 36 to 54 percent.
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5:02 - 5:07Half of Americans claim
to sometimes or always feel alone, -
5:07 - 5:12and a quarter of us claim that we have
no one in our lives who understands us. -
5:13 - 5:14Generation Z,
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5:14 - 5:16the digital natives amongst us,
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5:16 - 5:17the kids coming up behind millennials,
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5:17 - 5:21are arguably the most technologically
savvy and connected generation, -
5:21 - 5:24and they claim to be the loneliest.
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5:24 - 5:25What this means
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5:25 - 5:27is that likes and comments on social media
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5:27 - 5:30do not translate to meaningful,
authentic engagement. -
5:30 - 5:32In fact, most of the time,
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5:32 - 5:35those connections
are used for self-promotion, -
5:35 - 5:37not community building.
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5:37 - 5:40And while there are a few
technology solutions, like meetup.com, -
5:40 - 5:44that aim to bring people together
and increase the convenience of that, -
5:44 - 5:47it turns out millennials
are the first generation -
5:47 - 5:51that would rather stay home
than leave to socialize. -
5:51 - 5:54We expect more and more from technology
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5:54 - 5:56and less and less from one another -
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5:56 - 5:58a reality that chips away
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5:58 - 6:01at the fundamental human need
for social interaction -
6:01 - 6:06and causes all sorts of negative
psychological down spirals. -
6:06 - 6:07But let me be clear about something:
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6:07 - 6:10this is not a young person problem.
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6:10 - 6:12Social isolation does not discriminate
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6:12 - 6:16against age, gender, race,
or socioeconomic background. -
6:16 - 6:17Today's scientists know
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6:17 - 6:20that if we do not have
the opportunity to connect socially, -
6:20 - 6:24we are so ravenous for
our neurochemistry to be rebalanced, -
6:24 - 6:27we are likely to seek relief
from anywhere. -
6:27 - 6:29Social isolation is directly correlated
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6:29 - 6:34to things like anxiety, depression,
increased suicide, drug abuse, -
6:34 - 6:37and the divisiveness we see
in today's political landscape. -
6:37 - 6:42In fact, those who do not have
a regular opportunity to connect socially -
6:42 - 6:45are 50 percent more likely
to die prematurely. -
6:45 - 6:52That means that loneliness is just
as lethal as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. -
6:52 - 6:56All of this, as you can imagine,
affects our society. -
6:57 - 6:59And while our social systems have shifted,
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6:59 - 7:01so have our workplaces.
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7:02 - 7:03Since the Great Recession,
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7:03 - 7:05remote work is on the rise,
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7:05 - 7:08productivity gurus tell us
to take less meetings, -
7:08 - 7:11and the technology that's meant
to make our work easier -
7:11 - 7:13leads us away from our coworkers.
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7:13 - 7:16Whether from working long hours
or due to a lengthy commute, -
7:16 - 7:19the amount of time we spend
with one another at work -
7:19 - 7:21is vastly diminishing.
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7:21 - 7:22And this wasn't always the case.
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7:22 - 7:26In the past, your workplace may have been
where you had your friendships -
7:26 - 7:28and, sometimes, even met your spouse.
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7:28 - 7:33But the reality is the workplace
is rapidly changing -
7:33 - 7:37as people switch jobs multiple times
or move to various cities over a career, -
7:37 - 7:42and the gig economy makes finding
steady work even more complicated. -
7:43 - 7:49Most people live very transactional
and transient lives -
7:49 - 7:52in which their ability to connect
to a community of people -
7:52 - 7:54who look out for one another
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7:54 - 7:57is no longer accessible.
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7:57 - 7:59The point is people are isolated
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7:59 - 8:02and there's a connection crisis brewing
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8:02 - 8:06that affects our society,
communities, and companies alike. -
8:06 - 8:10And while this feels
unstoppable and pervasive - -
8:10 - 8:12because who among us is really ready
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8:12 - 8:16to give up the modern advances
our technology affords? - -
8:16 - 8:19the solution is simple.
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8:19 - 8:22The antidote is to create
a sense of belonging -
8:22 - 8:25by connecting people
to places and experiences -
8:25 - 8:29that ensure they get offline
and meet one another in person. -
8:29 - 8:30And while a lot has changed
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8:30 - 8:34and we no longer have
the social constructs of the past, -
8:34 - 8:38the workplace still provides
a very unique potential -
8:38 - 8:41to be a source of daily social outlet.
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8:41 - 8:43It is therefore incumbent on our employers
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8:43 - 8:46to facilitate how we connect
with one another, -
8:46 - 8:50and this is the elusive secret
to talent attraction and retention. -
8:50 - 8:54It has nothing to do
with a flashy marketing campaign -
8:54 - 8:56or a cash incentive to move somewhere.
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8:56 - 8:58It is the ability to realize
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8:58 - 9:03that everyone everywhere
is chasing that same exact thing. -
9:03 - 9:07And the employers that are
setting up systems right now -
9:07 - 9:09to create a sense of belonging
for their employees -
9:09 - 9:12are the ones that will win
this global war for talent. -
9:13 - 9:16Now, I recognize the word "belonging"
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9:16 - 9:19feels a little bit inappropriate
for the workplace. -
9:19 - 9:22After all, you've been offered
a job, salary benefits - -
9:22 - 9:26why is it your new boss's responsibility
to ensure that you have friends too? -
9:26 - 9:27(Laughter)
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9:27 - 9:29Well, it turns out, though,
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9:29 - 9:32only one-third of us claim
to have a best friend at work, -
9:32 - 9:33and when we do,
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9:33 - 9:35we're seven times more productive.
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9:35 - 9:41Disengaged employees cost companies
500 billion dollars a year, -
9:41 - 9:44plus there's the added cost bonus
in savings that takes place -
9:44 - 9:48when an engaged employee helps
with increased candidate referrals, -
9:48 - 9:50longer employee tenure,
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9:50 - 9:54and the overall brand mindshare
of the company as a great place to work. -
9:54 - 9:57But I am not referring
to forced "funtivities" -
9:57 - 9:59for your employees to awkwardly mill about
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9:59 - 10:00or roll their eyes at.
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10:00 - 10:04What I'm talking about has a formula
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10:04 - 10:07and it's based in the theory
of social architecture - -
10:07 - 10:11again, the conscious design of,
in this case, a workplace -
10:11 - 10:15that shifts the social behaviour
of the workers towards a goal. -
10:15 - 10:17The goals are complex:
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10:17 - 10:21increased profitability, productivity,
employee tenure, and customer loyalty. -
10:21 - 10:24Hence, the solution has to be complex
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10:24 - 10:25and, quite frankly,
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10:25 - 10:28an innovative approach
to taking on all these challenges. -
10:28 - 10:30Social architecture
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10:30 - 10:33allows for the shedding
of the one-size-fits-all nature -
10:33 - 10:35that's typical in corporate America
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10:35 - 10:41and yields unprecedented results
in all of these normal areas of success. -
10:42 - 10:45And this is the formula
for how you create belonging. -
10:46 - 10:48Belonging begins with empowerment.
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10:48 - 10:51Empowerment requires the recognition
that people are individuals, -
10:51 - 10:53not cogs in a wheel.
-
10:53 - 10:56Broad, sweeping generation generalizations
and corporate policies -
10:56 - 10:58are diametrically opposed
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10:58 - 11:01to how people naturally move
and use the world. -
11:01 - 11:05Just because a cohort of employees
is near to one another in age -
11:05 - 11:08does not mean that they're
at the same stage of their lives. -
11:08 - 11:11Think of it: a 28-year-old
can be single, married, -
11:11 - 11:13married with children,
divorced with children. -
11:13 - 11:14Each one of those stages
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11:14 - 11:18has way more to do
with what will engage that employee -
11:18 - 11:21than his proximity
of his age with his peers -
11:21 - 11:22because each one of those stages
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11:22 - 11:27represents a very clear marker
of transition for that individual - -
11:27 - 11:29transition from past priorities,
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11:29 - 11:33from the ways in which
what the company culture has to offer -
11:33 - 11:36will ensure that they feel connected
and a part of the team. -
11:37 - 11:39Creating individualized
engagement plans, then, -
11:39 - 11:44is the best way to ensure that employees
feel empowered to take on their roles -
11:44 - 11:48and to propel their careers
within the company -
11:48 - 11:51rather than seek outlets elsewhere.
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11:51 - 11:53The second step
for belonging is connection, -
11:53 - 11:55which goes beyond affinity.
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11:55 - 11:58Most companies subdivide
their engagement strategy -
11:58 - 11:59into demographic categories:
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11:59 - 12:03there's the women's group,
the Asian group, the young people's group. -
12:03 - 12:07What this does, once the novelty
of the camaraderie wears off, -
12:07 - 12:12is actually forge a new epicenter
within the organization -
12:12 - 12:16for this minority group to lament
how they're not considered -
12:16 - 12:19when the larger policies
affect that group. -
12:19 - 12:23Rarely are modes of intersectionality
between those employee resource groups -
12:23 - 12:24invested in,
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12:24 - 12:27which would allow them to not only
learn and grow from one another -
12:27 - 12:29but have a more powerful and dynamic voice
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12:29 - 12:33in affecting the broader culture
of that organization. -
12:33 - 12:37The third step is having a mechanism
for change to take place. -
12:37 - 12:43There is no point in having a comment box
or any modern variation of one -
12:43 - 12:48without a system that allows
someone to request a change -
12:48 - 12:53and then be a part of creating the change
they seek within that organization. -
12:53 - 12:56And this has to be ubiquitous
across the company, -
12:56 - 12:59from the lowliest of entry level
all the way up to the C-suite. -
12:59 - 13:01Everyone's voice must be heard
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13:01 - 13:04and at least considered
for implementation. -
13:04 - 13:09And finally, the consistency
of the empowerment connection -
13:09 - 13:10and the ability to build anew
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13:10 - 13:13is the most important ingredient.
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13:13 - 13:17Trust is shared experience over time.
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13:17 - 13:19If folks do not see the values
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13:19 - 13:21that are not only written in the handbook
-
13:21 - 13:24and the mission statement
of the organization -
13:24 - 13:26but they're in action over and over,
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13:26 - 13:30being used by everyone
across the organization, -
13:30 - 13:33there will be a mistrust that grows
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13:33 - 13:39and becomes impossible for belonging
to be a reality in that workplace. -
13:39 - 13:44Given the struggle that companies
currently have in attracting talent, -
13:44 - 13:49ensuring a sense of belonging is felt
by the employees they currently have -
13:49 - 13:51is imperative for the growth
of that enterprise. -
13:51 - 13:57For if the employees who helped
to create that brand don't trust it, -
13:57 - 13:59why would anyone else?
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13:59 - 14:00And sadly,
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14:00 - 14:03I don't believe the angst caused
by the void of belonging -
14:03 - 14:05we're facing in our society
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14:05 - 14:06is going anywhere,
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14:06 - 14:09especially as the mistrust
of our politics, media, -
14:09 - 14:11and other major institutions
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14:11 - 14:13is at an all-time high.
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14:13 - 14:16But companies have the power
and, I would contend, the responsibility -
14:16 - 14:19to change this paradigm
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14:19 - 14:21as they are the ones who benefit most
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14:21 - 14:25from having the people
to make and buy their stuff. -
14:25 - 14:28And despite all of the world's changes,
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14:28 - 14:30people do still need to work,
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14:30 - 14:34even in spite of that insatiable chase
for something more. -
14:34 - 14:39Can you imagine a world in which
employees felt connected and whole -
14:39 - 14:41every time they headed into work?
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14:41 - 14:45Can you see the way that would change
our society's social ills? -
14:45 - 14:49All that needs to happen
to bring forth this reality -
14:49 - 14:52is for employers to offer
the most mission-critical -
14:52 - 14:56but also basic human benefit
they can afford: -
14:56 - 14:57belonging.
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14:57 - 14:58Thank you.
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14:58 - 15:00(Applause)
- Title:
- Chasing belonging | Angela Damiani | TEDxFondduLac
- Description:
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Explore how hosting a party for 3,000 friends and community members gave Angela Damiani the tools to solve some of the biggest issues facing the workforce today. This talk was produced in partnership with Sirna Productions.
The leader of the NEWaukee team, Angela has spent over a decade developing engagement strategies that work. She helps communities and companies build meaningful connections and attract top talent. Angela is a serial entrepreneur who has launched four businesses, guest contributor and writer for national publications like Fortune, New Geography and Style Salute, frequent public speaker at economic development symposiums like Future Wisconsin, and was 40 Under 40 Award Winner in 2016. She lives by the mantra “uncompromising momentum forward” – there is no challenge too big that can’t be tackled by simply asking “how.”
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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- English
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- Duration:
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