Clean questions and metaphor models | Caitlin Walker | TEDxMerseyside
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0:04 - 0:06Thank you.
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0:06 - 0:09It's lovely to follow that last talk
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0:09 - 0:12because I think that
what I'm wanting to present to you -
0:13 - 0:15is a language of inquiry,
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0:15 - 0:18a way that we can inquire
into our own and one another's experience -
0:18 - 0:22in a completely different way
to any that I experienced growing up. -
0:23 - 0:26What I'm going to do with this talk
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0:26 - 0:31is I'm going to tell you a tiny bit
about my background -
0:31 - 0:34and why this was so important to me,
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0:34 - 0:37a little bit about David Grove,
who originated clean questions - -
0:37 - 0:38this is not my tool.
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0:38 - 0:40What I've done with it is my work.
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0:40 - 0:42And it is shareware;
that man gave it away. -
0:42 - 0:45He said, "Take it.
Do what you want with it," -
0:45 - 0:46and we did.
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0:46 - 0:50And I'm going to offer the same thing
to you at the end of this. -
0:50 - 0:53I'll talk a little bit
about a couple of case studies. -
0:53 - 0:56One of them - interestingly,
being here at Liverpool John Moores - -
0:56 - 0:59has been a big project here
at Liverpool John Moores University -
0:59 - 1:01using clean questions, using metaphors.
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1:01 - 1:02I'll talk to you about that.
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1:02 - 1:05And then we'll end up
with "What would you like to have happen?" -
1:07 - 1:09So, tiny bit about my background:
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1:09 - 1:12I am American by nationality,
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1:12 - 1:15but I've got a British father
and I was born in Africa, -
1:15 - 1:18so what that meant was
that by the time I was nine years old, -
1:18 - 1:22I'd been born in Africa,
I'd gone over to Newcastle, -
1:22 - 1:25I'd lived in Newcastle for a bit,
where it was very cold and gray, -
1:25 - 1:28and I'd moved to California
and lived there for a bit. -
1:28 - 1:30By the time you've lived
in three continents, -
1:30 - 1:34one of the things that you work out
very quickly is that rules aren't true. -
1:34 - 1:36When you move into a new society,
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1:36 - 1:38they are governed by a whole load of rules
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1:38 - 1:41about the way that we
do things around here, -
1:41 - 1:43and you learn them
and then you do those things, -
1:43 - 1:46and they affect the way you think,
what you do, what you speak, -
1:46 - 1:48who you hang out with, who you talk to;
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1:48 - 1:52and then you go somewhere new,
and it all changes. -
1:52 - 1:53So when at the age of nine,
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1:53 - 1:56I find myself in California being told
that I can't be friends with Tui - -
1:56 - 1:58who's the only kid
I've connected with so far - -
1:58 - 2:00because he's black.
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2:00 - 2:04I go, "But that's not true.
That's just a set of rules you made up. -
2:04 - 2:08We could just make up some new rules
and then that doesn't matter anymore," -
2:09 - 2:10but you can't,
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2:10 - 2:13because when you're in that society,
those rules are true - -
2:13 - 2:16they're embedded so deeply
that they're not easily challengeable, -
2:16 - 2:20and certainly not
by a very earnest nine-year-old. -
2:21 - 2:23So, I set off on a bit of a quest,
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2:23 - 2:27which was what was some way that -
some tool I could get -
2:27 - 2:32that would allow me to see my own rules,
help other people see theirs, -
2:32 - 2:35in a non-judgmental way
that would make us go, "Hey, hang on. -
2:35 - 2:37Which of these are working?
What's not working? -
2:37 - 2:39What would we like to have happen next?"
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2:39 - 2:41So I went and studied
anthropology, linguistics -
2:41 - 2:44at the School of Oriental
and African Studies. -
2:44 - 2:46But while I was doing that,
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2:46 - 2:50there was a man in New Zealand
called David Grove. -
2:50 - 2:52And then David himself -
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2:52 - 2:55he's got a Maori mother
and a British father, -
2:55 - 3:00and he was raised in the Salvation Army,
and he was raised to serve. -
3:00 - 3:04Now David had been studying
reflective psychotherapists, -
3:04 - 3:05he was looking at people
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3:05 - 3:08like Virginia Satir,
Milton Erickson, Carl Rogers -
3:08 - 3:10and studying their transcripts.
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3:10 - 3:13These were people who were supposed
to be listening to other people, -
3:13 - 3:15sorry, were listening to other people;
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3:15 - 3:18they were very, very
brilliant psychotherapists -
3:18 - 3:20and reflecting back their experience
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3:20 - 3:24so that the person
built up a sense of themselves -
3:24 - 3:27without the psychotherapists interfering.
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3:27 - 3:28What David looked at was -
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3:28 - 3:31he said, "You know, if you look
at the patterns in their transcripts, -
3:31 - 3:34you can still see how they start
to shape their questions -
3:34 - 3:37based on their patterns,
their rules, their ideas; -
3:37 - 3:39and if you look over a series of these,
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3:39 - 3:42you can get the feel for the
internal patterns of the psychotherapist -
3:42 - 3:45that are not to do
with the person they're talking to -
3:45 - 3:46but are to do with them."
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3:46 - 3:47And he said,
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3:47 - 3:52"What if we only asked questions
that had no content in them. -
3:52 - 3:55What if we only asked questions like -
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3:56 - 4:00about location, about attribute,
about what happens next: -
4:01 - 4:03What kind of a thing is it?
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4:03 - 4:05What is it? Where is it?
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4:05 - 4:06Where does it come from?
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4:06 - 4:07What happens next?
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4:07 - 4:09It's like what?
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4:09 - 4:11What if that's all you did,
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4:11 - 4:14then what happens to the people
that you're working with?" -
4:14 - 4:15So that was his quest
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4:15 - 4:18that his job particularly
was looking with people -
4:18 - 4:23who got things like child sexual abuse -
he worked a lot with Vietnam vets - -
4:23 - 4:24people who had experiences
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4:24 - 4:28that were too difficult in many ways
for them to just express. -
4:29 - 4:33What David would do is he would help
to build a landscape around their systems. -
4:33 - 4:34I won't tell you about it.
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4:34 - 4:37I'll just tell you a story;
it's easier to do it like that. -
4:38 - 4:42So he'd been developing this for 15 years,
I was on my little quest, -
4:42 - 4:44and some people who knew me
and knew him said, -
4:44 - 4:48"You must go and see this man;
he's unbelievably good," so I went along. -
4:48 - 4:50I'd just come back from Ghana.
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4:50 - 4:52I was doing a PhD
in artificial intelligence. -
4:52 - 4:55I was doing a lot of computer
programming at the time. -
4:57 - 4:58I came in.
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4:58 - 5:01He was working on a stage,
and a client had come up. -
5:01 - 5:03He said, "Anyone want to come
and work with me?" -
5:03 - 5:04Somebody said yes.
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5:04 - 5:07He said, "What would you like
to have happen?" -
5:07 - 5:08I'll let you see what he said.
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5:08 - 5:10He said, "What would you like
to have happen?" -
5:10 - 5:14She said, "Oh, whenever I'm
public speaking, I just lose my voice." -
5:15 - 5:17He said, "And you just lose your voice.
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5:17 - 5:20And when you lose your voice,
what kind of lose?" -
5:20 - 5:21She said, "It disappears."
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5:21 - 5:27"And it disappears. And as it disappears,
where is the disappears of that voice?" -
5:27 - 5:28She said, "It goes in a hole."
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5:28 - 5:31"And is there anything else
about that hole?" -
5:33 - 5:35"It's got my father."
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5:35 - 5:36"And it's got my father.
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5:36 - 5:39And when that hole has got my father,
is there anything else?" -
5:40 - 5:41She said, "I'm stuck."
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5:42 - 5:45You can see whatever the
public speaking thing is that she had, -
5:45 - 5:48she ... (Gasps) she says, "I'm stuck."
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5:48 - 5:52"And you're stuck. And what kind of I
is that I that's stuck like that?" -
5:52 - 5:53She said, "I'm holding my breath."
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5:53 - 5:57"And I'm holding my breath. And is there
anything else about that breath?" -
5:57 - 6:01And as I watched him work -
and she was just there on stage - -
6:01 - 6:05and I saw the ... (Gasps)
the physiology of the symptom, -
6:05 - 6:06and what he did,
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6:06 - 6:08slowly and surely, with clean questions,
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6:08 - 6:12is he built the landscape
around the symptom, -
6:12 - 6:14which induces metaphors.
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6:15 - 6:18So, I don't know
if you're thinking about - -
6:18 - 6:20We have both winced
at what we've just watched. -
6:20 - 6:21And the rites of passage
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6:21 - 6:25was that one thing is expressed
in terms of another. -
6:26 - 6:30So with that woman - she was in her 40s -
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6:30 - 6:33what she got was that as a child,
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6:33 - 6:37she'd walked into a room
and watched her father shoot himself, -
6:39 - 6:40and having internalized that
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6:40 - 6:46and not having had the community
to grieve, to share, to let that go, -
6:46 - 6:49that had taken up residence
in her psyche space: -
6:50 - 6:54Simply, every time she went out somewhere,
she did what she did - -
6:54 - 6:57especially when there was
something big and important to do - -
6:57 - 7:02she did what she did in that moment,
which was to hold her breath to stop time. -
7:03 - 7:05As I watched, I thought,
"This is phenomenal!" -
7:05 - 7:06What I'm really enjoying here
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7:06 - 7:10is he takes what's negative
like a symptom, -
7:10 - 7:11but when it's in the right context,
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7:11 - 7:15when you see how and why
and where it comes from, -
7:15 - 7:17particularly in the metaphor landscape,
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7:19 - 7:20it compresses its strengths;
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7:20 - 7:22you get to see how it works.
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7:22 - 7:24And I watched her on stage
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7:24 - 7:28reintegrate the power
and the will of a little girl -
7:28 - 7:30who didn't manage to stop time
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7:31 - 7:33but still to hold that power
and that will in the body, -
7:33 - 7:36to watch that get reabsorbed,
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7:36 - 7:37and then off she went.
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7:37 - 7:40And I sat at the back, thinking,
"That was phenomenal!" -
7:40 - 7:42But it's psychotherapy,
it's not what I do, -
7:42 - 7:44it's not what I'm interested in.
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7:44 - 7:45But that was "Whoa!
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7:45 - 7:48I don't know what that guy does,
but that's phenomenal." -
7:48 - 7:50And then he said,
"OK, let's do an exercise." -
7:50 - 7:53Here's the exercise:
You've got four questions. -
7:53 - 7:55Go and find somebody
in the audience and ask them, -
7:55 - 7:58'What would you like to have happen?'
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7:58 - 7:59'Is there anything else?'
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7:59 - 8:01'Where?'
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8:01 - 8:04and 'What kind of?'"
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8:05 - 8:07So, I said okay.
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8:07 - 8:11And I looked around and there was
some really dull man over here. -
8:11 - 8:13And I was like "Please, not me,
please, not me, please." -
8:13 - 8:17And he came straight over.
I was like "Uh, Okay, okay." -
8:17 - 8:18I looked at everybody.
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8:18 - 8:21I did it with him first:
"What would you like to have happen?" -
8:21 - 8:24He said something. I said,
"What kind of thing is that thing?" -
8:24 - 8:26He said something. I said, "Where is it?"
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8:26 - 8:28He said something.
I said, "Anything else?" -
8:28 - 8:29It was actually pretty good.
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8:29 - 8:31I felt a bit awkward;
it was weird questions, -
8:31 - 8:32but it was all right.
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8:32 - 8:36And then he turned to me and said,
"What would you like to have happen?" -
8:36 - 8:39And I said, "I'd like to find my path."
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8:39 - 8:41He said, "What kind of path is that?"
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8:41 - 8:44I said, "One that I absolutely know
I have to follow." -
8:44 - 8:46He said, "Where is that path?"
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8:46 - 8:47And I went ...
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8:52 - 8:53"It's there."
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8:54 - 8:57And he said, "Is there anything else
about that path that's there?" -
8:57 - 8:59And I said, "It's not where I'm going."
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9:01 - 9:03And that was the end of it.
Everyone went home. -
9:03 - 9:07I went to the bar,
and I went, "Oh my goodness! -
9:07 - 9:10A man I don't like
that I didn't want to talk to -
9:10 - 9:11with four clean questions
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9:11 - 9:13has got me more information
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9:13 - 9:15about why I'm generally
depressed, unhappy, miserable, -
9:15 - 9:17and drinking too much -
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9:18 - 9:23it's because I'm doing a degree
in artificial intelligence, -
9:23 - 9:26I spend all my time in front of screens,
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9:26 - 9:29with a partner I don't even love anymore
and haven't done for years, -
9:29 - 9:31and I need to be over here.
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9:32 - 9:38Now, if he can do that in four questions,
I can teach anyone to do this. -
9:40 - 9:42That completely changed my life.
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9:42 - 9:44And I sat in the bar,
and I didn't have a drink; -
9:44 - 9:46I sat there with a glass of water.
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9:46 - 9:47And a week later,
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9:47 - 9:49I left my partner of 12 years,
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9:49 - 9:50I left my PhD,
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9:50 - 9:52I made many people
unhappy with my move, -
9:52 - 9:54and I turned up at his doorstep
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9:54 - 9:57and I said, "You need to teach me
what you're doing. -
9:57 - 9:59I need to understand how to do this
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9:59 - 10:03because I think, with a tool like this,
you could change the world." -
10:04 - 10:05So, I had to get a job
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10:05 - 10:11because I've clearly lost my ESRC grant.
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10:11 - 10:13And I got a job with the Home Office.
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10:13 - 10:15I was already a Youth worker -
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10:15 - 10:17one of the ways I paid my way
through university -
10:17 - 10:20was I'd run as a street
Youth worker in Kings Cross. -
10:22 - 10:24And so, I went and got a job
with the Home Office - -
10:24 - 10:2710 of the worst kids
in the worst school in Hackney. -
10:27 - 10:30I thought, okay, this is his tool.
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10:31 - 10:33There are rules to the tool:
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10:33 - 10:37Whatever they say, you accept
and build a question relating to it, -
10:37 - 10:39you have no outcome,
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10:40 - 10:42you do not decide
what they do and don't want to do, -
10:42 - 10:44you do not decide what's good for them.
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10:45 - 10:48So I've got the 10 worst kids
of the worst schools in Hackney; -
10:48 - 10:51they're outside of the school system -
they're young criminals. -
10:51 - 10:53What I decided to do
was to break the rules. -
10:53 - 10:55I was supposed
to do baseline assessments -
10:55 - 10:58and give them individual learning packages
and everything like that; -
10:58 - 10:59I didn't.
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10:59 - 11:01I got them together in a group
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11:01 - 11:03and I said, "What would you like
to have happen?" -
11:03 - 11:07And they said -
they said lots of different things. -
11:07 - 11:10One of the main things
most of them want to have happen was - -
11:10 - 11:12they said, "I keep losing my temper."
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11:12 - 11:13"And you keep losing your temper,
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11:13 - 11:18and when you keep losing your temper,
losing your temper's like what?" -
11:18 - 11:19And you can answer this.
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11:19 - 11:22I'm not used to presenting; I'm not sure
if you're used to facilitating. -
11:22 - 11:25I'd really like you all
down here doing this -
11:25 - 11:27so one of us can
ask the kids the questions, -
11:27 - 11:28or you can answer them
for yourselves. -
11:28 - 11:32So I said, "When you're losing
your temper, that's like what?" -
11:32 - 11:33"I go red."
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11:33 - 11:36"You go red. And when you go red,
what kind of red?" -
11:36 - 11:37"Blood red."
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11:37 - 11:39"So you go blood red.
Who's not like that?" -
11:39 - 11:41"I switch." (Fingers snap)
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11:41 - 11:43"You switch. Anything else
about that switch?" -
11:43 - 11:44"It's really quick.
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11:44 - 11:47I'm walking. Next thing I know:
someone's lying down there bleeding." -
11:47 - 11:48"OK, who's not like that?"
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11:48 - 11:50"Uh, me, Miss."
" You're like what?" -
11:50 - 11:51"I never get into trouble."
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11:51 - 11:53"You never get into trouble."
"No, never." -
11:53 - 11:56"He's right. He never gets into trouble.
He's never fighting." -
11:56 - 12:00"Alright. So when you go red,
what happens just before you're red." -
12:00 - 12:04He doesn't speak English very well.
He points to a maroon. -
12:04 - 12:05He said, "It's like that."
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12:05 - 12:08I said, "When it's maroon, where is it?"
He said, "It's here." -
12:10 - 12:12I said, "OK. Whenever
it's maroon, it's here." -
12:12 - 12:14"With a switch? What happens
just before you switch?" -
12:14 - 12:16"Oh, I don't know, Miss.
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12:16 - 12:19I'm just walking down the street
and then it's just all over." -
12:19 - 12:20"Okay. Who's not like that?"
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12:20 - 12:21"Me, Miss. I go cold."
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12:21 - 12:24So all we're doing, very gently -
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12:25 - 12:28two or three questions
of any one person at any one time - -
12:29 - 12:31and they start to build up bits of models.
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12:31 - 12:35With the kid that goes red,
I do a couple of rounds. -
12:35 - 12:36Now I didn't know then
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12:36 - 12:38that this was going to be crucial
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12:38 - 12:40to the processes
that we developed later on. -
12:40 - 12:42But because they were teenagers,
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12:42 - 12:46I couldn't spend too much time
with one person, -
12:46 - 12:49because it would go too deep
and the rest would get bored, -
12:49 - 12:51and these were wild kids.
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12:51 - 12:55So two or three questions
with the kid that goes red. -
12:55 - 12:58So before that, I said,
"Before it goes maroon, it's like what?" -
12:58 - 13:03He said, "It's blue,
like the sky, like my mum." -
13:04 - 13:07I go, OK. I think, God, the kids
are going to take the piss out of him. -
13:07 - 13:08They never did.
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13:08 - 13:10Whenever we did
this clean-modelling stuff, -
13:10 - 13:11one of the things I noticed
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13:11 - 13:14was that the kids rarely,
rarely made fun of each other; -
13:14 - 13:16it was like a creation of a sacred space.
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13:16 - 13:19So, we do it, they all go home,
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13:19 - 13:22and I think, "Oh my god,
I'm going to get the sack," -
13:22 - 13:24because I haven't done anything
I was supposed to do -
13:24 - 13:25and it's really weird
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13:25 - 13:29and what if they go and tell their parents
and I don't even know what I'm doing. -
13:29 - 13:33But they came back the next Wednesday -
it was a voluntary class - -
13:34 - 13:37and the kid that went red said,
"You know what, Miss? -
13:37 - 13:39I was been thinking - that stuff we did -
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13:39 - 13:42when I get up in the morning,
my dad's drunk - red. -
13:42 - 13:45And I have to pick my clothes up,
and they stink of sweat -
13:45 - 13:47because my dad hasn't taken the laundry -
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13:47 - 13:48red.
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13:48 - 13:52And I haven't got enough to eat,
and I haven't got any money for the bus. -
13:52 - 13:54Miss, when I get to school,
my red's right here. -
13:54 - 13:56Is that why I hit people?"
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13:57 - 14:00And I said, "I don't know why.
I don't know." -
14:00 - 14:01He said, "What I was thinking
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14:01 - 14:05was if my red's up here and I'm
going to be late for school anyway, -
14:05 - 14:07I'm going to Clapton duck pond
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14:07 - 14:10and I'm going to look at the water
and breathe in blue -
14:10 - 14:12and I'm going to make myself purple,
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14:12 - 14:14and then I think I can control my temper."
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14:15 - 14:16I said, "Okay."
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14:18 - 14:20And then they all wanted one.
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14:20 - 14:23The one with the switch said,
"That's not fair, mine's too fast." -
14:23 - 14:27I said, "Okay, let's just find out.
Just before you switch, what happens?" -
14:27 - 14:30"You're walking, somebody gives you
a look, and it's all over." -
14:30 - 14:32"Aha, a look. What kind
of look is that look?" -
14:32 - 14:34"One that just goes straight into you."
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14:34 - 14:36"And whereabouts into you
does that look go?" -
14:37 - 14:39And they all got a metaphor.
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14:39 - 14:41So I've got one metaphor for tempers,
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14:41 - 14:44but also they started
to be able to manage the tempers. -
14:44 - 14:47And next day, Jamie comes in and says,
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14:47 - 14:49"Miss, that stuff you did.
Could you do it with math?" -
14:49 - 14:51I said,"Math? What do you mean?"
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14:51 - 14:52He's a big lad.
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14:52 - 14:53He said, "Well, you know,
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14:53 - 14:56when I start trying to think of numbers,
Miss, they just spin." -
14:56 - 14:58"Alright, let's find out.
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14:58 - 15:00Come on, lads. Get together.
We're going to do math." -
15:00 - 15:02"Oh ... !"
"No, no, listen to me. -
15:02 - 15:04I'm will ask you some questions;
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15:04 - 15:07I don't want to know the answers,
I want to know, How do you know? -
15:07 - 15:10What's two and three?"
"Well, it's five, Miss." -
15:10 - 15:11"What kind of five is that?"
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15:11 - 15:14"Well, it's just, um,
it just comes out, Miss." -
15:14 - 15:15"Who doesn't do that?"
"Me, Miss." -
15:15 - 15:16"What do you do?"
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15:16 - 15:19"Well, it's like - it's like
two plus three and then five. -
15:19 - 15:22It's like I can see it
in chalk on the blackboard." -
15:22 - 15:24I said, "Alright, who's not like that?"
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15:24 - 15:26And we started to model.
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15:26 - 15:32But by the time we've done
temper, math, spelling, -
15:32 - 15:34and "What are you like
when you're at your best? -
15:34 - 15:37What are you like when you're
learning at your best?" -
15:37 - 15:39something phenomenal started to happen -
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15:40 - 15:44they took over past me
and their ability to self-model. -
15:44 - 15:47So they'd start to say things like
"You got to slow down, Miss. -
15:49 - 15:52You got to slow down, Miss,
because you're talking too fast." -
15:52 - 15:56"I'm from New Castle ... I do talk fast,"
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15:56 - 15:59I said, "What do you care,
Mary Lou? You're Nigerian." -
15:59 - 16:00She talks so fast. She's like -
-
16:00 - 16:01"So what do you care?"
-
16:01 - 16:05She said, "Yeah, but Miss,
it's not for me. It's for Naomi. -
16:05 - 16:06Remember what she said? -
-
16:06 - 16:10when she's learning at her best,
it's like an idea has to come into a pond, -
16:10 - 16:13and then all the ripples have to go flat
again before the next idea comes. -
16:13 - 16:15Well, Miss, you're just
chucking stones at her." -
16:16 - 16:19And I went, "Okay, so let me just check.
-
16:19 - 16:23Within, well, it must have been
about six sessions, -
16:23 - 16:26you're going to teach me
how to teach you." -
16:27 - 16:28Now what have we got?
-
16:28 - 16:29So,
-
16:33 - 16:35I didn't know what to do with it;
-
16:35 - 16:39we won Community Safety Awards,
the kids went back to school, -
16:39 - 16:44but nobody would listen to what it was
that we were trying to do with them. -
16:44 - 16:47They'd say, "Here's more bad kids.
Do that magic again." -
16:47 - 16:48And I'd say, "Well, no.
-
16:48 - 16:51Learn how to do it,
because it's not difficult." -
16:51 - 16:53They said, "How do you
control them like that?" -
16:53 - 16:54I said, "I don't.
-
16:54 - 16:57I give them the ability to reflect
on themselves in a non-judgmental way -
16:57 - 17:00and so that somehow they start
to become peer coaches. -
17:00 - 17:03I don't really know,
but it's a kind of magic." -
17:03 - 17:06And so I've tried and spent 15 years
with the head down, -
17:06 - 17:08trying it here, trying it there,
-
17:08 - 17:09and then Liverpool John Moores
-
17:09 - 17:12has been one of the first
big comprehensive times -
17:12 - 17:16that we've had to really test it out.
-
17:16 - 17:17So, what they did here -
-
17:18 - 17:20Is that me or you're doing that?
-
17:20 - 17:21What they do here
-
17:21 - 17:23is that they get
the students together -
17:23 - 17:26and they've developed some workbooks.
-
17:26 - 17:30They took some heroes
in the sports development world - -
17:30 - 17:35Beth Tweddle and Kate Walsh,
who're real fantastic elite athletes - -
17:35 - 17:38and they used the
clean questions to model them: -
17:38 - 17:41"So Beth, when you're at your best,
you're like what?" -
17:41 - 17:44And then they use some
clean questions to work that out, -
17:44 - 17:46or they'd say, "Kate Walsh,
-
17:46 - 17:51what's the time when you've really
had something terrible happen -
17:51 - 17:54and you'll be able to pick yourself up
and go forward again?" -
17:54 - 17:55She'd think for a bit, and they'd say,
-
17:55 - 17:57"When it was like that, that's like what?"
-
17:57 - 18:00And they developed metaphor models
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18:04 - 18:07for those themes there for these heroes.
-
18:07 - 18:13But then the students, every other month,
they develop those for themselves. -
18:13 - 18:16And the thing about those models is
-
18:16 - 18:18when you develop one,
-
18:18 - 18:21you get to know yourself
and you can understand somebody else; -
18:21 - 18:23when you develop two,
-
18:23 - 18:26that becomes quite a kind of an intrigue -
this is a bit like that; -
18:26 - 18:29when you've got three,
then you start to develop a pattern, -
18:29 - 18:33an understanding of yourself
and of the other group members, -
18:34 - 18:36that is a completely different level;
-
18:36 - 18:41and when you get six, you become
what I call now a self learning system, -
18:41 - 18:44where you start to be able to predict
what one another would do, -
18:44 - 18:47what you're likely to do
in any given situation -
18:47 - 18:48and then foresee things
-
18:48 - 18:50and then create stuff together
-
18:50 - 18:53that you had no idea
that was going to be possible. -
18:53 - 18:54So,
-
18:54 - 18:57[When you're learning at your best,
you're like what?] -
18:57 - 18:58those are the themes they learnt.
-
18:58 - 19:01[When you're making good decisions,
that's like what? -
19:01 - 19:03Where does your inspiration/
motivation come from? -
19:03 - 19:06What happens just before you learnt
from past mistakes?] -
19:06 - 19:07With clean questions,
-
19:07 - 19:09one of the things you can do
with them is anything. -
19:09 - 19:12You can inquire into death.
-
19:12 - 19:16So when somebody has died,
you can use them to help you express it - -
19:16 - 19:17"Right now, this is like what?"
-
19:17 - 19:19And you can use them
to express your grief. -
19:20 - 19:22I used them a lot with birthing.
-
19:23 - 19:26I was very, very, very lucky
I had three births at home. -
19:26 - 19:27One of the ways that I managed that
-
19:27 - 19:31was to explain very, very clearly
with clean questions. -
19:31 - 19:34I used clean questions to work out
what people wanted to do to me -
19:34 - 19:36so that I could say "yes" or "no" to it
-
19:36 - 19:39but also to develop a real sense
of the kind of birth I wanted -
19:39 - 19:41and to maintain my boundaries around it.
-
19:41 - 19:46They're used, at the moment,
with multinationals. -
19:46 - 19:49I've got a project on at the moment
where they're trying to work -
19:49 - 19:51with economists,
philosophers, and sociologists -
19:51 - 19:55to say, "If we were going
to re-model the way that we do business -
19:55 - 19:57so that we didn't destroy the world,
-
19:57 - 19:58that would be like what?"
-
19:58 - 20:02And they've taken the different themes
that they think are involved in that -
20:02 - 20:05and developed them together.
-
20:05 - 20:09So, the questions are very, very simple,
-
20:09 - 20:11they're really easy to learn,
-
20:11 - 20:14they're very tricky to apply
-
20:14 - 20:18because it means giving up being yourself
and everything you normally do, -
20:18 - 20:20but they're very, very effective,
-
20:20 - 20:22and it's shareware.
-
20:22 - 20:26Lots of people are doing it;
David gave it away. -
20:26 - 20:29If you can think of new things
to do with it and new places to apply it, -
20:29 - 20:31then that'll be yours;
-
20:31 - 20:32that'll be your new field.
-
20:32 - 20:35So I really encourage you
to go and do some search around -
20:35 - 20:36if you like the idea of them,
-
20:36 - 20:40and think, What would you like
to do with such a tool. -
20:40 - 20:41And that's us.
-
20:41 - 20:42Thank you.
-
20:42 - 20:44(Applause)
- Title:
- Clean questions and metaphor models | Caitlin Walker | TEDxMerseyside
- Description:
-
Caitlin graduated in Linguistics at the School of Oriental and African Studies and did four years post graduate research in Strategies for Lexical access including fieldwork in Ghana. She has since developed her linguistic and non-verbal modelling skills from small scale group development to whole scale organisational culture change programs addressing diversity, conflict, leadership, managing mergers and creating learning organizations. She is passionate about trusting in the wisdom of groups.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
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