The #1 Reason You Can't Reach Enlightenment/Awakening For Women and For Men - Teal Swan -

Hello there

The path to awakening

is not really a path of becoming something

more or better

The path of awakening is more of a process of uncovery

So lets say you can imagine yourself as a lotus

thats closed

Inside is your truth

your essence

the process of awakening is a process

of peeling these petals back

so that you can actually see your essence

What you actually are

All a spiritual teacher does

is to point out the things

that are blocking you

from discovering your true essence

They are the ones that point out what

these petals that are covering your

essence are and give

you strategies of how to peel them back

Something interesting to note is

In the human race there are

common themes for the types

of barriers that prevent a person

from discovering their true self

and their true essence

For example there are common themes

amongst races, religions, countries

towns, families, and genders

Today, I am going to expose the top things

preventing awakening for women

and the top thing that is preventing

awakening from men

Lets start with the Women

The single biggest preventative

for awakening as it applies

to women the single biggest barrier

for what we've been calling enlightenment

is manipulation

Manipulation is a form of inauthenticity

When we as women are in a space

of authenticity we can be ourselves

completely and as such

knowing what are selves really are

we can directly meet our needs

This process is derailed

for women of Earth

When we are not in a state of authenticity

Which is a state of empowerment

Our self esteem plummets

We cannot be ourselves

We cannot meet our needs

When we can't meet our needs directly

We begin to meet them subconsciously

and in indirect ways

This is what manipulation is

We portray ourselves in false ways

As to be accepted by others

then try to influence others to do

what we want them to do so our

needs are met.

For example

Somebody who needs to be

protected may not be able to ask

for that directly, so indirectly

What do they do?

They create scenerios

where they are the victim

where they need to be protected

In order to get that need met

I'm just going to give it to you straight

For thousands of years

Women have been shamed

for even being women

Led to believe we are evil

Led to believe we're basically

the root of sin

We've been oppressed

We have been dominated

As a result

We don't show up

As Women for Thousands of years

We've been expected to be the perfect

picture of righteous goodness

Otherwise we're evil

In fact this identification that is

imposed on us as being such

good girls has made it so that we

in order to be accepted by society

Have to disown all of our natural instincts

We have to disown our sexuality

Otherwise we're a seductress

We have to disown any of our

anger otherwise we're a bitch

So the disownment happens to a degree

that we no longer have access to the

truth of ourselves

`As an example let's say

I travel to the Bible Belt of the U.S.

Those girls are the perfect example

of women that have been indoctrinated

into the 'good girl' philosophy.

In fact, if I try to get them in touch

with any rage in them

or the fact that they feel

any carnal sexual instincts

They are not going to be able to hear me.

They are going to look at me and go

'I don't know what you're talking about'.

It's because literally they are that

disidentified with themselves

We disown natural instincts

Disown any emotions that we're seen as bad

Disown our power

Disown any truth about ourselves

That make us seem not good by society

This disowning process within women

has become very dangerous

because anything buried deep

enough will soon become unconscious

For example a Woman who is

forced to bury her jealousy will not

be aware she is jealous even

when she is actively trying to destroy

the success of someone she's jealous of by

slandering him or her

By doing this she gets to feel better than

the person she is jealous of

Her need in the scenerio

which is to feel good about

herself is now being met in highly

subconscious and destructive ways

She's manipulating other people

to see her as better to get

this need met through the slander

She cannot see any of this truth about

herself because it would make her

see herself as a bad person

She will maintain that she is a good

person and that the person who she feels

jealous of is in fact a bad person

This is the only form of empowerment that

women have been left with.

The empowerment is being able to

manipulate other men and women

and children

Here's where is get's very scary

Women have gotten so good with their

manipulation they fool themselves

not only that they fool

everyone else too

Where's what I mean by that

Let's say a woman want's to turn

you against someone else

They're not going to directly do that

The're going to wait until they have a

frustration with that person

and then they are going to

feed it, they are going to fuel it

They are going to encourage you towards it

They we're just capitalizing on your

emotions so it's not them, it's you

You're going to end up believing that

all those emotions are actually real

emotions you feel towards the person.

When they are not.

What was a tiny fire

is now fueled by gasoline

They were the ones that poured

the gasoline and you didn't even notice

It was manipulatively slighted

under the geize of them

validating you

I'm going to do an entire episode

of this in the future

I'm going to expose

one of the primary ways

we have subconsciously manipulated the

world in general

It is that for thousands of years we've

been dominated and oppressed

by men, tortured by men if you will

So, how do we exact revenge

when we have no personal

sense of empowerment

The only way we can

Through our children

The thing we do control

One of the most common

subconscious manipulation techniques

that women have is to castrate

our own sons

We teach them to be terrified of their

own masculinity and we're doing

it for their good and for the good

of their relationships in the future

Really, were just raising men who

we're safe around

Who have no access to masulinity

So they can never dominate us again

Another common theme is that

women will self sacrifice

to be seen as a good person

and get appreciation from others

but they'll make you believe

your selfish and cruel for making

them into your slave

They'll show you one face

Show another behind your back

They'll play the victim controll drama

to be seen as good and right

and gain control and the list

goes on and on...

This is the thing

When our attachment to being good

Is so strong meaning our ego

can't except anything outside the box

other than how we're good and rightious

We lose the capacity to own up to

how we really feel

What we're really thinking

and what we're actually doing

This is why it's so incredibly frustrating

often to deal with women

because of this pattern they have become

to start naturally gaslighting socially

For example let's say

a women hates a person

It's so obvious because she's angry

and is constantly trying to usurp them

and then snips at them in light

passive aggressive ways

but if you bring that up to her

she will say

I don't have any idea and I love them

The don't accept me

Even when the words, actions, and energies

scream the opposite

They will be seeing this

That is what gaslighting is

The problem with that is that is makes

it impossible to awaken

If you can't see reality then there

is nothing for the mind to do

If you can't admit to the fact

that you hate someone

You can't do anything with the hatred

That is why it is the largest barrier

to awakening

It's like living in a walking

state of denial

The other problem is

The sheer skill of minipulation

going around other women don't

see it

So how can they mirror to the person

that they are doing it?

They cannot

So the opportunity for awakening is ruined

The transition out of this

state is all about authenticity

and meeting ones needs directly

as a result of discovering that

authenticity but the specific type of

authenticity which is the most critical

for the awakening of Women in general

Is the authenticity around things we've

labeled bad or unacceptable or not right

Those are the things

we have to start seeing about ourselves

Seeing the rage, the breakup wishes,

the need to be the center of attention,

the need to be taken care of completely

Those types of unsavory things

Are the things that we need to own

if we wan't to awaken

Once she admit's to the things within her

that are like this she

can see what is actually going on and

she can address those things directly

She can see what she is actually thinking

and address the thoughts directly

and even why she is doing those things

The next steps is to meet her needs

directly with they information she now

has at her disposal.

this is the step of

ultimate personal empowerment

When this occurs the manipulation

stops and the doors open for

the true power of the divine feminine

to flow into her embodyment

If you want a plethora of information

about this step watch my video titled

meet your needs

Now let's go for the men

The single biggest barrier to awakening

What prevents what we call

enlightenment for men

Is disconnection

Disconnection plays out in men's life

In multiple ways

It's a state of being

detached from something

They can be detached from their

emotions, each other, their partners

from their own essence,

from their children, from their hearts

from their true desires

from the impact they have on others

and of course the list continues

For thousands of years male children

have been put in traumatic situations

The hallmark of traumatic situations

Is that it causes stress and there

is no resolution

Distress puts us in touch

with our vulnerability

Society is not okay with vulnerability

They say you are weak if you are that way

You can't live a life as a male

and be vulnerable at the same time

If you decide to then you can't

make anything happen anymore

What do we do as children when we confront

these emotions and society tells

us our feelings don't exist

The only option is to detach

and play ignorance

First they detach from the emotions

Then the thoughts

Then they cope by finding ways to

minimize the thought of

being vulnerable occurring

Ways to find anything to do that wipe

themselves away from the shock

They cope with cruelty

by pretending to disappear

and normalizing what happened to them

as to not feel the pain of

being a victim

Eventually men disconnect

from their heart enough that the

fragmentation is bad enough

that the universe allows them to die

Many in the spiritual field have heard

the famous saying

that was a Cherokee proverb or something

Where a Woman's job was to lead a man

to his heart and a Man's job

was to protect her

That's why those types of things exist

Men's capacity to disappear makes

it hard to go in and out of disconnection

Here are some examples of how men

disconnect every day in life

A man has the capacity to stay

in a job he hates for decades because

he want's to disconnect from people

he truly loves

A man can cause immense cruelty

to another person and never even realize

He was heard in the first place

because he is disconnected from reality

A man can feel intense sadness

and say he's fine because

that's what he'd rather focus on

A man can say things that hurt

other's ongoingly because

he misses them in his inner

world but doesn't even know them

well enough to invite them in.

A man can neglect his wife becuase

he's disconnected from her world entirely

Perhaps she's just his dollie

A man can have amazing sex

with a random person and not even think

about it the next day because he's

reached a degree where he can masturbate

without needing help from anyone.

A man can be so focused on playing with

his kids that he temporarily forgets

their very name

When they feel neglected it was because

the project was more important

than them because he's completely

gone from his life on earth

A man can do things a certain way

and have no awareness about

why he's even doing the task in the

first place because he's

trying to avoid his own childhood

A man will believe anything because

he is so far gone from his own beliefs

A man can live in a world where he

doesn't have the ability to recognize

himself or his connection to the things

that surround him to the degree

that he can declare

war that kills millions

Men can be so disconnected that they can

declare war or have power over

tyranny on women

This process is how the cycle

feeds itself

The capacity that men have to disapear

fuels manipulation in women

because it creates a separate state where

no one has a sense of personal

empowerment and the only way

to meet their needs is to die

When women get into the manipulation state

that scares men because we are

always tuned in enough to sense

when there is a discrepancy

and when we do

The men go back to disconnecting

So the cycle fuels itself and

our own greatest barriers to connection

and awakening become others

greatest barriers as well

Some people think spiritual

men must be the exception to this rule

of disappearing and disconnection

but spirituality is the

greatest tool for disconnection

The spiritual teaching that pain

is an illusion is a way to

deny the reality of others pain

The believe that the higher self

is completely independant of others

and the identification with that believe

is the way to disconnect with needs

that others are being ignorant of

and the pain that causes

Positive focus can be a way to

completely disconnect from reality

and everything wrong in life

Multiple relationships can be a way

to disconnect from fear of abandonment

and fear of attachement

Disidentification can be a way to disconnect with life

Spiritual drugs can be a way

of disconnecting with ones

own physical enbodyment

The transition to making ourselves

feel better is very straightforward

It's connection

Learning how to get as much connection

as possible is the answer for men

on this planet at the moment

What does this mean?

Doing whatever it is you do with the goal

of getting the most connection

out of others

The most important thing to recognize

about both our barriers to awakening

is that they both have the same root

which is powerlessness

In other words we are both

coping with the sensation of being

powerless

Being aware that we are coping

with feeling this way is the door

to further advancement for

both men and women.

Thank you

Have a good week!