The Sad Truth About Most Gurus - Teal Swan -

In this episode, Teal Swan explains that the problem with most Gurus is that they are selectively identified. Teal Swan explains the difference between selective identification and integration. Se then explains how dangerous selective identification actually is.

Teal Swan is an International Spiritual Leader. She offers perspective on a wide range of topics including relationships, anxiety, meditation, shadow work, the law of attraction, The Completion Process, healing, PTSD, emotions and spirituality.

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Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel

Hello there

For the sake of understanding today,

I want you to think of your
skin like it is a container,

and inside that main container,

there are many smaller containers.

Some people have more than others.

inside each of those internal containers,

is a person.

A person with its own personality,

its own experiences,
its own beliefs,

its own way of seeing the world,

its own preferences.

Essentially, each aspect within you,

each person is its own ego.

You are not a singularity.

You are multitude.

You can stop thinking of yourself,

as a single person,

in order to grasp the
truth of how your life,

in this human embodiment,
actually functions.

Integration vs Self Identification.

We call each little
container person a "part".

These parts are in various stages
of growth and development.

They have different relationships
with each other.

People are not born this way.

These parts are created through trauma.

A person fragments themselves
to cope with the world.

We allow certain people out
of their little containers,

and Into our body,

so they come forward
and begin to animate us.

Now, when this happens,

we think that we are that person,

who has come through us.

We think that those beliefs
are our complete beliefs.

Those perceptions are our perceptions.

The way they feel is how we feel.

Essentially, we identify

with each one that comes through us.

For thousands of years the
standard practice has been

to decide which parts of self,

and specifically one part of self,

it's acceptable, the most acceptable,

and then to identify fully with that.

And to disallow all other parts

from being acknowledged
and from coming forward.

This is called

selective identification.

A Guru is a person who has decided

to identify with only one part
of himself or herself.

In the beginning of their
disciplined practice,

if any of these parts within them,

come forward that they
do not fully accept,

that does not align
with the one persona

that they have selected as appropriate,

they ignore it.

They invalidate it.

They simply shift all of their focus,

towards how that one part feels
towards the circumstance

that is arising.

They asked for that one
perspective to come forward,

and they act in accordance
with that one perspective.

This is their discipline.

They do not honor the
truth and reality

of any other part within
them except the one

that they allow to be
the only "you" that exists.

The discipline of self-abandonment.

But like it or not, these parts they deny,

are also them.

Now the sad part is,

with a guru,

their identity is made
up of their concept

of what an enlightened being is.

Whether or not that's actually

a reflection of truth.

So let's say that your concept of a guru

is somebody who's constantly forgiving,

who does not feel anger at all.

Someone who enjoys the world,

who has constant positive focus.

If you experience something

or the guru experiences
something in their life,

that isn't going right,

and they feel the aspect
of themselves that's angry,

that part of themselves,
has to be denied,

rejected, disowned,
banished to the dungeon.

They have to selectively identify instead

with their concept of the persona,

the part of them that is
in that state of guru hood

(their concept of guru).

"I'm not angry."

So we will jump to that perspective.

At first, it will feel a bit fake.

They will be putting on a show.

The show of:

"I feel no anger towards them at all."

The show of:

"I'm in a pure positive
state of forgiveness."

But after a while,

they will begin to identify
so much with this part,

they will mistake it for
the totality of themselves.

Now the problem with completely
identifying selectively

with one ego,

is that you cannot acknowledge
any other aspect within the self.

this is when it becomes highly dangerous.

Why?

Because, everything that
that person does

has to be explained through
that one persona.

So let's say you've got an aspect
of self that's a pedophile,

but you can't actually acknowledge

that there is that aspect of self.

Maybe a self that's trying desperately
to get in its own innocence

through children.

This is how a guru can have sex

with a bunch of little kids, for example.

They can do that because
they have an "excuse",

that falls under the
category of the one ego

that they have selectively identified with.

An ego that says, for example:

"I'm healing them by doing this."

To put it mildly,

Guru is perhaps the most selectively
identified person that exists.

Which is why the time
has come for the guru

to no longer exist,

in the form that it has existed in,
for thousands of years

(through selective identification).

The rest of the egos within them starve.

They are not just suppressed,

they are literally denied to the
point that they are imprisoned

in a dungeon, and the guru
throws away the key.

The Guru has no conscious
access to them after that point

the guru becomes one-dimensional,

and the outside world
begins to reflect that.

But from the outside most
people around the guru,

don't understand why so much
in the guru's life is falling apart.

How can people be so cruel?

How can this kind of stuff
be happening to them?

It's because all of those things are a
reflection of what they have buried.

Those parts that they do not allow,

to have any part in their embodiment.

For example, many
people including gurus,

that cut themselves off from the
unacceptable parts of themselves,

have made the child parts
within, unacceptable too.

After all, children do not control
their emotions like a guru should.

A guru cannot be a guru they're
out of control for emotions.

And so you will see the guru's
own actual children in life

become lost to them.

They may die, they may be separated
from them by their spouses,

they refuse to see them,
and the list goes on and on.

All of which, is an outer reflection
of the way the person's

own inner children parts,

have been cut off and lost to them.

All of these parts of self,

they need to be completely integrated.

They need to be brought closer
to one's being and allowed

to merge, in a way where
a person becomes unified.

Now many of you have
heard the saying:

which wolf do you want to feed?

It's one of the most famous
spiritual principles in existence.

Do you want to feed the negative
wolf or feed the positive wolf?

Those of you who feed the positive wolf,

and ignore the negative wolf,

don't actually understand that
the negative wolf is part of you.

You are starving a part of yourself.

You are selectively identifying,
you are not integrating.

I have been teaching authenticity.

Now, let's take authenticity
to the next level.

Authenticity is not who you as one being,

separate of all these parts, are.

Authenticity is who all
of these parts are.

And also, none of these parts are.

That is who you really are.

Authenticity is enabling
the spectrum of selves

to decide together on an essence.

The unity.

This is integration.

So why don't people do this already?

They don't do it because
it's infinitely harder.

Selectively identifying with the persona

which doesn't feel pain,
in certain circumstances,

is a hell of a lot easier,

then trying to weave into your being,

an aspect of self that does feel pain.

Another way of putting this;

It is infinitely harder to integrate
a persona which is in pain,

than it is to banish that
person to a container,

and then to a dungeon.

So, for thousands of years,

the standard practice
for the Guru has been,

Selective identification,

and they teach their disciples
selective identification,

until an entire school
of thought is formed

around, selective identification.

So in christianity, it might be:
"Become like the christ".

It's not acceptable to be anything
other than that one persona.

In buddhism it's:
"Become the buddha".

So it's not acceptable to allow any other
aspect of self that is not the buddha.

This is an outdated form of consciousness.

So the next state in the game,

was essentially dis identification.

Becoming none of them.

Owning none of them.

Integrating none of them.

Teachers have come and they
have taught this discipline,

but in this discipline, there is no self.

It is self-less-ness.

It is basically taking one's self
out of the game of life.

And so the universe has asked
for the next step in the game.

And this is it;

The universe wants to see
embodied united selfhood.

The conscious game of life.

You can use disidentification,
one of three ways:

Either you can use disidentification

so as to identify selectively
with one persona,

or you can use disidentification,

to unite with none of the personalities.

The state of pure beingness.

That is not identified with a selfhood.

Or, you can disidentify

so as to use that disidentified essence

to create a unity through
all the multiplicity of cells,

so as to become a
unified embodiment.

Now, I will warn you
that it is very difficult,

to practice dis identification,

to create genuine integration,

in a world that believes
that selective identification,

is the way to goodness,
the way to rightness,

the way to happiness,
and the way to health,

When you begin this process
of genuine integration,

which trust me,
I will go into in depth,

over the course of my career.

You are not going to
have an easy time,

because your ego judges you,
next to other people.

It exists in a state of comparison.

When you compare yourself

to somebody who is selectively identified,

you will feel yourself wanting.

You're going to feel
the aspects of you

that are not in that perfect state
of health, happiness or joy,

that their selective persona

is currently experiencing.

But I have an analogy for you;

Let's pretend that you were to
get into a high speed car crash,

70 miles an hour, you roll
your car on the highway,

and every single bone in
your body is shattered.

Maybe you could amputate a limb.

And by amputating that limb,

you wouldn't have to go
through the painful process

of the bone healing.

All the fragments coming together again.

You would be out of pain quicker

What the universe is
essentially asking of you

on this multi-dimensional level,

is to be the person who
gets in the car crash,

but who enables all the
fragmented aspects of self

to come back together,
instead of to amputate.

When you are in pain
during this process,

because you're comparing
yourself to other people,

other "gurus" other spiritual teachers,

who seem like they are in a
better place than you are,

it is usually because you're
comparing yourself

to someone who is
selectively identified.

They are not in a process of integration,

so of course, they seem
like they are healthier.

It is because the persona they have
chosen to see the life through,

to the exclusion of all their other parts,

isn't in pain.

Now here's the difficult part;

The people who are
selectively identified,

will be expecting the same thing of you.

They'll tell you that as easy.

As easy as switching into the self

that feels happiness all the time.

As easy as forgiving.

As easy as letting go.

As easy as being present.

Because they're selectively identified.

If you plan to integrate
the aspects of selves

that are in pain,

who don't hold the enlightened
perspective of the

"guru self",

you will probably be in pain longer,

But here's the thing;

You might, just like that victim,
whose limbs were shattered,

be in pain longer than
someone who amputates.

What you will end up with at
the end of this, is a unified self.

The selfhood in a state of wholeness.

The truth is that these cells
within, when integrated,

will merge as one,
and in doing so,

so will the universe at large.

It is what the universe meant
when thousands of years ago

humanity conceptualized
of there being a father,

the adult, the sun,

(which is the inner child)

and the holy ghost (the higher self),

All become one.

The secret is that the seed of each

is contained in the other.

So for example, by cutting
oneself off from the inner child,

one cannot fully access the higher self.

One can only act in a way,

were according to an identity,

a selected identity,

they seem like they have reached
the state of the higher self.

And so I am here to tell you

that the age of selective
identification is officially over.

The new cal from consciousness,

is to consciously, allow these
fragmented aspects of selves,

the various parts,

to merge into one essence,

(the divine singularity).

Which was the universe's real plan

for embodiment in the first place.

Have a good week.

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