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Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good morning
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dear Thay dear sangha, Today is the 9th,\NSunday, the 9th of December, 2018.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are in the Assembly of Stars\Nmeditation hall in Lower Hamlet,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is the last of the Dharma talks
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before the end of our three month\Nretreat together .
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I feel a special sense of
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,speaking to that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of us have been here\Nfor the three month retreat together.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've been
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those of you who came
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to Plum Village for three months\Nhave experienced
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going through ups and downs.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And maybe,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of the time you wondered,\N'Why did I come?'
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know. Excuse me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a loud blow.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe you felt, 'Yeah, I'd be better off
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a cave somewhere'.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe in the Pole, or somewhere,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in some mountain.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we practice together,\Nwe really
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have to meet each other,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and get along together.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we don't get along together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we are living together 24/7,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it really shows up.\NIt is difficult to stay calm and to enjoy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So actually, a lot of the practice that\Nyou've been learning these three months
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is how to live in harmony,\Nhow to get along.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to practice loving speech,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but also you have to communicate\Nwhen there is a difficulty,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but with loving speech.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to let go
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of your preference\Nand maybe of your irritation.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to see the other person\Nis also suffering.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe see that
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,try to understand them\Nso you can let go of judgment.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we have practices, like Beginning Anew\Nthat we do regularly.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We do that formally, we sit down
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and practice expressing gratitude,\Nnoticing the good things in each other,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also expressing when we have a regret\Ntowards each other.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is very renewing practice.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We had - It is also,\Nwe call it the season of Shining Light.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So because we see each other,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are rooming together, eating together,\Nworking together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we see each other and we have\Nsomething called the sangha eye.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because, ourselves, if we are just\Npractising alone,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is a number of things that we miss\Nfrom practising in a community.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One is that because\Nwe are not interacting,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,things don't maybe come up\Nin the same way.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when we are interacting we get to see\Nourselves,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but also we have blind spots.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so the it's very helpful for us,\Nfor the people we trust,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we open ourselves up,\Nwe allow ourselves to be
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,open to receiving their view about us.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that view is expressed\Nwith all of the love and appreciation also
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the whole of us\Nnot just pointing to the difficulty.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we also practice this\Nin the three months retreat,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,shining light on each other's practice,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to help the other person\Nhave more freedom,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more growth in themselves,\Nand more happiness.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes it can be a bit scary
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to allow ourselves
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have people share like that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've known people run away.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when they allow themselves to\Nthey only experience the love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sure there are\Nsome exceptions to that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes people can get hurt also,\Nand then we also have compassion
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we are learning the practice.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So living together is\Na practice in itself.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in a sense, it is -
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can say that\Nlearning to live together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,learning to get along is also the fruit\Nof the practice.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thay has said, brotherhood, sisterhood,\Nthere is no religion
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is higher than that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we are generating\Nbrotherhood and sisterhood.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are going in that spirit.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a Harvard study
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,done, it was one of the longest ever\Nstudies, 75 years.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is still going on, I think.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they interview\Nand get also self-information
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from standardised groups of men\Nin the States.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Essentially the point is that
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were looking to see\Nwhat are the conditions
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for happiness and health
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looking right through the life.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what they found was\Nif you want to know
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what makes a happy octogenarian,\Nthat means, if you are 80 years or over,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because these groups they've been\Nfollowing since they were boys,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now they are in their 80's.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You look back when they are 50 years old,\Nwhich is my age,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can determine whether
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the conditions that seem to be common,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like the ones that are happy,\Nthe ones that are healthy,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the result is only one factor.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is not how much cholesterol\Nin the blood,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is not many things you might think,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the one factor that comes out
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is those people report that they have\Ngood relationships.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Relationships they can trust.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that seems to be
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an essential requisite for a happy life.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So in community,we are blessed with having\N.many deep connections to each other.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a lot of trust of each other\Nin the community,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which allows us to be open,\Nand allows us to be
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,free to express.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, of course, relationships,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we talk about relationships,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what came to my mind when I\Nheard about this study is,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what about the relationship\Nwe have to ourselves?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do we trust ourselves?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This must also be important.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the relationship we have to society,\Nto Mother Earth.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This must also count\Nas a relationship.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it is also clear\Nwe know from our experience
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That to the extend that we are\Nin a good relationship with ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our relationship with others goes well.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when our relationship with ourselves\Nis not so good,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we find, things seem\Nto get reflected to us.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The sangha is like a hall of mirrors.\NWe keep seeing ourselves reflected.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when we have a difficult interaction,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's always helpful to ask\Nwhat is going on in me
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is connected with\Nthat difficult interaction,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as well as, you know,\Nbecause there is a tendency maybe
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to blame or put it on the other person.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We may see interesting things\Nwhen we do that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We may see that,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'Ah! This reaction I had in the meeting,\Nor in this interaction,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,brought about\Nquite a strong emotion in me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It seems a bit more than,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kind of disproportionated\Nto what actually happened.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why did I get so angry?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why did I feel so anxious?'
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I myself found myself in a situation\Nwhere some anxiety and fear came,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it started actually that anger.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was feeling somehow slightly let down\Nabout something, and then
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this anxiety came.\NAnd I ask the question to myself,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what does this remind me of?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I should ask it to my store consciousness.\NWhat does this remind me of?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just waited for something to come,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I suddenly had an image of myself\Nin kindergarten.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A memory that I didn't have before.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is not one I could remember,\Nbut it's suddenly a flash
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of waiting to be picked up.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But my mother was late that day.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there was a fear in me, I guess.\NAnd it was amazing how that
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I made the connection just\Nby asking that question.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it allowed me to, just having\Nthat interaction with the other person
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,allowed me to touch something\Nthat needed healing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the healing is maybe a continuous
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,path of healing that we are on.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are not going to heal\Neverything overnight,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or with one insight.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we, each time we have a small healing,\Nwe get more energy and more confidence.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we feel, wow!\NOkay, this is a good path.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And actually,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just understanding ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understanding that this is\Nwhere it is coming from,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a sense it can help so much
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,knowing that we have a practice\Nthat also embraces
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ourselves in that moment,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,embraces maybe the little boy,\Nthe little girl in us,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we see that coming up,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we recognize that there is\Nsome suffering there relating to that age
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we were very young,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have the opportunity to embrace,\Nto smile and with our solidity,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we generate through the practice,\Nwe can breathe with that emotion.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So knowing we have a path,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have a lot of kind of
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have happiness and we have\Na sense that the suffering
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doesn't need to be so much now,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the biggest suffering\Nis not having a way, having a path.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we have a lot of gratitude also\Nfor having the practice.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even before we've applied it, but when\Nwe apply it, and we get the experience,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every time we are so grateful.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also had an opportunity in this winter,\Nthis three month retreat,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we don't call it the winter retreat now\Nbecause for the very first time
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is more the autumn period. I also had\Nan experience this three month retreat
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of connecting with my 14 year old in me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, yeah. At that time\Nwhen he felt very isolated
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not enjoying school,\Nand feeling
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pretty in a bit of a hostile environment\Nhe found.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I knew, I know about this time, and I\Nknow t somehow shows up in my interactions
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I took sometime to try to talk\Nwith the boy. And he showed up.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I, he said,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he asked, I asked, 'Would you like\Nto spend time with me?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now I'm an adult'. And he said,\N'You are too busy'.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'You got too many things going on.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I cause you\Nall sorts of problems anyway,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I don't want to cause you\Nany more problems.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't want to take up your time.'
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was very fascinating\Nto hear this response.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And actually, it gave me quite\Nsome insight into myself.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because, of course, that is part of me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I share that because
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is part of our journey\Nthat we are on to
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,heal all the parts of ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Inside as well as outside.\NInside we also have a kind of sangha.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Different voices.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we also need to bring harmony to\Nthose different voices inside ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when I was deciding to become a monk,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Dharma teacher\Nfrom the UK Martin Pitt,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he gave me that advice, he said,\N'In making the decision,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,check with your internal sangha, and\Nmake sure everybody -'
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it's a real sangha, a real decision.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because there are\Nthese many voices in you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some other voices of doubt,\NI had to say, 'Please, I hear you, but
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we've touched something deeper\Nthan doubt at this moment',
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the doubt had to agree.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Christians say, the doubting Thomas.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,isn't a fascinating journey, isn't it?\NThe spiritual path.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we do it together.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And somehow, being together as a community\Nbrings so much joy and insight,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is so rich.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some others are going away,\Ngoing back to the real world.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I always find slightly ironic\Nto use that term,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it seems like out\Nin the real world
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is where people are busy, very busy,\Nrunning away from reality.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whereas the idea here in Plum Village\Nis we touch reality
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within us and in nature.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we go back out, and\Nwe want to maintain our practice.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the things we need to draw on is\Nthe connections we made here,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to keep them in our heart, and know
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we think we are isolated,\Nand all around out there,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,remember that is not true.\NBecause the connections we make
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are real,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are not subject to dissolving simply\Nbecause we are in a different place,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are non local.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we always remember\Nthe sangha has our back.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are behind us.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People visualize it in different ways.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Connected with the Harvard study\NI mentioned,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,loneliness is the biggest killer. That is\Na medical fact, that loneliness kills.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we are so blessed that we don't -
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have so many conditions\Nto not be lonely
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through the practice of\Nbeing there for ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and learning how to be there with\Nother people and the connections we make.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The relationships we make.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because even you can be in a relationship,\Nyou can be in a family,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can be with many people,\Nbut, as the 14 year old boy,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a boarding school,\Nlots and lots of people.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are not dissimilar to Plum Village's.\NLiving in a dormitory,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sharing rooms. But I felt isolated\Nand lonely at that particular time.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it's not exactly\Nthat you are next to people
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you don't feel lonely.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can also be that you can feel lonely\Neven in Plum Village.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Again, if you
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,somehow are not in good relationship\Nwith what is going on in you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in those cases, where\Nthat is happening in Plum Village,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the encouragement is to stay.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you may feel\Nyou don't have
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your smile anymore.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll always remember reading
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thay saying,\N'The dandelion keeps your smile.'
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, the flower you see all alone,\Nit has your smile for you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And like so in the sangha we can feel
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not doing well, but we should try\Nto become aware
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there is a lot of love
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and care. People are giving us space,\Nbut they care.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And sometimes the care comes\Nin a way we don't want,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe somebody comes into our space,\Nand tries to shake us up a bit.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we don't want that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe it wasn't so skilful of them.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But nevertheless we can recognize it\Nas good intention, as care.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we may have taken different themes\Nfor this three month period,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as well. I know some of the brothers in\NUpper Hamlet were studying the Anapanasati
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for instance.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some brothers were studying\Nthe 40 tenets of Plum Village.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Manifestation Only teachings\Nwas one subject I was engaged with.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think many other topics.\NBut them all, somehow,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,connect to the same point
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of how to come into relationship\Nwith myself, to be there,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and really understand what is going on\Nin my body, in my mind.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And see my nature of interbeing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Thay has said that even just\Npractising the first 4 of the Anapanasati,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,awareness of the breath,\Nawareness of the body,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we touch all of the other aspects,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of the nature of interbeing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So in connection when we are\Njust aware of our body,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as we really realize that,\Noh, here is my body
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm really get to be in my body,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,experiencing it with the breath,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also naturally become aware\Nof my feelings.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are part of what is going on,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there is a correspondence in the body.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And also mental formations,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,perceptions and consciousness.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yes, we'll have one sound of the bell.\NThank you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Bell)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was just reflecting
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that one of the earliest winter retreat
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can recall, I can't remember\Nspecifically which one it was,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but Thay said at the very opening talk\Nof the retreat,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'This retreat as an opportunity
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we should practice to be there\Nfor every mental formation
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as it arises.'
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this was,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just remember being astounded\Nby the possibility of that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every mental formation that will arise,\NI will be there,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and embrace, and take care, and recognize.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I guess that was\Na very wonderful thing to set
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as an aim for myself.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To try to be there for what is going on.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Always being aware\Nwhat mental formations come and go
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and watching the impermanence of them,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and watching them in relation to\Nwhat is happening in me,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,around me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in my interactions.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we sometimes get forgetful and lost,\Nso just like on the cushion,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we recognize and\Nwe have to keep coming back.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the themes\Nof the three month retreat
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has been the 14 mindfulness trainings.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the ones that were left to me\Nto share about
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were concerning
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,right compassion and action, it has to do\Nwith right livelihood, reverence for life
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and generosity.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it is 11, 12 and 13.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The 14 mindfulness trainings,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thay wrote then in 1964.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it seems to me\Nthey are as relevant today
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as they could ever had been.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were written\Nin the time of the Vietnam War.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they have been revised.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we try to make them more and more\Nrelevant and skilful, appropriate
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to our time and with the insight\Nthat we have.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ethics
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is a big subject, and in a sense,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the trainings, be they\Nthe 5 mindfulness trainings or the 14,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are a contribution to what we hope\Nis a good contributions to a global ethic.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they don't need to be
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,religious or include Buddhist -
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kind of, things specific to Buddhism.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They can be put into the language that\Nis for anybody can feel comfortable with.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But hopefully, they are universal.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They speak to the universal.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they are about
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are about love,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are about the actions\Nand interactions
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that come about when we are
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,coming from a place of true love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,True love we know\Nhas a number of ingredients.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,True love has brotherhood and sisterhood,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kindness in it, loving kindness.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It has that friendship element.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Spiritual friendship,\Nbeing there for each other.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,True love also has compassion.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We really can have empathy\Nfor the other person,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we don't get overwhelmed\Nby the suffering,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we can truly be there.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even when somebody is suffering,\Nwe can maintain our stability
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and be there for that person\Nand help them.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,True love also has joy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Without joy, we can () so ().
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Joy is something very important.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it arises\Nfrom unusual places sometimes.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes it is the joy that comes\Nwhen we are able to
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be there with our suffering in such a way\Nthat we think, oh!
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a kind of joy,\Nbecause I get to be with -
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm in the most important place,\Nwhere I need to be.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there is a sort of\Nunderlying joy to that,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though you are maybe\Nexperiencing the suffering.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'm using that example to show\Njoy doesn't always show up,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not always what we think\Nin terms of excitement, joy,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although expressions of joy and smiles\Nis also
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,very good.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said to a brother before I came\Nto the talk this morning,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'I need to have a laugh before I go.'\NI need to generate that joyful energy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes we need to -
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes I think of something funny\Njust to generate that joy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the real joy coming from friendship,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from insight,\Nfrom our mindfulness practice,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is a very deep kind of joy.\NAnd we need that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then there is inclusiveness.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We include all that is in us and\Nwe take care of what is going on,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we don't set up\Nan internal battle field.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So even we see part of ourselves\Nis seemingly
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,causing us suffering, maybe\Ndoing something which brings us -
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,makes us feel ashamed,\Nor it is a bad habit,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or we've spoken to somebody in a bad way,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we somehow have to still have compassion\Nfor that part of us too, and say,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, I accept.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I accept everything that is there,\NI love and accept myself just as I am.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know that there are\Ncauses and conditions
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for why it is like this right now.\NMaybe I'm frustrated with myself.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also accept my frustration with myself.\NOkay, I'm frustrated with myself.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So whatever is there, you say, Okay,\NI get it. If you are there,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are there for a reason.\NAnd I accept you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It doesn't mean we have to be\Nagain overwhelmed, or pushed,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we accept and we smile to that.\NAn d we try to generate stability
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we can be with that part of ourselves\Nwithout being carried away.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so too with our relationships\Nwith other people,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when we get frustrated and upset\Nwith other people,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have this capacity to include and\Nto stay with, to be there for each other.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there is
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the Discourse on Love, we are invited\Nto extend our love to all beings
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,across the entire cosmos.\NIt's very grand.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A new chant that Thay Phap Linh\Nhas been doing with a group of us
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is on the CD, a new chanting CD.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm very embarrassed with the video\Nthey made to go with that, by the way.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know if anybody saw it, but\NI got very self-conscious seeing myself,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To look like very, very sincere.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anyway, on this chant,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is the line,\N'showing love and concern for
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as for our very own family'.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So bringing that spirit of\Nbeing concerned for
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,anybody we meet
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as if they were our own family.\NThat is the spirit.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's not totally beyond our capacity.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We know when we are in a good place\Nwe can have that openness of heart.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a quote I heard about
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a husband whose wife came back\Nafter being on a Buddhist retreat.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the husband was asked, 'Sorry,\Nhave you seen any change in your wife
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,since she came back? - Yes, she is in love\Nwith the whole universe,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but nobody in particular.'
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think that ment
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have to be careful to just be\Nin this place of thinking about
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the grand love for everything, but then\Nwe don't actually apply it to
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what is this relationship\Ngoing on right now.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, I can't deal with this one, but,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I love - I feel so much for\Nall the suffering in the world,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I can't deal with you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that is also why a sangha is important.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We meet the - It is where the rubber hits\Nthe world, hits the real, we rub it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The expression is, the chopsticks we use,\Nto clean chopsticks
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you get a bunch\Nand you rub them all together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rub and then clean them individually.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is a good image.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, I was going to share something.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have emailed Christiana Figueres.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is the lady\Nthat brought together 195 countries
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the Paris Climate Change Agreement.\NDo you remember her?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She has been to Plum Village\Nquite a few times,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she has spoken quite a few times\Nto young Wake Up groups
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that were here\Nwhen we had a Wake Up retreats.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She has come with her daughter.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she loves Plum Village.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when she was doing the work,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I emailed her to just check\Nif she was Okay that I share this story.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because when she was\Nin the middle of her work
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of bringing together these countries
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the Paris, they call it,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is it COP 21? Yes.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,COP 24 is going on right now in Poland.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it is a momentous thing\Nthat she achieved, and it sets,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gave everybody quite a sense of Okay,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at least these countries coming together,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is a certain sangha harmony\Nin the world to take climate change
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as an issue to really do something.\NAnd it was a great start that was -
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In all of the other previous times,\Nwe couldn't get to the starting block.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it was a wonderful thing\Nshe was able to achieve,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she did it with Thay's teachings.\NAnd she practised listening.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said that was the main factor\Nthat helped to get to that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This listening to really understanding\Nwhat was the situation,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what was the obstacles\Nfor these countries,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be they Saudi Arabia, China, etcetera.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But there was a period in that build up\Nof five years leading up to
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,2015 Paris,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when she had a crisis,\Na personal crisis.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she was in Bonn at that time,\Nin Germany,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she somehow, miraculously\Nfound out about Plum Village.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She knew nothing before\Nabout Plum Village.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she knew she needed to go somewhere.\NShe was very, very -
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah, in a crisis.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she found the EIAB,\Nour centre in Germany, it was close enough
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she made an emergency booking.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she just went.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody knew who she was.\NShe said to us that it saved her.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It really saved her.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that the Vietnamese sisters,\Nwith their kindness, that were there,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she was staying in the sister's place,\Nthey don't know what they did for me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They didn't know who I was. She is a\Nretreatant. What else do you need to know?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's probably good sometimes\Nwe don't know who is here.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I may get scared.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it-
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So just the simple kindness,\Nand the joy,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was enough to support and\Nget her back into a good place.