Prado Gómez
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0:02 - 0:07...So are we as a self-proclaimed community going to try to be different than the rest of the world,
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0:07 - 0:08do things differently,
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0:08 - 0:11transform community through healing as opposed to punishing,
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0:11 - 0:13by recognizing that people are more
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0:13 - 0:15than their mistakes or fucked up choices?
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0:15 - 0:16even if those choices
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0:16 - 0:17hurt other people in our community?
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0:17 - 0:19What is it that we value?
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0:19 - 0:21What's important?
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0:21 - 0:22What importance do we place
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0:22 - 0:25on responsibility for ourselves and to each other?
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0:25 - 0:27I think it's responsible to want to own the choices we make,
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0:27 - 0:30and to be accountable for how our actions affect others,
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0:30 - 0:31our community,
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0:31 - 0:34and not run away from our choices when the shit hits the fan.
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0:34 - 0:36I couldn't help noticing the reactions
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0:36 - 0:37to the accusations of rape,
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0:37 - 0:39the fleeing distancing from maleness,
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0:39 - 0:41of my identity that was even remotely male,
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0:41 - 0:44from being seen as a man.
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0:44 - 0:46The repetition a reminder of female history,
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0:46 - 0:48gender non-conforming to the chromosomal condition.
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0:48 - 0:50I may look like a man,
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0:50 - 0:51talk like a man,
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0:51 - 0:52fight like a man,
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0:52 - 0:53even smell like a man,
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0:53 - 0:54definitely fuck like a man,
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0:54 - 0:57but I'm not really a man, remember?
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0:57 - 0:59I often think that's the reason so many people
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0:59 - 1:02start out as grown women and all of a sudden become boys as opposed to men
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1:02 - 1:06after hormonal and surgical intervention.
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1:06 - 1:09_ after all, are not men.
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1:09 - 1:10Therefore, not as threatening,
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1:10 - 1:13and certainly cannot be expected to be as responsible.
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1:13 - 1:14Either way, it seems that people want
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1:14 - 1:17the romantic and sexual allure of men,
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1:17 - 1:18but not the legacy of men.
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1:18 - 1:20To have a boys life,
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1:20 - 1:22without a mans responsibility.
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1:27 - 1:28Playing dress-up,
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1:28 - 1:29playing man for the attention,
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1:29 - 1:31that's what drag is.
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1:31 - 1:33Even if the stage is a political one.
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1:33 - 1:34It's still a stage,
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1:34 - 1:37and if you can take it off when it doesn't suit the situation, it's still drag.
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1:37 - 1:38And that's all good,
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1:38 - 1:39I love drag.
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1:39 - 1:40That's part of the umbrella too,
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1:40 - 1:43but I think it's problematic to occupy male space in the world
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1:43 - 1:46but refuse to recognize that that is indeed the space one occupies.
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1:46 - 1:51And proceed to shirk the responsibility that comes with that.
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1:52 - 1:54Just like folks of colour,
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1:54 - 1:58like my kid, who may sometimes pass as white, even though they're not.
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1:58 - 2:00Race may be an illusion,
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2:00 - 2:02but it is a powerful one in a racialized world,
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2:02 - 2:05as is gender in a gendered world.
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2:06 - 2:09I don't bale on my manhood when it's inconvenient.
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2:09 - 2:13I'm not ashamed to be, or apologetic about the fact that I am a man.
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2:13 - 2:14It's whom I struggled, mostly with myself,
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2:14 - 2:15to liberate.
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2:15 - 2:20Although it is political, it's who I am, not what I do.
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2:20 - 2:22It's not my political or social statement
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2:22 - 2:23since I moved here,
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2:23 - 2:25until I graduate from college.
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2:25 - 2:31I am, or strive to be, the honourable and responsible man I was meant to be.
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2:31 - 2:34My inherited complex legacy included.
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2:34 - 2:36I owe it to those people who pay with their dignity every day,
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2:36 - 2:39and those who've paid with their lives to be who they were,
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2:39 - 2:41to stand firmly in the shoes I've stepped into,
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2:41 - 2:42for better and for worse.
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2:42 - 2:43I feel like I have a responsibility to them,
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2:43 - 2:46whether they know it or not.
- Title:
- Prado Gómez
- Description:
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Prado Gómez is the Director of Proyecto ContraSIDA Por Vida (PCPV), a community building organization by and for the queer Latina/o community in San Francisco's Mission District. Over the last 15 years he also has worked with youth (queer youth of color, youth of color and young women), using writing and theater as a tool for self expression and social change. Prado is a Mestizo (Chicano, Apache, Hopi) activist, parent, singer and husband. He dedicates his time to sharing knowledge in an effort to promote holistic health and wellness, especially in and for transgender communities of color through his work at Proyecto, as a trainer with the Harm Reduction Coalition and Training Institute and with his children.
- Video Language:
- English
- Duration:
- 02:43