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Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.52,0:00:08.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James just sent this one to me today.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.84,0:00:15.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I almost deleted it.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.84,0:00:17.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you know, as I went out,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.24,0:00:19.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I go over to Brackenridge to pray
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.81,0:00:21.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I couldn't get away from it,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.76,0:00:24.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I thought you know what,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.08,0:00:32.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to visit it.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.38,0:00:34.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm single.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.43,0:00:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In your video:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.94,0:00:38.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'Important to Walk in \NPurity Before Marriage,'
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.90,0:00:41.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you mention that in 1 Corinthians 7
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.02,0:00:45.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that those who lack \Nself-control should marry.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.76,0:00:47.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What about Christians for whom
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.45,0:00:50.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are no prospects in sight?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.22,0:00:51.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Especially as a woman
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.94,0:00:54.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,waiting for someone to pursue you
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.38,0:00:56.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is frustrating to the point of tears
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.61,0:00:58.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and heartbreaking.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.46,0:01:00.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You say "get married"
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.42,0:01:03.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like it's something we \Ncan just get up and do."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.84,0:01:08.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, I don't want to \Nbe insensitive to this,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.83,0:01:12.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I do want to point out this:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.36,0:01:14.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You say, 'get married,'
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.98,0:01:19.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like it's something you \Ncan just get up and do."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.59,0:01:23.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not me that says it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.16,0:01:27.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Paul says it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.53,0:01:37.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's look at it. 1 Corinthians 7.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.44,0:01:49.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,1 Corinthians 7:8-9
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.81,0:01:51.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"To the unmarried and the widows,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.66,0:01:53.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I say that it is good for them
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.36,0:01:55.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to remain single as I am,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.05,0:01:58.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but if they cannot exercise self-control,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.14,0:02:00.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they should marry.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.48,0:02:04.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For it's better to marry \Nthan to burn with passion."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.82,0:02:08.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is typical.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.02,0:02:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's typical that people say
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.40,0:02:14.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the preacher or teacher,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.31,0:02:15.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"you say,"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.96,0:02:17.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what's important
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.82,0:02:19.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that we really listen
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.99,0:02:23.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we be Berean and ask ourselves this:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.51,0:02:26.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Does Scripture say it?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.38,0:02:29.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, Paul is the one saying here
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.83,0:02:32.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,get married.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.22,0:02:34.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But anyway, that's just a side note.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.62,0:02:36.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's keep going.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.72,0:02:38.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You say, 'get married,' \Nlike it's something
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.82,0:02:40.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we can just get up and do,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.41,0:02:42.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's rarely that simple.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.45,0:02:44.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes it seems married people
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.64,0:02:47.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are flippant and insensitive
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.02,0:02:48.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,towards single people
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.41,0:02:52.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling them to just be content."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.45,0:02:57.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which she realizes is not untrue.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.18,0:02:59.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"And I don't think that married people
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.69,0:03:02.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,remember how fierce \Nthe battle is with purity
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.67,0:03:04.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they were single.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.41,0:03:05.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's very frustrating.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.79,0:03:08.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You said yourself you longed to be married
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.84,0:03:11.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the Lord kept you single for 3 years
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.66,0:03:13.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that was not enjoyable.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.91,0:03:15.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You longed to be married.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.34,0:03:17.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is there a practical side \Nto getting married?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.76,0:03:20.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Also, should churches \Nhelp singles get married
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.55,0:03:23.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if so, what can churches do?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.70,0:03:33.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now look, I am not being sarcastic
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.20,0:03:34.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I say some of the things
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.99,0:03:36.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I'm about to say.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.39,0:03:43.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is not sarcasm.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.25,0:03:46.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are the options?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.87,0:03:49.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, let's seriously ask that question.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.43,0:03:52.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have a young lady or a young man,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.69,0:03:56.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they want to be married, \Nbut they're single,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.70,0:04:00.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what are the options?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.75,0:04:03.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just went riding
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.72,0:04:06.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with three brothers from the church -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.100,0:04:12.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,went on a bike ride before the Bible study
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.36,0:04:15.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I typically do that on Tuesday's.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.39,0:04:19.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And oftentimes, Craig asks me
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.47,0:04:22.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what are the questions \Nyou're dealing with tonight.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.04,0:04:23.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'll tell him.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.72,0:04:27.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I told the guys - I told he and Carlos
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.22,0:04:31.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I wanted to deal with this question.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.07,0:04:35.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said I've got like 12 options.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.80,0:04:43.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said the first option is:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.30,0:04:45.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can go to a bar, you can get drunk,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.62,0:04:48.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can go home with a guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.24,0:04:51.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I told the guys \NI'm not being sarcastic,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.47,0:04:53.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Carlos goes,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.23,0:04:58.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"No. There's a lot of people \Nwho choose that."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.47,0:04:59.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's absolutely true.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.82,0:05:01.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's not sarcasm.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.89,0:05:03.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(incomplete thought)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.41,0:05:05.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Look, what I want to do right now
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.83,0:05:07.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is give options.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.88,0:05:10.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm not necessarily going to tell you
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.11,0:05:13.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether these options are right or wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.76,0:05:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just going to tell you
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.54,0:05:17.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what are the options.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.10,0:05:19.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are the options if you find yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.12,0:05:21.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a single state
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.35,0:05:25.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're struggling with being there?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.100,0:05:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not saying that some of these options
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.00,0:05:29.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are options to choose or not choose.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.94,0:05:31.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of them may be marginal.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.85,0:05:33.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of you may think
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.68,0:05:35.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well, yeah, you could do that;
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.24,0:05:36.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or some of you may think,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.47,0:05:38.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well, that's inappropriate.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.92,0:05:42.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not really here to be your conscience.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.60,0:05:47.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know some things are wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.07,0:05:48.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're obviously wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.63,0:05:50.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some things are obviously right.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.73,0:05:58.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some things are in the grey matter.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.41,0:06:00.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of you may have certain thoughts
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.35,0:06:01.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and some may have others.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.65,0:06:03.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what are the options?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.67,0:06:09.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You find yourself sexually frustrated
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.74,0:06:16.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and/or intently lonely,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.40,0:06:20.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you don't like being single.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.34,0:06:26.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what do you do?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.70,0:06:31.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(unintelligible)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.56,0:06:35.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, like I say,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.95,0:06:38.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not being sarcastic here,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.43,0:06:45.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but one option is sin.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.57,0:06:49.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean one option is:
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.14,0:06:53.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm out of here. I'm going \Nto go live with my boyfriend.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.78,0:06:57.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And people choose that \Noption all the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.55,0:06:58.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to go to the bar.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.91,0:07:01.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to get drunk.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.46,0:07:04.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know any other way to find a guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.37,0:07:08.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the way it happened in the world
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.84,0:07:11.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now I'm trying to be a Christian
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.45,0:07:16.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I've had it.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.100,0:07:19.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm frustrated
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.10,0:07:22.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and following Christ is too hard.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.14,0:07:23.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or you just make Christ out:
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.74,0:07:25.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, He'll forgive me,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.87,0:07:28.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so I'm going to go do this.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.71,0:07:31.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's an option.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.40,0:07:34.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another option.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.11,0:07:36.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can get online and you can say
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.29,0:07:39.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to match.com and eharmony.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.12,0:07:47.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I don't know, Christian Mingle?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.10,0:07:48.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James: Sovereign Singles.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.65,0:07:52.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tim: Sovereign Grace Singles.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.17,0:07:53.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People do that.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.55,0:07:55.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know Christians that have done that.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.41,0:07:59.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We know a sister that was \Nin our church that got married
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.41,0:08:02.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through seeking on some \Nkind of Christian (website).
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.21,0:08:07.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can do that.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.54,0:08:12.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,R.C. Sproul's son, different people.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.67,0:08:15.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What was that one?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.01,0:08:16.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(incomplete thought)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.98,0:08:19.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They had a data breach.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.53,0:08:22.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James: Oh, he was on an adultery website.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.31,0:08:24.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tim: Yeah, there's adultery websites.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.11,0:08:28.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's all sorts of \Noptions on the Internet
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.31,0:08:29.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to try to find people.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.57,0:08:31.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can parade yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.01,0:08:35.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can kind of create fictitious you.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.49,0:08:38.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can put your best picture.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.64,0:08:40.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can say all the things,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.82,0:08:42.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have the light just right,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.14,0:08:43.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,make it all look good,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.35,0:08:45.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and have nice background.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.52,0:08:47.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, you can really stage yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.86,0:08:51.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and portray yourself exactly \Nhow you want there.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.11,0:08:56.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And lots of people do that.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.81,0:09:00.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are other options?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.09,0:09:05.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(incomplete thought)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.65,0:09:10.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a young lady.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.94,0:09:13.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We heard not too long ago:
Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.20,0:09:17.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well, didn't Ruth initiate?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.82,0:09:22.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Didn't she go pursue Boaz? She did.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.24,0:09:25.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it was suggested that \Nif you're a young lady
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.20,0:09:26.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're frustrated -
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.72,0:09:30.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're frustrated waiting on the guys,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.56,0:09:33.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you could take the initiative.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.01,0:09:37.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are girls who do that -
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.20,0:09:38.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,lost and saved.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.66,0:09:41.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are girls who do that.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.66,0:09:43.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right or wrong?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.70,0:09:46.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, some would say Ruth
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.30,0:09:48.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,seems to indicate that maybe
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.15,0:09:51.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not wrong all the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.87,0:09:55.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What else? What's another option?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.49,0:10:00.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can strive to make \Nyourself more attractive.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.72,0:10:03.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's an option.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.68,0:10:07.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And maybe there's some validity.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.12,0:10:08.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You say, how?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.25,0:10:09.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now listen to what I'm saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.77,0:10:13.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,making yourself more attractive -
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.37,0:10:18.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes a carnal flavor
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.20,0:10:19.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tends to come out of that,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.53,0:10:21.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I'll tell you if there's a godly guy
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.83,0:10:25.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looking for a woman to marry,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.93,0:10:29.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the things that will \Nmake her attractive to him
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.30,0:10:32.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are the things that a girl \Nwho wants to find a guy like that
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.26,0:10:37.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,should be making themselves attractive in.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.91,0:10:39.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What can you do?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.96,0:10:46.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's just talk about \Nthe physical side of it.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.26,0:10:48.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what? If you're overweight,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.55,0:10:50.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that going to have any impact
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.10,0:10:51.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on your ability to get married?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.69,0:10:53.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Perhaps.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.18,0:10:55.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it not only speaks \Nperhaps of physical things,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.68,0:11:00.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it speaks of very \Nlikely spiritual things.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:00.26,0:11:04.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe like a lack of self-control.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.66,0:11:08.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Making yourself attractive...
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.90,0:11:12.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do you want to just \Nlet yourself fall apart?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.25,0:11:15.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like you're undisciplined?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.05,0:11:16.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's not good.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.78,0:11:18.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dressing -
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.27,0:11:21.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not saying somebody \Nshould dress worldly,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.28,0:11:24.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but can somebody dress in a way
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.43,0:11:27.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that might be more attractive?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.02,0:11:33.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Incomplete thought)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.08,0:11:36.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes people talk \Nabout dressing smartly or nice.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.97,0:11:38.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not necessarily worldly,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.30,0:11:42.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but looking shabby.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.36,0:11:44.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Making yourself attractive.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.83,0:11:45.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.75,0:11:48.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes there are women
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.42,0:11:50.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are very unattractive
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.62,0:11:55.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they're loud, they're proud,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:55.20,0:12:03.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're boastful, they're arrogant.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.01,0:12:06.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, sometimes there are women
Dialogue: 0,0:12:06.87,0:12:08.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are too quiet -
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.55,0:12:10.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the opposite end.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:10.54,0:12:12.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They never talk to a guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.04,0:12:14.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They shy away.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.78,0:12:17.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe you can put yourself in a position
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.36,0:12:23.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you're actually rubbing shoulders
Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.65,0:12:30.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with those of the opposite sex.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.06,0:12:35.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's hold the questions till the end.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.17,0:12:42.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe just letting there be \Nsomething mysterious about you.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.78,0:12:44.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, I've known some young ladies
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.62,0:12:47.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are telling a guy like the second \Ntime they meet or something
Dialogue: 0,0:12:47.88,0:12:51.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they love them and there's \Nnothing very mysterious.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.42,0:12:54.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's not much of a challenge.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:54.96,0:12:57.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just saying, these are things
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.17,0:13:00.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you can do.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.55,0:13:02.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A young lady can put herself
Dialogue: 0,0:13:02.22,0:13:04.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where young men are.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.96,0:13:07.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And again, I'm not telling you
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.15,0:13:09.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether these things are right or wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:09.18,0:13:11.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm telling you these are options
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.76,0:13:18.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that people have at their disposal.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.99,0:13:27.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can seek to stir up some interest.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:27.69,0:13:32.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's something not to do:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.33,0:13:35.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's an option that probably is wise.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.73,0:13:39.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were at the Pearl on Sunday night
Dialogue: 0,0:13:39.73,0:13:43.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Mack was speaking \Nto a good crowd of us
Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.72,0:13:45.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and somebody asked him
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.42,0:13:47.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about his marriage.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.24,0:13:49.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he was actually talking about it
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.05,0:13:50.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and being very transparent
Dialogue: 0,0:13:50.49,0:13:51.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about some of his struggles
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.81,0:13:53.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and his communication issues
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.60,0:13:55.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that he's had to overcome,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:55.18,0:13:56.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he told us a story
Dialogue: 0,0:13:56.62,0:13:58.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about this last New Year's,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:58.55,0:14:02.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and said it was 9:55
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.65,0:14:05.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and his wife asked him to stay up
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.18,0:14:06.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the New Year,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:06.36,0:14:08.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said I go to bed at 10,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.01,0:14:10.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said my eyes were hanging low,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:10.20,0:14:15.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she put on a Hallmark movie.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.93,0:14:18.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he said it was 13 degrees outside
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.49,0:14:20.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he went outside and stood out there
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.55,0:14:22.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until he was wide awake.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:22.07,0:14:24.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he came in and he watched two or three
Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.100,0:14:26.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hallmark movies with his wife.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:26.53,0:14:27.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Missed the New Year
Dialogue: 0,0:14:27.60,0:14:30.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they were all into the movie.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:30.17,0:14:34.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said it was wonderful.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:34.73,0:14:36.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now that might be good for a man
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.32,0:14:38.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who's trying to strengthen his marriage.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:38.28,0:14:40.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is not good for a young lady
Dialogue: 0,0:14:40.02,0:14:42.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who is single to sit and watch
Dialogue: 0,0:14:42.22,0:14:43.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,two or three of those.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:43.69,0:14:47.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She ought to stay as far away \Nfrom those as possible.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:47.32,0:14:51.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why? Why expose yourself to that?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.80,0:14:53.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do that?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.94,0:14:56.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What else?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.77,0:15:00.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James: What's a Hallmark movie?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:00.80,0:15:06.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tim: It's a romance movie.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:06.62,0:15:10.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James: Our wives obviously \Nwatch them all this time.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:10.60,0:15:12.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tim: I've watched some with my wife.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:12.67,0:15:16.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They all have the same storyline,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:16.17,0:15:18.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just different actors and actresses.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:18.23,0:15:23.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are identical - every one of them.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:23.99,0:15:26.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're the kind of movies guys hate.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:26.98,0:15:33.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if you watch them with your wife...
Dialogue: 0,0:15:33.38,0:15:35.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's actually asking about
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.49,0:15:37.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether the church should be involved.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:37.76,0:15:39.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now that's an option.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:39.99,0:15:42.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Could you look to your father
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.52,0:15:44.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help set you up with somebody?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:44.40,0:15:46.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Could you look to your pastor?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.59,0:15:48.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll admit some people
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.09,0:15:50.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are better matchmakers than others.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:50.66,0:15:54.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that's a possibility and that happens.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:54.55,0:15:56.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's communication and I have it.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.100,0:15:58.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very likely, James has it.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:58.74,0:16:01.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's communication with elders
Dialogue: 0,0:16:01.18,0:16:03.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in other churches at times
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.49,0:16:05.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about singles in the church
Dialogue: 0,0:16:05.49,0:16:11.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and possible matches.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:11.77,0:16:23.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's an option.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.75,0:16:40.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a serious option.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:40.04,0:16:44.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Surrendering yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:16:44.10,0:16:48.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to living a life of singleness
Dialogue: 0,0:16:48.57,0:16:53.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the glory of God if that's \Nwhat God has called you to.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:53.71,0:16:57.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You say, well, here I am struggling.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:57.60,0:17:00.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm struggling with singleness
Dialogue: 0,0:17:00.93,0:17:03.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're going to give \Nme that as an option?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:03.38,0:17:08.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah, I think that's a tremendous option.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:08.08,0:17:10.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me say it again.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:10.78,0:17:13.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Surrendering.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:13.42,0:17:23.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(incomplete thought)
Dialogue: 0,0:17:23.08,0:17:26.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But just surrendering yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:17:26.09,0:17:35.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to that reality.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:35.66,0:17:39.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what, when I was single,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:39.12,0:17:42.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked the Lord:
Dialogue: 0,0:17:42.78,0:17:46.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lord, I'll stay single.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:46.19,0:17:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't have any problem staying single
Dialogue: 0,0:17:48.98,0:17:52.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if You'll help me be single.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:52.54,0:17:54.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, if You'll grant \Nme a gift of singleness
Dialogue: 0,0:17:54.88,0:17:57.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and grant me \Ncontentment to be single,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:57.03,0:18:00.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll happily stay single.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:00.15,0:18:03.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I think that's a real, genuine option
Dialogue: 0,0:18:03.28,0:18:07.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to say: Lord, I'm surrendered.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:07.86,0:18:08.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm surrendered.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:08.74,0:18:10.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am not going to live my life
Dialogue: 0,0:18:10.57,0:18:13.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like life doesn't start till I'm married.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:13.67,0:18:16.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm surrendering that to You.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:16.78,0:18:18.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lord, here I am.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:18.03,0:18:19.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm ready to serve You
Dialogue: 0,0:18:19.37,0:18:21.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if You want me to serve You single,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:21.32,0:18:22.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then I'm going to serve You single
Dialogue: 0,0:18:22.97,0:18:26.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as best as I can.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:26.49,0:18:28.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that is an option
Dialogue: 0,0:18:28.07,0:18:32.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you really want to consider.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:32.73,0:18:35.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is one to think about.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:35.19,0:18:36.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've given lots of options.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:36.81,0:18:38.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Make yourself more attractive.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:38.52,0:18:40.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Get on the Internet
Dialogue: 0,0:18:40.12,0:18:42.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and use one of these match-making deals.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:42.71,0:18:44.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's all sorts of things.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:44.39,0:18:47.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Talk to the pastor. Talk to other people.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:47.68,0:18:51.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Go to where the guys are.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:51.09,0:18:53.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Communicate some.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:53.14,0:18:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Fix the things that are wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:55.36,0:18:57.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Make yourself more attractive.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:57.24,0:18:59.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's all these things
Dialogue: 0,0:18:59.13,0:19:01.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you can think about.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:01.53,0:19:04.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Girls taking initiative.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:04.50,0:19:08.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I'll tell you what Scripture says.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:08.30,0:19:10.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not so much about getting a husband
Dialogue: 0,0:19:10.61,0:19:11.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or a wife,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:11.77,0:19:14.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I think you can put it in there.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:14.60,0:19:18.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because what Jesus is talking about
Dialogue: 0,0:19:18.15,0:19:21.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is food and clothing.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:21.49,0:19:23.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The basics of life.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:23.30,0:19:24.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know what He says?
Dialogue: 0,0:19:24.94,0:19:29.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seek first the Kingdom of Heaven
Dialogue: 0,0:19:29.35,0:19:35.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all these things \Nshall be added unto you.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:35.79,0:19:37.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what one option is?
Dialogue: 0,0:19:37.86,0:19:41.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just all out serve the Lord.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:41.29,0:19:44.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(incomplete thought)
Dialogue: 0,0:19:44.19,0:19:47.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listen, we have a God
Dialogue: 0,0:19:47.36,0:19:48.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that if He wants you married,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:48.85,0:19:50.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can be on a desert island
Dialogue: 0,0:19:50.58,0:19:52.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where there's not a guy \N1,000 miles from you
Dialogue: 0,0:19:52.71,0:19:54.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and He will get that guy there
Dialogue: 0,0:19:54.15,0:19:56.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you will be married.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:56.66,0:19:58.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James: Or you can be in India
Dialogue: 0,0:19:58.88,0:20:00.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and some guy from Bangladesh
Dialogue: 0,0:20:00.67,0:20:02.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ends up over there and you marry him.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:02.53,0:20:03.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tim: Right.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:03.82,0:20:09.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, when Ruby - she was in a church,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:09.45,0:20:12.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no single guys.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:12.08,0:20:14.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm looking at moving \Nto a different church
Dialogue: 0,0:20:14.64,0:20:15.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the same city.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:15.83,0:20:19.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,John Sytsma called me and told me:
Dialogue: 0,0:20:19.78,0:20:20.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we know you're single
Dialogue: 0,0:20:20.94,0:20:25.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Pat just wanted John to say to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:25.24,0:20:29.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,look, there aren't any \Neligible young ladies here.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:29.100,0:20:32.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was like that didn't \Neven cross my mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:32.58,0:20:33.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not going down there
Dialogue: 0,0:20:33.81,0:20:36.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because there's a bunch of single ladies.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:36.55,0:20:37.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going down there
Dialogue: 0,0:20:37.70,0:20:40.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that's the kind of \Nchurch I've been looking for.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:40.37,0:20:41.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ruby's dad would say to her
Dialogue: 0,0:20:41.74,0:20:43.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if God has to bring your husband
Dialogue: 0,0:20:43.56,0:20:44.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from 1,000 miles away -
Dialogue: 0,0:20:44.91,0:20:46.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well, that's exactly what happened.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:46.95,0:20:52.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is seek first the Kingdom.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:52.16,0:20:56.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(incomplete thought)
Dialogue: 0,0:20:56.88,0:20:59.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, pray. That came up before.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:59.57,0:21:01.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And don't underestimate that.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:01.10,0:21:02.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not putting these options
Dialogue: 0,0:21:02.56,0:21:04.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order of priority.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:04.39,0:21:07.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, I'm probably putting \Nthem worst to best.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:07.33,0:21:10.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the thing is don't underestimate
Dialogue: 0,0:21:10.80,0:21:13.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the God that Christians have.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:13.38,0:21:15.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have us a God who's able to do
Dialogue: 0,0:21:15.09,0:21:16.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,exceedingly, abundantly,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:16.47,0:21:18.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,beyond what you ask or think.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:18.34,0:21:21.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(incomplete thought)
Dialogue: 0,0:21:21.30,0:21:23.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a huge thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:23.20,0:21:25.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what one of the good options is?
Dialogue: 0,0:21:25.74,0:21:29.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is renew your minds.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:29.40,0:21:30.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Renew your minds.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:30.87,0:21:33.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You say what do you mean?
Dialogue: 0,0:21:33.62,0:21:35.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean this:
Dialogue: 0,0:21:35.04,0:21:36.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can be single
Dialogue: 0,0:21:36.21,0:21:37.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can be in a situation
Dialogue: 0,0:21:37.70,0:21:39.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you see all these married people
Dialogue: 0,0:21:39.60,0:21:41.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you say: woe is me.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:41.61,0:21:43.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, let me ask you something.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:43.20,0:21:45.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are you a Christian?
Dialogue: 0,0:21:45.13,0:21:47.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:47.60,0:21:50.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Woe is me?
Dialogue: 0,0:21:50.20,0:21:52.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've been saved from your sins.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:52.04,0:21:54.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In a very short time, you're \Ngoing to be in Paradise.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:54.82,0:21:57.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This life is fleeting.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:57.11,0:21:58.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's over in a moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:58.72,0:22:03.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like a breath of fog and it's gone.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:03.34,0:22:05.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are going to spend forever -
Dialogue: 0,0:22:05.67,0:22:09.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,eternal life, abundant, overflowing,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:09.76,0:22:11.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an eternal weight of glory,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:11.38,0:22:13.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're saying woe is me?
Dialogue: 0,0:22:13.15,0:22:15.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Wake up!
Dialogue: 0,0:22:15.06,0:22:16.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is not woe is you.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:16.52,0:22:18.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, the Apostle Paul said
Dialogue: 0,0:22:18.28,0:22:19.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that if you're married,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:19.60,0:22:22.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're going to be taken \Nup with worldly anxieties.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:22.64,0:22:23.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if you're not married,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:23.98,0:22:27.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can give yourself freely \Nand fully to the Lord.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:27.08,0:22:28.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What does that mean? Renew your mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:28.90,0:22:30.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It means on judgment day
Dialogue: 0,0:22:30.31,0:22:32.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when sister so-and-so over here
Dialogue: 0,0:22:32.45,0:22:34.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is being rewarded for the 60%
Dialogue: 0,0:22:34.72,0:22:36.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she was able to bring forth in her life
Dialogue: 0,0:22:36.72,0:22:39.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because 40% was given to worldly endeavors
Dialogue: 0,0:22:39.32,0:22:41.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that really didn't amount to much,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:41.05,0:22:43.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're over here and you were single
Dialogue: 0,0:22:43.06,0:22:45.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you could have \Ndevoted your whole life -
Dialogue: 0,0:22:45.32,0:22:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you want to be that person that:
Dialogue: 0,0:22:47.00,0:22:49.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, well done! A hundred fold!"
Dialogue: 0,0:22:49.72,0:22:51.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't want to be tenfold
Dialogue: 0,0:22:51.21,0:22:53.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because 90% of the time, you pined away,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:53.72,0:22:56.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,self pity, oh "woe is me."
Dialogue: 0,0:22:56.70,0:22:58.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listen, renew your mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:58.54,0:23:00.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is you're not the only person
Dialogue: 0,0:23:00.54,0:23:01.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,suffering in this world.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:01.84,0:23:03.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are many married people
Dialogue: 0,0:23:03.62,0:23:06.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are just as lonely \Nor lonelier than you.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:06.50,0:23:08.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are people that are married
Dialogue: 0,0:23:08.31,0:23:09.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that are very miserable.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:09.49,0:23:11.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I guarantee you this,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:11.65,0:23:15.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that look, we have us a God,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:15.78,0:23:17.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think there's a place to come to Him
Dialogue: 0,0:23:17.90,0:23:22.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and pray, Lord, I ask You, please,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:22.08,0:23:23.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,give me a spouse
Dialogue: 0,0:23:23.80,0:23:26.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or give me the grace to be single.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:26.84,0:23:28.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's very reasonable.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:28.09,0:23:30.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why would He not give \Nyou either one of those?
Dialogue: 0,0:23:30.32,0:23:31.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He will!
Dialogue: 0,0:23:31.52,0:23:33.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we're suffering and you're like Paul
Dialogue: 0,0:23:33.48,0:23:35.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you come and say \NI've got a thorn in the flesh
Dialogue: 0,0:23:35.98,0:23:38.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and would You please take it away,\Nand you ask three times,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:38.86,0:23:40.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's the answer? \N"My grace is sufficient."
Dialogue: 0,0:23:40.100,0:23:43.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think that's where our \Nexpectation needs to be.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:43.75,0:23:45.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you need to renew your mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:45.41,0:23:48.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You need to think right about things.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:48.57,0:23:50.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think right.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:50.21,0:23:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Apostle Paul teaches
Dialogue: 0,0:23:52.00,0:23:54.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that if you're single, \Nyou have the ability
Dialogue: 0,0:23:54.24,0:23:57.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to serve the Lord like \Nmarried people don't.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:57.46,0:24:00.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't waste your singleness.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:00.89,0:24:03.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't waste it pining away,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:03.91,0:24:08.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feeling like you have an entitlement
Dialogue: 0,0:24:08.96,0:24:10.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be married
Dialogue: 0,0:24:10.38,0:24:12.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and somehow God has done you wrong
Dialogue: 0,0:24:12.81,0:24:15.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until you get a spouse.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:15.86,0:24:19.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't think you're the \Nonly one that suffers.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:19.16,0:24:23.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can think like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:23.01,0:24:25.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We often think that way in our suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:25.18,0:24:27.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But remember, we have a \Nsympathetic high priest.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:27.69,0:24:28.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what Scripture says.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:28.98,0:24:32.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And He's able to relate.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:32.68,0:24:34.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He stayed single His whole life.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:34.73,0:24:37.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was a Man of Sorrows.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:37.36,0:24:38.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Charles Leiter's done a message
Dialogue: 0,0:24:38.85,0:24:40.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the loneliness of Christ.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:40.28,0:24:43.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If ever somebody was \Nlonely, it was Christ.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:43.10,0:24:46.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He suffered alone on that cross.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:46.85,0:24:50.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And here's the thing,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:50.36,0:24:52.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our lives really are momentary.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:52.28,0:24:53.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You need to renew your mind there.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:53.98,0:24:54.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know what?
Dialogue: 0,0:24:54.95,0:24:56.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even the people in this room
Dialogue: 0,0:24:56.46,0:24:59.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the happiest marriages -
Dialogue: 0,0:24:59.17,0:25:01.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of us is going to die
Dialogue: 0,0:25:01.14,0:25:05.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and probably not both of \Nus on the same day.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:05.24,0:25:08.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Somebody's going to say goodbye.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:08.29,0:25:10.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's over.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:10.28,0:25:11.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,John Piper wrote a book called,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:11.81,0:25:14.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"This Momentary Marriage."
Dialogue: 0,0:25:14.09,0:25:16.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's just momentary.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:16.34,0:25:18.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then there's eternity forever.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:18.26,0:25:20.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I guarantee you, in a million years
Dialogue: 0,0:25:20.30,0:25:22.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it will not matter which \Nones of us were married
Dialogue: 0,0:25:22.63,0:25:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or which ones of us weren't married.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:24.39,0:25:25.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What's going to really matter is
Dialogue: 0,0:25:25.93,0:25:27.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether you were in or out;
Dialogue: 0,0:25:27.27,0:25:28.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether you served well;
Dialogue: 0,0:25:28.52,0:25:29.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether in the end, it's:
Dialogue: 0,0:25:29.89,0:25:40.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well done, good and faithful servant.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:40.02,0:25:41.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You had your hand up.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:41.70,0:25:42.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(from the room)
Dialogue: 0,0:25:42.76,0:25:45.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah, I noticed you were talking
Dialogue: 0,0:25:45.34,0:25:47.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from the perspective of the female,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:47.45,0:25:49.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I wanted to ask you
Dialogue: 0,0:25:49.11,0:25:50.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,could you elaborate -
Dialogue: 0,0:25:50.35,0:25:51.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I heard a lot of talk
Dialogue: 0,0:25:51.78,0:25:54.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about the gift of singleness.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:54.05,0:25:57.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you tell us like \Nwhat you think that is?
Dialogue: 0,0:25:57.37,0:25:59.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tim: Well, it seems to be a gift
Dialogue: 0,0:25:59.04,0:26:00.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it seems to be something
Dialogue: 0,0:26:00.66,0:26:01.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that some people have
Dialogue: 0,0:26:01.87,0:26:03.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that other people don't have.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:03.94,0:26:10.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what is the gift?
Dialogue: 0,0:26:10.44,0:26:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would say it's a lack of \Nneed to be married.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:15.00,0:26:17.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the ability to be content
Dialogue: 0,0:26:17.90,0:26:21.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to stay single.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:21.83,0:26:24.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to read something to you.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:24.42,0:26:27.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I often go back to this.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:27.01,0:26:29.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is "Praying Payson" - Edward Payson
Dialogue: 0,0:26:29.91,0:26:31.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of Portland, Maine.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:31.75,0:26:33.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,James: What page is that?
Dialogue: 0,0:26:33.22,0:26:39.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tim: This is page 410 of Volume 1.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:39.03,0:26:41.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He is dying.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:41.81,0:26:44.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listen to what he says.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:44.19,0:26:48.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Christians might avoid much trouble
Dialogue: 0,0:26:48.76,0:26:50.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and inconvenience
Dialogue: 0,0:26:50.62,0:26:52.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they would only believe
Dialogue: 0,0:26:52.24,0:26:54.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what they profess,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:54.40,0:26:58.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that God is able to make them happy
Dialogue: 0,0:26:58.52,0:27:02.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without anything else."
Dialogue: 0,0:27:02.60,0:27:07.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seek first the Kingdom of God.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:07.70,0:27:15.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seek first God.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:15.67,0:27:18.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Single people - I can tell you this,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:18.74,0:27:20.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in my singleness,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:20.26,0:27:21.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,did I want to be married?
Dialogue: 0,0:27:21.65,0:27:23.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, I wanted to be married.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:23.55,0:27:25.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I can tell you this,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:25.20,0:27:28.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had visitations of \Nthe presence of Christ
Dialogue: 0,0:27:28.27,0:27:30.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in those three years of singleness
Dialogue: 0,0:27:30.31,0:27:35.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I have not had \Nsince I've been married.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:35.03,0:27:39.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are the most \Nfulfilling things imaginable.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:39.23,0:27:42.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listen to what Payson says.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:42.89,0:27:46.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Christians imagine that if such \Na dear friend were to die..."
Dialogue: 0,0:27:46.77,0:27:48.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or I'll insert here:
Dialogue: 0,0:27:48.39,0:27:51.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or if I wasn't to get married,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:51.46,0:27:52.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's like my spouse died
Dialogue: 0,0:27:52.85,0:27:55.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before I ever met him -
Dialogue: 0,0:27:55.37,0:27:58.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"or such and such blessings to be removed"
Dialogue: 0,0:27:58.58,0:28:02.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(like the blessing of marriage),
Dialogue: 0,0:28:02.04,0:28:05.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"they imagine that they \Nshould be miserable."
Dialogue: 0,0:28:05.73,0:28:07.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's what happens.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:07.18,0:28:09.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh, woe is me. I'm going to be miserable.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:09.16,0:28:11.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not going to get married.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:11.44,0:28:13.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But he says this, "Whereas God
Dialogue: 0,0:28:13.40,0:28:17.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can make them a thousand times happier
Dialogue: 0,0:28:17.28,0:28:19.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without them.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:19.07,0:28:20.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To mention my own case,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:20.45,0:28:22.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,God has been depriving me
Dialogue: 0,0:28:22.39,0:28:24.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of one blessing after another,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:24.44,0:28:28.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but as every one of these blessings
Dialogue: 0,0:28:28.01,0:28:29.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has been removed,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:29.64,0:28:33.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,God has come in and filled up its place
Dialogue: 0,0:28:33.01,0:28:35.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now when I'm a cripple,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:35.30,0:28:36.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not able to move,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:36.70,0:28:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am happier than ever I was in my life
Dialogue: 0,0:28:39.78,0:28:42.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before or ever expected to be.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:42.89,0:28:46.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if I had only believed \Nthis 20 years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:46.91,0:28:51.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I might have been spared much anxiety."
Dialogue: 0,0:28:51.79,0:28:55.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The truth is God alone
Dialogue: 0,0:28:55.20,0:28:56.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without anything else
Dialogue: 0,0:28:56.48,0:28:58.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is entirely satisfying.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:58.46,0:29:00.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Renew your mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:00.49,0:29:03.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Renew your mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:03.36,0:29:10.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To find God is it.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:10.05,0:29:14.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the sum.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:14.85,0:29:22.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A good option is to abandon
Dialogue: 0,0:29:22.03,0:29:24.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,marriage idolatry.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:24.85,0:29:27.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Marriage is not God.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:27.32,0:29:29.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A husband is not God.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:29.50,0:29:31.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A wife is not God.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:31.45,0:29:32.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not even close.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:32.87,0:29:34.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not even to be equated.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:34.74,0:29:37.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you're living just for marriage,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:37.16,0:29:39.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you want to be careful
Dialogue: 0,0:29:39.61,0:29:41.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because idolaters do not inherit
Dialogue: 0,0:29:41.32,0:29:44.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Kingdom of Heaven.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:44.53,0:29:46.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Live for God.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:46.04,0:29:47.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Renew the mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:47.70,0:29:48.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Renew the mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:48.86,0:29:51.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Become convinced of \Nreally what is important
Dialogue: 0,0:29:51.81,0:29:55.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what satisfies.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:55.35,0:30:00.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's a man - a godly man - at the end,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:00.10,0:30:05.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he's realizing just \Nhow fulfilling God is
Dialogue: 0,0:30:05.02,0:30:07.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(incomplete thought).
Dialogue: 0,0:30:07.70,0:30:09.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What we have is his words.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:09.90,0:30:14.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What he's saying is true.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:14.85,0:30:21.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,God is entirely fulfilling.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:21.37,0:30:25.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we can get where my soul
Dialogue: 0,0:30:25.28,0:30:31.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pants after God,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:31.80,0:30:37.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like the deer pants after the waterbrooks,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:37.07,0:30:42.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my soul longs, it pants after You.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:42.32,0:30:47.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we live that way,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:47.76,0:30:49.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you find God
Dialogue: 0,0:30:49.14,0:30:56.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you drink richly from those springs,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:56.84,0:30:59.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can be single.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:59.63,0:31:00.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can be in the fires.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:00.91,0:31:04.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can be in prison.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:04.42,0:31:07.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, one of those Covenanters -
Dialogue: 0,0:31:07.67,0:31:09.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wish I could remember,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:09.13,0:31:11.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his name is just barely escaping me.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:11.74,0:31:14.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like Cameron. Cameron, I think.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:14.86,0:31:22.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But he was one of those \NScotch Covenanters.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:22.06,0:31:26.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They said he received like \Nsix or seven mortal wounds -
Dialogue: 0,0:31:26.64,0:31:28.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,any one of which would have killed him.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:28.98,0:31:30.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But he was hacked up.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:30.29,0:31:32.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They chopped him up with swords.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:32.72,0:31:35.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They threw him - he's dying, bleeding -
Dialogue: 0,0:31:35.68,0:31:37.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they threw him in the dungeon
Dialogue: 0,0:31:37.45,0:31:42.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they just piled chains on top of him.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:42.39,0:31:48.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And his fellow comrades were \Nin the dungeon with him.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:48.89,0:31:51.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's just laying there a broken man,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:51.41,0:31:53.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his body's all shattered.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:53.09,0:31:56.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he was able to communicate to them
Dialogue: 0,0:31:56.37,0:32:02.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and said I don't think I can bear \Nup under this much longer.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:02.70,0:32:04.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when they inquired,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:04.02,0:32:05.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they found out what he meant
Dialogue: 0,0:32:05.52,0:32:10.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was not: the tortures of all these wounds
Dialogue: 0,0:32:10.62,0:32:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and chains are killing me.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:13.58,0:32:15.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "I am experiencing
Dialogue: 0,0:32:15.60,0:32:18.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the glory of God to the degree
Dialogue: 0,0:32:18.45,0:32:23.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I don't know if I \Ncan sustain it much longer."
Dialogue: 0,0:32:23.27,0:32:24.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He did die.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:24.93,0:32:27.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the glory of God \Nbeing revealed to Him -
Dialogue: 0,0:32:27.56,0:32:29.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if we will pant after that
Dialogue: 0,0:32:29.07,0:32:30.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and chase after that
Dialogue: 0,0:32:30.60,0:32:33.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not be content until we have that,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:33.11,0:32:35.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I guarantee to find God
Dialogue: 0,0:32:35.47,0:32:39.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to drink of that cup,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:39.74,0:32:44.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that so surpasses anything \Nmarriage can bring.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:44.32,0:32:49.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if a person has their eyes
Dialogue: 0,0:32:49.55,0:32:51.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,set on marraige and finding a husband
Dialogue: 0,0:32:51.54,0:32:55.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're so full of anxieties
Dialogue: 0,0:32:55.87,0:32:59.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so full of discontentment,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:59.28,0:33:01.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're exalting marriage to something
Dialogue: 0,0:33:01.78,0:33:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they should not exalt it to.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:05.50,0:33:08.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's dangerous idolatry.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:08.80,0:33:10.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we need to be convinced.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:10.19,0:33:14.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to have our minds renewed.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:14.69,0:33:16.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, may the Lord help you
Dialogue: 0,0:33:16.43,0:33:19.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to sort through the options.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:19.45,0:33:21.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See the good ones.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:21.27,0:33:22.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Reject the bad ones.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:22.47,0:33:27.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Embrace the good ones.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:27.70,0:33:30.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Father, I pray for the singles
Dialogue: 0,0:33:30.06,0:33:32.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I pray Lord,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:32.53,0:33:33.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,may they hear this.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:33.72,0:33:35.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,May they really hear this
Dialogue: 0,0:33:35.41,0:33:38.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and long after You and find You,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:38.02,0:33:41.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pursue You,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:41.62,0:33:43.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as that deer pursues those waters
Dialogue: 0,0:33:43.95,0:33:49.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when famished and thirsty and panting.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:49.42,0:33:52.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lord, we all want that - \Nmarried or single.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:52.38,0:33:56.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Give us a greater thirst for You.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:56.36,0:33:58.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we would take this opportunity
Dialogue: 0,0:33:58.05,0:34:03.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to pray too for the Spirit of God.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:03.27,0:34:06.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My daughter's birthday is in two days.\N
Dialogue: 0,0:34:06.25,0:34:08.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can think about giving her gifts.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:08.91,0:34:13.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh Father, if we were the \Nsort of Father that You are,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:13.85,0:34:15.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,knowing what we know about ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:34:15.58,0:34:18.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our desire to give \Ngood gifts to our children,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:18.17,0:34:20.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lord, how much more will You give
Dialogue: 0,0:34:20.15,0:34:22.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Holy Spirit and we ask You to do it.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:22.36,0:34:24.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Give the Holy Spirit to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:24.92,0:34:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We ask in Christ's name, Amen.