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What every person can learn from dog training | Noa Szefler | TEDxJaffa

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    Today I am going to tell you
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    about a revolution.
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    A revolution of communication
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    a scientific revolution of observation.
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    With this revolution we become
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    the dog’s best friends
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    and we start to truly see dogs
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    as they deserve to be seen:
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    as our best friends.
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    You will see how dog training
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    can improve your own relationships,
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    and not just with dogs.
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    We already have the tools and knowledge,
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    and it's happening all over the world.
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    So picture this:
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    You come home, after a long day at work,
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    an annoying boss,
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    a never-ending traffic-jam
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    and as you reach home, your sanctuary,
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    you open the door, and instead of getting
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    that moment of peace and quiet
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    your dog attacks you at the doorway
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    jumping on you, barking and bouncing
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    and loving you to death -
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    not a fun way to be greeted, right?
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    So how do we react?
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    Do we get mad? Yell? Raise our knee?
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    And us reacting the way that we do
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    out of impatience, anger or misconception
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    is only understandable.
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    Misconception because most of the world
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    sees a dog's "unwanted behaviors"
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    as dominance based behaviors
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    power struggles
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    where dogs try to take charge
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    and boss us around.
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    Out of this misinterpretation
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    of dog's behavior we, dog lovers,
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    were convinced our relationship with
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    our dogs is based on a power struggle,
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    and that for the sake of our dogs
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    we should win this battle
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    assertively handling our best friends.
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    We had to punish them,
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    to subdue them, yell at them
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    and even hurt them
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    in the name of training.
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    Pelle, come!
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    Sit
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    Down
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    Good dog!
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    This is Pelle. Her name means wonder.
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    Even though she is a wonder-dog,
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    even Pelle had to be taught
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    there is a better way of showing
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    and getting affection than jumping on me.
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    I like that she’s exited to see me
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    but I don’t like to be attacked,
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    even if it is out of love.
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    So she was taught that the best way
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    to get the attention she wants,
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    is to come and sit in front of me
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    and wait.
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    And she also learned that
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    the attention is worth the wait.
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    Pelle, good dog!
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    The point is that we should
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    all know better,
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    science has proved it to us decades ago
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    dogs are not dominance driven creatures!
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    So why do we keep training them
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    as if they are?
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    Yet some of us don't appreciate dog hair
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    on our couch and want the dog
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    not to sit on it.
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    We have to understand
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    that when a dog sits on a couch,
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    he does it not because it represents
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    some ideal of control,
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    some representation of dominance
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    over our living room,
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    but because it is the most
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    comfortable place to lie in.
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    that is why you bought the couch
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    in the first place!
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    So once we understand that,
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    the dog only wants a nice worm
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    cozy place to rest on next to us.
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    Pelle, Place.
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    Good dog!
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    Then we can teach the dog
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    and reinforce the dog,
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    reward the dog,
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    for using that nice, warm, soft,
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    cozy place to rest on next to us.
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    Dogs should have rules,
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    and have boundaries,
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    but how do we do it?
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    There's a great example
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    that dog behaviorist, Kathy Sdao
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    uses to explain what usually happens
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    when people try to set boundaries:
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    Say you need to get somewhere,
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    so you hail a taxi, you jump in,
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    you close the door, you buckle up,
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    and you tell the driver:
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    "Don't take me to Tel-Aviv,
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    And also don't take me to Jerusalem,
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    And don't take me to Haifa".
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    Do you think the cab driver
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    will have any idea
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    where you want him to take you?
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    Of course the driver’s obvious question
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    would be "Where do you want to go?"
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    And dogs are just like that,
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    they want us tell to them
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    what we want them to do,
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    in fact they are desperately waiting
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    for our guidance.
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    It’s so easy when we tell people
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    what it is we want,
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    and then we get what we want.
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    People are no different:
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    I have this friend,
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    and I'm not going to mention names,
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    but she had this boyfriend,
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    and they were going out for about a year,
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    and things were about to get serious,
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    but the guy had this one trait
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    that drove her mad:
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    the guy possessed the incredible ability
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    to completely ignore a messy house.
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    I mean piles of laundry everywhere,
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    dishes in the sink overflowing,
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    stuff on the table – the works.
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    It drove her insane
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    and they used to fight about it
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    all the time.
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    And then, tired of fighting,
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    she decided to try a different approach.
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    Mine.
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    So she started capturing behaviors
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    she wanted him to keep,
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    small stuff at first,
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    when he put
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    his socks in the laundry basket,
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    when he washed one cup.
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    She rewarded those behaviors
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    with things he liked:
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    a hug, a movie,
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    anything that made him happy.
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    Gradually the house got cleaner
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    and less messy,
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    which was great!
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    But what was really amazing to her was
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    the affect this had on their relationship.
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    She started noticing
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    the things he did right,
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    and she found herself liking him more.
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    Today they are happily married.
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    And our graduates of the
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    Marker Training institute here in Israel,
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    led by Nuvi Carmel,
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    will testify the same thing:
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    how learning to train dogs
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    has completely changed their perspective,
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    not only in the dog training world,
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    but everywhere: their relationships with
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    their partners, their parents,
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    their neighbors, their children.
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    They stopped looking for what everyone
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    was doing wrong, and started
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    seeing the things that were right.
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    And that's the trick basically:
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    focusing on behavior you want to keep
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    and encourage,
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    then helping your subject -
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    whether it's a dog, or a person, or
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    any living being - to learn to offer it.
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    That's what the revolution is all about:
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    helping them learn.
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    Sounds simple in theory, right?
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    But what about the extreme cases?
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    Let's get back to dogs.
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    There’s a common example
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    that happens in many homes:
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    Let's take a ten month old
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    Golden Retriever mixed, "Keila".
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    Now Keila is your common house dog:
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    happy for attention, loves to be petted,
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    great with children.
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    The problem with Keila starts
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    when there's food or bones around.
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    Whenever anyone comes close
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    to her and her bone,
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    the dog tenses up and growls.
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    According to what we were lead to believe,
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    in order to take charge of a growling dog
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    and control the situation,
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    we had to punish them
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    every time such behavior occurred.
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    We had to raise our voice,
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    we had to yell: "Stop it Keila, bad dog!”
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    But is Keila a bad dog?
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    The truth is she is just a frightened dog,
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    terrified of the possibility
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    that someone might take her food
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    or her bones away.
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    In the past
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    we would have punished the growling,
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    the symptom really,
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    but in Marker Training
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    we want to treat the cause of the problem,
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    the emotion that is behind the behavior.
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    If Keila could speak our language,
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    this would be easy -
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    “Hey Keila, you have nothing to worry
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    about, we’re not going to take your stuff,
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    everything is OK!” -
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    But she doesn’t.
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    So let’s communicate with her
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    in a way she will understand.
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    Let’s teach her she has nothing to fear.
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    We’ll use classical conditioning to teach Keila
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    that every time we come close to her
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    and her bones,
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    we give her good things.
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    Good things happen
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    and we’re not taking anything away.
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    Then soon Keila will start to look forward
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    to us coming closer to her,
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    and the growling will disappear.
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    But most importantly – so will the fear.
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    How easy it is when doing it right.
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    It’s so simple without using force.
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    It’s such common sense, it’s so obvious.
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    So how come we still use force
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    as a dog training method?
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    The truth is a lack of knowledge.
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    And false believes about
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    what truly motivates dogs.
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    And this is what we’re all here to change.
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    The thing with dogs
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    is that they learn all the time,
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    they learn from us and about us.
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    And if they show this amazing ability
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    to learn, don't we owe it to them
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    to take responsibility
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    and teach them properly?
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    Our revolution is ongoing.
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    Dog lovers all over the world
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    have found a better way, a way to
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    establish constructive communication
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    with our learner,
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    to read their body language,
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    relying on studies that help us
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    to better understand dogs,
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    so we can help them
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    to better understand us.
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    And for those who found this way,
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    the results are amazing!
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    The dream of having a dog in our home
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    stopped being a nightmare – no more having
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    to be the ever vigilant "pack leader"
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    forever engaged in a battle for control.
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    It brought peace and love
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    back into our homes,
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    the way only dogs can.
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    The revolution is going on as we speak.
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    We have the tools and knowledge.
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    You can start doing this yourself.
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    With your spouse, your dog, your child,
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    start small, and you will see
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    big change happening.
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    Our dogs deserve it. And so do we.
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    Thank you.
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What every person can learn from dog training | Noa Szefler | TEDxJaffa
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