Photography as a salve for loneliness | Ryan Pfluger | TEDxPasadena
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0:13 - 0:16In case there's any confusion,
that's me up there. -
0:16 - 0:18(Laughter)
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0:18 - 0:21Enjoying the spotlight
or commanding attention -
0:21 - 0:23does not come naturally to me.
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0:23 - 0:28Blending into the background,
analyzing and observing a situation, -
0:28 - 0:30is where I find the most comfort,
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0:31 - 0:35or, as I'll get to later on in this talk,
when I'm on the road by myself. -
0:35 - 0:38Unless this lady is with me.
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0:38 - 0:41Yes, I'm referring to my camera as a lady.
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0:41 - 0:42(Laughter)
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0:42 - 0:44She is my safety blanket,
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0:44 - 0:49and I've spent more time with my camera
than with most people in my life. -
0:49 - 0:51I'm an artist, I am a photographer,
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0:51 - 0:55I'm a self-described nomadic creator.
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0:55 - 0:59It's one of those creative professions
that when you tell people, they say, -
0:59 - 1:01"Wow, I wish I could do that!"
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1:01 - 1:03Or,
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1:03 - 1:06"What do you really do for work?"
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1:06 - 1:07(Laughter)
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1:07 - 1:10Or my personal favorite,
"Did you go to school for this?" -
1:10 - 1:12(Laughter)
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1:12 - 1:16And, as with most things that we don't
have personal experience with, -
1:16 - 1:19we make our own assumptions and judgments
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1:19 - 1:23based off of the only tangible things
that we can grab from. -
1:23 - 1:25So, when you say "photographer,"
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1:25 - 1:31people often think "weddings,"
or "high school portraits," -
1:31 - 1:35or the ridiculous way photographers
are depicted in TV and movies. -
1:36 - 1:41And I am going to show you
what I do and why I do it. -
1:41 - 1:44Now, when people first meet me
or hear about me, -
1:44 - 1:47this is what they're interested in.
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1:47 - 1:48Now, I could stand here
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1:48 - 1:52and I can talk about how I've brushed
shoulders with world leaders, -
1:52 - 1:56and my surreal five minutes
that I spent with President Obama. -
1:57 - 2:00Or I could talk about
photographing Hillary Clinton -
2:00 - 2:04a week before the election,
after a rally in North Carolina. -
2:05 - 2:10Or the tremendous emotional weight
for myself photographing Darren Wilson -
2:10 - 2:14a year after the events in Ferguson,
Missouri, for the New Yorker, -
2:14 - 2:19to then, only a year later,
photograph Bryan Stevenson, -
2:19 - 2:24and he is an advocate and a lawyer
based out of Mobile, Alabama, -
2:24 - 2:26who fights for the under-represented,
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2:26 - 2:30and we had a conversation about race
that still stays with me today. -
2:31 - 2:35Or just what's the easiest
and what most people can relate to: -
2:35 - 2:37celebrity.
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2:37 - 2:39So, I could talk about Agelina Jolie,
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2:39 - 2:44or I could talk about the TV icon
that's Sarah Jessica Parker, -
2:44 - 2:51or I can just talk about the numerous
actors and musicians and notable people -
2:51 - 2:54that I've interacted with
over the last decade. -
2:55 - 2:57And I love my job and I love my work,
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2:57 - 3:00but that's not what I'm here
to talk to you about. -
3:01 - 3:05I'm going to talk about
when I'm in my 2003 Buick, -
3:05 - 3:07driving cross-country for weeks at a time,
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3:07 - 3:11and how that's when I'm feeling
the most fulfilled. -
3:11 - 3:15But first, I need to give
a little backstory on me -
3:15 - 3:17and why I do what I do.
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3:18 - 3:22So, think of it like in an abridged
episode of "This American Life," -
3:22 - 3:24just not that long.
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3:24 - 3:25(Laughter)
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3:25 - 3:29So, I am a white, cis, queer man
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3:29 - 3:33from a working-class family in New York,
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3:33 - 3:36and with all things being relative,
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3:36 - 3:39I didn't grow up
with the utmost privilege, -
3:39 - 3:42and it wasn't uniquely terrible either.
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3:43 - 3:47My parents, however,
were too involved with their own demons -
3:47 - 3:51for me to ever truly feel seen or heard.
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3:51 - 3:53And it wasn't necessarily their fault.
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3:53 - 3:57It was merely just a casualty
of their reality. -
3:57 - 4:03Depression, addiction, anger, resentment
overwhelmed both of them. -
4:04 - 4:07When I was seven, my mother
was diagnosed with cancer. -
4:07 - 4:13It was the first of a decade-long battle
that she ended up surviving from. -
4:13 - 4:17It was also the same time that she
showed me how to make her a screwdriver. -
4:18 - 4:24When I was ten, I knew that I was queer,
or that I at least liked boys, -
4:24 - 4:27and by 13, my mother outed me.
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4:27 - 4:32It was an experience that let me feeling
like my identity was stripped from me. -
4:32 - 4:38By 14, my dad had a DUI or two,
I don't really remember. -
4:39 - 4:41By 16, he moved out of the house,
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4:41 - 4:44and by 18, I didn't really speak
to either of them. -
4:46 - 4:49So, my world up until
this point made me feel -
4:49 - 4:52that my experiences and my feelings
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4:52 - 4:55would never actually compare
to that of my parents. -
4:55 - 4:57And intellectually, I knew better,
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4:57 - 5:02but I didn't actually know
what would make me feel differently. -
5:02 - 5:06All I knew was that I didn't want
anyone that came into my life -
5:06 - 5:08to ever feel like they were not seen.
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5:09 - 5:11And then, I picked up a camera.
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5:12 - 5:15For me, photography was always
really interesting -
5:15 - 5:19because of the immediacy
and collaborative nature of it. -
5:19 - 5:22It would be a way for me to meet people
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5:22 - 5:28that were outside of the safe mental
bubble that I had created for myself. -
5:28 - 5:31And so, I started photographing,
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5:31 - 5:35and as I started interacting
with other people, -
5:35 - 5:41I realized that the interaction itself
was actually more interesting to me -
5:41 - 5:43than the photograph.
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5:43 - 5:45When I started realizing that,
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5:47 - 5:50and I thought about my dad,
who had recently got sober, -
5:50 - 5:52I wanted him to feel seen.
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5:53 - 5:56So, at this point,
he and I were still very estranged, -
5:57 - 5:59and I was in graduate school
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5:59 - 6:03and my professor, Collier Schorr,
said something to me -
6:03 - 6:06that still echoes in my head
pretty much every day: -
6:07 - 6:09my work was "too easy,"
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6:09 - 6:12and just because I could make
something that "looked good" -
6:12 - 6:15did not mean that it was interesting.
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6:16 - 6:20And so, I needed to challenge
myself and my craft. -
6:20 - 6:26Ironically enough, after years of spending
my time making myself feel comfortable, -
6:26 - 6:28I needed to be uncomfortable again.
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6:29 - 6:33So, I asked my dad if he would be willing
to sit for a portrait. -
6:33 - 6:35This was the first one that I took of him.
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6:36 - 6:40Then, I took a break because I needed
to do a lot of soul-searching -
6:40 - 6:43to figure out what it was
that I actually wanted to do with him. -
6:44 - 6:47And so, I continued to photograph him
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6:47 - 6:51and we started to have a dialogue,
but it was through photographs. -
6:53 - 6:58And I even actually started
taking portraits of myself with him -
6:58 - 7:04because I wanted to, at first, just have
a close physical proximity to him. -
7:04 - 7:09And the idea of this made me realize
I needed full immersion, -
7:09 - 7:12I needed no easy escape plan.
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7:12 - 7:18And so, I asked him, kind of not even
thinking it would happen, -
7:18 - 7:22if he would go on the road trip
that we never took when I was a kid, -
7:22 - 7:26and surprisingly, he said,
"Yeah, sure, let's do it." -
7:26 - 7:28And so, he and I hit the road,
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7:28 - 7:32and as this happened,
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7:32 - 7:37we started creating this fantasy
relationship that never actually existed. -
7:37 - 7:38(Laughter)
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7:39 - 7:42But the experience
of making these photographs -
7:42 - 7:48created a bond between the two of us
that we were incapable of doing otherwise. -
7:48 - 7:51It was my a-ha moment for photography.
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7:51 - 7:54I was using my camera as a therapist.
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7:54 - 7:56It became this third party
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7:56 - 7:59that allowed the two of us
to communicate with each other -
7:59 - 8:02even when we weren't actually talking.
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8:03 - 8:06We finally actually saw each other.
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8:06 - 8:10So, fast-forward about a decade later,
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8:10 - 8:14and I am no longer working with my dad,
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8:14 - 8:19but I am photographing strangers
spontaneously that I meet on the road. -
8:19 - 8:25Now, about a month before the election,
I was having tremendous anxiety -
8:25 - 8:28and feeling very stagnant
about my work in general. -
8:29 - 8:31I began seeing friends withdraw
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8:31 - 8:37and the overall feeling
of frustration on social media. -
8:37 - 8:40And to be quite honest,
I just wanted to escape. -
8:40 - 8:42And so, I hit the road,
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8:42 - 8:45and I didn't have
any destinations in mind. -
8:45 - 8:48I just knew I wanted
to drive cross-country -
8:48 - 8:50and I wanted to escape.
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8:51 - 8:53And then, about a day
into being on the road, -
8:53 - 8:58I realized I needed to be doing something
while I was on the road, -
8:58 - 9:03because being just with yourself can lead
to a lot, a lot of soul-searching. -
9:03 - 9:09So, once I realized I wanted
to be doing something, -
9:09 - 9:11I thought back to the time with my dad
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9:11 - 9:15and how pivotal
and also very cathartic it was -
9:16 - 9:19for me, for my craft
and also my mental health. -
9:19 - 9:24And so, I wanted to do that
with strangers, -
9:24 - 9:27and I went on Instagram,
I went on Facebook, -
9:27 - 9:30I downloaded all of the dating
and hook-up apps, -
9:30 - 9:33and I started messaging
everyone that I could -
9:33 - 9:36within every town that I stopped in.
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9:37 - 9:41Now, when a stranger
approaches you online, -
9:41 - 9:44it leads to a little hesitation.
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9:44 - 9:48And I say "stranger"
and I just want to let you know -
9:48 - 9:52I'm utilizing a community
that is already comfortable for me, -
9:52 - 9:55and that's of gay
or queer-identifying men. -
9:55 - 9:58And so, I would send messages
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9:58 - 10:00with a brief little description
of what I was doing. -
10:00 - 10:03I wanted to come and meet you,
I wanted to come to your home, -
10:03 - 10:07we could meet in public,
and I wanted to take your portrait - -
10:07 - 10:10I got the majority of [them] being noes,
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10:10 - 10:15and a lot of variations
of, "That's creepy" or - -
10:15 - 10:16(Laughter)
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10:16 - 10:19"I don't really photograph well."
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10:19 - 10:24But there was something
that did come up pretty often, -
10:24 - 10:26and it was, "Why me?"
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10:26 - 10:29And it was that other a-ha moment for me.
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10:29 - 10:32There didn't need to be a "why me."
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10:32 - 10:37I wanted everyone that I interacted with
to not only feel special, -
10:37 - 10:40but to also feel like their
stories could be heard. -
10:41 - 10:45So, this body of work, it's called
"The Day of The Lone Wolf," -
10:45 - 10:49and it's from a book called
"The Secret [Language] of Birthdays," -
10:49 - 10:52and it happens to be
the day that I was born on. -
10:52 - 10:55Now, I casually mentioned
my mother earlier, -
10:55 - 10:58and it was by no accident.
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10:59 - 11:01Her and I are still estranged,
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11:01 - 11:04but I wanted to take
this moment to thank her. -
11:04 - 11:09When I was younger, she read to me
from The Secret Language of Birthdays, -
11:09 - 11:12and she used the personality traits
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11:12 - 11:16that were depicted
for The Day of The Lone Wolf, -
11:16 - 11:21both to criticize and also
occasionally appraise me, -
11:21 - 11:28such as emotionally "sensitive,"
and "impulsive," and "contradictory." -
11:29 - 11:31Now in my mid 30's
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11:31 - 11:34I've reclaimed my identity as a queer man
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11:34 - 11:38and I've also reclaimed
The Day of The Lone Wolf, -
11:38 - 11:40and I'm creating in honor of it.
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11:41 - 11:44So, since that first road trip,
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11:44 - 11:47I've gotten cross-country two more times,
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11:47 - 11:52and the only thing that you actually know
about these photographs -
11:52 - 11:54is the common denominator is me.
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11:55 - 11:58Now, everyone has a story,
you've been listening to mine - -
11:59 - 12:04And so, while you may not know
the particulars of their struggles -
12:04 - 12:08or of their achievements
or even of their privilege, -
12:08 - 12:11there is one thing that you do know:
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12:11 - 12:15they allowed themselves
to be vulnerable with a stranger, -
12:15 - 12:17and that's what I've done with you today.
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12:17 - 12:18Thank you.
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12:18 - 12:20(Applause)
- Title:
- Photography as a salve for loneliness | Ryan Pfluger | TEDxPasadena
- Description:
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Photographer Ryan Pfluger shares how he came to use the medium of photography as a means for therapy and connection.
Ryan Pfluger is a New York-based photographer. His photographs often deal with the subtly of body posture, the gaze, and the role of self-portraiture, as an exploration of what portraiture means in our presently-saturated culture of images. For the past year, Ryan has been driving cross-country every few months making portraits based off of geo-location apps. Some of his clients include New York Times Magazine, The New Yorker, New York Magazine, and TIME. Born and raised in New York, Ryan received his MFA in Photo, Video and Related Media from the School of Visual Arts in 2007.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
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