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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.57,0:00:03.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The verse that comes to my mind here
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.66,0:00:05.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as I was thinking about what I might share
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.67,0:00:06.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a practical way,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.88,0:00:09.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with not only the two couples,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.14,0:00:12.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but everyone else here that's married,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.94,0:00:17.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is taken from Ecclesiastes 3:7.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.65,0:00:20.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It says, "There is a time to be silent,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.28,0:00:23.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a time to speak."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.23,0:00:27.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm thinking of this in the realm
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.10,0:00:30.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the necessity for communication.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.72,0:00:32.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a time to be silent,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.66,0:00:34.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then in my application here,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.85,0:00:39.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that silence is the silence of listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.98,0:00:42.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listening skills.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.40,0:00:44.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there's a time to speak
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.15,0:00:49.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which would be the communicative skills.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.16,0:00:50.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a time for both of those
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.79,0:00:53.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the necessity of communication.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.56,0:00:56.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the Bible, the word "speak"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.53,0:01:01.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is used 454 times.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.34,0:01:03.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that's a lot of communication
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.78,0:01:06.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,advocated in the Bible.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.100,0:01:11.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the realm of a living, vital,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.41,0:01:13.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,working marriage,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.40,0:01:18.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,communication is so important.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.07,0:01:23.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, we can fall to silence -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.47,0:01:26.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe as a defensive mechanism.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.04,0:01:27.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We withdraw.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.96,0:01:30.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But silence just builds walls, doesn't it?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.86,0:01:33.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've used those terms before, surely -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.35,0:01:36.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a wall of silence?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.28,0:01:39.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We don't want that.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.04,0:01:44.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes silence can \Nbe simply self-centered.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.84,0:01:46.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's about me.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.25,0:01:51.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I withdraw at other times.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.29,0:01:56.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can be defensive.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.41,0:02:00.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh, just pulling back as a mechanism
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.89,0:02:04.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to defend myself in silence.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.16,0:02:06.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Other times, it can actually be
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.88,0:02:08.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an offensive weapon.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.80,0:02:11.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, the cold shoulder of silence.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.81,0:02:16.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when we need to speak,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.54,0:02:18.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's a positive duty
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.36,0:02:20.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to talk things out.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.90,0:02:23.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got problems that \Nneed to be addressed.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.41,0:02:24.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got to listen.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.73,0:02:26.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got to speak.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.58,0:02:28.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got decisions that need to be made.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.69,0:02:29.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got to listen.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.86,0:02:32.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got to speak.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.26,0:02:37.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You need to express needs and desires.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.47,0:02:40.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got to communicate that.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.11,0:02:44.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yes, sometimes, \Ndissatisfaction's, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.48,0:02:49.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got to know when \Nto be silent and listen,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.01,0:02:50.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as well as when to speak,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.56,0:02:52.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because no one's telepathic.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.91,0:02:54.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can't read minds.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.25,0:02:56.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes, I think my \Nwife is almost there,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.95,0:03:00.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where she can,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.25,0:03:01.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the reality is,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.59,0:03:03.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can't read each other's minds.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.27,0:03:06.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've got to communicate, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.39,0:03:10.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so that's the thought on my mind
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.15,0:03:12.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,here this morning.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.42,0:03:14.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a time to be silent,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.44,0:03:16.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's a time to speak.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.54,0:03:19.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so from this day forward,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.18,0:03:20.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going forward from here,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.74,0:03:23.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you guys have got \Nto get together and talk.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.45,0:03:26.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Talk about things.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.21,0:03:30.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's so vital.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.35,0:03:31.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think about this.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.50,0:03:35.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's worthwhile to note.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.57,0:03:38.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With the Tower of Babel,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.38,0:03:44.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all God did was break \Ndown their communication.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.35,0:03:46.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was all He had to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.19,0:03:48.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He changed language,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.34,0:03:50.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so now, they're no longer
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.23,0:03:52.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,able to communicate.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.15,0:03:54.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And whenever you're not \Nable to communicate,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.57,0:03:56.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then anything constructive
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.11,0:03:59.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,goes out the window.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.02,0:04:00.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, a time to be silent
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.92,0:04:03.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a time to speak.