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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.42,0:00:03.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Shah Rukh Khan: "A girl\Nshould be seen, not heard."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.92,0:00:05.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Be quiet," or, "chup."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.67,0:00:09.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These words are often used\Nto silence girls right from childhood,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.38,0:00:10.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well into adulthood
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.71,0:00:12.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and deep into old age.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.46,0:00:16.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm proud to introduce our next speaker,\Na true champion of the female voice,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.12,0:00:17.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an advisor on poverty,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.79,0:00:19.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gender and development for the World Bank,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.96,0:00:24.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,United Nations and several NGOs\Nin India and the world over.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.29,0:00:27.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She calls herself a cultural detective.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.83,0:00:32.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's raise our voices to welcome\Nrenowned social scientist and author
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.50,0:00:34.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Deepa Narayan.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.12,0:00:36.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Music)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.38,0:00:40.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.71,0:00:46.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Deepa Narayan: The goal\Nof every loving parent
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.92,0:00:48.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to raise good girls,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.79,0:00:50.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what parents actually do
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.62,0:00:55.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to constrain, confine\Nand crush their girls.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.17,0:00:57.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So as they crush their girls,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.04,0:00:58.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they prepare them for abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.88,0:01:02.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This would be so devastating
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.08,0:01:04.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that no parent would be able to bear it,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.67,0:01:05.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it's disguised.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.96,0:01:09.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In India, we call this "adjusting."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.25,0:01:10.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sure you've heard the word.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.62,0:01:13.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Darling, just adjust a bit.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.71,0:01:14.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just adjust.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.00,0:01:17.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No matter what happens, just adjust."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.00,0:01:21.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Adjust" trains girls to be powerless,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.83,0:01:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not to exist, not to be seen,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.42,0:01:26.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not to have a self,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.12,0:01:32.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it trains boys to claim power\Nand authority over the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.54,0:01:38.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the meantime we keep talking about\Ngender equality and women's empowerment.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.04,0:01:43.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After 2012, after the gang rape\Nin a moving bus in Delhi,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.67,0:01:48.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I really wanted to understand\Nthe roots of abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.71,0:01:52.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I started asking\Na very simple question:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.17,0:01:57.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what does it mean to you\Nto be a good woman or a good man today?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.33,0:02:01.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was so surprised by what I heard,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.25,0:02:04.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the answers particularly\Nthat young people gave,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.62,0:02:10.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the project became a research project\Nand it took over my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.21,0:02:15.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For three years, I listened\Nto over 600 women, men and children,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.67,0:02:17.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,educated, middle class,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.50,0:02:21.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it led to 1,800 hours of listening
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.58,0:02:23.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and 8,000 pages of notes,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.92,0:02:26.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it took another year\Nto make sense of it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.38,0:02:32.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nowadays, we see well-dressed, educated\Nwomen like many of you in this room,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.46,0:02:35.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all of you in this room, and myself,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.29,0:02:37.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we think the world has changed,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.88,0:02:41.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but these external changes\Nare extremely misleading,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.71,0:02:44.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because on the inside,\Nwe have not changed.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.38,0:02:48.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So today, I'm not going\Nto talk about poor people.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.83,0:02:51.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to talk only about\Nthe middle and upper classes,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.79,0:02:54.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we are the ones most in denial.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.92,0:02:59.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are the ones who have said\Nover and over again
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.04,0:03:01.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that when women are educated,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.21,0:03:02.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they're employed
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.58,0:03:04.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they earn incomes,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.92,0:03:07.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they will be equal, empowered and free.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.67,0:03:10.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're not.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.08,0:03:11.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.38,0:03:15.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,From my research, I identify seven habits
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.04,0:03:16.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that delete women,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.62,0:03:18.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that make women disappear,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.83,0:03:21.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but these habits persist
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.46,0:03:23.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they're so familiar to us
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.88,0:03:25.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we've made them good and moral.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.79,0:03:30.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why would you change or drop\Nanything that's good and moral?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.50,0:03:33.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, on the one hand, we love our children,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.58,0:03:34.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we love our daughters,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.92,0:03:37.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and on the other hand, we crush them.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.88,0:03:41.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Habit one: You don't have a body.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.25,0:03:48.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first step to make a girl a ghost\Nis to make her body disappear,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.54,0:03:50.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to pretend that she doesn't have a body.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.79,0:03:53.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Akangsha, who is 23, said,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.67,0:03:58.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"In my family, we never\Nspoke about the body, never."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.04,0:03:59.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it is in this silence
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.67,0:04:03.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that millions and millions of girls\Nget sexually molested,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.58,0:04:06.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they don't even tell their mothers.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.62,0:04:10.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's the negative comments from others
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.12,0:04:14.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that leads to 90 percent of women\Nsaying that they dislike their bodies.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.46,0:04:17.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When a girl rejects her body,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.75,0:04:19.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she rejects her only house
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.83,0:04:22.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and invisibility and insecurity
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.75,0:04:25.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,become her very shaky foundation.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.42,0:04:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Habit two: Be quiet. Chup.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.58,0:04:31.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're not supposed to exist
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.58,0:04:33.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you don't have a body,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.21,0:04:35.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how can you have a voice?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.38,0:04:37.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So just about every woman said,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.29,0:04:41.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"When I was little,\Nmy mother used to scold me and say,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.46,0:04:44.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'Don't speak, be quiet, be chup,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.46,0:04:47.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,speak softly, don't argue\Nand never answer back.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.00,0:04:49.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jawab nahi Dena.'"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.33,0:04:50.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sure you've all heard that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.75,0:04:54.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so girls become afraid,\Nand they withdraw.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.25,0:04:57.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they become quiet and they say,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.67,0:04:59.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Let it go. Jaane do.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.50,0:05:01.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What's the point? Nobody listens."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.38,0:05:04.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Educated women said
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.21,0:05:05.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that their number one problem
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.79,0:05:09.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was their inability to speak up,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.08,0:05:11.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as if there was a foot on their throat
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.00,0:05:13.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ready to choke them.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.25,0:05:17.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Silence slices off women.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.38,0:05:22.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Habit three: Be a people pleaser.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.29,0:05:23.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please others.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.58,0:05:26.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone likes a nice woman\Nwho always smiles,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.75,0:05:29.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who never says no, who is never angry,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.21,0:05:31.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even when she's being exploited.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.29,0:05:34.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Amisha, who is 18, said,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.04,0:05:36.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My father said,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.33,0:05:39.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'If I don't see you smiling,\NI don't feel good.'"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.17,0:05:41.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So she smiles.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.50,0:05:44.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So her father is teaching her,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.08,0:05:48.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my happiness is more important\Nthan your happiness.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.04,0:05:52.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in this business of trying\Nto make everyone happy all the time,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.29,0:05:55.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,girls become afraid to make decisions.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.04,0:05:58.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you ask them, they say,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.67,0:06:01.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Anything, whatever! Kuch bhi!
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.92,0:06:03.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everything goes. Chalta hai."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.08,0:06:07.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Darsha, who is 25,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.12,0:06:09.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,said with great pride,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.04,0:06:11.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm highly elastic.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.54,0:06:14.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I become whatever others want me to be."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.50,0:06:18.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Such girls give up their dreams,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.25,0:06:19.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their desires,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.58,0:06:21.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and nobody even notices,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.54,0:06:23.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,except for depression.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.50,0:06:24.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It moves in.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.58,0:06:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another slice of a girl is taken off.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.04,0:06:33.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Habit four: You have no sexuality.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.00,0:06:39.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think you'd all agree that\Nwith a population of over 1.3 billion,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.12,0:06:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sex is not new to India.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.21,0:06:46.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is new is that\Nmore people now acknowledge
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.96,0:06:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that women, too,\Nhave a right to sexual desire.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.04,0:06:54.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But how can a woman who has not\Nbeen allowed to own her body,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.54,0:06:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who hasn't been educated about her body,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.00,0:06:59.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who may have been sexually molested,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.50,0:07:00.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who cannot say no
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.00,0:07:03.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and who has been filled with shame,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.21,0:07:05.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how can she claim her sexual desire?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.42,0:07:09.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A woman's sexuality is suppressed.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.62,0:07:13.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Habit five: Don't trust women.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.08,0:07:17.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine how the world would change
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.46,0:07:19.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if women came together in solidarity,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.96,0:07:22.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but as to make sure\Nthat this doesn't happen,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.79,0:07:26.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our culture places high moral value
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.29,0:07:29.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on loyalty to men and family secrecy.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.12,0:07:31.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Woman after woman said,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.79,0:07:34.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I know only one trustworthy woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.42,0:07:36.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's me."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.04,0:07:37.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even Ruchi, who is 30
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.58,0:07:41.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and who works on women's empowerment\Nat Delhi University, said,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.50,0:07:45.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I don't trust women.\NThey're jealous and they backbite."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.42,0:07:47.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Obviously, then, in cities,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.21,0:07:49.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,women don't join women's groups,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.08,0:07:52.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when you ask them why, they say,\N"We don't have time for gossip."
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.21,0:07:57.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's much easier \Nto demolish a woman who is alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.38,0:08:01.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Habit six: Duty over desire.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.83,0:08:07.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Muskan gave a very long definition\Nof a good girl, and she's only 15.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.17,0:08:09.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"She is kind, gentle, polite, loving,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.79,0:08:12.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,caring, truthful, obedient,\Nrespects elders,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.25,0:08:15.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,helps everyone unconditionally,\Nand is good to others and fulfills duty."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.67,0:08:19.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tiring, isn't it.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.58,0:08:22.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By the time you fulfill duty,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.54,0:08:25.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever little desire\Nis left is also lost.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.00,0:08:29.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when sacrificing mothers\Nhave nothing left to say
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.54,0:08:31.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,except talk about food --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.25,0:08:35.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Have you eaten? Khana kha liya?\NWhat will you eat?" --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.21,0:08:39.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,men like Saurabh, who is 24,\Ncall them "boring."
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.42,0:08:42.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A woman becomes a residue.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.00,0:08:47.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Habit seven: Be totally dependent.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.21,0:08:50.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So all these habits\Ncollectively crush women,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.33,0:08:51.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fill her with fear
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.88,0:08:55.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and make her totally dependent\Non men for her survival,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.50,0:08:59.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this allows the system\Nof male power to continue.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.08,0:09:04.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So all these seven habits\Nthat we thought were good and moral
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.62,0:09:07.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,snatch life away from girls
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.54,0:09:09.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and position men to abuse.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.12,0:09:12.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We must change.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.00,0:09:14.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How do we change?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.08,0:09:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A habit is just a habit.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.71,0:09:20.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every habit is a learned habit,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.12,0:09:21.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we can unlearn them
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.71,0:09:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this personal change\Nis extremely important.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.42,0:09:26.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to change too.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.54,0:09:29.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But this doesn't change the system
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.12,0:09:31.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that crushes millions of other women.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.29,0:09:34.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we have to go to the roots.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.42,0:09:38.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We must change what it means\Nto be a good woman and a good man,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.83,0:09:41.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because this a foundation\Nof every society.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.29,0:09:46.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We don't need elastic women,\Nwe need elastic definitions,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.71,0:09:48.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for men too,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.29,0:09:53.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this big societal change\Ncannot happen without men's involvement.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.54,0:09:54.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need you.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.83,0:09:57.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need men to become champions of change,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.88,0:10:01.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to develop strong change muscles.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.08,0:10:03.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Otherwise, it will be two more centuries
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.62,0:10:05.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before our girls, and our boys,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.00,0:10:07.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are safe and free.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.29,0:10:14.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine half a billion women\Ncoming together, with the support of men,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.58,0:10:17.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to talk to one another\Nfor conversation, for change,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.71,0:10:19.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,both personal and political,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.62,0:10:21.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and imagine men in their own circles,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.00,0:10:26.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and imagine women and men coming together\Nto just listen to each other
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.29,0:10:28.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without judgment, without blame,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.71,0:10:31.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without accusations and without shame.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.54,0:10:33.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine how much we would change.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.62,0:10:35.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can do this together.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.54,0:10:37.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Women, don't adjust.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.17,0:10:41.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men, adjust.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.96,0:10:43.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's time.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.75,0:10:45.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.12,0:10:48.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.54,0:10:51.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SRK: How well said, how wonderful.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.18,0:10:52.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone, Deepa, please.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.00,0:10:54.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listening to her, I realized
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.83,0:10:58.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that even in the simplest conversations\Nthat we have with women,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.42,0:10:59.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're actually being aggressive.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:00.00,0:11:02.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, I do tell\Nmy daughter sometimes,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.92,0:11:06.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Yaar Tu hasti hai to mujhe\Naccha lagta hai varna bura lagta hai".
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.08,0:11:07.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So sorry, I would never do that.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.71,0:11:09.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Aaj Se main meri beti ko yahi bolunga.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.79,0:11:11.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whatever you're doing,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.12,0:11:13.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mujhe accha hi lagta hai,\Naur accha nahi bhi lagta hai
Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.75,0:11:16.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Toh mera kya, tum wohi karo jo\Ntumhare ko lagta hai, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.62,0:11:19.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.54,0:11:21.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How did you feel,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.04,0:11:26.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,first listening to so many\Nunfulfilled stories, desires,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.00,0:11:28.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,lack of independence,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.33,0:11:32.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of girls that you normally would assume\Nwe think these girls are better off?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.88,0:11:34.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,DN: Very depressed.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.38,0:11:37.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was shocking for me,\Nand that's why I couldn't stop,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.29,0:11:41.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I had no plans to do a study\Nand no plans to write a book.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.29,0:11:45.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd written 17 books before,\Nand I thought, "I'm done,"
Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.12,0:11:47.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but when I went to St. Stephen's College
Dialogue: 0,0:11:47.29,0:11:52.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I heard, at most elite colleges\Nyou well know from Delhi,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.42,0:11:54.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the young women and the men,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.50,0:11:58.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what they said about what it meant\Nto them to be a woman and man
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.38,0:12:01.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sounded not like me\Nbut like my mother's generation.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.67,0:12:04.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So then I went to another college\Nand another college.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.79,0:12:06.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing that was striking to me
Dialogue: 0,0:12:06.50,0:12:09.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that each woman felt she was alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.96,0:12:13.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that she hides her fear\Nand hides her behavior,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.38,0:12:15.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because she thinks it's a personal fault.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.12,0:12:19.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not a personal fault, it's training,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:19.08,0:12:21.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think that's the biggest revelation
Dialogue: 0,0:12:21.42,0:12:24.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that, if we stop pretending,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.88,0:12:26.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then the world changes.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:26.62,0:12:29.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SRK: Do you girls all agree\Nwith what Deepa is saying?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.33,0:12:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:32.21,0:12:33.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Already see that young girl saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.96,0:12:36.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Heard, heard what she said?\NYou say this to me."
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.58,0:12:38.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah, that's the way it should be.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:38.29,0:12:41.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You, boy, you adjust.\NWe are not adjusting anymore, OK?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.04,0:12:42.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.62,0:12:44.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you so much.\NHave a good evening. Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.00,0:12:46.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)