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Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.81,0:00:05.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(from the room)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.09,0:00:06.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have a question.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.56,0:00:08.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, let's say you're single
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.77,0:00:10.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's been a struggle for you
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.57,0:00:12.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and suddenly the Lord's \Nbrought you out of it.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.79,0:00:15.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, the Lord brings you a spouse.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.26,0:00:17.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Before you get married,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.13,0:00:19.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that something you \Nshould be up front with
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.57,0:00:21.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and say that had been a struggle with you
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.85,0:00:24.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before going into the marriage
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.07,0:00:32.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so your wife can maybe \Nbe more understanding?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.15,0:00:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tim: Well, I think in the church,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.08,0:00:36.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would say this.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.37,0:00:42.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would say that if you're a father,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.09,0:00:44.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you should be putting the question
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.10,0:00:47.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to any young man that wants \Nto marry your daughter.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.47,0:00:50.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you are a young lady,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.08,0:00:52.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you're not going to \Nput the question to them,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.56,0:00:55.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you should have your pastors \Nput the question to them
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.10,0:00:58.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or your dad put the question to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.10,0:01:00.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes. Why?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.79,0:01:05.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because you have characteristics
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.51,0:01:07.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like the Proverbs 31 woman.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.90,0:01:09.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have characteristics of a godly woman.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.99,0:01:12.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Guys, that's there on purpose.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.90,0:01:14.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that you can look at it
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.73,0:01:16.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and try to find a woman that's like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.75,0:01:17.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Same thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.84,0:01:20.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have qualities of godly young men
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.88,0:01:23.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,displayed to you ladies in Scripture.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.44,0:01:26.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What kind of husband do you want?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.33,0:01:31.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you want one that bears resemblance?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.33,0:01:37.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then you need to be getting \Nto know one another.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.01,0:01:41.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I recently heard Paul Washer do a message.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.74,0:01:45.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He did a message based \Non 1 Thessalonians 4 -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.43,0:01:51.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sanctification, specifically \Nconcerning sexual purity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.04,0:01:52.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he made the statement that
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.64,0:01:56.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you are failing with sexual purity,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.76,0:01:59.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're not even at the first rung
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.05,0:02:00.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of spiritual maturity.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.91,0:02:05.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so here's the thing,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.79,0:02:09.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what I would want to see is
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.55,0:02:11.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is God doing something
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.13,0:02:13.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the life of that young man
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.52,0:02:18.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where there is a marked victory?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.74,0:02:22.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not looking for perfection.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.35,0:02:24.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Look, when God saves a young man -
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.81,0:02:26.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,young women too -
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.43,0:02:29.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the battle for sexual purity,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.92,0:02:33.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it can be savage.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.23,0:02:37.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It can be incredibly intense battle
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.75,0:02:41.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the desires of \Nthe flesh in that area.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.67,0:02:43.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what I'd be looking for is this:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.40,0:02:46.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is there evidence that the Spirit of God
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.02,0:02:48.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is real in that guy's life
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.36,0:02:52.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that there is some kind of progress,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.28,0:02:54.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is some kind of victory
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.36,0:02:56.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they are getting to the place
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.16,0:02:58.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where they're going weeks and months
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.38,0:03:01.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and years without failure.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.17,0:03:04.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because if there are \Nconstant regular falls,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.55,0:03:07.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am absolutely convinced
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.17,0:03:11.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you cannot live that way -
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.01,0:03:12.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can't live that way for too long
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.100,0:03:14.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and be a genuine Christian.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.80,0:03:17.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you cannot live that way
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.03,0:03:21.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and think that the Spirit is \Nnot going to be grieved.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.35,0:03:23.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it says something about
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.69,0:03:26.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where a man's character is at,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.90,0:03:29.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so I think those \Nquestions need to be asked.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.58,0:03:31.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what's happening more and more
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.43,0:03:36.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is I am asking young men very pointedly -
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.16,0:03:41.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like I want to know space between falls.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.09,0:03:43.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to know the details
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.44,0:03:49.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I want to see what God does
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.58,0:03:51.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in men's lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.40,0:03:55.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think in this very area
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.72,0:03:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's a tell-tale sign.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.99,0:04:02.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if somebody's just living
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.14,0:04:05.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in fairly perpetual failure,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.14,0:04:09.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no way are they going to \Nmarry one of my daughters.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.20,0:04:11.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as a pastor in the church,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.08,0:04:12.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would tell a woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.74,0:04:17.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if there is not some \Nindication of victory here,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.42,0:04:18.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stay away from him.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.81,0:04:23.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You do not want to go there.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.01,0:04:29.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(incomplete thought)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.12,0:04:32.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, I think there needs \Nto be transparency
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.41,0:04:33.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at this point.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.94,0:04:37.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now look, I think too, if we're faithful
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.73,0:04:40.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(incomplete thought).
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.74,0:04:42.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, just today,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.27,0:04:44.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was reading 1 Corinthians,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.50,0:04:53.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I got all the way to like chapter 10.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.07,0:04:55.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I read 1 Corinthians 7 today.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.83,0:04:58.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know, there is a place -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.71,0:05:01.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,obviously, there is a place
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.31,0:05:04.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for somebody to get married
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.66,0:05:07.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the sake of sexual temptation.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.45,0:05:12.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, I would say this,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.45,0:05:14.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a young man,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.05,0:05:16.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you need to strive for purity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.03,0:05:21.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If the battle is intense, get married.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.03,0:05:25.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But look, if you're a Christian,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.12,0:05:27.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the Spirit, strive to put to death
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.73,0:05:30.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the deeds of the body
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.74,0:05:32.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and get married.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.37,0:05:35.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That seems to be very biblical.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.24,0:05:38.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rather, it's better to marry than to burn.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.21,0:05:43.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think finding a \Nwife is a good thing,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.30,0:05:48.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you need to be \Nthe caliber of young man
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.07,0:05:51.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that a godly young lady is \Ngoing to want to marry,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.83,0:05:55.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because if your life is sloppy \Nand full of failure and defeat,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.49,0:05:58.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you shouldn't expect that you're ready
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.03,0:05:59.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get married.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.12,0:06:00.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You shouldn't.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.22,0:06:03.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is not putting too high a standard
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.12,0:06:08.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to expect that you're striving
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.47,0:06:10.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to walk before the Lord
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.76,0:06:16.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that there is evidence of victory
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.06,0:06:19.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the life.