1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:06,523 Remember? And it just got awkward, ok. 2 00:00:18,501 --> 00:00:26,412 You're worthless. I'm not worthless! 3 00:00:26,727 --> 00:00:33,791 I got up this morning. I went to work. I saw my clients - they count on me. I'm not worthless, I'm helping people. 4 00:00:34,794 --> 00:00:43,430 What I did right there, that's what I ask a lot of you to do. And that's talking back to that eating disorder voice. That tells us those horrible things. 5 00:00:43,430 --> 00:00:47,852 So I'm gonna do a couple more. I'm gonna kinda walk you through how to do it. 6 00:00:47,866 --> 00:00:55,280 Because I know a lot of you have trouble and many of you have asked me to do a video where I just yell back to your eating disorder so you can put it on when you're having a hard time. 7 00:00:55,506 --> 00:01:01,215 So I'm just gonna kinda ramble off some things that I think fight back against the voices that I know it tells- 8 00:01:01,215 --> 00:01:05,261 the little snippets of things it tells us all day, ok? 9 00:01:10,785 --> 00:01:15,490 I'm not fat! I'm working on myself. I'm a person. 10 00:01:15,869 --> 00:01:21,533 I am so much more than the numbers on a scale. I'm so much more than how, what number's on my clothes. 11 00:01:21,622 --> 00:01:23,749 I'm so much more than that. 12 00:01:23,958 --> 00:01:28,910 There's so much to me that you can't even understand, because all you focus on is a number on the scale. 13 00:01:29,408 --> 00:01:33,090 And how many times I've done the behaviors you keep telling me to do. 14 00:01:33,864 --> 00:01:38,593 I work hard. I'm not lazy! 15 00:01:38,594 --> 00:01:41,701 I get up. I talk to people. I see my therapist. 16 00:01:42,017 --> 00:01:47,851 I get out of the house, right? I get online, I check Kati's videos and when she gives me advice I do it. 17 00:01:48,029 --> 00:01:50,924 I don't know about you but I wouldn't call that lazy at all. 18 00:01:52,582 --> 00:01:56,481 I'm not stupid! I'm really freakin' smart. 19 00:01:56,488 --> 00:01:59,186 I go to school. I get my school work done. 20 00:01:59,207 --> 00:02:01,115 A lot of times I get A's on things. 21 00:02:01,115 --> 00:02:05,666 So I wouldn't really think that anybody would actually consider that stupid. Right? 22 00:02:05,694 --> 00:02:07,769 I don't think so. I go to college. 23 00:02:07,918 --> 00:02:10,428 Right? I go to class. I got in to college. 24 00:02:11,186 --> 00:02:13,589 That's not stupid. You're stupid. 25 00:02:13,975 --> 00:02:16,790 You should shut up. Because you're really annoying me. 26 00:02:17,970 --> 00:02:20,691 I'm trying to think of other good ones. 27 00:02:22,859 --> 00:02:25,001 That person's not talking about me. 28 00:02:25,021 --> 00:02:26,515 They have a lot of other things going on. 29 00:02:26,515 --> 00:02:30,251 It's not all about you and me and people aren't watching me. 30 00:02:30,331 --> 00:02:33,010 I'm doing my thing, I'm focusing on myself. 31 00:02:33,041 --> 00:02:36,537 So stop drawing attention to other people, they're not paying attention to me. 32 00:02:36,770 --> 00:02:38,814 I am paying attention to me. 33 00:02:38,814 --> 00:02:41,573 I'm recovering. I'm eating lunch right now. 34 00:02:41,709 --> 00:02:43,417 So you need to shut the hell up. 35 00:02:44,487 --> 00:02:48,636 Now those are just a couple things, and I'll keep doing these. It's kinda fun. 36 00:02:48,636 --> 00:02:52,729 I feel kinda feisty, like, I don't know. It's exciting. (giggle) 37 00:02:52,731 --> 00:02:54,889 But hopefully that's kind of helpful. 38 00:02:54,982 --> 00:02:56,816 And these are things that we have to kinda practice. 39 00:02:56,985 --> 00:03:00,460 It's - We're learning to get our voice back. 40 00:03:00,551 --> 00:03:02,865 And a lot of times our eating disorder just rips it out. 41 00:03:02,932 --> 00:03:04,989 I doesn't want to hear it. It just- 42 00:03:05,007 --> 00:03:11,842 We are so used to stuffing how we feel, worries, normal feelings, things that come up. 43 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:15,114 And other people cry, they feel mad, they feel sad. 44 00:03:15,174 --> 00:03:19,640 We feel like we're not allowed to. Right? So we just stuff this down. 45 00:03:19,866 --> 00:03:22,178 And we let our eating disorder talk for us. 46 00:03:22,340 --> 00:03:24,552 And you know what? It's time to take it back. 47 00:03:24,732 --> 00:03:27,452 We don't have to listen. We don't have to put up with its crap. 48 00:03:27,465 --> 00:03:31,966 We don't have to have that voice just, all day. Talking negative 49 00:03:32,458 --> 00:03:37,464 So we're gonna learn to talk back. And if you haven't checked out my, um, workbook it's on my website. 50 00:03:37,695 --> 00:03:40,274 There's a little tab. A free workbook. You can download it. 51 00:03:40,523 --> 00:03:44,136 And the first task is practicing this. This very thing I was just doing. 52 00:03:44,367 --> 00:03:50,067 And I know that for many of you, you will fill up the eating disorder side of the page really quickly but talking back will be hard. 53 00:03:50,299 --> 00:03:52,791 But just replay this video. Take some time. 54 00:03:53,071 --> 00:03:55,642 I want you to say these things out loud with me. 55 00:03:55,679 --> 00:03:57,282 I'm not stupid. 56 00:03:57,877 --> 00:04:00,393 I work hard, I got into college, I go to school. 57 00:04:00,500 --> 00:04:02,761 I got good grades. Whatever it is. 58 00:04:03,069 --> 00:04:04,342 Did you say it out loud? 59 00:04:04,501 --> 00:04:05,999 Say it out loud! 60 00:04:06,390 --> 00:04:08,390 We have to say things out loud sometimes. 61 00:04:08,549 --> 00:04:13,032 I mean if you're sitting at a crowded coffee shop it's probably not the right time but take it home and say it out loud then. 62 00:04:13,338 --> 00:04:15,974 Ok? Because we have to get our voice back. 63 00:04:16,089 --> 00:04:19,312 So don't just say it in your head. Don't just type it in your computer. 64 00:04:19,604 --> 00:04:22,378 I want you to say it out loud and I want you to practice. 65 00:04:22,515 --> 00:04:24,525 So let's go back to the beginning of this video. 66 00:04:24,525 --> 00:04:29,627 I want you to go through it and after I've said it back to the eating disorder voice I want you to say it again. Ok? 67 00:04:29,723 --> 00:04:33,321 And like I said, I'll keep putting these out because I know it's hard. 68 00:04:33,597 --> 00:04:35,219 And we need that little boost. 69 00:04:35,513 --> 00:04:38,240 Because our eating disorder needs to know that we're a force to be reckoned with. 70 00:04:38,612 --> 00:04:40,826 And we're not gonna be quiet anymore. Ok? 71 00:04:41,059 --> 00:04:48,340 So let's regain our voice, let's say it out loud, and let's fight back.