Why are boys failing? | Philip Zimbardo | TEDxRawaRiverSalon
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0:08 - 0:10I'm here to sound an alarm.
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0:10 - 0:14(Bell tolls)
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0:18 - 0:22It is a problem in every country
around the world, -
0:22 - 0:25and today I'm going to argue
it's only going to get worse -
0:25 - 0:28unless we begin to do
some important, remedial changes. -
0:29 - 0:32Boys are failing in school;
they're failing in business; -
0:32 - 0:35they're failing socially,
and even failing sexually. -
0:36 - 0:40They're becoming obese -
in America, we call it "fat-ass nation" - -
0:41 - 0:43and the point is
they are creating nothing; -
0:43 - 0:44they are consuming.
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0:44 - 0:47If you play video games
and you watch porn, -
0:47 - 0:51you are a consumer in the worst sense,
and you end up creating nothing. -
0:51 - 0:55And so, where is the next generation
of young men coming -
0:55 - 0:57that are going to help our society?
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0:57 - 1:01And for every woman in the audience,
Where will you find a good man? -
1:01 - 1:04And that's the title of your Polish book.
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1:04 - 1:05But it's not a phase.
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1:05 - 1:09People say, "Well, boys
have always gone through changes." -
1:09 - 1:12This is not temporary; this is permanent.
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1:13 - 1:16Here are some of the individual factors.
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1:16 - 1:17Political correctness -
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1:17 - 1:20men have a set of rules
about what they should not do, -
1:20 - 1:23but we don't really tell them clearly
what they should do -
1:23 - 1:25in order to be "a man" in our society.
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1:26 - 1:28So the old traditional roles
no longer fit. -
1:28 - 1:31The old role was to be a warrior
or a breadwinner. -
1:31 - 1:35What's interesting now,
most societies are in transition. -
1:35 - 1:38As women excel, as women
are doing better and better, -
1:38 - 1:40there's a whole set of new gender roles
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1:40 - 1:44that we need to discuss
and put into action. -
1:44 - 1:48Girls and women, I said, are excelling
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1:48 - 1:50at levels that we have never imagined.
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1:50 - 1:53The younger generation of women
are the legacy, the pride -
1:53 - 1:56of women's liberation
from the 70s and 80s, -
1:56 - 1:58and they create a new problem for boys
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1:58 - 2:02because girls are doing better and better,
while boys are doing worse and worse. -
2:03 - 2:07So the boys are opting out,
opting out of a confusing world. -
2:08 - 2:12They are isolating themselves
in a safer and simpler place. -
2:12 - 2:14Janusz is in his room.
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2:14 - 2:16They are going into virtual worlds.
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2:16 - 2:18What's good about
the virtual world for them -
2:18 - 2:22is that the objectives are clear;
they have control over the outcomes; -
2:22 - 2:26they have no fear, you never get rejected
as long as you practice, -
2:26 - 2:28because practice will make perfect.
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2:30 - 2:34Young men are trapped
in what we call present hedonistic mode. -
2:34 - 2:37As some of you know,
I've done lots of research -
2:37 - 2:40on the psychology of time perspective,
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2:40 - 2:43and there are many different time zones
that each of us live in. -
2:43 - 2:46Some of us live in the past,
some in the present, some in the future. -
2:46 - 2:50Young men in general
are more present-oriented -
2:50 - 2:53than older people in this society,
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2:53 - 2:56but when you get trapped
in a present hedonistic mode, -
2:56 - 2:59all you want is pleasure and avoid pain.
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2:59 - 3:02You never plan;
you never have contingencies; -
3:02 - 3:05you never set an agenda.
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3:05 - 3:10You cannot succeed in any society
if you are present hedonistic. -
3:10 - 3:12You must become future oriented,
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3:12 - 3:16and we'll see later that is one
of the goals of our program. -
3:17 - 3:19Young men are 25% more likely
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3:19 - 3:22to live at home with their parents
permanently now. -
3:22 - 3:27There used to be empty nest syndrome:
parents were sad when their children left. -
3:27 - 3:31The boys are not leaving;
they are staying in their room. -
3:31 - 3:35The problem is they don't do anything:
they don't help with chores; -
3:35 - 3:39they say, "I am entitled to it
because I'm a boy, I'm a man." -
3:41 - 3:44The most amazing thing
I discovered in our research -
3:44 - 3:48is that single mothers are on the rise
everywhere in the world. -
3:48 - 3:53Forty-one percent of all women
in America who have children -
3:53 - 3:55are single mothers, no husband.
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3:55 - 3:59This gets worse if you look at women
who are 30 years old or younger, -
3:59 - 4:02that figure goes to 50%.
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4:02 - 4:04That means one
of every two boys in America -
4:04 - 4:07whose mother is 30 years old
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4:07 - 4:12has no father, and sometimes,
almost from the time they are babies. -
4:14 - 4:17It's better in the UK and Poland;
it's only 25 percent. -
4:18 - 4:23But translate 25 percent
of the Polish population into numbers: -
4:23 - 4:25it's millions of young boys;
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4:25 - 4:27your young boys are
growing up without a father. -
4:27 - 4:31And I'll say girls need fathers
as much as boys do, -
4:31 - 4:33but boys need fathers in special ways.
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4:35 - 4:39Also we now know that single mothers
will often have one or two jobs; -
4:39 - 4:43if they have several children,
they are always on high levels of stress. -
4:45 - 4:49High levels of stress gets transmitted
to the boys in various ways, -
4:49 - 4:52and we see these boys
having not only poor social development - -
4:52 - 4:56they are probably many of the boys
that Agnieszka talked about - -
4:56 - 5:00they are likely to have
attention deficit disorder, -
5:00 - 5:02which I'll talk about in a minute,
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5:02 - 5:05and finally, they have
many behavioral problems -
5:05 - 5:07in school and in society.
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5:07 - 5:12If you have no father in a family,
socioeconomic status drops significantly -
5:12 - 5:15because you don't have two salaries,
you only have one. -
5:16 - 5:21Even for young men who have a father,
the father is psychologically absent. -
5:21 - 5:25Our research in America says
that on average a boy talks to his father -
5:25 - 5:28or a father talks to a boy
30 minutes a week. -
5:29 - 5:35That same boy sits in front of a screen,
computer screen or TV screen, 44 hours. -
5:36 - 5:38So again, here's a major problem:
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5:38 - 5:40boys don't have a father
physically present, -
5:40 - 5:42and even when he's physically present,
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5:42 - 5:46he's not emotionally and psychologically
present in too many cases. -
5:46 - 5:51Again, a big problem in America is -
it may not be the same here - -
5:51 - 5:55fewer and fewer families have
regular sit-down-with-family dinners. -
5:55 - 5:57Again, I come from a Sicilian background,
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5:57 - 6:00and having family dinners
is the most important thing, -
6:00 - 6:04lunch and dinner,
because you share values. -
6:04 - 6:06What we see here
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6:06 - 6:11are the consequences for boys
who don't have regular family dinners. -
6:11 - 6:13They are four times more likely to smoke,
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6:13 - 6:17and we know smoking kills,
smoking causes lung cancer. -
6:17 - 6:20They are two and a half times
more likely to use marijuana. -
6:20 - 6:22They are two times
more likely to use alcohol, -
6:22 - 6:24and even more important is
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6:24 - 6:28that they are four times more likely
to engage in hard-drug use later in life. -
6:30 - 6:33There was a Harvard study
of Harvard graduates; -
6:33 - 6:35they followed these men
throughout their life. -
6:35 - 6:38When they were older,
they wanted to know - -
6:38 - 6:40and these are men who are successful -
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6:40 - 6:42what was important in their success.
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6:42 - 6:47It had nothing to do
with how rich your family was, -
6:47 - 6:49had nothing to do with how rich you were,
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6:49 - 6:54the only issue that mattered
was the warmth of their childhood. -
6:54 - 6:57When they remembered back their childhood,
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6:57 - 7:00the ones who were successful
always remembered having a warm childhood -
7:00 - 7:05and specifically was related
to how close you felt to your father. -
7:05 - 7:10So here, men who were successful
had a childhood where they think back - -
7:10 - 7:12we call it past positive -
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7:12 - 7:14and I was close to my father,
he was close to me. -
7:15 - 7:19A main difference between men and women,
between mothers and fathers: -
7:19 - 7:23mothers, in general,
give love unconditionally. -
7:23 - 7:25If a boy comes home with bad grades,
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7:25 - 7:28mother hugs him and says,
"I love you anyway." -
7:29 - 7:33Father says, "No, you got to perform.
You got to get my respect. -
7:33 - 7:36You have to perform in school;
you have to perform athletically." -
7:36 - 7:38So fathers give love conditionally.
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7:38 - 7:40That means when you don't have a father,
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7:40 - 7:44you lose this extrinsic
motivation to perform, -
7:44 - 7:46and boys need that more than girls.
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7:48 - 7:49Boys now are escaping.
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7:49 - 7:53Escaping to the internet,
virtual worlds of video games -
7:53 - 7:56and now, for the first
time ever, pornography, -
7:56 - 7:58which is available all the time.
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7:59 - 8:03Pornography is available now 24/7
in every country in the world. -
8:03 - 8:05It never was that way before.
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8:05 - 8:09If men wanted to see pornography,
they had to go to pornography gallery, -
8:09 - 8:12or they were always embarrassed to go in
because somebody might see them. -
8:12 - 8:16Anybody, anytime, anywhere,
any age, without control -
8:16 - 8:20has before them an endless
array of pornography, -
8:20 - 8:22which we will look at
a little in a moment. -
8:23 - 8:26The pornography is ready to turn boys on.
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8:27 - 8:30But their brains
are becoming digitally rewired -
8:30 - 8:33because they are spending so much time
in this new digital world. -
8:36 - 8:42So the average boy plays video games
13 hours a week, much more than girls. -
8:42 - 8:45We'll say why girls don't play
as much as boys. -
8:45 - 8:46That's the average.
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8:46 - 8:49That means somebody
is playing 26 hours a week -
8:49 - 8:51and, we'll see in a moment, even more.
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8:52 - 8:56That adds up to the whole month
of February, 24 hours a day. -
8:56 - 9:00Jane McGonigal, who's the author
of a whole book on gaming, -
9:00 - 9:04says that by the time
a boy is 21 years old, -
9:04 - 9:09he has spent 10,000 hours playing
video games - that's the average boy. -
9:10 - 9:15During that time, he could have gotten
two Bachelor's degrees from university. -
9:16 - 9:21Again, video games
are designed by men for men, -
9:21 - 9:22and they are captivating.
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9:22 - 9:26They are enchanting.
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9:28 - 9:34The reason why it's so excessive -
boys have few outlets for expression. -
9:34 - 9:37Society is telling boys
that they're in a world -
9:37 - 9:40where their personal narrative
is not interesting or not acceptable. -
9:40 - 9:44These games are designed by men for men,
and they have male values: -
9:44 - 9:48domination, competition,
aggression, violence. -
9:48 - 9:51Women reject those kind of values.
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9:51 - 9:54There are some games,
which are more socially oriented, -
9:54 - 9:57which women are beginning to play.
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9:57 - 9:59There are clear and simple goals.
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9:59 - 10:02The rewards are guaranteed
once you reach a certain skill level, -
10:02 - 10:06and nothing else in life
is equally true for boys. -
10:08 - 10:12Gaming and porning
are part of living online now. -
10:12 - 10:15They are part of the whole
internet revolution. -
10:15 - 10:18These boys are spending time
not only doing this, -
10:18 - 10:23they're watching videos on YouTube,
they're searching, they have Facebook ... -
10:24 - 10:28The problem is they are sacrificing
being in the real world - -
10:28 - 10:31real world with us,
real world with flesh and blood. -
10:31 - 10:33And they don't know
they're sacrificing it, -
10:33 - 10:35because they have given up on us.
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10:35 - 10:39The reason I said earlier
is that it's here to stay. -
10:39 - 10:42The video game industry
is a multi-million dollar industry, -
10:42 - 10:47there're many different corporations
who are competing with each other, -
10:47 - 10:52and they're competing for the minds
and eyes and fingers of young men. -
10:52 - 10:56And the pornography industry,
which is a little newer as an industry, -
10:56 - 10:59is equally a multi-million
dollar business. -
10:59 - 11:02Those businesses make
more money, for example, -
11:02 - 11:03than all the Hollywood movies
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11:03 - 11:09and almost any other major business.
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11:11 - 11:12Warning.
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11:12 - 11:18Warning for children: audience, there
will be a few brief pornography scenes. -
11:18 - 11:22As I said, it's really accessible,
and the key is it's anonymous. -
11:23 - 11:25Porn audience is 75% male,
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11:26 - 11:28and on some of these sites
you have to pay, -
11:28 - 11:33and 98% of men are the ones
who pay with their credit card. -
11:33 - 11:35But we learned, at least in America,
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11:35 - 11:39the average boy is now watching
porn two hours a week. -
11:39 - 11:43That's the average; that means some
are watching four or more hours a week. -
11:43 - 11:45And usually, it's the break.
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11:45 - 11:47You're playing video games
three or four hours, -
11:47 - 11:50you get a little tired,
you switch to pornography. -
11:50 - 11:52And then you go back to the game.
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11:52 - 11:55In the United Kingdom, Pornhub, this site,
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11:55 - 12:01was the 31st most visited website
for children ages 6 to 14. -
12:01 - 12:03I mean, other websites
are doing Google searches -
12:03 - 12:05or Wikipedia, other things.
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12:05 - 12:09So, six-year-old children
are visiting this website, -
12:09 - 12:11not once, but regularly.
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12:12 - 12:17The problem is in many cases
it becomes addictive. -
12:17 - 12:23It's both the number of hours you play,
but it's also an arousal addiction. -
12:23 - 12:26Once you start playing,
you need it more and more. -
12:27 - 12:31Psychological addiction
is when I'm not playing the game, -
12:31 - 12:32I'm thinking about it.
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12:32 - 12:35When I'm in class,
I wish I was playing the game. -
12:35 - 12:38When we're having a family dinner,
I wish I was playing the game. -
12:38 - 12:40And pornography is the same.
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12:40 - 12:44Addiction is a preference for this
over everything else in the world, -
12:44 - 12:47and everything else
in the world gets boring. -
12:47 - 12:48School gets boring,
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12:48 - 12:52and now even girls get boring
compared to what they see in pornography. -
12:54 - 12:56And the arousal addiction,
as I mentioned - -
12:56 - 12:58in drug addiction,
you want more of the same. -
12:58 - 13:00You want more heroin;
you want more cocaine. -
13:00 - 13:03Here what you want is novelty,
you want change. -
13:03 - 13:05And the video industry
is going to give you change, -
13:05 - 13:09and the pornography industry
has infinite variety. -
13:11 - 13:14But the interesting thing now
is the brain quickly adapts -
13:14 - 13:16to this high level of stimulation.
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13:16 - 13:18Initially, it's rewarding,
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13:18 - 13:23but over time, you fail to be able
to get sexually, physically aroused. -
13:23 - 13:30There's a new phenomena called PIED -
porn-induced erectile dysfunction. -
13:30 - 13:31So now you have this paradox -
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13:31 - 13:34a boy is watching
this really exciting stuff, -
13:34 - 13:36and he no longer can get an erection.
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13:36 - 13:39He can no longer enjoy even masturbating.
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13:42 - 13:45The problem with [pornography]
is that size is everything. -
13:46 - 13:48Men in [pornography]
have enormous penises, -
13:48 - 13:51the women are incredibly
beautiful and stunning, -
13:51 - 13:55but the women are almost always degraded.
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13:58 - 14:02Young men everywhere have developed
performance anxiety about sex - -
14:02 - 14:03young men and old men.
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14:03 - 14:08Because it's not always possible
to get an erection and to sustain it, -
14:08 - 14:14and in these videos, men appear to have
unlimited non-stop sex for 30 minutes. -
14:17 - 14:19And all this physical performance -
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14:19 - 14:23again, in the older pornography,
there was a story, a narrative. -
14:23 - 14:24No story.
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14:24 - 14:27As soon as it begins,
people are either already undressed, -
14:27 - 14:28or they're undressing each other.
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14:28 - 14:31And it's all about physical performance.
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14:31 - 14:34For me, what's terrible,
what's missing is romance. -
14:34 - 14:36There's no kissing, there's no touching.
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14:36 - 14:38There's no talking.
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14:38 - 14:42There's no communicating boundaries.
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14:42 - 14:45An it's never ever a hint of safe sex.
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14:47 - 14:49Let me shift quickly out of that.
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14:49 - 14:50Boys, for the first time in history,
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14:50 - 14:53are getting less education
than their fathers. -
14:53 - 14:55Boys are more likely
to drop out of school, -
14:55 - 15:00repeat a grade, get more Ds and Fs
on their report card. -
15:00 - 15:04They are three times more likely
than girls to be diagnosed -
15:04 - 15:06with attention deficit disorder,
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15:06 - 15:11and in America, once you get diagnosed,
then, in many cases, -
15:11 - 15:15they persuade your parents
to allow them to give you Ritalin, -
15:16 - 15:20which allows the boy to focus,
but it's an addictive drug. -
15:20 - 15:23Once you start, you might have to take it
for the rest of your life. -
15:24 - 15:27We see that boys are a year and a half
behind girls in performance. -
15:27 - 15:30Again, partly because girls
are doing better than ever; -
15:30 - 15:32they're working harder,
and boys are working less hard. -
15:34 - 15:37The interesting thing
is school has become a girl thing. -
15:37 - 15:42In America, eight of nine teachers
at all levels except at the university -
15:42 - 15:44are women.
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15:44 - 15:47Many boys never have a male instructor.
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15:47 - 15:51Especially boys without a father -
there's no men in their life. -
15:52 - 15:56And we know that early experiences
frame interest in learning. -
15:56 - 16:02In kindergarten, boys' brains
are one year behind in their development -
16:02 - 16:03than girls' brains.
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16:03 - 16:08We need to readjust how we teach them
because it's not that they're dumber, -
16:08 - 16:11it's just that their brains
are developing more slowly. -
16:12 - 16:15And interestingly,
there's an unconscious bias -
16:15 - 16:17that female teachers have against boys.
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16:17 - 16:19This is shown in a recent study
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16:19 - 16:23where teachers graded papers
of boys and girls, -
16:23 - 16:28and when you took the names off,
the boys' grades went up 30%. -
16:28 - 16:32Again, we don't understand that,
we're following this up, -
16:32 - 16:37but female teachers have an implicit bias
for girls against boys. -
16:38 - 16:43In America, 70% of men are overweight.
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16:43 - 16:48One -third of all Americans
are clinically obese. -
16:48 - 16:51In Poland, it's much better,
it's only 25%. -
16:51 - 16:57But again, it's millions of Polish,
more men and boys, are obese. -
16:58 - 17:01The problems with obesity are many.
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17:01 - 17:04It increases the likelihood
of getting type 2 diabetes; -
17:04 - 17:06it increases the likelihood
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17:07 - 17:11of reduction in testosterone,
reduction in libido. -
17:12 - 17:15Young gamers are definitely
going in that direction -
17:15 - 17:18because they're sitting all day,
they're eating junk food, -
17:18 - 17:21they're sucking up sugar drinks,
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17:21 - 17:23and they get less sleep,
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17:24 - 17:27and they're making terrible choices,
and they're not exercising. -
17:27 - 17:28They're always sitting there.
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17:28 - 17:34So they've given up reading, writing,
communicating, exercising, playing sports, -
17:34 - 17:40and they're becoming not only obese,
but physically inactive and inept. -
17:42 - 17:45There are solutions -
I'm going to run through very quickly. -
17:45 - 17:48What can the government do,
what can schools do, what can parents do, -
17:48 - 17:50what can media do, men and women,
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17:50 - 17:53and then, what can
the Heroic Imagination Project do. -
17:53 - 17:58The government - we have to support
the father role more in legislation. -
17:58 - 18:01We have to get more men
teaching in school, -
18:01 - 18:02and the way you're going to do that -
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18:02 - 18:05teachers should be a more honored
profession in every country. -
18:05 - 18:07Teachers should be getting
higher salaries, -
18:07 - 18:10and if they were, more men
would go into teaching. -
18:10 - 18:12We got to get junk food out of schools.
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18:12 - 18:15We have to officially not allow
junk food in the cafeteria. -
18:15 - 18:19Schools have to begin
to teach life skills, -
18:19 - 18:25have to teach kids personal finance,
to teach them job skills, -
18:25 - 18:27how to do job interviews,
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18:27 - 18:30and teach them things we know
they're going to need as adults. -
18:31 - 18:33Sex education is nowhere.
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18:34 - 18:36Parents don't talk to kids about sex ed.
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18:36 - 18:40Especially if you're a single mother,
you're not going to talk to boys. -
18:40 - 18:44Very few schools in any place
in the world have sex ed -
18:44 - 18:47which includes biology and psychology.
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18:47 - 18:51Because sex is not just
the physical being, -
18:51 - 18:53but also the psychological.
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18:55 - 18:59Teachers have to now compete
with those video games. -
18:59 - 19:03You cannot get up
and talk to your students -
19:03 - 19:09without Keynote, PowerPoint, Prezi,
without dynamic visuals. -
19:09 - 19:13So now we have to have teacher education
that certifies teachers -
19:13 - 19:18to be able to use these new design
and presentation tools effectively. -
19:19 - 19:25Again, we have to encourage
teachers in school, -
19:25 - 19:28ranging from work groups
with a girl and a boy. -
19:28 - 19:31They can choose together,
because you just say to work together. -
19:31 - 19:33The girls work together,
the boys work together. No, no. -
19:33 - 19:35Boys have to learn from girls
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19:35 - 19:38many of these basic skills
that girls have been learning. -
19:39 - 19:42Parents have to teach
responsibility and resiliency. -
19:45 - 19:49Again, most parents have no idea
about the number of hours -
19:49 - 19:50kids are playing video games.
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19:50 - 19:51So an exercise is -
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19:52 - 19:55everybody in the family
for one week keeps an activity journal. -
19:55 - 19:57How much time you exercise,
how much time you watch TV, -
19:57 - 20:01how much time do you do homework,
how much time are you on your cell phone, -
20:01 - 20:03and how much time
are you playing video games? -
20:03 - 20:06We can leave out the pornography,
that would be awkward. -
20:06 - 20:10At the end of the week,
you compare these records, -
20:10 - 20:13and now you begin to say, "We have
to put more balance in our lives." -
20:15 - 20:18Take technology out of the boy's bedroom
or at least set limits, -
20:19 - 20:21and regular family dinners
are so important, -
20:21 - 20:25without anybody having a cell phone,
or you put it on mute. -
20:25 - 20:28Okay, very quickly now - Men.
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20:28 - 20:31Men have to turn off games
and have to turn off porn. -
20:32 - 20:35Men have to turn on people,
they have to make female friends. -
20:35 - 20:39They have to chat more, text less,
and they have to learn how to dance. -
20:39 - 20:41(Laughter)
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20:41 - 20:44They have to become
more future-oriented, set goals in life. -
20:44 - 20:46What are you going to do
next week, next month? -
20:46 - 20:48And they have to become more educated.
-
20:49 - 20:53The important thing for young men
is they need a mentor. -
20:53 - 20:58Older men - you're an uncle,
you're a cousin, you're a neighbor. -
20:58 - 20:59Be a mentor.
-
20:59 - 21:02Also, we can develop
mentoring programs online. -
21:04 - 21:06The critical thing, we now know,
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21:06 - 21:10the single most important thing
for physical and mental health -
21:10 - 21:12is daily physical exercise.
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21:12 - 21:17It's even more so when you exercise
outdoors, in nature. -
21:17 - 21:22Women - mothers and sisters have to offer
compassion, constructive criticism, -
21:22 - 21:24and support for young men.
-
21:24 - 21:28They have to show boys and men
how to communicate feelings and values -
21:28 - 21:32without being a sissy.
-
21:32 - 21:35They have to engage in as many activities
with men as possible. -
21:35 - 21:37They have to be flexible.
-
21:37 - 21:40Women are now becoming
completely independent. -
21:40 - 21:41They have to figure out,
-
21:41 - 21:45"How am I going to share my independence
so I don't simply turn men off?" -
21:46 - 21:53Media - we need more positive,
realistic images of men in TV and movies. -
21:53 - 21:55We have to change the gender bias -
-
21:56 - 21:58either they're superheroes,
-
21:58 - 22:01or they're fools when
they're around women in movies. -
22:01 - 22:05And we need more pro-social video games.
-
22:05 - 22:07As I said before, they can be developed.
-
22:07 - 22:09And games can be developed
-
22:09 - 22:13which involve women
as well as men player simultaneously. -
22:14 - 22:21The conclusion is we are sounding
an alarm, me and Nikita, loud and clear. -
22:21 - 22:26We need to show men that they're lovable,
desirable, and not disposable, -
22:26 - 22:29and they are essential
for creating the next generation. -
22:31 - 22:35We have to encourage boys, men,
girls, women to become everyday heroes. -
22:36 - 22:39We have to promote the heroic
imagination in all schools, -
22:41 - 22:43and we want them to be HIP.
-
22:43 - 22:46HIP is Heroic Imagination Project.
-
22:49 - 22:50We teach -
-
22:50 - 22:53the Heroic Imagination Project
in San Francisco, -
22:53 - 22:54which I developed some years ago -
-
22:54 - 22:57we teach people, especially
young people everywhere, -
22:57 - 23:02how to stand up, speak up and take action
in challenging situations in your life. -
23:02 - 23:06Those challenging situations
can be in your family, in your school, -
23:06 - 23:09in your community,
and in your organization. -
23:09 - 23:12We teach people how to have
courageous conversations, -
23:12 - 23:14how to challenge unjust authority.
-
23:14 - 23:17I was in London recently,
in Trafalgar Square, -
23:17 - 23:22there's all these generals
and admirals on horses, who won battles. -
23:22 - 23:26The thing that struck my eye
was this wonderful gold statue -
23:26 - 23:29of a golden boy on a golden horse.
-
23:29 - 23:31Essentially, below it said,
-
23:31 - 23:35"The youth of today
are our heroes of the future." -
23:35 - 23:38So this is what we're trying to do
in my Heroic Imagination Project, -
23:38 - 23:40is create a whole new generation
-
23:40 - 23:43of young men and young women,
boys and girls, -
23:43 - 23:46who think of themselves
as heroes in training. -
23:46 - 23:50That everyday you do some act of kindness,
of caring, of compassion, -
23:50 - 23:52to make the world better
for the people around you. -
23:52 - 23:54As I said, in your family, in your school.
-
23:54 - 23:58And of course, in this set,
no child is excluded. -
23:58 - 24:01Because one of your jobs
as a hero in training -
24:01 - 24:04is to make everyone feel
worthwhile and respected. -
24:06 - 24:09HIP USA is now combined with HIP Poland.
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24:10 - 24:13We can make our youth
real everyday heroes. -
24:13 - 24:17Together, they and we can make
the world better for everyone. -
24:17 - 24:21(Applause)
- Title:
- Why are boys failing? | Philip Zimbardo | TEDxRawaRiverSalon
- Description:
-
In March 2011, Philip Zimbardo gave 5 minutes TED talk about demise of guys. Now he presents more research on the subjects and encourages us to help them for our common better future.
Philip Zimbardo was the leader of the notorious 1971 Stanford Prison Experiment. Now he is talking about young men from neighborhood who are losing their lives.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 24:26
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