5 Money Questions to Ask Your Partner!
-
0:05 - 0:09You've been dating for a while now,
and things seem to be going well. -
0:09 - 0:12You have the same hobbies,
you both love dogs and kids, -
0:12 - 0:15and neither of you
listens to dubstep. -
0:15 - 0:19It might be time for someone
to pop the big question... -
0:19 - 0:22"What's your credit score?"
-
0:31 - 0:35Nothing kills the mood like prying
into your partner's financial history, -
0:35 - 0:38so it's not surprising
that many young couples -
0:38 - 0:41will spend hundreds of hours
planning their weddings -
0:41 - 0:44but almost none preparing
their financial merger. -
0:44 - 0:45And that's kind of a big deal.
-
0:45 - 0:51Nearly one-in-three couples say finances
cause the most stress in their relationship, -
0:51 - 0:54followed distantly by intimacy,
children and in-laws. -
0:54 - 0:57More than a third of
millennials in relationships -
0:57 - 0:59fight about money
at least once a week! -
0:59 - 1:03Which is troubling, because couples
who disagree about money -
1:03 - 1:07once a week or more were over 30%
more likely to get divorced -
1:07 - 1:09than those who disagree
a couple times a month. -
1:09 - 1:12A lot of this marital strife
can be avoided -
1:12 - 1:16just by having a few honest
conversations before tying the knot. -
1:16 - 1:18It can be hard
to broach the subject, -
1:18 - 1:21so to make it easier for all
those young lovers out there, -
1:21 - 1:25here are five financial topics you should
discuss with your future partner. -
1:25 - 1:26Number 1
-
1:26 - 1:30What do you earn, what do you own,
and what do you owe? -
1:30 - 1:34It can be difficult to reveal
this information, -
1:34 - 1:35but it's best to just
rip the band-aid off. -
1:35 - 1:40After all, lack of money is not
as bad as lack of communication. -
1:40 - 1:42According to one study,
4 in 10 couples -
1:42 - 1:44don't agree on what
their partner's income was. -
1:44 - 1:49And 10% of them got the number
wrong by $25,000 or more. -
1:49 - 1:53Good planning is impossible if each
of you only has half the information, -
1:53 - 1:57and getting everything out on
the table will only strengthen trust. -
1:57 - 2:00Philip and I suggest having
this talk in two parts. -
2:00 - 2:04Send each other an email with
a simple breakdown of your finances -
2:04 - 2:08and then a few days later come together
in a non-judgmental frame of mind -
2:08 - 2:12to discuss the human story
behind those numbers. -
2:12 - 2:13Number 2
-
2:13 - 2:17How was money dealt with
in your household growing up? -
2:17 - 2:21As much as we don't
like to admit it, -
2:21 - 2:25we are heavily influenced by
the environment we were raised in, -
2:25 - 2:28so learning about your
partner's family traditions -
2:28 - 2:29can offer a lot of insight and
understanding into their financial habits. -
2:29 - 2:31Did they grow up
on a tight budget? -
2:31 - 2:34Did one parent run the show
or did they share responsibility? -
2:34 - 2:37Were they ever taught
to balance a checkbook? -
2:37 - 2:41The second part of this conversation
is figuring out what traditions -
2:41 - 2:44you each grew up with
that you don't want to replicate. -
2:44 - 2:49Maybe your partner's parents
struggled with debt -
2:49 - 2:51so it's very important to them
to not get into that same quagmire. -
2:51 - 2:52Number 3
-
2:52 - 2:55What will be yours, mine and ours?
-
2:55 - 3:00It's becoming more common for couples to
keep separate accounts even after marriage. -
3:00 - 3:03Maybe they're afraid of
losing independence, -
3:03 - 3:04maybe they just haven't
gotten around to it yet, -
3:04 - 3:10but they might be missing out
on some benefits of a joint account -
3:10 - 3:11like easier organization
and transparency. -
3:11 - 3:16If you and your partner decide
to keep separate accounts, -
3:16 - 3:18make sure that you're not creating
places where secrets can hide. -
3:18 - 3:23About one third of spouses admit
to committing financial infidelity, -
3:23 - 3:25which means intentionally
deceiving your partner -
3:25 - 3:28about how you're
spending or managing money. -
3:28 - 3:33Of those, 16% ended up in divorce
expressly because of it. -
3:33 - 3:36And remember, you don't need
to have separate accounts -
3:36 - 3:38to enjoy
financial independence. -
3:38 - 3:42Julia and I have agreed on a set amount
of personal splurge money per month. -
3:42 - 3:47It's always equal and we can do
whatever we want with zero discussion. -
3:47 - 3:52It gives us space to be ourselves without
fear of lectures or petty squabbles. -
3:52 - 3:53Number 4
-
3:53 - 3:56How much do you want
to spend on kids? -
3:56 - 3:59While most couples will talk about
whether they want kids, -
3:59 - 4:03far fewer will discuss
the massive financial impact -
4:03 - 4:05- which can start
before they're even born! -
4:05 - 4:08About 15% of couples
struggle with infertility, -
4:08 - 4:11and the cost of a common
fertility treatment in the U.S. -
4:11 - 4:14ranges from about
$12,000 - $15,000. -
4:14 - 4:18The average private adoption
costs almost $40,000! -
4:18 - 4:21Once you've got the kid,
you have to decide about daycare, -
4:21 - 4:24public school versus private,
and of course, college. -
4:24 - 4:27Right now, the average cost
of sending a child -
4:27 - 4:31to a 4-year public university
is around $100K. -
4:31 - 4:35It's projected to be double that
18 years from now! -
4:35 - 4:39Of course, this is an ongoing conversation
that you'll be having for many years, -
4:39 - 4:44but it's important to weigh the financial
impact of these choices as early as possible. -
4:44 - 4:45Number 5
-
4:45 - 4:48What are your financial goals
in order of priority? -
4:48 - 4:52Sharing your financial goals with
each other can actually be kinda fun! -
4:52 - 4:55But in our experience, taking on
too many goals at once -
4:55 - 4:58can make it less likely
you'll achieve any of them. -
4:58 - 5:00If one of you is focused
on buying a house, -
5:00 - 5:03and the other on starting a business,
neither of you may get very far. -
5:03 - 5:07But if you join forces and agree
on what to tackle first, -
5:07 - 5:09both of you will get where
you want to be faster. -
5:09 - 5:15A 2015 study asked couples for their best
piece of financial advice for newlyweds. -
5:15 - 5:19The top two suggestions were to save
as early as possible for retirement -
5:19 - 5:22and to make all
financial decisions together. -
5:22 - 5:26Not all of these conversations will result
in firm agreements, but when they do, -
5:26 - 5:32make sure to write them down in a sort of
Financial Constitution and then sign it! -
5:32 - 5:34It might sound
unromantic, -
5:34 - 5:37but it's all too easy
for two people -
5:37 - 5:39to remember the same
conversation differently! -
5:39 - 5:42And you can always jointly
decide to amend your constitution! -
5:42 - 5:44It's not set in stone.
-
5:44 - 5:46Of course,
if you're already married, -
5:46 - 5:49you may have skipped over a few
of these questions - but take heart! -
5:49 - 5:53It's never too late to bring them up
and turn a fresh page. -
5:53 - 5:55And that's our two cents!
- Title:
- 5 Money Questions to Ask Your Partner!
- Description:
-
You can check out Google's Science Journal app at http://g.co/ScienceJournal
Nothing is less romantic than talking to your partner about their financial history, but finances cause major stresses in relationships. A lot of these stresses can be tackled by communicating without judgment. Here are 5 financial topics you should discuss with your future partner.
SUBSCRIBE to Two Cents! https://goo.gl/jQ857H
Two Cents on FB: https://www.facebook.com/TwoCentsPBS
Two Cents on Twitter: @twocentspbs
Email us: twocentspbs@gmail.com--
Two Cents was created by Katie Graham, Andrew Matthews, Philip Olson CFP® and Julia Lorenz-Olson and is brought to you by PBS Digital Studios. We love dropping some knowledge on all things personal finance and helping you make better money decisions.
Two Cents is hosted by Philip Olson, CFP® and Julia Lorenz-Olson
Directors: Katie Graham & Andrew Matthews
Written by: Julia Lorenz-Olson and Andrew Matthews
Produced by: Katie Graham & Amanda Fox
Images by: Shutterstock
Music by: APMSOURCES:
http://www.businessinsider.com/love-and-money-what...
http://www.lifehack.org/.../30-money-questions-ask-your...
http://www.ihr.com/.../ivf-in-vitro-fertilization-cost.html
https://www.forbes.com/.../10-ways-to-prevent-money.../...
http://time.com/4575495/divorce-rate-nearly-40-year-low/
https://www.npr.org/.../study-record-number-of-people-are...
https://www.moneyhabitudes.com/financial-statistics/
https://www.theknot.com/.../more-couples-living-together...
http://www.americanadoptions.com/adopt/the_costs_of_adopting - Video Language:
- English
- Duration:
- 06:33
Alexandre Clemente edited English subtitles for 5 Money Questions to Ask Your Partner! | ||
Alexandre Clemente edited English subtitles for 5 Money Questions to Ask Your Partner! | ||
Alexandre Clemente edited English subtitles for 5 Money Questions to Ask Your Partner! | ||
Alexandre Clemente edited English subtitles for 5 Money Questions to Ask Your Partner! | ||
Alexandre Clemente edited English subtitles for 5 Money Questions to Ask Your Partner! | ||
Alexandre Clemente edited English subtitles for 5 Money Questions to Ask Your Partner! | ||
Alexandre Clemente edited English subtitles for 5 Money Questions to Ask Your Partner! | ||
Alexandre Clemente edited English subtitles for 5 Money Questions to Ask Your Partner! |