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Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.30,0:00:15.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was a child,\NI knew I had superpowers.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.02,0:00:19.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's right.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.26,0:00:20.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.38,0:00:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought I was absolutely amazing\Nbecause I could understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.42,0:00:26.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and relate to the feelings\Nof brown people,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.58,0:00:29.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like my grandfather,\Na conservative Muslim guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.46,0:00:35.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And also, I could understand\Nmy Afghan mother, my Pakistani father,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.38,0:00:39.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not so religious\Nbut laid-back, fairly liberal.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.78,0:00:41.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And of course, I could understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.42,0:00:43.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and relate to the feelings\Nof white people.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.86,0:00:45.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The white Norwegians of my country.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.78,0:00:49.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, white, brown, whatever --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.38,0:00:51.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I loved them all.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.22,0:00:52.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understood them all,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.50,0:00:54.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if they didn't always\Nunderstand each other;
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.86,0:00:56.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were all my people.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.90,0:00:59.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My father, though,\Nwas always really worried.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.86,0:01:03.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He kept saying that\Neven with the best education,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.22,0:01:06.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was not going to get a fair shake.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.42,0:01:09.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would still face discrimination,\Naccording to him.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.86,0:01:12.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that the only way\Nto be accepted by white people
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.70,0:01:14.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would be to become famous.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.90,0:01:18.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, mind you, he had this conversation\Nwith me when I was seven years old.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.74,0:01:22.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So while I'm seven years old, he said,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.74,0:01:26.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Look, so it's either got to be sports,\Nor it's got to be music."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.14,0:01:30.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He didn't know anything about sports --\Nbless him -- so it was music.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.62,0:01:34.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was seven years old,\Nhe gathered all my toys, all my dolls,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.98,0:01:36.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he threw them all away.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.46,0:01:41.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In exchange he gave me\Na crappy little Casio keyboard and --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.34,0:01:42.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.58,0:01:44.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. And singing lessons.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.62,0:01:49.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he forced me, basically, to practice\Nfor hours and hours every single day.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.42,0:01:53.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very quickly, he also had me performing\Nfor larger and larger audiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.70,0:01:57.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bizarrely, I became\Nalmost a kind of poster child
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.50,0:01:59.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for Norwegian multiculturalism.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.06,0:02:01.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt very proud, of course.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.82,0:02:05.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because even the newspapers at this point
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.18,0:02:07.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were starting to write\Nnice things about brown people,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.78,0:02:10.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I could feel\Nthat my superpower was growing.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.26,0:02:15.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I was 12 years old,\Nwalking home from school,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.26,0:02:16.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took a little detour,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.50,0:02:19.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I wanted to buy\Nmy favorite sweets called "salty feet."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.99,0:02:21.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I absolutely love them.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.50,0:02:23.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So on my way into the store,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.62,0:02:28.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was this grown white guy\Nin the doorway blocking my way.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.18,0:02:34.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I tried to walk around him,\Nand as I did that, he stopped me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.14,0:02:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was staring at me,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.90,0:02:38.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he spit in my face, and he said,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.86,0:02:40.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Get out of my way
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.10,0:02:43.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you little black bitch,\Nyou little Paki bitch,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.38,0:02:45.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go back home where you came from."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.30,0:02:49.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was absolutely horrified.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.42,0:02:50.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was staring at him.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.74,0:02:53.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was too afraid\Nto wipe the spit off my face,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.54,0:02:56.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even as it was mixing with my tears.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.70,0:03:00.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember looking around,\Nhoping that any minute now,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.42,0:03:04.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a grown-up is going to come\Nand make this guy stop.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.10,0:03:08.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But instead, people kept hurrying past me\Nand pretended not to see me.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.86,0:03:12.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was very confused\Nbecause I was thinking, well,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.34,0:03:16.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My white people, come on!\NWhere are they? What's going on?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.66,0:03:18.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How come they're not\Ncoming and rescuing me?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.46,0:03:21.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, needless to say,\NI didn't buy the sweets.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.74,0:03:23.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just ran home as fast as I could.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.74,0:03:26.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Things were still OK, though, I thought.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.50,0:03:30.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As time went on,\Nthe more successful I became,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.62,0:03:34.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I eventually started also attracting\Nharassment from brown people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.22,0:03:39.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some men in my parent's community\Nfelt that it was unacceptable
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.54,0:03:44.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and dishonorable for a woman\Nto be involved in music
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.42,0:03:46.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to be so present in the media.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.08,0:03:53.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So very quickly, I was starting\Nto become attacked at my own concerts.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.52,0:03:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one of the concerts,\NI was onstage, I lean into the audience
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.56,0:04:01.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the last thing I see\Nis a young brown face,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.84,0:04:06.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the next thing I know is some sort\Nof chemical is thrown in my eyes
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.08,0:04:09.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I remember I couldn't really see\Nand my eyes were watering
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.32,0:04:10.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I kept singing anyway.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.64,0:04:16.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was spit in the face in the streets\Nof Oslo, this time by brown men.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.16,0:04:20.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They even tried to kidnap me at one point.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.40,0:04:22.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The death threats were endless.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.48,0:04:25.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember one older bearded guy\Nstopped me in the street one time,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.76,0:04:27.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said, "The reason\NI hate you so much
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.92,0:04:29.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is because you make our daughters think
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.100,0:04:31.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can do whatever they want."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.36,0:04:36.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A younger guy warned me to watch my back.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.20,0:04:39.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said music is un-Islamic\Nand the job of whores,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.24,0:04:41.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you keep this up,\Nyou are going to be raped
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.100,0:04:46.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and your stomach will be cut out so that\Nanother whore like you will not be born.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.36,0:04:50.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Again, I was so confused.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.08,0:04:51.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I couldn't understand what was going on.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.00,0:04:55.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brown people now starting\Nto treat me like this -- how come?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.36,0:04:59.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of bridging the worlds,\Nthe two worlds,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.48,0:05:02.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like I was falling\Nbetween my two worlds.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.80,0:05:05.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I suppose, for me, spit was kryptonite.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.36,0:05:09.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So by the time I was 17 years old,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.40,0:05:12.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the death threats were endless,\Nand the harassment was constant.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.44,0:05:15.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It got so bad, at one point\Nmy mother sat me down and said,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.22,0:05:18.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Look, we can no longer protect you,\Nwe can no longer keep you safe,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.72,0:05:20.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you're going to have to go."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.52,0:05:25.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I bought a one-way ticket to London,\NI packed my suitcase and I left.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.96,0:05:30.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My biggest heartbreak at that point\Nwas that nobody said anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.68,0:05:33.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a very public exit from Norway.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.92,0:05:37.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My brown people, my white people --\Nnobody said anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.48,0:05:39.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody said, "Hold on, this is wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.76,0:05:44.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Support this girl, protect this girl,\Nbecause she is one of us."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.48,0:05:46.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody said that.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.12,0:05:49.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead, I felt like --\Nyou know at the airport,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.92,0:05:52.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the baggage carousel\Nyou have these different suitcases
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.80,0:05:54.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going around and around,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.08,0:05:56.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's always\Nthat one suitcase left at the end,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.60,0:05:59.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the one that nobody wants,\Nthe one that nobody comes to claim.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.64,0:06:00.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.84,0:06:05.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd never felt so alone.\NI'd never felt so lost.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.16,0:06:11.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, after coming to London,\NI did eventually resume my music career.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.80,0:06:14.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Different place, but unfortunately\Nthe same old story.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.64,0:06:19.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember a message sent to me\Nsaying that I was going to be killed
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.20,0:06:22.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that rivers of blood\Nwere going to flow
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.60,0:06:26.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I was going to be raped\Nmany times before I died.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.08,0:06:27.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By this point, I have to say,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.52,0:06:29.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was actually getting used\Nto messages like this,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.100,0:06:34.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what became different was that\Nnow they started threatening my family.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.56,0:06:40.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So once again, I packed my suitcase,\NI left music and I moved to the US.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.32,0:06:42.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd had enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.60,0:06:45.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't want to have anything\Nto do with this anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.24,0:06:47.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was certainly not\Ngoing to be killed for something
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.92,0:06:50.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that wasn't even my dream --\Nit was my father's choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.100,0:06:56.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I kind of got lost.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.20,0:06:57.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I kind of fell apart.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.76,0:07:00.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I decided that what I wanted to do
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.12,0:07:03.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is spend the next\Nhowever many years of my life
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.48,0:07:05.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,supporting young people
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.16,0:07:08.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to try to be there in some small way,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.08,0:07:09.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever way that I could.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.80,0:07:13.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started volunteering\Nfor various organizations
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.08,0:07:17.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that were working\Nwith young Muslims inside of Europe.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.88,0:07:21.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, to my surprise, what I found was
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.92,0:07:26.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so many of these young people\Nwere suffering and struggling.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.24,0:07:30.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were facing so many problems\Nwith their families and their communities
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.80,0:07:34.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who seemed to care more\Nabout their honor and their reputation
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.44,0:07:37.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than the happiness\Nand the lives of their own kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.56,0:07:42.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started feeling like maybe I wasn't\Nso alone, maybe I wasn't so weird.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.08,0:07:45.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe there are more\Nof my people out there.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.08,0:07:48.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is, what most people\Ndon't understand
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.32,0:07:52.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that there are so many of us\Ngrowing up in Europe
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.64,0:07:55.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are not free to be ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.08,0:07:57.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not allowed to be who we are.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.16,0:08:02.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are not free to marry
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.24,0:08:05.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or to be in relationships\Nwith people that we choose.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.20,0:08:06.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can't even pick our own career.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.88,0:08:10.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the norm in the Muslim\Nheartlands of Europe.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.68,0:08:13.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even in the freest societies\Nin the world, we're not free.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.44,0:08:18.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our lives, our dreams, our future\Ndoes not belong to us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.36,0:08:21.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it belongs to our parents\Nand their community.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.64,0:08:24.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found endless stories of young people
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.68,0:08:28.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are lost to all of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.60,0:08:30.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are invisible to all of us
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.36,0:08:33.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but who are suffering,\Nand they are suffering alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.32,0:08:38.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Kids we are losing to forced marriages,\Nto honor-based violence and abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.08,0:08:43.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Eventually, I realized after several\Nyears of working with these young people,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.80,0:08:45.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I will not be able to keep running.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.84,0:08:50.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't spend the rest of my life\Nbeing scared and hiding
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.52,0:08:52.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I'm actually\Ngoing to have to do something.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.44,0:08:57.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I also realized\Nthat my silence, our silence,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.56,0:08:59.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,allows abuse like this to continue.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.80,0:09:05.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I decided that I wanted to put\Nmy childhood superpower to some use
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.32,0:09:10.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by trying to make people on the different\Nsides of these issues understand
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.04,0:09:15.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what it's like to be a young person stuck\Nbetween your family and your country.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.76,0:09:19.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I started making films,\Nand I started telling these stories.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.68,0:09:24.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I also wanted people to understand\Nthe deadly consequences of us
Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.12,0:09:26.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not taking these problems seriously.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.80,0:09:29.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the first film I made was about Banaz.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.84,0:09:33.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was a 17-year-old\NKurdish girl in London.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.92,0:09:36.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was obedient, she did\Nwhatever her parents wanted.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.24,0:09:39.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She tried to do everything right.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.68,0:09:42.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She married some guy\Nthat her parents chose for her,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.32,0:09:45.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though he beat\Nand raped her constantly.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.28,0:09:49.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when she tried to go\Nto her family for help, they said,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.12,0:09:51.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, you got to go back\Nand be a better wife."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.40,0:09:54.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because they didn't want\Na divorced daughter on their hands
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.24,0:09:57.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because, of course,\Nthat would bring dishonor on the family.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.08,0:10:00.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was beaten so badly\Nher ears would bleed,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.60,0:10:06.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when she finally left\Nand she found a young man that she chose
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.72,0:10:08.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she fell in love with,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.56,0:10:10.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the community and the family found out
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.84,0:10:11.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she disappeared.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.74,0:10:15.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was found three months later.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.50,0:10:20.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She'd been stuffed into a suitcase\Nand buried underneath the house.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.12,0:10:28.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had been strangled,\Nshe had been beaten to death
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.24,0:10:34.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by three men, three cousins,\Non the orders of her father and uncle.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.44,0:10:37.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The added tragedy of Banaz's story
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.64,0:10:43.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that she had gone to the police\Nin England five times asking for help,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.56,0:10:46.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling them that she was\Ngoing to be killed by her family.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.64,0:10:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The police didn't believe her\Nso they didn't do anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.56,0:10:51.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the problem with this
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.84,0:10:56.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that not only are so many of our kids\Nfacing these problems
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.24,0:10:59.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within their families\Nand within their families' communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.36,0:11:02.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they're also meeting misunderstandings
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.12,0:11:07.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and apathy in the countries\Nthat they grow up in.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.17,0:11:13.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When their own families betray them,\Nthey look to the rest of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.89,0:11:15.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when we don't understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.97,0:11:17.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we lose them.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.65,0:11:21.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So while I was making this film,\Nseveral people said to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.85,0:11:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, Deeyah, you know,\Nthis is just their culture,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.41,0:11:26.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is just what those people\Ndo to their kids
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.62,0:11:28.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we can't really interfere."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:29.41,0:11:32.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can assure you\Nbeing murdered is not my culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.81,0:11:35.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.05,0:11:36.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And surely people who look like me,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.77,0:11:39.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,young women who come\Nfrom backgrounds like me,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.29,0:11:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,should be subject to the same rights,\Nthe same protections
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.41,0:11:46.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as anybody else in our country, why not?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:47.89,0:11:52.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, for my next film,\NI wanted to try and understand
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.65,0:11:55.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why some of our young\NMuslim kids in Europe
Dialogue: 0,0:11:55.53,0:11:57.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are drawn to extremism and violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.41,0:11:59.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But with that topic,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.69,0:12:02.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also recognized that I was going\Nto have to face my worst fear:
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.57,0:12:06.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the brown men with beards.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.21,0:12:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Similar men to the ones that have\Nhounded me for most of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.29,0:12:15.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men that I've been afraid of\Nmost of my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.01,0:12:18.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men that I've also deeply disliked,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.89,0:12:20.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for many, many years.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.89,0:12:24.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I spent the next two years\Ninterviewing convicted terrorists,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.89,0:12:27.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,jihadis and former extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.41,0:12:30.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I already knew,\Nwhat was very obvious already,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.77,0:12:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was that religion, politics,\NEurope's colonial baggage,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.97,0:12:40.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,also Western foreign policy\Nfailures of recent years,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.25,0:12:41.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were all a part of the picture.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.25,0:12:45.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what I was more interested\Nin finding out was what are the human,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.53,0:12:47.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what are the personal reasons
Dialogue: 0,0:12:47.13,0:12:51.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why some of our young people\Nare susceptible to groups like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.73,0:12:57.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what really surprised me\Nwas that I found wounded human beings.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.49,0:13:01.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of the monsters\Nthat I was looking for,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:01.97,0:13:03.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I was hoping to find --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:03.37,0:13:06.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,quite frankly because\Nit would have been very satisfying --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:06.53,0:13:08.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found broken people.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:09.25,0:13:10.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just like Banaz,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.77,0:13:14.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found that these young men\Nwere torn apart
Dialogue: 0,0:13:14.05,0:13:16.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from trying to bridge the gaps
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.61,0:13:20.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between their families\Nand the countries that they were born in.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.45,0:13:24.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what I also learned\Nis that extremist groups, terrorist groups
Dialogue: 0,0:13:24.85,0:13:28.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are taking advantage\Nof these feelings of our young people
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.33,0:13:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and channeling that -- cynically --\Nchanneling that toward violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.21,0:13:33.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Come to us," they say.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:33.81,0:13:36.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Reject both sides,\Nyour family and your country
Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.81,0:13:38.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they reject you.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:38.49,0:13:41.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For your family, their honor\Nis more important than you
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.61,0:13:42.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and for your country,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.89,0:13:48.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a real Norwegian, Brit or a French person\Nwill always be white and never you."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.77,0:13:53.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're also promising our young people\Nthe things that they crave:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.25,0:13:57.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,significance, heroism,\Na sense of belonging and purpose,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.61,0:14:00.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a community that loves and accepts them.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:00.93,0:14:03.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They make the powerless feel powerful.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:03.89,0:14:08.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The invisible and the silent\Nare finally seen and heard.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.75,0:14:14.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is what they're doing\Nfor our young people.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.31,0:14:18.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why are these groups doing this\Nfor our young people and not us?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.69,0:14:22.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:22.29,0:14:25.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not trying to justify
Dialogue: 0,0:14:25.65,0:14:29.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or excuse any of the violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:29.41,0:14:32.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I am trying to say\Nis that we have to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:14:33.01,0:14:36.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why some of our young people\Nare attracted to this.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.61,0:14:39.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to also show you, actually --
Dialogue: 0,0:14:39.97,0:14:43.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these are childhood photos\Nof some of the guys in the film.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:45.47,0:14:48.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What really struck me\Nis that so many of them --
Dialogue: 0,0:14:49.19,0:14:50.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never would have thought this --
Dialogue: 0,0:14:50.87,0:14:54.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but so many of them\Nhave absent or abusive fathers.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:55.03,0:14:56.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And several of these young guys
Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.99,0:15:01.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ended up finding caring\Nand compassionate father figures
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.15,0:15:02.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within these extremist groups.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:05.35,0:15:08.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also found men\Nbrutalized by racist violence,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:09.23,0:15:11.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but who found a way\Nto stop feeling like victims
Dialogue: 0,0:15:11.51,0:15:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by becoming violent themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:13.03,0:15:18.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, I found something,\Nto my horror, that I recognized.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:18.35,0:15:24.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found the same feelings that I felt\Nas a 17-year-old as I fled from Norway.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:25.59,0:15:28.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same confusion, the same sorrow,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:28.99,0:15:32.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the same feeling of being betrayed
Dialogue: 0,0:15:34.14,0:15:35.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not belonging to anyone.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:38.66,0:15:41.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same feeling of being lost\Nand torn between cultures.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.86,0:15:45.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Having said that,\NI did not choose destruction,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:45.42,0:15:48.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I chose to pick up a camera\Ninstead of a gun.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.18,0:15:51.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the reason I did that\Nis because of my superpower.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:51.54,0:15:56.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could see that understanding\Nis the answer, instead of violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.46,0:15:58.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seeing human beings
Dialogue: 0,0:15:58.18,0:16:01.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with all their virtues and all their flaws
Dialogue: 0,0:16:01.94,0:16:03.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of continuing the caricatures:
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.82,0:16:06.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the us and them, the villains and victims.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:06.50,0:16:08.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd also finally\Ncome to terms with the fact
Dialogue: 0,0:16:08.62,0:16:12.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that my two cultures\Ndidn't have to be on a collision course
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.30,0:16:15.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but instead became a space\Nwhere I found my own voice.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.94,0:16:18.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I stopped feeling\Nlike I had to pick a side,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:18.70,0:16:20.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but this took me many, many years.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:21.74,0:16:23.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are so many\Nof our young people today
Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.78,0:16:25.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who are struggling with these same issues,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:25.82,0:16:27.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're struggling with this alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:29.54,0:16:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this leaves them open like wounds.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:32.66,0:16:35.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for some, the worldview\Nof radical Islam
Dialogue: 0,0:16:35.74,0:16:39.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,becomes the infection\Nthat festers in these open wounds.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:41.21,0:16:44.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's an African proverb that says,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:46.06,0:16:49.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"If the young are not\Ninitiated into the village,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:49.10,0:16:51.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they will burn it down\Njust to feel its warmth."
Dialogue: 0,0:16:53.34,0:16:54.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to ask --
Dialogue: 0,0:16:55.74,0:16:58.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to Muslim parents and Muslim communities,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:58.30,0:17:00.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will you love and care for your children
Dialogue: 0,0:17:00.74,0:17:03.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without forcing them\Nto meet your expectations?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:03.54,0:17:05.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you choose them instead of your honor?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:06.50,0:17:09.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you understand\Nwhy they're so angry and alienated
Dialogue: 0,0:17:09.54,0:17:11.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you put your honor\Nbefore their happiness?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:12.62,0:17:15.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you try to be a friend to your child
Dialogue: 0,0:17:15.22,0:17:16.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that they can trust you
Dialogue: 0,0:17:17.02,0:17:19.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and want to share with you\Ntheir experiences,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:19.34,0:17:21.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than having\Nto seek it somewhere else?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:22.46,0:17:25.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to our young people\Ntempted by extremism,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:26.72,0:17:30.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you acknowledge\Nthat your rage is fueled by pain?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:31.74,0:17:35.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Will you find the strength\Nto resist those cynical old men
Dialogue: 0,0:17:35.18,0:17:38.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who want to use your blood\Nfor their own profits?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:39.14,0:17:41.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you find a way to live?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:41.98,0:17:44.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you see that the sweetest revenge
Dialogue: 0,0:17:44.26,0:17:47.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is for you to live\Na happy, full and free life?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:47.74,0:17:50.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A life defined by you and nobody else.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:50.66,0:17:54.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do you want to become\Njust another dead Muslim kid?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:55.18,0:17:59.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for the rest of us, when will we start\Nlistening to our young people?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:00.62,0:18:01.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can we support them
Dialogue: 0,0:18:01.90,0:18:05.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in redirecting their pain\Ninto something more constructive?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:06.86,0:18:08.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't like them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:08.34,0:18:11.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't care\Nwhat happens to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:11.14,0:18:12.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They think we don't accept them.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:12.94,0:18:15.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we find a way\Nto make them feel differently?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:17.38,0:18:20.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What will it take for us\Nto see them and notice them
Dialogue: 0,0:18:20.34,0:18:25.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before they become either the victims\Nor the perpetrators of violence?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:25.30,0:18:28.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we make ourselves care about them\Nand consider them to be our own?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:28.90,0:18:33.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And not just be outraged when the victims\Nof violence look like ourselves?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:33.78,0:18:38.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can we find a way to reject hatred\Nand heal the divisions between us?
Dialogue: 0,0:18:38.82,0:18:42.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing is we cannot afford\Nto give up on each other or on our kids,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:42.82,0:18:44.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if they've given up on us.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:44.98,0:18:47.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are all in this together.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:47.18,0:18:52.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the long term, revenge and violence\Nwill not work against extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:53.58,0:18:57.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Terrorists want us\Nto huddle in our houses in fear,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:57.38,0:18:59.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,closing our doors and our hearts.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:59.58,0:19:03.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want us to tear open\Nmore wounds in our societies
Dialogue: 0,0:19:03.42,0:19:06.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that they can use them\Nto spread their infection more widely.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:06.98,0:19:09.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They want us to become like them:
Dialogue: 0,0:19:09.70,0:19:11.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,intolerant, hateful and cruel.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:14.30,0:19:16.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The day after the Paris attacks,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:16.78,0:19:20.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a friend of mine\Nsent this photo of her daughter.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:20.90,0:19:23.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a white girl and an Arab girl.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:23.38,0:19:24.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're best friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:25.22,0:19:28.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This image is the kryptonite\Nfor extremists.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:31.34,0:19:34.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These two little girls\Nwith their superpowers
Dialogue: 0,0:19:34.42,0:19:35.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are showing the way forward
Dialogue: 0,0:19:35.94,0:19:39.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,towards a society\Nthat we need to build together,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:40.22,0:19:43.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a society that includes and supports,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:44.58,0:19:46.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than rejects our kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:48.06,0:19:49.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:49.42,0:19:56.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)