Dangers in Women Counseling Men - Charles Leiter

(Question from the audience)

If you have a youth group

with a lot of single people;

they're not married or anything.

Let's say one of the girls visits one of the boys

and she sees that he's a professing Christian,

but she accidentally sees that

he has porn on his computer,

for example.

Would it be wrong for her to confront him

and say I've seen this sin in your life;

that's wrong - repent from it?

(Charles speaking) Well, it would not be wrong

for her to confront him with his sin.

Usually, if you're dealing about something like that,

that's getting into an area

where it's more appropriate for a brother

to take care of that.

A girl that really wants to minister to a guy,

one of the best things she can do is

say you know this guy over here is a real Christian,

you ought to go and talk to him.

That's one of the best things she can do.

(from the audience) Is it the other way around for a guy?

(Charles) Absolutely.

He ought to direct that girl to Christian girls.

One of the worst things a girl can do

is say to a non-Christian guy is,

"I'm a Christian and I can't really have time with

you unless you're a Christian."

What she's doing is setting him up

to make a false profession.

To try to use God to get something that he wants,

which is her.

And that keeps him from true faith

and true repentance.

Most of the things that take place between

girls and guys where they're supposedly

witnessing or ministering -

most of it is worthless.

It's worse than nothing.