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Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good morning
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dear Thay dear sangha, Today is the 9th,\NSunday, the 9th of December, 2018.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are in the Assembly of Stars\Nmeditation hall in Lower Hamlet,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is the last of the Dharma talks
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before the end of our three month\Nretreat together .
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I feel a special sense of
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,speaking to that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of us have been here\Nfor the three month retreat together.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've been
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those of you who came
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to Plum Village for three months\Nhave experienced
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going through ups and downs.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And maybe,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of the time you wondered,\N'Why did I come?'
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know. Excuse me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a loud blow.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe you felt, 'Yeah, I'd be better off
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a cave somewhere'.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe in the Pole, or somewhere,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in some mountain.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we practice together,\Nwe really
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have to meet each other,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and get along together.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we don't get along together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we are living together 24/7,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it really shows up.\NIt is difficult to stay calm and to enjoy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So actually, a lot of the practice that\Nyou've been learning these three months
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is how to live in harmony,\Nhow to get along.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to practice loving speech,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but also you have to communicate\Nwhen there is a difficulty,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but with loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to let go
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of your preference\Nand maybe of your irritation.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to see the other person\Nis also suffering.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe see that
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,try to understand them\Nso you can let go of judgment.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we have practices, like Beginning Anew\Nthat we do regularly.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We do that formally, we sit down
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and practice expressing gratitude,\Nnoticing the good things in each other,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also expressing when we have a regret\Ntowards each other.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is very renewing practice.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We had - It is also,\Nwe call it the season of Shining Light.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So because we see each other,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are rooming together, eating together,\Nworking together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we see each other and we have\Nsomething called the sangha eye.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because, ourselves, if we are just\Npractising alone,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is a number of things that we miss\Nfrom practising in a community.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One is that because\Nwe are not interacting,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,things don't maybe come up\Nin the same way.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when we are interacting we get to see\Nourselves,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but also we have blind spots.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so the it's very helpful for us,\Nfor the people we trust,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we open ourselves up,\Nwe allow ourselves to be
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,open to receiving their view about us.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that view is expressed\Nwith all of the love and appreciation also
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the whole of us\Nnot just pointing to the difficulty.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we also practice this\Nin the three months retreat,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,shining light on each other's practice,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to help the other person\Nhave more freedom,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more growth in themselves,\Nand more happiness.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes it can be a bit scary
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to allow ourselves
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have people share like that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've known people run away.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when they allow themselves to\Nthey only experience the love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sure there are\Nsome exceptions to that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes people can get hurt also,\Nand then we also have compassion
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we are learning the practice.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So living together is\Na practice in itself.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in a sense, it is -
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can say that\Nlearning to live together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,learning to get along is also the fruit\Nof the practice.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thay has said, brotherhood, sisterhood,\Nthere is no religion
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is higher than that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we are generating\Nbrotherhood and sisterhood.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are going in that spirit.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a Harvard study
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,done, it was one of the longest ever\Nstudies, 75 years.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is still going on, I think.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they interview\Nand get also self-information
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from standardised groups of men\Nin the States.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Essentially the point is that
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were looking to see\Nwhat are the conditions
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for happiness and health
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looking right through the life.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what they found was\Nif you want to know
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what makes a happy octogenarian,\Nthat means, if you are 80 years or over,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because these groups they've been\Nfollowing since they were boys,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now they are in their 80's.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You look back when they are 50 years old,\Nwhich is my age,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can determine whether
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the conditions that seem to be common,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like the ones that are happy,\Nthe ones that are healthy,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the result is only one factor.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is not how much cholesterol\Nin the blood,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is not many things you might think,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the one factor that comes out
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is those people report that they have\Ngood relationships.