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← The Mask You Live In - Trailer

From the team behind Miss Representation. Coming in 2014, an exploration of American masculinity.
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Showing Revision 14 created 08/01/2017 by Hannah Dubbe.

  1. >> Stop crying

  2. >> Stop with the tears
  3. >> Don't cry
  4. >> Pick yourself up
  5. >> Stop with the emotions
  6. >> Don't be a pussy
  7. >> Don't let nobody disrespect you
  8. >> Be cool
  9. >> And be kind of a dick
  10. >> Always keep your mouth shut
  11. >> Nobody likes a tattle-tale
  12. >> Bros come before hoes
  13. >> Don't let your woman run your life.
  14. >> You're a bitch.
  15. >> What a fag.
  16. >> Get laid.
  17. >> Do something.
  18. >> Be a man.
  19. >> Be a man!
  20. >> Grow some balls!
  21. >> The 3 most destructive words
  22. that every man receives
    when he is a boy,
  23. is when he's told to be a man.
  24. >> We've constructed an
    idea of masculinity
  25. in the United States
  26. that doesn't give young boys
  27. a way to feel secure in their masculinity.
  28. So, we make 'em go prove it all the time.
  29. >> Within their peer group culture
  30. each of them is posturing
  31. based on how the other
    boys are posturing,
  32. and what they end up missing
  33. is what they each really want,
  34. which is just that closeness.
  35. >> In good times guys are,
  36. like, really close to each other,
  37. but when things get a little bit worse
  38. you're on your own.
  39. >> From middle school
  40. I had four really close friends.
  41. Once I went kind of went into high school,
  42. I struggled finding people I can talk to
  43. because I feel like I'm not supposed to get help.
  44. >> Our kids get up every morning.
  45. They have to prepare their mask
  46. for how they're going to walk to school.
  47. A lot of our students don't know how
  48. to take the mask off.
  49. What is it you don't let people see?
  50. Almost 90% of you have pain and anger
  51. on the back of that paper.
  52. >> If you never cry
  53. then you have all these feelings
  54. stuffed up inside of you,
  55. and then you can't get them out.
  56. >> They really buy into a culture
  57. that doesn't value what we feminized.
  58. If we're in a culture that doesn't value caring,
  59. doesn't value relationships,
  60. doesn't value empathy,
  61. you are going to have boys and girls,
  62. men and women go crazy.
  63. >> I had anger issues in high school.

  64. I felt like an outcast.
  65. I've been suspended at least once
  66. every year I was here.
  67. We would just look for trouble
  68. and just like, try to fight.
  69. >> Boys are more likely to act out,
  70. they're more likely to become aggressive.
  71. Most people miss that as depression,
  72. or see it as a conduct disorder,
  73. or just a bad kid.
  74. >> I felt like just giving up on life,
    you know,
  75. see I had suicide thoughts
  76. in my head in sixth grade.
  77. >> I felt alone for-for a long time,
  78. and I actually thought about killing myself.
  79. >> Whether it's homicidal violence,
  80. or suicidal violence,
  81. people resort to such desperate behavior,
  82. only when they are feeling
  83. shamed and humiliated,
  84. or feel they would be
  85. if they didn't prove that they were real men.
  86. >> If you're told from day one
  87. 'don't let nobody disrespect you',
  88. and 'this is the way you handle it as a man',
  89. respect is linked to violence.
  90. >> If I can man up,
  91. why step down from that,
  92. you feel me?
  93. >> It's like instinct.
  94. >> So man up!
  95. >> Man up.
  96. >> Man up.
  97. >> Man up.
  98. >> Grow some fucking balls!
  99. >> Act like a man.
  100. >> Be a man.
  101. >> Be a man!
  102. >> For my kids,
  103. I was gonna end this
  104. hyper masculine narrative here.