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Okay, you can turn in your Bibles
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with me this morning
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to Ephesians 4.
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I'm not skipping the rest of 3.
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This is actually not part
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of the Ephesians series.
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This is one more topical message.
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I think next Sunday, Lord willing,
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we will resume Ephesians 3.
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Let's pray.
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Oh Father,
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I feel weak.
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These songs have expressed it -
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our weakness.
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Where else would we go, Lord,
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but to You?
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We know that it is the very
characteristic of the wicked
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that they don't call upon You.
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But Lord, we call upon You.
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We need You.
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Lord, we don't want this
to be an exercise in futility.
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We recognize when a man stands up
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to open up the Word of God,
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what is that?
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It's something that You've prescribed.
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It's something You've designed.
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Something can happen.
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It doesn't always happen,
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but something can happen.
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Something transformative,
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something life-changing,
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something upbuilding can happen
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if You but own it.
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Lord, I pray, own this next hour.
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Please. I pray in Christ's name.
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Amen.
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Ephesians 4:32.
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I am reading, actually,
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the parallel passage; the parallel verse
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to the 2nd of the 3 that Craig read
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in the first hour.
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If you're not already aware,
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Ephesians and Colossians
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obviously are not identical books.
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And there's aspects to them
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that are not parallel,
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but there is a great parallelism
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between the two.
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Some of the same thoughts
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and same ideas are communicated
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in both of them.
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"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted,
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forgiving one another as God in Christ
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forgave you."
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Now when Craig read it,
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we weren't conspiring
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about what we were going to preach today.
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When he read the three verses that he read
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I thought, oh no, Craig,
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don't deal with forgiveness.
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And he even mentioned Denton I think,
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and I thought, oh no,
where's he going with that?
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What did you say about Denton?
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Oh, Jesse's - yeah, when
you mentioned that
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I thought, oh no! He's
going to talk about -
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not Jesse's but somebody else's.
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Forgiveness.
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As many of you are aware,
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the topic of forgiveness came up
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at this year's Fellowship Conference
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in Denton, Texas.
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And it not only came up,
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but if you were there,
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such things happened at the conference
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that have not happened in others.
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We had a pastoral response immediately
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to a sermon that was given.
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And I know there was disagreement.
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If you weren't there,
it pertained to forgiveness.
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There was lots of discussion.
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There's been discussion even here.
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I almost just went back
to my Ephesians study
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and got away from this,
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but last time two weeks
ago when I preached,
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there were some folks that were saying
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we thought you were going
to touch on forgiveness.
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And I think James even
said something to me
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and I thought, well, okay,
maybe I should do that.
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I had some people say they were confused.
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I had some people that said,
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well, they heard the message
and they weren't confused,
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and then they heard the two
pastors that responded afterwards
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and they were confused.
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And it seemed like there
was a measure of confusion,
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and if there's anything that
I don't want to have happen,
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I don't want there to be any confusion
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on the subject in our church.
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So that's I wanted to visit it again.
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Maybe you listened to all that
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and you said we don't even
know what the big deal was.
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Maybe you listened to it
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and you heard exactly
what the big deal was
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and maybe you came down
on one side or the other.
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Look, quite honestly,
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I am not the guy who's out
there on the Internet
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just looking for a debate,
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looking for something I disagree with
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that I can just engage in.
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I'm not doing this just simply
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to throw my opinion in
to an ongoing debate.
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That's not it.
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And I have no desire
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to have anybody ask me
about the opinions of others,
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or what brother so-and-so meant,
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or why did he say this,
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or why did the other
pastor respond this way?
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I was down in Monterrey one time
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and in a Q&A time, somebody said,
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"Could you explain how
Charles Leiter's position
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differs from Josef Urban's
position in this?"
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And it's like, "No, I can't do that."
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I'm not going to speak for other men.
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And I don't want to do that.
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And I don't want to be in the position
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of trying to tell you what different men
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mean by what they said.
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That's not my objective here.
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What I want to do is simply
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have us look at Scripture
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and my aim is pastoral.
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I'm concerned that we as a church
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not be confused about the nature
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of biblical forgiveness.
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So I'll get right to the point.
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Here in Ephesians,
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the Apostle Paul exhorts Christians -
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you see it.
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Look at verse 32:
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"Forgiving one another..."
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And here's the big term: "as."
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And all your Bibles have it.
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"...As God in Christ forgave you."
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Now some take this verse to mean this:
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Well, since we are to
forgive as God forgives,
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let's think, hm, how does God forgive?
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Well, since God never forgives anybody
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unless they repent,
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therefore that's what it means
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by "forgiving as God forgives."
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That I will not forgive anybody,
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or I should not forgive anybody,
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unless they repent.
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That's basically how the logic goes.
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And if in fact we were to
forgive the unrepentant,
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we're not forgiving as God forgives,
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because God doesn't forgive
unless there's repentance.
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Now, at first glance,
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that might sound like
tremendous reasoning.
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It might sound reasonable.
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It might sound like good logic.
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But I would propose this to you.
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That is a forcing a meaning here
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that is not to be found in the context.
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And one of the things that I fear
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happened at the conference
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is this text was brought
out of its context
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and a point that the preacher
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was already determined to make,
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he found in this text
and he made it with it
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because it kind of lent itself to it.
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The problem is that taken in context,
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I don't believe it bears
that meaning at all.
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And so that's what I want to do.
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Brethren, this has to do
with proper hermeneutics.
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If you are going to interpret a verse,
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don't take the verse by itself.
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You can come up with a lot of meanings
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for certain verses
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if you wrench it out of its context.
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But if you read the material around it,
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if you get a feel, especially if you
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read the whole epistle,
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and you just get the feeling -
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what does Paul have in mind here?
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In this case, I don't believe we have to
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read the whole epistle at all.
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All we have to do is go back up to v. 17
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and start to capture the feel
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of the argument that Paul is making here.
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Now, before we go back up
to v. 17 and begin reading,
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I want to suggest another meaning.
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Yes, it means what it says.
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We are to forgive one another
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as God forgives us,
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but when Paul says that we're
to forgive one another
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as God forgives us,
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the meaning is not
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that we're only supposed to forgive
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those who repent.
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Rather, the meaning is
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that I am to freely bestow my forgiveness
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to those who do not deserve it,
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just like God bestows His forgiveness
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to those who do not deserve it.
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That's the issue.
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And I'll prove that to
you from the context.
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My point is this:
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Paul isn't even dealing with
the terms of forgiveness.
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Like: The person I'm forgiving,
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do they need to have repented or not?
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He's not dealing with the terms.
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He's dealing with the heart.
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He's dealing with the individual.
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He's not even concerned about
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whether the other person is repentant
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or non-repentant -
that's not the issue here.
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And I hope to convince you.
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The idea that Paul is teaching here
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that God only forgives those who repent,
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so we're only to forgive
those who repent -
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that seems to miss the
whole point of the passage.
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Now, let's look at it.
Ephesians 4:17,
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"For this I say and testify in the Lord
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that you must no longer
walk as the Gentiles do."
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Now, you probably should stop right there
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because that's the context.
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The context is:
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Gentile conduct versus the conduct
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of those who have learned of Christ.
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Old man conduct versus new man conduct.
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Listen, the problem with the Gentiles
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is not that they indiscriminately
forgive everybody.
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Over against, contrasted
with the Christian
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who properly does it just like God does
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and only forgives those who repent.
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See, that's not the
problem of the Gentile.
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The Gentile problem is not
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that they forgive everybody;
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that they forgive even
people that aren't repentant.
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That's not even the thought here.
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"We must no longer walk
as the Gentiles do..."
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How do they walk?
"...In the futility of their minds,
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they're darknened in their understanding,
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they're alienated from the life of God."
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That's the issue.
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You know, the new man is created
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in the likeness of God.
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The old man, the lost man, the Gentile -
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totally disconnected from God
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"because of the ignorance that is in them
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due to their hardness of heart.
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They have become calloused
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and have given themselves
up to sensuality,
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greedy to practice
every kind of impurity."
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But notice this - here's the contrast.
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"But that is not the
way you learned Christ."
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I love that. I can't
wait till we get to that.
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Because that is Paul looking at
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what is it that makes a true Christian
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who is no longer a Gentile?
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He's looked at Christ
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and he's learned of Christ.
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And you can tell.
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Paul means that if you've learned Him,
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your conduct, your action, your behavior,
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your character is stamped by that image.
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Now, he says this:
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v. 21, "...assuming that
you have heard about Him."
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He doesn't look at everybody
that's listening to him
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and think, oh yeah,
they've got to be Christians
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because they're sitting in the church
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or because they're hearing
this epistle read to them.
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He says, of course, assuming
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that you did hear about Him
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"...and were taught in Him
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as the truth is in Jesus."
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And what is this truth in Jesus?
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"To put off your old man."
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I know the ESV says "self."
The word is "man."
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The old man.
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The old you.
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"...Which belongs to your
former manner of life
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and is corrupt through deceitful desires."
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And to be received, or renewed,
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"...in the spirit of your minds."
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So you see that, a renewing of the mind.
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You put off the old man.
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You see this comparsion.
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Gentile - you learn Christ.
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New man over against old man.
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The mind.
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V. 24, "to put on the new self
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created after the likeness of God
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in true righteousness and holiness."
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What's Paul's point here?
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Look, you cannot possibly continue to live
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the old kind of life.
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That's what he's saying.
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Not if you've learned Christ - you can't.
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It's not possible. Not if
you've really learned Christ,
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and you really do know
the truth as it is in Jesus.
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That's what he's saying.
It's an impossibility.
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This is not the way you've learned Christ.
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Assuming you have.
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That's the issue.
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You're no longer what you once were.
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You're a new man.
You're not the old man -
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carried about by all
those deceitful passions.
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This is the comparison here.
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This is the back and forth.
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So what happens?
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Well, you put off the old man.
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You put on the new.
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You know what happens in v. 25?
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In v. 25, Paul begins to touch
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specific realities.
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He begins to touch on specifics.
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Notice this, v. 25,
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"Put away falsehood."
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You see, he generally says
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you put away the old man.
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You put it off. You put on the new.
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In v. 25, what he does is he breaks out
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in some very particulars
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about how that manifests
itself in real life.
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And you see the contrast here
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back and forth.
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You have "put away falsehood."
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So what do you put on?
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Well, "let each of you speak
the truth with his neighbor."
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And we could pull stuff out,
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but it's very obvious in verses like 25.
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V. 28, "Let the thief no longer steal."
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That's what you put off.
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But what do you put on?
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You labor, but not only labor,
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you do honest work with your hands.
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But not only that,
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so that you might have something to give.
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You see, the old manner of life -
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the new manner of life.
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There's these contrasts
going back and forth.
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Well, the reality is, v. 31 and 32
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are a contrast.
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And you need to capture that.
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Because if you capture the contrast
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of these two verses,
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you recognize right away,
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Paul is not contrasting Gentiles
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who indiscriminately forgive everybody,
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and saying, "oh no, we shouldn't do that.
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You need to put that off.
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And you need to put on forgiving people
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the way God forgives,
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and He only forgives the repentant."
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That's not even here, folks.
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Look at the contrast.
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"Let all bitterness and wrath and anger
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and clamor and slander be put away."
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You see again: put away, put away.
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What is it that we put off?
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"...Along with all malice."
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And then what do we put on?
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Kindness: "Be kind to one another,
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tenderhearted, forgiving one another
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as God in Christ forgave you."
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Do you see it?
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The "put away."
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You know how contrast works?
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You have opposites.
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And the opposite of
kind, tender, forgiving,
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is not undiscerning
and forgiving everybody.
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The opposite is being bitter
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and not forgiving at all.
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That's the issue.
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Angry, wrathful, clamorous, slanderous.
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Paul isn't even thinking
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about the person who offends me
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and whether they've repented or not.
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That's not even on his radar.
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The conduct of that person -
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he isn't thinking that.
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Paul is concerned that we put on
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an expression of the conduct of those
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who are new men - no longer Gentiles.
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The expression of those
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who have learned of Christ.
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What he's concerned with is the new man
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that's in the likeness of God.
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And what is God like?
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God is a forgiving God.
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God is rich in mercy.
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We read that here in this epistle.
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"Rich in mercy because of the great love
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with which He loved us."
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Mercy, grace.
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And the thing is,
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we don't deserve any of it.
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And yet He freely bestowed -
yes, we repented,
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but that's not the issue.
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The issue is you didn't
deserve any of it at all.
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That's the issue.
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Notice, the companions here.
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It's not that he's pointing out:
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you need to be discerning
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as to who's repented or not.
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That isn't the companions
of forgiveness here.
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The companions are kindness
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and tenderheartedness.
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Do you see what the issue is?
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He's not concerned about the conditions.
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He's not concerned about the shape
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of the person that has offended us.
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He's concerned about
what's coming out of us.
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He's concerned about what that looks like.
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Kindness, tenderheartedness.
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These are the companions of forgiveness.
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Just as the companion
of bitterness is what?
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It's wrath.
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It's anger. It's being hateful.
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It's being unforgiving.
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Bitterness.
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What is bitterness?
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You know bitter people -
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doesn't the word "sour"?
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Just sour people.
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They're bitter.
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They're unloving. They're unkind.
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They never find good in anything.
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They just seem to relish holding a grudge.
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I mean, sometimes it's amazing,
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you sit down with some people,
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and they will bring up
something from the past -
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it could have happened years ago -
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like it happened yesterday.
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Just not forgiving, never forgetting.
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And then slanderous.
That's a companion there too.
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Because they just can't
speak well of people.
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That's the idea.
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But that's not the way
we've learned Christ.
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This is what it is to still walk
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as the Gentiles do
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in all that bitterness and ugliness.
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You see, that's what
it is to be the old man.
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When Paul's unwrapping all of this,
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he's not even interested in the terms
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of repentance.
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He's interested in a God-likeness
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being reflected by us.
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A tenderness, a kindness,
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a disposition to forgive.
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The renewing of the mind -
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we saw that there - verse 23.
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"Be renewed in the spirit of your minds."
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You see, is this not the issue
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behind forgiveness?
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It's that there's a change in the mind.
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And we might go over there -
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we're not going to take
the time right now -
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but we might go to that extended parable
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there in Matthew 18
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because it just gives such the mindset.
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What happens?
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I'm saved! I freely forgive!
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Why?
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Well, yes, I'm changed.
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Yes, I'm a new man.
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Yes, I'm no longer a Gentile.
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But I'm renewed in the spirit of my mind.
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In my mind!
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Something has happened in my thinking.
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Look, it's not that I don't realize
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that there are people who have
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sinned against me or offended me.
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But you know what you begin to realize?
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I've offended other people
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and I've sinned against other people,
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but more than that,
I have sinned against God
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and I have done such things
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to despise His glory.
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I realize how kind He's been to me
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when I did not deserve it,
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and to be gripped by the fact
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of what God has done for
you if you're a Christian!
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I mean, that's the thing.
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How can you hold a grudge?
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How can you be bitter
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when all you have to do
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is look at yourself in the mirror
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and recognize...
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you know, just start to list your crimes
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and imagine people that have done
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half your crimes
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and they've been in hell...
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You've sinned against light
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that people back killed in the flood,
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they never had.
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And if it's going to be more tolerable
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for people in Sodom and Gomorrah
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than for people in this
age who've heard that,
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you know what it tells me?
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It tells me that there are people
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who died in that flood
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that are far less guilty because
they had far less light than you.
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They've been in hell for millennia
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suffering, weeping, wailing - and justly,
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because their crimes demanded it.
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You look at God.
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Remember back to chapter 2.
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"While you were still dead
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in your trespasses," what happened?
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God had mercy because of His great love
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with which He loved you.
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He made you alive in Christ
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even when you were
dead in your trespasses.
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Remember what God did for you
when you were unrepentant.
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What happened?
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When you were yet sinners,
Christ died for you.
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Unrepentant - before your repentance.
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Remember, God grants repentance
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to the Gentiles.
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Have you ever read that?
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Just think about how God is moving,
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what God is doing.
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We love Him because He first loved us.
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You just have to stop sometimes and think.
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Be blown away by what God has done for you
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because if you have that change of mind;
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if that goes on;
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if that's the renewing of mind
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where you're grateful and you're thankful,
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how can you look at somebody else
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who's committed so much less?
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Isn't that the parable
there in Matthew 18?
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My debt was huge!
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It makes it really difficult.
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That's the issue in all of this.
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All the undeserved love and sacrifice -
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He spared not His only Son!
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When you get gripped by this reality
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you're suddenly freed from
the power of bitterness.
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You show me a bitter Christian,
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a bitter and unforgiving Christian,
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and I'm going to show you somebody
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that is deceived.
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They're not a Christian.
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I can say that on biblical grounds.
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They're not a Christian.
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You see, it's in this way
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that God just sets us free
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to be kind to those who don't deserve.
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Do you recognize this?
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When somebody sins against you,
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that sin is a capital offense before God.
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They don't deserve to be pardoned.
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They deserve to be damned.
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But when you forgive them,
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you're being God-like.
-
That's the issue. That's the issue.
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It's not terms of forgiveness.
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It's the fact that you're forgiving those
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who don't deserve your forgiveness.
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You're pardoning those
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who don't in any way deserve it.
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Just like you didn't deserve it.
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See, that's the issue.
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That's what we really need to focus on.
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You get people - I know there are people
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who have been horribly wounded by others.
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But we're able to forgive those things.
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They don't deserve to be forgiven.
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Why? Because God has forgiven you.
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He's forgiven me.
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Paul doesn't even remotely have in mind
-
terms of forgiveness.
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That's not it.
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This is all about your attitude,
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about your disposition as a new man
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forgiving out of love, kindness,
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tenderness towards others.
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So, okay, you might say,
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okay, brother, we see that.
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That is the contrast.
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Contrasts are opposites.
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The opposite to forgiving as God forgives
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is bitterness.
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It's wrath, it's anger,
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it's obviously unforgiveness.
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That's the issue.
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The opposite Paul was bringing out
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is not: you're not of a discerning spirit
-
and you need to figure out
who's repentant and who's not
-
and only forgive the repentant.
-
That's not the issue.
-
But you say, okay, even if Ephesians 4:32
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isn't specifically saying that,
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you haven't really proven that
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that nevertheless is the case
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because maybe it's taught somewhere else.
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And I would say, that's right.
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That's right, but because this
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is a foundational text to
holding that position,
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I wanted to show you that
-
that's not what it's teaching.
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But here's what I want to show you next.
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If you possess this heart of the new man,
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this God-likeness,
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true righteousness and holiness,
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if this characterizes you,
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you're one who's learned of Christ.
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That is going to manifest itself
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in at least three ways
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that I want to show you from Scripture,
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that I think just destroys
this whole mindset.
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The first one, brethren, is 1 Peter 4:8.
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And you need to turn there,
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and you need to see this.
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"Love covers a multitude of sin."
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You know, if you look
at the text in Scripture
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like Craig looked at this morning,
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that give like this "above all,"
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or, you've got that word here.
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Love.
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There's lots of Scriptures
in the New Testament -
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this is the pinnacle; this is the sum
-
of what it means to reflect Christ.
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"Above all, keep loving
one another earnestly
-
since love covers a multitude of sins."
-
Now, if you take that text -
-
before I say what I'm going to say -
-
let me just point something out.
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The word "cover" - that
is a synonym for forgive.
-
If you say, hey, I'm not buying it.
-
The word forgive isn't here.
-
I don't think "cover"
means the same thing.
-
What does "cover" mean?
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Cover basically means to hide or to bury.
-
And Scripture definitely uses
-
these two terms side by side
-
to express the forgiveness of sins.
-
And we can look at different places,
-
but the classic text would be this one.
-
You don't need to turn
there, but listen to it.
-
Psalm 32:1,
-
"Blessed is the one
-
whose transgression is forgiven,
-
whose sin is covered."
-
That is a Hebrew parallelism
-
where you basically have the same thing
-
stated back-to-back in different terms.
-
Covering sin is the same
thing as forgiving sin.
-
Covering sin is at the
heart of what it means.
-
It's the essence of what forgiveness is.
-
It's to cover it over.
-
It's to bury it. It's to hide it.
-
That's the idea.
-
What I want to show you is this,
-
"Above all, keep loving
one another earnestly."
-
And you see, here's the thing.
-
Here's what Peter sees.
-
As the love increases,
-
that church's ability
to cover sin increases.
-
Earnestly. Be earnest. Why?
-
Because where there's much love,
-
there's much covering.
-
Where there's lovelessness,
-
people become suspicious,
-
they become critical,
-
there's criticism.
-
They put the worst spin on things.
-
That's what happens.
-
And it's like, if for no other reason,
-
Peter goes right to this point that love
-
is going to produce that kind of fruit.
-
It's going to produce that kind of
-
looking past small offenses
-
and maybe even some larger ones.
-
Lovelessness. Lovelessness.
-
What happens then?
People are easily provoked.
-
You know, we talk about
being thin-skinned.
-
Thin-skinned churches
-
where people - it takes very little
-
to provoke somebody.
-
They're always easily offended.
-
Always magnifying the wrongs
-
committed against us.
-
But love...
-
Where love abounds,
-
love is going to look past.
-
Love is going to cover over.
-
Love covers a multitude of sins.
-
Many of the small and even
some of the larger ones,
-
they're readily overlooked.
-
They're readily forgotten.
-
The New American Standard -
-
Craig quoted this earlier -
-
but 1 Corinthians 13:5 (don't turn there),
-
but the New American
Standard says it this way:
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"Love does not take into account
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a wrong suffered."
-
The ESV says "resentful."
-
The old King James says,
"thinketh no evil."
-
But it's the idea of imputing evil.
-
You see, where there's no love,
-
people read things as evil.
-
They put that spin on it.
-
"Oh, you know why they did that."
-
"I'm offended."
-
There's always this suspicion,
-
looking at people through those lenses.
-
But where love is there,
-
it's like I love that brother.
-
And it's like John MacArthur says.
-
He just views people based on
-
what they're going to become
-
and what they'll be in Heaven.
-
That helps him.
-
Now look, I know that there's
-
two classic exceptions to this.
-
There's two places in Scripture
-
that clearly indicate
-
that it's impossible to
give a full expression
-
of forgiveness unless there is a full,
-
two-way transaction
-
in the forgiveness process.
-
And it's those cases spelled out
-
in Luke 17 and Matthew 18.
-
Now again, don't turn there please.
-
But it's those texts that basically,
-
and here's the thing,
-
if you look at Luke 17.
-
Let me read it to you. Don't turn there.
-
Luke 17 says this,
"Pay attention to yourselves.
-
If your brother sins, rebuke him.
-
If he repents..." there's repentance.
-
"If he repents..." that's conditional.
-
"...forgive him.
-
If he sins against you
seven times in the day,
-
turns to you seven
times saying, 'I repent,'
-
you must forgive him."
-
Now, the interesting thing is if you
-
look at the context of that,
-
that is basically Luke's account
-
of what you find in Matthew 18
-
where you get the fuller expression.
-
"If your brother sins against you,
-
go and tell him his fault
-
between you and him alone.
-
If he listens to you..."
-
Now, the word repentance isn't used there,
-
but if he listens to you -
it's the same idea.
-
"...You've gained your brother,
-
but if he does not listen..."
and it goes on.
-
So obviously there repentance is mandatory
-
or you actually put the
person out of the church.
-
But here's the thing,
-
that approach is clearly
-
from what Peter is teaching us
-
not the way to deal with everything.
-
There are times when forgiveness
-
should be the unconditional
response of love.
-
That is what Peter is teaching us.
-
Are there times when something
is aggravated enough
-
or are there times when somebody's
sin is hurting other people
-
and we need, out of love for them,
-
out of love for the whole church,
-
out of the love for the church
-
and not allowing leaven to
leaven the whole lump,
-
are there times when love demands
-
that we do pursue the sin? Absolutely.
-
Are there times that love demands
-
that we do pursue repentance? Absolutely.
-
But what Peter is teaching us
-
is that love will often
-
manifest itself exactly like this
-
where forgiveness is rendered to people
-
as an unconditional response of love.
-
Which is much to say that there are
-
many times where we are
going to deal with sin
-
simply by covering it over
-
and sweeping it under the rug.
-
That's what he's teaching.
-
You say, "(Gasp!) We can't do that!"
-
That's not the way God does it.
-
Well see, if you put that
meaning on forgiveness
-
then you come to that conclusion.
-
But again, I want to emphasize,
-
the heart of this is kindness
-
and it's tenderness.
-
And when you have a church
-
full of those kinds of people...
-
let me just ask you.
-
How do you want to be treated?
-
Do you want to be in a church
-
where every single offense,
-
somebody's right there?
-
That's grounds for confrontation!
-
Matthew 18! Did you see him?
-
He didn't say hi! Confront him!
-
He wasn't loving!
-
That wasn't loving!
-
He wasn't smiling!
-
Have you ever been around people
-
that want to attack you for everything?
-
You don't want to be
in a church like that.
-
(incomplete thought)
-
You know what it is to be around people
-
that are kind and tenderhearted
-
and how they deal with your rough edges
-
and inconsiderateness and impoliteness
-
and immaturities and the too often,
-
frequent, petty infractions... right?
-
We're not a perfect people.
-
And we come in here with
all of our rough edges.
-
Do you want somebody right there?
-
"Matthew 18! Matthew 18! I saw it!"
-
No, you don't want to be in that.
-
But you do want to be in a church
-
where if sin has a grip on you in a way
-
that's harming the church or harming you,
-
you want somebody to deal with it.
-
If it's the kind of leaven
-
that's really destructive to the church,
-
then out of love for all the church,
-
we definitely want to deal with it.
-
You know, there's just a feel.
-
Like Paul said to the Corinthians.
-
I think it has somewhat
of the feel of this.
-
You had Christians that
were suing each other.
-
And he said it's better to be wronged.
-
In other words, you would do better
-
to drop the court case
against your brother.
-
Just accept being wronged. Let it go.
-
Forgive and go on your way.
-
Better to be defrauded
than do what you're doing.
-
I think that has something
of the spirit of that.
-
So that's the first thing.
-
Brethren, you can't get away from it.
-
You cannot get away from it
-
that Peter is teaching
-
that there are many sins
-
that love covers without any condition
-
on the part of the offender.
-
That is the reality.
-
He sees the church, in fact,
-
the higher the love is,
-
the more we are going to
-
unilaterally, unconditionally,
-
without requiring
repentance of the individual
-
going to sweep it under the rug.
-
That's what he sees and that's why
-
he wants that kind of fervent love here.
-
He's not looking for a holy church.
-
That's not the issue.
-
The issue is kindness,
-
tenderness, forgiving.
-
That is entirely the opposite of unholy.
-
But here's the next thing.
-
Here's the next thing
-
that the spirit that Paul
is wanting us to reflect
-
of the new man,
-
here's another way
that it manifests itself.
-
It manifests itself in our prayer life.
-
Every place where Jesus talks
-
about forgiving when we pray -
-
unconditional.
-
And I want you to see it.
-
First one, Sermon on the Mount.
-
Go to Matthew 6.
-
I do want you to turn to these.
-
Here is another
manifestation of the new man
-
who's robed with kindness
-
and tenderness and forgiveness.
-
His prayer life is a constant witness
-
to his forgiving spirit.
-
If you don't know about this,
-
I want to challenge you.
-
Obviously, Jesus is not giving us
-
in any of these accounts
-
an exact formula for how we should pray.
-
When He says, "pray like this:
-
Our Father Who art in Heaven,
-
hallowed be Thy name..."
-
He certainly isn't saying that you
-
need to articulate that verbatim.
-
When He says pray like this,
-
He's meaning capture the essence
-
of His prayer.
-
Those should be areas of emphasis
-
in your own prayer life.
-
Matthew 6:9,
-
"Pray then like this,
-
'Our Father in Heaven,
hallowed be Your name.
-
Your kingdom come,
Your will be done
-
on earth as it is in Heaven.
-
Give us this day our daily bread...'"
-
Now notice this.
-
It doesn't speak of transgressions.
-
It doesn't speak of sins specifically,
-
but the idea here is our debts.
-
"Forgive us our debts
-
as we also have forgiven our debtors."
-
Now if you define a debtor,
-
what is a debtor?
-
Somebody who owes you something.
-
They owe.
-
That's the idea behind a debtor.
-
The idea here is you have debtors,
-
which means what?
-
When somebody sins against you,
-
they owe you something.
-
That's the issue of hell.
-
You see, this is the problem with sin.
-
We incur a debt with God
-
that we just simply can't pay.
-
And Jesus paid it. All of it.
-
But here's the idea,
-
this says "our debtors."
-
There's no distinguishing
-
or delineating between
-
the debtor who repents
-
and the debtor who doesn't repent.
-
None of that.
-
"Lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil."
-
V. 14, "For if you forgive
others their trespasses,
-
your heavenly Father
will also forgive you.
-
But if you do not forgive
others their trespasses,
-
neither will your Father
forgive your trespasses."
-
Nothing to do with whether
they've repented or not.
-
I want you to see this
again in Mark's Gospel.
-
Mark 11:25.
-
Because Mark and Luke bring this out
-
in especially helpful terms.
-
Mark and Luke.
-
Mark 11:25,
-
"Whenever you stand praying, forgive
-
if you have anything against anyone."
-
What are you going to say about that?
-
That is entirely inclusive.
-
There's no exceptions there.
-
"So that your Father
also who is in Heaven
-
may forgive you your trespasses."
-
Now go over to Luke 11.
-
Because we see it again.
-
And again we have this superlative.
-
I mean, just a word
that's all-encompassing.
-
It's big. It's vast.
-
Luke 11:2, "He said to them,
-
when you pray, say,
-
'Father, hallowed be Your name,
-
Your kindgom come.
-
Give us each day our daily bread
-
and forgive us our sins,
-
for we ourselves forgive
-
everyone who is indebted to us,
-
and lead us not into temptation...'"
-
Here's the thing.
-
Here's the thing about the new man
-
who's put on Christ;
-
who's being transformed more and more
-
into the likeness of God.
-
True righteousness. True holiness.
-
He is able to go before God in prayer,
-
and you can see, Jesus wants us
-
talking to God about forgiveness.
-
Now isn't that interesting?
-
Let's just stop right there.
-
Why?
-
This is how a Christian is to pray.
-
Why should I be asking
God for forgiveness?
-
Let me ask you this.
-
Do you believe in the doctrine
of justification by faith?
-
Do you believe that the day
that you first genuinely believed
-
that all your sins were washed away?
-
Then why are you still
praying for forgiveness?
-
However you answer that question,
-
let me ask you something.
-
Has God already forgiven
you before you repent?
-
I'm hoping so!
-
You see, the argument even
-
concerning God and how He forgives sin
-
doesn't really stand
-
because there's a myriad of examples
-
of God forgiving sinners of their sin
-
before that sin was even committed.
-
I mean, if we really believe
-
in the doctrine of justification by faith,
-
and we really believe that all
of our sins are pardoned,
-
at a previous time we're
declared righteous
-
in the courtroom of God -
-
and yet, Jesus is teaching us
-
as Christians we should still be
-
confessing our sins.
-
That's part of being a Christian.
-
Why? Well, if we do sin,
-
we have an Advocate with the Father,
-
Jesus Christ the Righteous.
-
If we confess our sins, He's
faithful and just to forgive them.
-
There is no question that in
our relationship with God
-
in an ongoing fashion,
-
there's a place for bearing our souls
-
and confessing our sins to God.
-
What Jesus is teaching us
-
is when you do,
-
you should specifically refer
-
to how you forgive other people.
-
Isn't that clear from all of these texts?
-
He wants us mindful of that.
-
The reality is that the new man
-
who's convinced that God has saved him
-
of all these sins that he didn't
deserve to be forgiven of,
-
he can go before God in his prayer life
-
and he can look up
-
and he can lookinto the very face of God,
-
and he can say, "Father, forgive me,
-
because I know I haven't been perfect.
-
I know I haven't,
-
but forgive me as I forgive others."
-
And not just a put on like
Craig was talking about.
-
This isn't just something you say.
-
This isn't just lip service.
-
This isn't some hypocritical statement
-
that you lift up to God
and there's no reality in it.
-
You don't say it unless you mean it.
-
Which means, you ought
to be able to do inventory
-
every time you pray.
-
And ask yourself is there anybody -
-
do you do that?
-
I find that absolutely necessary.
-
I want a clear way to the Lord.
-
And it's like I can't go to the Lord
-
if there's something on my conscience.
-
I consider that to be a prayer-stopper.
-
It's more serious than that.
-
You can tell from these texts.
-
But I consider that to be a prayer-stopper
-
if there's any kind of bitterness,
-
any kind of separation.
-
If I feel like I know
somebody in the church
-
has this thing against me
-
and I have not yet tried to resolve that -
-
it's one thing if you try to resolve it
-
and as much as possible,
-
you're seeking to be
at peace with all men
-
and you've done what's
possible in your power.
-
There's some things that
no matter how hard you try...
-
but we ought to be able to say that.
-
Even people who have never repented.
-
It's like, Lord, I have forgiven them.
-
I'm not holding anything.
-
I don't know of any grudge
that I have against anybody.
-
There's no bitterness.
-
You want that!
-
That's clearly what Jesus is saying.
-
Your prayer life.
-
And you can see,
-
there's not a word here
-
in any of these verses about repentance.
-
It's not the issue.
-
Forgiveness here - it doesn't come in.
-
The man who knows that he's forgiven
-
only in and through the
shed blood of Jesus Christ,
-
he's a man who's constrained
to forgive others.
-
It really should be easy.
-
I mean, I'm telling you,
-
if I had some four billion
dollar debt with the bank,
-
and they forgave it,
-
and then somebody that owes me $40
-
comes and says they can't pay,
-
it's like seriously? Am I going
to have the guy strung up?
-
It's like God has forgiven me for so much!
-
Don't worry about it, brother!
-
But it's debt. And we feel it different.
-
We feel it more than just
financial because it's personal,
-
and it's insult, and it's offensive
-
because we're talking about sins;
-
we're talking about people wrong us.
-
Just having a debt against us
-
isn't necessarily wrong.
-
Maybe not being able to pay it,
-
there's some wrongness in that,
-
so we can take it personally.
-
But we don't have to take it personally
-
because God hasn't taken it so personally
-
that He's cast us into hell.
-
He so loved the world
-
that He put His own Son on that cross
-
and He allowed Him to
suffer what He suffered.
-
He crushed Him under His wrath.
-
He put that cup to His lips.
-
He poured His soul out like water.
-
And what are we going to do?
-
Look at this Son of God -
-
(incomplete thought)
-
among the sons of men -
-
here you've got John the Baptist,
-
and Jesus says the things
He says about him,
-
and he says I'm not worthy to touch
-
the latchet on his sandal.
-
We have One worth that much
-
and God did not spare Him,
but gave Him up for us,
-
who were what? Useless, worthless,
-
weak, wretched, hell-deserving.
-
We were children of wrath
like the rest of mankind.
-
And we're going to look at that
-
and after everything that
God has done for us?
-
In our prayer, there ought to be
-
such gratitude and thankfulness
-
and a realization - this is
the renewing of the mind.
-
Not always going before God
-
where you feel insulted,
-
like I haven't gotten
out of life what I deserve.
-
God, give me, give me, give me!
-
(Incomplete thought)
-
When you go before the Lord
-
and there's gratitude, like,
-
"Lord, I cannot believe You saved me."
-
It's really hard to look at somebody else
-
and say, "I'm not forgiving you."
-
I'm going to harbor this grudge,
-
so just deal with it.
-
So our prayer life,
-
clearly this prayer life,
-
there's no aspect here
-
of whether they've repented or not.
-
The prayer life is it should be one
-
where it's all covered; it's all released.
-
I'm not harboring it.
-
Yes, I know that some individuals
-
may need to repent in order
-
for there to be reconciliation
-
and for relationships to be restored
-
the way that would be best.
-
But that isn't the issue.
-
And the last one that I
want to bring up here is this:
-
Paul specifically mentions
-
learning Jesus.
-
Assuming that you have heard of Him
-
and have been taught the truth
-
as it is in Jesus.
-
But he assumes that
we've learned of Christ.
-
Brethren, we do not want to minimize
-
or dismiss or explain away
-
our Lord Jesus Christ on that cross
-
saying "Father, forgive them,
-
for they know not what they do."
-
If you look at that,
-
and you tear that apart
-
to where He was praying
for their forgiveness,
-
but it doesn't say Jesus forgave them -
-
if you want to try to
make that distinction,
-
I think you are trying to separate
-
what God never meant to be separated.
-
Let's look at that. Luke 23:33.
-
Have you learned Christ?
-
Here's the classroom.
-
Let us come and sit at His feet and learn.
-
The new man is a man who's learned Christ.
-
Let us learn.
-
Luke 23:33.
-
"When they came to the
place that is called the Skull,
-
there they crucified Him
and the criminals,
-
one on His right hand
and one on His left.
-
And Jesus said, 'Father, forgive them,
-
for they know not what they do.'"
-
Now, here's one thing we know for a fact.
-
They're crucifying Him -
-
no evidence that they've repented.
-
No evidence of that at all.
-
There's no reason to assume it.
-
Who is He speaking about?
-
Probably both Jews and Romans.
-
They're both killing Him.
-
(Incomplete thought)
-
Jesus specifically said to Pilate,
-
(the Jews) crime, their sin is greater,
-
but He wasn't saying therefore
-
you have no crime in this.
-
He's praying for them.
-
"Father, forgive them,
-
for they know not what they do."
-
I say this again.
-
We dare not try to explain this away
-
by saying that there's
no actual forgiveness
-
taking place in this text.
-
Or, that Jesus is only praying
for their forgiveness,
-
but since no repentance has taken place,
-
there's no forgiveness of any sort here.
-
Now look, I recognize they need to repent
-
if His Father is going to forgive them.
-
But I'm not talking about what God does,
-
I'm talking about the
heart of Christ in this.
-
That's the issue.
-
Answer me this.
-
What is forgiveness?
-
Forgiveness means -
-
you can look it up in your lexicons -
-
it means to let go.
-
That's good right?
-
Even if we're talking about a debt.
-
You let go.
-
We could use "cover."
-
That's good imagery as well.
-
It means to let go.
-
Jesus - notice - has He let go?
-
Is He bitter? Wrathful?
-
Angry? Clamorous? Slanderous?
-
All those things that Paul was describing?
-
Or has He let go?
-
Jesus unconditionally is showing them
-
kindness and tenderness here.
-
He's let go.
-
If this isn't forgiveness,
-
how else would you define it?
-
I mean, the attitude -
-
because that's what
Paul's concerned about.
-
It's the attitude.
-
It's the kind attitude.
-
It's the tender attitude.
-
It's the God-like attitude
-
of not holding our crimes against us
-
and forgiving us when we don't deserve it.
-
Is that not what's
flowing from Christ here?
-
Kindness and tenderness.
-
What did they deserve?
-
They're killing the Son of God!
-
One of the greatest crimes ever committed.
-
He's not holding on to it.
-
There's no grudge. There's no bitterness.
-
He's let go.
-
You can call that, you can define that
-
by whatever terminology you want,
-
but you need to learn of Christ.
-
Put the term on it you want,
-
but that's the spirit of the new man.
-
And you see it.
-
You see it projected right onto Stephen.
-
Acts 7:58 - just one last place
-
I want you to turn.
-
Acts 7:58.
-
Because here comes a disciple of Christ.
-
The martyr Stephen.
-
And we know -
-
we know that the Spirit
that was so pervasive
-
in the life of Christ
-
is shining forth from Stephen as well.
-
In Acts 7:58, "then they cast him
-
out of the city and stoned him."
-
You should probably think about stoning
-
before you just read over it too quickly.
-
In fact, probably if you
looked on YouTube,
-
I imagine with everything out there today
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you can probably find pictures,
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because there's enough women usually
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who have been stoned in the Middle East.
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"The witnesses laid down their garments
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at the feet of a young man named Saul,
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and as they were stoning Stephen,
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he called out..."
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You imagine - a rock hits you.
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I mean, bang - concussion.
Bang - your teeth are out.
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Bang - your rib is broken.
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And what's happening?
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He's not just covering up
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and thinking about defending himself.
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"'Lord Jesus, receive my spirit,'
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falling to his knees, he cried out
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with a loud voice,
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'Lord, do not hold this
sin against them.'"
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There's the spirit of it.
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Stephen's prayers for
those who stoned him.
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Another example. Example of what?
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They're not repenting -
they're killing him.
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Obviously there's no repentance.
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But the issue is this,
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unilateral - you know what that means?
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That's the opposite of bilateral -
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well, not the opposite,
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because you could have trilateral.
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But it's the idea of: all by yourself.
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Unconditional.
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You're not requiring anything of them.
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You just unilaterally,
unconditionally let it go.
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You're forgiving them.
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The fact that Stephen
prayed for God's mercy
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on his murderers shows
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that he has already forgiven them.
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Now it's true, God's forgiveness
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is not going to be granted to them
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apart from their repentance.
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That is absolutely true.
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But Stephen himself - what has he done?
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He's already made a deliberate,
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conscious choice to relinquish
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his right to vengeance,
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to retribution.
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He's let it go.
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He's forgiven them from his heart.
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Again, if you don't
like the term forgiveness,
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what in the world is forgiveness
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if it's not that?
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That's what we want in the church.
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That's the kind of reaction
to people that we want.
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If somebody had suffered such things
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as Christ and Stephen have suffered
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and they came into this church
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and yet they were manifesting
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tenderness and kindness
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and a willingness to
let go like these men,
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we wouldn't be scrambling for terms.
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We would say, wow,
that's a forgiving person.
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Why? Because that's the
way we use the term,
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and that's what it means.
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It means to let go of things like that.
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Call this what you will.
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You may argue that it doesn't say
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Jesus forgave them.
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It doesn't say Stephen forgave them
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in either of these passages.
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But I would just appeal to this,
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what does it mean to forgive?
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Because if it doesn't mean
what these guys are doing,
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I have no clue what it means.
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To me, that's... well, you say, to you?
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That's your opinion.
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This is what the term means.
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It means to let go.
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What's the point in all of this?
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My point is this:
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there's not a time -
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whether people have repented or not -
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there's not a time to hold
grudges or bitterness.
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There's not a time that
we shouldn't let go.
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Now, I recognize,
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I recognize there's times
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when to have reconciliation
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and have the relationship restored,
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we need repentance from the other person.
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And I recognize there's times
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to say to people in the church,
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unless you repent, we're putting you out.
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But you know what, even
when we have to do that,
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we can let go.
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Even when we have to do that,
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love can be dictating - not selfishness;
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not this self-bitterness.
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This is the attitude.
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Even when we have to discipline people,
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we can manifest a disposition
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like Stephen, like Christ.
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"Father, forgive them."
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I mean, we fear for them.
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You know when we discipline
people out of the church,
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I think where their path is going to lead
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if they don't repent.
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I say, Lord, please -
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especially after coming under the truth
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and experiencing the light -
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their hell is going to be greater.
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I fear for people.
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You tremble for them.
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But this is the heart.
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This is the heart.
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Kindness, tenderness, forgiving
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as God in Christ forgave you.
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The issue isn't the terms of repentance.
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The issue is: you didn't deserve it,
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and God forgave you
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beyond your wildest dreams!
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Hasn't He done things for you that are
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so out there you can't hardly believe it?
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Then, in the light of that
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and that mindset,
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let go.
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Father, I pray, give us this spirit.
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May it be pervasive here.
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I ask this in the name of
our Lord Jesus Christ,
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Amen.