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I'm going to read this to you guys
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and then you guys tell me
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how you'd counsel this guy.
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And look, in a lot of these,
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it's not that there's
necessarily a perfect answer,
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I'm just wanting you to think
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and be discerning
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and think Scripturally,
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seek to apply the Scripture.
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So you have this guy Alex.
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"Hi Pastor Tim, I'm currently serving
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as a youth leader in my church.
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My first question is:
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It seems like every
time I teach the youths
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they don't seem serious about it.
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I mean, they actually did tell me
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that they like me much better than
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the previous youth leader.
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They also told me that they prefer
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to listen to me teach over
the elders in the church
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apparently because the teachings
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of the other elders are
somewhat always the same
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but worded differently.
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That I have to admit as I feel
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that sermons on YouTube give me
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much more growth than the sermons
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I hear at my own church.
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I don't say this to boast,
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but rather to just give
you more information.
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I really do spend a lot
of time in making sure
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the messages I create are
practical and biblically sound.
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However, I just feel like
if the people I'm teaching
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are not really serious about
applying what is being taught
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should I continue teaching those people?
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To add, I'm teaching youths
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that are ages 15-19.
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My second question
is that I've always been
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somewhat of a self-taught person
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in a sense that when I first
became a follower of Jesus
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I never had a Paul the
same way Timothy did.
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Everything I learned was just strictly
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based on personal Bible reading,
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reading Christian books, watching sermons,
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and of course, my own
personal experiences.
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Now of course, I believe I was guided
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by the Holy Spirit in my learning,
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but I've always desired a mentor
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who could actually guide me in my walk,
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but I feel no one in the
church could be that person.
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Most of the elders of my
church seem too busy
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and no one ever offered
to train me in some way
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before I was asked whether I
wanted to teach at the church.
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I'm like the only 25
year old in my church.
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No one else in my age range.
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The other youths aged 15-19
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are not really serious about their walk.
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I just feel like sometimes I'm not growing
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the way I'm supposed to,
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and I sometimes question
whether I'm qualified
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simply because I'm
not trained the same way
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a person like Timothy was
perhaps trained by Paul.
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My question is, is it right for me
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to continue serving as a youth leader
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even though I'm not really growing
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the way I feel I should be growing?
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And also because I may not have
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the appropriate training
that a youth leader
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should probably have?"
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So there you have it.
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What do you tell a guy like that?
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James: He said,
"my messages are practical."
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I think that's not what the kids need.
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He says they're not really
serious about applying it.
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Well, probably because
they're not born again,
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so I think he needs to change
what he's saying to the kids.
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They're not serious about
their walk. Why is that?
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And he can give practical messages all day
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to a bunch of goats and
they won't want to apply it.
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He's got a great evangelistic opportunity.
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Tim: Yeah, that's definitely
a thought I had.
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I mean, I would look
at a situation like this
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or like any situation that
we get in in our life.
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And I would begin to ask questions.
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You need to consider your options.
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You're in a situation like this.
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What are the options?
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What are the options?
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Tell me. What are some of
the options this guy has?
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(from the room): Leave?
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Tim: He could leave.
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He could quit teaching.
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He could quit having a problem with elders
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that are too busy.
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I mean, look, the reality is
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I don't know the guy writing.
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He could be in a wonderful church
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and all the problems could be him.
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One of the problems not knowing people
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is when they email in.
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You know, one of the
things that you recognize
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is he's not dialoguing with
his own pastors on this.
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The Internet is a very convenient place
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to vent your frustrations
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because you're not eyeball
to eyeball with people
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and you're not eyeball to eyeball
with people who know you.
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And so, it's pretty easy.
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It's pretty easy to slant things
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the way that you're
almost calculated to get
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the kind of answer that you want to hear.
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And so, we recognize that
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when we get these questions.
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We recognize that we're getting
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one person's opinion of a situation.
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But I would say, yeah,
what are the options?
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One option - probably
the most radical option -
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you just leave it all.
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Go to a different church.
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He could do that.
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I mean, he could do that.
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If he feels like, well, one,
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he's the only 25 year old
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if he wants to go where
there's other people his age.
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Two, if he feels like
the whole youth group
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is basically uninterested,
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and it sounds like he's even wondering
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whether he's called to teach
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or whether he's qualified to teach.
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It sounds like he's got elders at least
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that he feels are too busy
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if that's really the case.
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He could put all those thing together
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and he could say,
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maybe this isn't the
best place for me to be.
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What's probably the minimally difficult
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or radical decision that he could make?
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Yeah, do nothing.
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You know, when people are faced
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by problems, by difficulties in life,
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you could do nothing.
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But what are a number
of other possibilities?
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One is what James said.
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That came to my mind
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that look, if I'm heading up -
(incomplete thought)
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Maybe one of the problems here
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is that this guy is like a lot of
the Christian realm out there -
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professing Christian realm -
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is you basically assume
everybody's a Christian
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that says they're a Christian.
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You know, when you watch "Logic on Fire"
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one of the things that they say
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about Martyn Lloyd-Jones
when he went to Westminster -
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he did not assume that everybody
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sitting in the pews was converted.
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So many of his messages
were extremely evangelistic
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and he saw many of the people converted.
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And I think if you're discerning
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and it sounds like he's discerning -
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he's at least able to recognize
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that these young people
don't seem very enthused.
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It seems like he's recognizing
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that there's very little
commitment on their part.
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And so, yeah, I think James is right.
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Basically what it sounds to me
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is that he's dealing with a
whole youth group of lost kids.
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And so if you recognize that,
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like James said, it's a huge opportunity.
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What an opportunity for this guy to say,
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hey, you know what?
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I need to stop trying to
deal with these people
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like they're Christians,
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and giving them these Christian messages,
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and really learn what the Gospel is
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and preach that to them.
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Now as far as being qualified,
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I don't know that.
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I don't know how to answer that
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because I don't know the guy
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and I've not been exposed to his gifts.
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I don't know where his Christianity is.
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I don't know where his maturity level is.
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(from the room)
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I'm wondering, he sounds pretty mature.
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But I'm wondering, I've
never been on a mission,
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but I'm thinking maybe I would
have the same questions
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if I was on a mission and
thinking "am I qualified?"
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But maybe I am qualified, you know?
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I just need to push myself harder
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or maybe I'm not qualified.
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You know, I'm guessing that's probably
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some of the questions
you would struggle with
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if you're out on a mission
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or doing things of this nature.
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Tim: Well, let me ask you this.
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Do you know what was involved
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in Paul selecting Timothy to go with him
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on his missionary endeavor?
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Do you remember that account
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when Timothy first shows up?
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He was well spoken of.
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Do you remember which churches?
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Anybody remember the churches?
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Was it Lystra and Iconium?
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He was well spoken of
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by the brethren in those churches.
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How do we know? I mean, look,
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when you have the
qualifications for elders,
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you see 1 Timothy set in the context
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of Timothy being at Ephesus.
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The church being the pillar
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and the ground of truth.
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What we recognize is that
even Paul and Barnabas
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as supernatural as it was
that the Spirit of God
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seemed to indicate some
way to the church at Antioch
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that those two were sent forth,
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yet what we find is that they were
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two of the five prominent
men in that church
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who were exercising their gifts
in preaching and teaching.
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And my whole point here is this,
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even think with me about
look out amongst yourselves
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and choose seven men
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who are full of the Holy Spirit.
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You know, when they were looking
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for men to serve the
tables there in Acts 6.
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Look out among yourselves.
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They called the brethren to
look out among themselves.
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And I think that the
basic biblical pattern
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is that you have people tested
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in the community of the local church.
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Asking somebody far away
through the website
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about whether you're qualified or not,
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really, we can't make that assessment.
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You could hear somebody say certain things
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that could convince
you they're not qualified,
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but it's very difficult
to tell from far away.
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The place for a person's
gifts to be tested
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are right in the local church.
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The people who would best know
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whether this guy is qualified
to do what he's doing
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would be his own elders.
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Now whether there's any incompetency
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on the part of his elders, I don't know.
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What thinking went into their minds
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before they put him in this position?
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And he seems to sense some inability
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to access these guys' time.
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But your own church would really be
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the place to say that.
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I mean, when we're talking about people
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doing Sunday School
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or we're thinking about elders or deacons
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or we're looking at the possibility
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of sending people overseas,
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and when it comes to
church planting endeavors,
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when it comes to setting
up preaching rotations
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to church plants that we've started,
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I mean, basically what is going
to go into those decisions
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is the observations that we have made
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in two primary areas:
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One, character. Two, gift.
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Do they have outstanding character?
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And do they have the
adequate spiritual gifts
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to do what we're asking them to do?
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And the place for both of
those things to be proven
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is right in their own local church.
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Provenness is really the only way
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to figure out if somebody is qualified.
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Unless, of course, you
get some supernatural -
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in some way, the Spirit of God said
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send Paul and Barnabas.
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Whether that came through a prophet,
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(incomplete thought)
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Maybe that's just a way of saying
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that it was confirmed through the church.
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Because the church is said to send them
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just as it says the Spirit
sent them in Acts 13.
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We don't really know the
mechanism God used there
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to communicate that,
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but typically, the way that
we would look today
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is tested in the community of believers.
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So I mean, if I was in his position
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and I was having doubts,
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the first people I'd go to is the elders
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and say are you sure
I'm qualified to do this,
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and I would have discussions
with them about this.
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But like James said, I would take this
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as a huge evangelistic opportunity.
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I mean, if I had any burden to be teaching
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or any burden evangelistically,
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and suddenly when I become aware -
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maybe in the beginning I thought,
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hey, I'm going to have 15-19 year olds
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and they're all professing Christians
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and I come into it
thinking that I'm dealing
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with young people who are Christians,
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and I want to talk to them about purity,
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but I recognize after awhile
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that they're just dead and
they don't really care
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and they're not likely
walking in purity anyway,
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and it just suddenly dawns on me
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that it's probably
because they're all lost.
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You've got a bunch of young people
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that have made professions, been baptized.
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Now if that's true, I think
that says something
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about the quality of the
church in and of itself,
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if you've got a bunch of young people
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that have all been run
through the baptismal waters
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and most of them are not converted
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or all of them are not converted,
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that says something about the discernment
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of the elders as well.
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And that would begin to make me question
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whether their discernment about putting me
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in that teaching position
was necessarily good.
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But it is an opportunity to say,
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hey, I've got a room full of lost people
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and they're not responding well
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when I'm basically exhorting them
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with these Christian exhortations.
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Yeah, I think going right to the root
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of hey, you know what
real Christianity looks like?
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And you know what I'm seeing?
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Most of you don't have it.
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Maybe all of you don't have it.
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You know, all of you are likely
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going to end up being like Matthew 7 says,
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saying "Lord, Lord," but in that day,
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you're going to hear, "I never knew you."
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(Incomplete thought)
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My suspicion is that if all
these folks are baptized
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and the elders actually did that
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and you begin to scare the kids that way -
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cause their consciences to wake up -
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probably they would then
think he wasn't qualified.
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But that would probably
prove all the more that he is.
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And that would probably prove all the more
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that he's really in a bad church
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and he's got some bad leadership.
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But anyway.
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(from the room)
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I have a question.
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What role does consistency play
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in being a proven Christian?
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Or just other attributes
that would contribute?
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Tim: Well, I mean, in 2 Timothy
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Paul specifically tells Timothy
to look for faithful men.
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And we were just down in Mexico
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and the question came up
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about qualifications.
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People were wanting to know
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what does it take to go
to the mission field?
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Look, we have different sorts of people
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that we use in our church.
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Some are like John Sytsma.
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They oversee a missionary team.
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Some are like Matt Wilkinson.
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He's church planting in Saltillo.
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But others are like Jenny
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who go as a missionary helper to Lebanon.
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(incomplete thought)
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Obviously when we're
talking John and Matt,
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we're looking for men that
are basically elder caliber.
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That's true of John.
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Whether we would say that's
distinctly true of Matt,
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Matt never served as an elder
in our church here at home,
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but we did lay hands on him
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in sending him forth as a missionary.
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But then we get missionary helpers.
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But I tell you this, in all of them -
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Craig just recently said
when we're thinking
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about new teachers or revamping teaching -
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we've committed Sunday
School classes to Craig
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now that he's an elder.
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And he told me, he said,
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I'm not putting anyone
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in the Sunday School rotation
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who doesn't come to the prayer meeting.
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And I would say amen,
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and I would not send anybody
to the foreign mission field
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unless they were faithful
in their attendance.
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Now look, I recognize if they've
got Wednesday evening class
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or they're on a work rotation
where they have to work
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every third Wednesday,
or whatever that looks like,
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I recognize.
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But when people are flippant
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and they're not disciplined
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and they're not prioritizing
the prayer meeting,
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I want people that are prayerful
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that are in any kind of ministry,
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any kind of leadership,
any kind of teaching.
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We need prayerful people.
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We need faithful people.
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What does faithful look like?
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People that keep their word.
People that come on time.
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People that if they're
given a responsibility,
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they don't drop the ball.
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They're very meticulous about it.
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They're very conscientious.
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I mean, I remember one time
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we had committed the
leading of music to a man,
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and he showed up at the church
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and didn't lead.
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And I looked at him,
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and he just decided he
wasn't going to do it.
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I mean, that's dropping the ball.
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If you've got a Sunday School class,
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you're not just waking
up on Sunday morning
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and putting together something
in 20 minutes and running in.
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You're serious.
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You're going to give yourself to it.
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(from the room)
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So to be a proven Christian,
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you said consistency, faithfulness,
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maybe being tested.
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Tim: Well, when we talk about tested,
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I mean one of the things we're looking for
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is the character.
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Is there pride or humility?
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Purity?
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Their honesty?
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Their work ethic?
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Are they diligent in the Scriptures?
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Are they growing the
knowledge of Scripture?
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Do they have a consistent
walk with the Lord?
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Is it real?
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Is there reality in their life?
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Is there growth in their life?
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Is there a fear of God, a love of Christ?
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As far as gift, that's going
to demonstrate itself.
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(Incomplete thought)
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Basically, what is a spiritual gift?
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A spiritual gift is not something somebody
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is naturally born with.
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It's something that the Spirit of God
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imparts to a believer.
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Now it may be consistent
with physical giftedness,
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but it is the Spirit specifically enabling
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an individual to do something in a way
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that benefits and blesses
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and imparts grace to God's people.
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And the truth is it's like an evangelist.
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Somebody can call
themselves an evangelist,
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but you know what, if you're not able
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to communicate the Gospel
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and actually see people's lives changed,
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I doubt you're an evangelist.
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A person can call themselves a preacher,
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but if they step in the pulpit
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and they're killing God's
people every time they do it,
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yeah, they're in the pulpit preaching
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and they may call themselves a preacher,
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but are they a preacher?
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Well, God hasn't made them one.
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So that's the issue.
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Somebody can say they're merciful
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or somebody could say
that they have a gift to lead.
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We can say all sorts of things,
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but the real proof is that when you seek
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to use that spiritual gift in
the context of God's people,
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does God actually energize that?
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Does God use that so that God's people
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can say yes?
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Somebody can say my gift is mercy
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or I'm a comforter, I'm an encourager.
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But you go try to encourage people
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and they feel devastated by you.
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I really believe my wife has that gift
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because people say that
after they talk to her.
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People don't typically
say I have that gift
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and I probably would agree.
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I recognize.
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Now I have different ones,
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but that would not be the primary one
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or even one maybe.
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James: Sometimes you need to be devastated
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to be encouraged.
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Tim: Right. Right.
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Sometimes people need my approach
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and maybe even more often,
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they need Ruby's approach.
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But you know, I'm aware
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that when I teach and preach,
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people are helped.
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I'm also aware that when something
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needs to be dealt with really delicately,
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I'm not the guy with the gentleness
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to pull that off.
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And I will defer to my wife.
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There are times when
getting counsel from Ruby
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about how to handle a
matter beforehand is helpful
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because it's like sometimes it
just doesn't register with me.
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Obviously, it's not a gift
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if it doesn't even register
with me how to do that.
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I tend to be blunt and to the point.
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Anyway, we know what our gifts are
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because when we exercise them...
(incomplete thought).
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So I think that that's key.
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You guys know this, as we've sought
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to test people as far as
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their preaching and teaching abilities,
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you've seen us sort
through different people.
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You yourselves have sat there
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and you've been part of the body
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as we've sought to listen and evaluate.
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(incomplete thought)
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Teaching and preaching is prominent
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because it happens in
the capacity that it does
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where you have an
individual stand before others
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and seek to proclaim
the truth of God's Word.
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But just as much when you have gifts
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of encouragement or mercy
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or leadership, serving gifts.
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So anything else on that?