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Love Your Enemies and Seek to Do Them Good - Tim Conway

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    This man hated God.
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    And he just thought it
    was the greatest thing
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    to try to provoke this godly woman.
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    She was God fearing.
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    She was a holy woman.
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    And he was a wicked man.
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    Of course, he was old.
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    He'd be there at home with her
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    while husband's off at work.
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    And he would just try to provoke her
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    and he would speak in
    foul, wicked language.
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    He'd try to make her life hard.
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    He tormented her.
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    Foul, perverse language;
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    insults, mocking...
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    he knew she was a Christian.
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    And he was just trying to get her
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    to blow her testimony.
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    He just tried to jab at her.
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    And on the inside, she was angry.
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    She would have to leave the room and weep.
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    He was trying to provoke her.
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    She was exasperated.
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    You know how it can be,
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    if you try to go to your husband
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    in a situation like that
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    and it's his dad.
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    Well, it's not that bad.
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    Well, whatever happened,
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    she wasn't able to get the kind of help
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    she was obviously looking
    for from her husband.
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    So she went to her pastor.
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    She said, pastor, here's this situation...
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    you know what the pastor told her?
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    Every time he provokes
    you, return kindness.
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    Every time he tries to get you;
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    every time he speaks wickedly;
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    every time he tries to provoke;
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    every time he's cruel;
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    every time he's unkind;
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    every time he acts wickedly towards you
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    return his evil with kindness.
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    And I'll tell you, that good woman
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    by the help of Christ,
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    she went back there
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    and it wasn't easy.
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    She felt provoked inside.
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    There'd be tears.
    There'd be hurt.
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    Inner turmoil.
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    But she sought to return good to that man.
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    And I can't remember in the story
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    how long that went on;
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    how much time went by,
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    but I can tell you this,
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    there was one day he did
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    an especially wicked thing to her,
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    and she went over and she
    began to cook cookies.
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    She turned away from
    all her other chores
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    and all her other household work.
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    She cooked those cookies.
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    You know what?
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    They were the favorite
    kind of that old man.
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    And she put them on a plate,
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    and as graciously as she could,
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    she came over,
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    and she set that plate down on the table
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    in front of him.
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    And you know what?
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    That old sinner couldn't take it anymore.
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    He fell out of that chair
    on his face on the floor
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    and he just wept.
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    And she hadn't seen that coming.
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    She didn't know what
    was going on inside.
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    Every time she was returning
    that kindness to him,
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    it was grating on his conscience.
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    It was stabbing him.
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    And it was hurting - it was
    like a burning coal in there.
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    And finally, this was too much.
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    It just broke that wicked old man.
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    Like burning coals...
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    And you know what?
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    The testimony is that
    that man was converted.
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    That man repented.
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    That man saw in the example
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    of his godly daughter-in-law something.
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    He asked God to forgive him.
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    He asked that lady to forgive him.
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    He was broken.
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    He's in glory now!
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    Because she lived like that.
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    Brethren, let me tell you something.
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    This is the Word of God.
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    This is for real.
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    One of the reasons we
    don't know more of this
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    is because we don't live more like this.
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    That's a reality.
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    Folks, it's not because it isn't true.
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    It's not because it doesn't work.
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    It's because we are far more often
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    avenging ourselves than trying to show
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    love and kindness when we're wronged.
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    We tend to do what
    Jesus Christ did not do.
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    You know what? We get offended.
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    We get hurt.
    We get wronged.
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    What happens?
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    This little thing comes up in us.
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    We want to get even.
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    And even though we
    may not strike out
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    in a way that is just manifestly visible,
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    what do we do?
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    By our words, by our actions,
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    by our avoidance,
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    we give these little subtle deals.
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    Well, I just won't talk to them.
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    I'm just going to avoid where they are.
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    And it may not be just the outward strike,
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    but we've been offended.
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    We're going to respond.
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    We're going to make it known.
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    We're going to get back.
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    We're going to somehow deal a blow
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    for the blow we feel like we've received.
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    Brethren, are you really hearing this?
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    That's the thing.
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    Are you hearing this?
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    Can you imagine what it
    would be like for this church
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    if every time somebody grieved us,
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    offended us or hurt us,
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    we immediately responded
    with a loving action?
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    A loving gesture?
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    Folks, when someone wrongs us,
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    we know it.
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    Right?
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    Folks, enemies are called enemies
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    because they do the things
    that only enemies would do.
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    And that doesn't mean that sometimes
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    that enemy isn't another Christian.
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    Basically, we can size
    up an enemy this way:
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    It's not just a lost person
    that does this evil.
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    It's anybody that
    strikes out against us.
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    And the fact is, that even when
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    it's an enemy that
    strikes out against us,
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    we can leave that
    vengeance to the Lord.
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    The Lord will repay.
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    You say what? He's going to repay them?
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    Not if there a child of God,
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    but there's going to be payment.
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    Christ will take that payment.
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    Which you should be glad of that
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    because He's taken yours too,
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    and you've offended other people.
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    But I'll tell you what,
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    an enemy is anybody
    that comes against us.
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    It's anybody that mistreats us.
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    And I mean it's a true mistreatment.
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    It's a true offensive deal to us.
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    It's a true persecution to us.
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    It can come from any quarter.
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    And bottom line, enemies
    do what enemies do.
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    And we feel what enemies do.
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    This isn't a mystery to us.
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    If anything in our
    life gets our attention,
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    I mean really gets it,
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    it's the actions of enemies against us.
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    We feel it.
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    And you know what Paul says?
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    He comes in right there
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    and he says, OK, I can say this to you:
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    It isn't something you have to
    wonder whether it happened.
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    When you feel offended,
    when you feel hurt,
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    you know you do.
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    And what he's saying is,
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    right at that point,
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    take that hurt,
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    and return in love.
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    It takes the grace of God.
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    Natural man cannot do this.
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    What did God say?
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    What is the promise?
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    He says we are
    predestinated to be conformed
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    to the image of Christ.
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    If you're a true child
    of God, I guarantee you,
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    this will be conformed
    into your very image.
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    It will be stamped in there.
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    By the grace of God,
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    by the power of the Holy Spirit,
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    you can do this.
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    Folks, take every offense, every hurt;
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    let their wrongdoing to you
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    be an immediate prompt in your life
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    to love them.
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    Are you really hearing what I'm saying?
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    Look, if you're not hurt right now,
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    you're thinking, I can do that.
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    But when you've been
    hurt, it's not so easy.
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    And I can imagine in a church like this,
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    as the church grows...
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    OK, let me give you an example.
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    OK, we've got a sister.
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    Sister hears some ladies
    got together for coffee.
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    How come I wasn't invited?
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    And by the way,
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    who was it that planned that thing?
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    Who was it that did the inviting?
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    They didn't invite me?
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    I'm hurt.
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    Well, you know what?
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    Next time I have a gathering,
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    I'm not going to invite her.
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    You know what?
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    You'll laugh,
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    but I know the way people think.
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    And I know what hurts people.
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    And you know what?
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    In a church where a lot of sinners,
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    saved though many of them may be,
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    try to live together
    and function together,
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    we hurt each other.
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    And look, we could be talking
    about enemies out there,
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    but there are things that
    people do in here as well.
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    And the thing that I'm saying is,
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    whether it's an enemy out there
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    or whether it's somebody in here,
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    you hear down through the grapevine,
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    so and so said such and such about you.
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    Well, that hurts me.
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    Well, you know what?
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    Rather than saying by
    my retaliatory words,
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    or by my avoidance or by my silence
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    to that person I'm going to get them back,
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    you know what you do?
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    You say, "that hurt."
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    Now, Father, show me
    specifically how to do and act
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    a specific manifest act
    of love toward that person.
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    If we have a church
    that's functioning like that,
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    guess what?
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    We don't have people like
    I've heard some people
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    that have left the church
    because they didn't feel like
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    they were being given enough attention.
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    You know what you
    do when you get hurt
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    because you don't feel like
    you're getting enough attention?
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    You specifically according
    to this don't retaliate
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    by I'm going to show them - I'm leaving!
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    That's exactly the opposite of this.
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    What this is is saying if somebody does
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    strike out against me like that,
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    then I'm going to return love.
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    If somebody offends me,
    somebody comes against me
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    I'm going to do this.
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    Folks, take every hurt, every wrong,
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    every unkindness, every attack,
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    every provocation, every offense,
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    every criticism, every crushing, mauling,
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    biting, wounding thing,
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    and make it specifically an occasion for
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    doing that person good.
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Love Your Enemies and Seek to Do Them Good - Tim Conway
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