[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.48,0:00:18.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Look at me!" Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.08,0:00:25.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That expression turned me\Ninto a sight catcher. Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.20,0:00:30.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am Ivan's mother, he is 15. Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.92,0:00:33.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ivan has autism, he doesn't speak, Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.46,0:00:36.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and communicates through an iPad Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.47,0:00:40.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where his whole universe of words\Nexists in images. Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.41,0:00:46.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was diagnosed \Nwhen he was two and a half -- Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.11,0:00:52.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even today I remember that day painfully. Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.88,0:00:56.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My husband and I felt really lost, Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.89,0:01:00.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we didn't know where to start. Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.25,0:01:03.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was no Internet, Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.50,0:01:05.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you couldn't google information, Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.59,0:01:08.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so those first steps Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.77,0:01:11.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were out of intuition. Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.25,0:01:16.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ivan would not maintain eye contact, Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.41,0:01:19.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he had lost the words he said, Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.71,0:01:22.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would not respond to his name, Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.81,0:01:24.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or to anything we would ask him, Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.47,0:01:27.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as if words were noise. Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.75,0:01:33.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The only way I could know Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.80,0:01:37.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what was going on, what he felt, Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.74,0:01:40.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was looking him in the eye. Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.18,0:01:44.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that bridge was broken. Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.56,0:01:50.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How could I teach him what life was like? Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.92,0:01:55.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I did things he liked,\Nhe would look at me; Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.85,0:01:57.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we were together. Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.27,0:02:01.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I devoted to follow\Nhim in those things, Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.88,0:02:05.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to have more and more \Ngazing moments. Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.53,0:02:11.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We would spend hours playing tag Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.25,0:02:14.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with her older sister, Alexia, Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.54,0:02:17.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when saying: "I'll catch you!" Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.59,0:02:20.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he would look around for us, Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.98,0:02:25.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and, at that moment,\NI could feel he was alive. Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.40,0:02:33.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We also hold a record of hours \Nin the pool. Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.42,0:02:38.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ivan was always strongly\Npassionate for water. Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.23,0:02:42.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember when he was two and a half Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.96,0:02:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a rainy day of winter, Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.48,0:02:49.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was taking him to a covered pool Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.84,0:02:52.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we went there even in rainy days. Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.84,0:02:56.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were on the highway, Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.24,0:02:57.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I took the wrong exit. Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.70,0:03:02.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He burst into tears,\Ninconsolably, non stop, Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.49,0:03:04.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until I went back to track Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.67,0:03:07.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and only then did he calm down. Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.18,0:03:12.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How was it possible that being\Na two and a half years old Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.90,0:03:14.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and without responding to his name, Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.41,0:03:19.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yet in the midst of a storm and mist,\Nwhere I couldn't see anything, Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.52,0:03:23.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he could be capable\Nof perfectly recognizing the path? Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.72,0:03:30.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is when I realized that Ivan\Nhad an exceptional visual memory Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.19,0:03:34.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that this would be my entry door; Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.48,0:03:37.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I started taking\Npictures of everything. Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.41,0:03:40.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And teach him what life was like, Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.74,0:03:44.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,showing it picture by picture. Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.41,0:03:47.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even now it still is Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.25,0:03:53.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the way Ivan communicates\Nwhat he wants, what he needs, Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.97,0:03:56.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also what he feels. Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.67,0:04:03.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it was not the gaze of Ivan alone. Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.42,0:04:07.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was also the gaze of everyone else. Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.25,0:04:12.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to make people see\Nnot only his autism, Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.40,0:04:14.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but him, Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.84,0:04:16.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and everything he can give? Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.97,0:04:20.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With all he can do? Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.93,0:04:23.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Along with what he likes and doesn't like, Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.70,0:04:25.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like any of us? Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.96,0:04:30.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But for that I also had to give of myself. Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.29,0:04:33.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to dare to let him go, Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.55,0:04:36.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was struggling. Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.70,0:04:41.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ivan was 11 years old, Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.16,0:04:45.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and would go to treatment\Nin a neighborhood near home. Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.19,0:04:50.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One afternoon,\Nwhile I was waiting for him, Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.26,0:04:52.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went into a greengrocer Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.62,0:04:55.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the typical one with a bit of everything, Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.65,0:04:58.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and while doing the shopping, Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.40,0:05:01.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started talking to Jose, the owner. Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.93,0:05:06.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told him that Ivan had autism, Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.66,0:05:11.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I wanted him to learn\Nto go around by himself, Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.13,0:05:14.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without anyone holding his hand. Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.20,0:05:16.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I decided to ask him Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.74,0:05:18.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if Thursdays around 2 pm, Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.82,0:05:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ivan could come and help him arrange \Nthe water bottles of the shelves Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.60,0:05:25.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because he loved to organize Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.02,0:05:29.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in return, he could\Nbuy chocolate cookies, Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.81,0:05:31.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his favorite ones. Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.13,0:05:36.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He accepted right away. Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.14,0:05:39.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, for a year Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.48,0:05:42.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ivan would go to Jose's greengrocer, Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.71,0:05:46.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,helped him arrange\Nthe bottles on the shelves, Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.83,0:05:51.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the labels perfectly\Naligned to the same side Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.36,0:05:56.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he would get his chocolate cookies. Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.45,0:06:04.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jose is not an expert in autism. Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.69,0:06:10.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is no need to be an expert, Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.61,0:06:15.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nor doing anything heroic\Nto include someone. Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.48,0:06:20.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We just have to be there -- Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.50,0:06:22.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.38,0:06:41.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's it, no heroic deed -- Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.85,0:06:45.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We simply have to be close. Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.72,0:06:49.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if we are afraid of something Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.41,0:06:53.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or we don't understand, let's ask; Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.94,0:06:56.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,let's be curious, Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.21,0:07:01.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but never indifferent. Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.06,0:07:07.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's dare to look each other in the eye Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.27,0:07:12.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because through our gaze, Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.45,0:07:15.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can open a whole world to someone else. Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.74,0:07:18.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.59,0:07:21.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Cheers) Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.70,0:07:23.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.20,0:07:32.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you so much, thank you! Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.20,0:07:33.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)