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So, we are the most distracted society[br]that has ever existed.

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In fact, we are distracted[br]every three minutes of the day.

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And what's even more interesting than that

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is that the University[br]of California, Irvine, states

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that it takes us 15 minutes[br]to get back on track.

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We swipe, scroll, tap, touch our phones[br]over 3,000 times a day,

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and nine is the average windows or apps[br]open at any given time.

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Yet we crave more time.

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So, we invent systems to keep us on task,[br]on track, on time, in the black.

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We use our devices,[br]our wearables, our apps -

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any software to make us more productive.

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The funny thing is we still complain about[br]being time-starved and time-deprived.

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How many of you have caught yourself[br]saying, "I wish I had more time"?

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"I wish I could make more time"?

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Well, I want to challenge that,

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and I want to arm you[br]with some new vocabulary.

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So I'd love for you to replace[br]the "I wish I had more time"

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with "I want to create capacity."

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Capacity is entrenched in our values.

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It is the long game.

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It is fueled by passion,

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it is supported by energy

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and results in fulfillment.

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And one can't live without the other,

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because if you only had passion,[br]you probably wouldn't get very much done.

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And if you only had energy, you would be[br]overwhelmed and overcommitted.

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And if you only focused on fulfillment,[br]your passions might be a little shallow.

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Human behavior is so interesting[br]to observe, isn't it?

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Think about yourselves at a bookended day,

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backed by meetings after meetings[br]after meetings and commitments.

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And how we react is we try[br]to crawl out of this crevice.

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We're squeezed for time.

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And this climb is exhausting.

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But some people will say,[br]"Mel, I am great at multitasking."

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How many of you would say[br]you're great at multitasking?

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Raise your hand right now.

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Fantastic.

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Well, I don't have[br]fantastic news for you, actually.

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(Laughter)

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Multitasking is actually[br]creating some havoc.

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This woman here -[br]I asked my eight-year-old,

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I said, "What do you see in this picture?"

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And she said, "Mom, I see a woman[br]doing the splits, reading a book

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and making a movie."

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I said, "Okay."

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And then she said, "But Mom,[br]she doesn't look very happy.

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She should be doing one thing."

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I was like, mind-blown!

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#MomForTheWin. Right?

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This was a fantastic.

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And then I said to my husband, I said,[br]"Hon, what do you see in this picture?"

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And he said,

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"A woman."

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So I will not deconstruct[br]that answer right now.

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We will save that for later.

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But the point is that multitasking[br]and task-switching

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is actually making us dumb!

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It is decreasing our IQ by 15 points.

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It is actually like operating[br]on a sleepless night.

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It is like getting an eight-year-old[br]to write the most important email.

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And would we do that?

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No.

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That's not what we want to do.

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A lot of people will say,

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"You know what, Mel,[br]this is how I operate.

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Multitasking, I'm used to doing it.

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I can do it.

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But I can't get rid of any of these things[br]because they're all obligations."

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And I challenge back softly, and I say,

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"You have capacity.[br]It's just being eroded somewhere.

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And we need to find that erosion."

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One of the main culprits[br]for these capacity thieves

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is our addiction to notifications.

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And our addiction to notifications[br]is killing us slowly.

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Research is actually telling us[br]that the addiction to the notification,

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the disappointment and the anticipation

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is creating an excess of stress hormone[br]and cortisol in our bodies

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that our bodies can't[br]break down fast enough.

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Therefore, it's depleting[br]our cells and our tissues.

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This is not the way[br]we should be operating,

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so we need to take note[br]of where we are distracted.

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I have a quick story[br]about how I was overcapacitating,

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and I was overcommitted and overwhelmed

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and addicted to adrenaline

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and coffee,

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loads of coffee.

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And I found myself at my doctor's[br]more often than I would want to admit

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because I was experiencing symptoms[br]that I had never experienced before:

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acute nosebleeds, skin issues,[br]hair loss, migraines, cellulitis.

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And so I went back[br]to the doctor's one last time,

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and she looked at me,

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and then she looked at her notepad,[br]and she wrote ... something,

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handed it to me,

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and I read it.

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And it said, "This patient is disabled[br]from all duties for one month."

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And I wanted to refute it.

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And I wanted to contest it.

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But I didn't.

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I took it back.

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The world works in strange ways

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because that day on my way home,[br]I received a phone call

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that was probably one of the best[br]phone calls I had ever received,

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and the message was that I had been[br]the recipient of a 40 Under 40 award.

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I was ecstatic, but I was conflicted.

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Because the world had just rewarded me[br]for overcapacitating.

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So I immediately called[br]the doctor's office back

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and negotiated one week[br]instead of one month.

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(Laughter)

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But I took that week,

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and in deep self-reflection,

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I really took a deep look[br]at how I was operating

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and how I needed to change.

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Because I knew

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I didn't want to be at the mercy of other[br]people's commitments or requests,

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and I didn't want to go home

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hoping I would have enough energy[br]to read my kids a book

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without wanting to take a nap instead.

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And so I did something.

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In deep self-reflection, I create.

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And I created a structure,

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because I knew I wasn't the only one[br]suffering from this.

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I knew there was other people[br]that could benefit

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for something that I could learn[br]from all of these experiences.

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And so after research and observation

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and discussion and listening to people[br]and how they were talking about time,

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I discovered that there were four states[br]of capacity that we operate in

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at any given time.

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And it's not based on personality.

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It's not based on IQ.

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It's not based on your left brain[br]or your right brain.

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It's simply the decisions that we make

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that make us operate[br]in one of these states of capacity.

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There are four.

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And it will take you[br]on a bit of a journey,

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which could be a typical trajectory

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of how someone can actually[br]fluidly flow through

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these four states of capacity.

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We have indulgent, fatigued,[br]reserved and maximized.

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Let's start with indulgent, shall we?

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Indulgent state of capacity[br]is where we say yes;

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it's where we're addicted[br]to the adrenaline.

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It's where we want to validate our talent.

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It's where we say yes a lot.

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But when we say yes too much,[br]we become overcommitted and overwhelmed,

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and when we're not[br]taking care of ourselves,

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many of you will know

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that this happens.

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It's the second state of capacity,[br]which is fatigued and it's burnout.

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This is not where we want to be.

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Because a reboot is clearly in order.

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We need to resign[br]from some of these habits.

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We have no capacity to give[br]to anyone or anything.

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Burnout, actually,

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is something that has just[br]been deemed a medical condition

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by the [World] Health[br]Organization just last week.

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Very interesting, but very scary[br]at the same time.

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So we want to emerge from this;[br]we want to get out of this state.

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We want to move to another state,

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and this is the third one[br]called the reserved state of capacity.

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Now, a couple of different[br]things can happen here

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because this is where[br]we have now restored our capacity,

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but we're very hesitant to give it away

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because we don't want[br]to end up back in fatigued.

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It's also a place where[br]we can do restorative activities

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to maintain,

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to build capacity.

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Where we really want[br]to spend most of our time

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is in the fourth state,[br]and it's maximized.

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This is where we say yes with discernment[br]and no without guilt.

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This is where we're connected to our why.

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This is where we want to be.

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This is where we want[br]to spend most of our time.

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As a business professor,

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I teach time management,[br]prioritization, decision making,

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but as a student,[br]I never learnt about capacity,

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and so I teach it.

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It's important.

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We are so good at booking ourselves[br]back to back to back.

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Any space we can find[br]in the calendar, we might book.

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My wish is for that the next generation[br]to avoid being diagnosed with burnout,

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to be able to stand[br]on their two feet firmly,

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centered in their values,[br]discerning in their decisions

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and respecting their capacity.

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I want you and I[br]to be able to use new language.

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I want us to be able to tell each other

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"I'm sorry, I don't have[br]the capacity for that right now."

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And it's different.

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There's a shift.

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There's a mutual understanding.

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Simply put, capacity is the ability[br]to say yes to something,

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wholeheartedly,

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but also knowing you have to say no[br]to something else.

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[YES. NO]

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You said yes to listening to this today,

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and I am eternally grateful.

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But you also said no to something else[br]that you could have been doing today.

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And that's what this is all about.

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It's reframing the way[br]we make commitments.

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So right now,

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I want to give you an experience[br]of what capacity actually feels like.

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So you have these rubber bands,

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and I want you to put them[br]between your two fingers,

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your two index fingers, right now.

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Alright.

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This is capacity elasticity

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because our capacity has elastic.

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We can stretch our capacity.

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So I'm going to ask you[br]a series of questions,

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and you're going to say yes[br]whether you want to or not.

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But don't worry, I won't hold you to it.

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Okay? Everybody's with me?

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Alright. Fantastic. Okay.

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Hey, do you think[br]you can join this committee?

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We'd love to have you on this committee.

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Yes.

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Okay, fantastic.

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At the first meeting,[br]do you think you can lead it?

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You're the best person to do that.

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Yes.

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And, we need coffee.

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Can you pick up the coffee[br]before we get to that meeting?

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Great, okay.

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We're having a BBQ next weekend.

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I'd love you to bring your family.

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Come on over. Right?

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And, hey, while you're there,

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we have some furniture we need to move,[br]and I'd love for you to help us.

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Okay, yes.

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Your elastic band should be stretched.

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Your fingers should be shaking[br]a little bit, okay?

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This is how we walk around[br]when we're overcommitted.

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This is the feeling.

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Your faces are a little[br]contorted right now.

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I'm not sure if it's because[br]the band is going to snap -

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and I'm not responsible for any injuries.

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However, this is how we walk around,[br]and this is how we show up.

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So release that band[br]and find the right tension.

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Because when we are intentional[br]about our capacity,

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there's a comfortable tension.

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But there's also a state[br]of being underleveraged

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when there's not enough tension.

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So pay attention to that.

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We make time for groceries!

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We make time for errands!

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We make time for meetings[br]and quick coffees!

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We shouldn't be making time[br]for moments like this.

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This is where we should be[br]creating capacity for our loved ones,

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for moments that[br]we don't get a do-over for.

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This is where we need[br]to preserve and pace.

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We measure everything else.

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We measure our calories.[br]We measure our weight.

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We measure our macros,[br]our micros, our bank accounts.

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We measure time.

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But how many of us actually[br]really consider measuring our capacity?

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It's like when somebody asks you,

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"Hey, you want to come over[br]for a party or come to this event?"

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and you check your calendar[br]and realize you are booked

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back to back.

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But in some way, you say,

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"You know what? I'm busy,[br]but I'll squeeze you in."

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And in some strange way,[br]we intend to flatter the person

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by "squeezing them in."

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This is what we're going to do?

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I really want us[br]to challenge that thinking

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because it's not flattery at all.

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This is the way we show up[br]when we're overcommitted.

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How many of you can relate to this photo[br]whenever you show up to an event

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because you have just[br]ran from another event

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to literally just to try[br]and make the next one,

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and the next one,

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and the next one?

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No more showing up like this.

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[Ego cake]

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So what next?

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What do we do?

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Well,

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in time of self-reflection,[br]I created something.

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And this came from[br]a conversation with my mom.

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And the structure is called "ego cake."

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And the name comes[br]from discussion that went like this:

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So my mom says to me,

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she says, "Mel, your life looks[br]like this decadent dessert table

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filled with mouth-watering desserts."

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And I was like,[br]"Yeah, it does. Thank you."

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And then she says, "You have taken a bite[br]out of every single one of them."

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I was like, alright, where's this going?[br]I didn't really expect it to go this way.

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I said, "Okay."

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And she said, "Which one[br]have you enjoyed the most?"

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I didn't have an answer.

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I didn't know which one[br]I had enjoyed the most.

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I couldn't possibly[br]have enjoyed one of them;

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I had taken a bite out of all of them,[br]and I was bloated and full

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from all of the opportunities[br]that I had tried to take advantage of.

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I was overcommitted.

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And so, I went back[br]and created a structure

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that helps us deconstruct[br]our commitment patterns,

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that helps us observe[br]our indulgent behaviors.

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So just like a cake, it has five layers,[br]and it starts from the bottom.

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Options in abundance leads to stagnation.

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We are sold to 24/7.

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"Buy this." "Do this." "Be this."

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How do we possibly decide?

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Distraction is the death[br]of productivity and creativity.

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When we are distracted,[br]we don't do our best work.

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And the third layer is resignment.

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And it is the juiciest[br]layer of this structure

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because this is where[br]we get to say no with discernment.

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We need to resign from the things[br]that are no longer serving us.

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Because when we do that,

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it allows us to be more aware[br]of what's in front of us,

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more aware of the opportunities[br]that bring us joy and fulfill our souls.

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And once we do that,[br]we have the power to commit,

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which is the fifth layer.

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Now, I want you to remember this,

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and I want you to do this[br]anywhere, any place, any time.

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So I'm going to ask you to join me

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by raising your left hand,[br]palm facing your chest,

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pinkies down, fingers nice and tight.

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Alright, perfect.

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The pinky finger represents options,[br]obligations and opportunities,

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and notice how our pinky is pretty short,

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so choose wisely.

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The second layer is our ring finger,[br]and it's about distraction.

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And usually it's adorned[br]by some sort of jewelry,

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and it's like, oh, wow,[br]that's really shiny.

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Sorry, I got distracted[br]there for a moment.

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Okay?

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And then our middle finger[br]is about resignation.

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And it is by no coincidence[br]it is our middle finger

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to say no to the things[br]that are not serving us anymore.

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(Laughter)

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And the fourth layer is our pointer,

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and it's awareness,

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and it's about creating and observing

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and being aware of all[br]of the newfound space we've created

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from resignment.

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And finally, commitment.

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Remember that when we are able[br]to say yes to something,

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we also have to say no to something else.

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Thank you so much,

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and I trust that you're respecting[br]your capacity today.

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(Applause) (Cheers)

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Thank you.