WEBVTT 00:00:08.597 --> 00:00:10.187 Good evening, Chelyabinsk. 00:00:10.207 --> 00:00:11.757 My name is Marina Maggi. 00:00:12.476 --> 00:00:14.176 Today my topic is: 00:00:14.206 --> 00:00:16.876 Slimmers haven't a clue about the slim. 00:00:17.573 --> 00:00:21.859 I have dedicated the greater part of my life 00:00:21.859 --> 00:00:23.753 to recovery from acute food addiction. 00:00:23.753 --> 00:00:26.023 In February 2013, my weight was already 92 kg. 00:00:26.043 --> 00:00:28.443 Three years ago, I looked something like this. 00:00:28.853 --> 00:00:30.583 Not the easiest time in my life. 00:00:31.003 --> 00:00:33.503 I began each day promising myself 00:00:33.533 --> 00:00:36.642 that today would be the day I changed my life. 00:00:36.642 --> 00:00:41.068 But by lunchtime, the person who'd made that promise that morning had vanished. 00:00:41.068 --> 00:00:43.281 By supper no trace of determination remained. 00:00:43.281 --> 00:00:44.618 I sank into failure, 00:00:44.627 --> 00:00:46.617 punished myself with a sense of guilt, 00:00:47.043 --> 00:00:48.542 conclusions about myself ... 00:00:48.662 --> 00:00:51.232 This went on for about 10 years of my life ... 00:00:51.472 --> 00:00:52.712 every day. 00:00:52.732 --> 00:00:54.242 Can you imagine? 00:00:55.487 --> 00:00:59.455 I thought, "What's wrong with me? Why isn't it working?" 00:00:59.741 --> 00:01:01.991 There really was something wrong with me. 00:01:02.578 --> 00:01:05.498 The fact was that all this time I was a "slimmer", 00:01:05.519 --> 00:01:07.469 an absolutely typical slimmer 00:01:07.489 --> 00:01:11.539 with an absolutely typical slimmer's type of thinking and level of consciousness. 00:01:12.146 --> 00:01:15.076 Even when I succeeded in losing weight through my efforts, 00:01:15.106 --> 00:01:16.916 I always just remained a "slimmer". 00:01:17.346 --> 00:01:18.955 Today my topic is called: 00:01:18.955 --> 00:01:21.667 "Slimmers haven't a clue about the slim." 00:01:21.673 --> 00:01:23.133 And I would like to add: 00:01:23.133 --> 00:01:25.333 "... that's why you didn't lose weight." 00:01:26.191 --> 00:01:27.581 So, let's get started. 00:01:28.051 --> 00:01:30.690 With a career of more than 16 years as a coach, 00:01:30.694 --> 00:01:33.203 the last four years working closely with slimmers, 00:01:33.203 --> 00:01:35.587 I find a very strong similarity among them. 00:01:35.627 --> 00:01:38.457 And, where there's similarity, systemacity is to be found. 00:01:38.490 --> 00:01:42.760 I divide slimmers into three categories, depending on the level of excess weight. 00:01:43.320 --> 00:01:47.120 The first: the indulgent. They're 3-5 kg overweight. 00:01:47.291 --> 00:01:50.701 The second: the suffering. They're 10-15 kg and above overweight. 00:01:51.349 --> 00:01:54.239 The third: sectarians. They are not overweight at all. 00:01:54.339 --> 00:01:56.279 Before I continue, I want to say, 00:01:56.299 --> 00:01:59.239 that all coincidences with actual people are pure coincidence. 00:01:59.482 --> 00:02:03.672 To be clear, I do not mean it about you if you don't think it applies to you. 00:02:04.185 --> 00:02:05.805 So, "the indulgent". 00:02:06.265 --> 00:02:09.735 The indulgent, these are girls with excess weight of 3-5 kg. 00:02:09.764 --> 00:02:12.765 Let's just say they have no serious weight problem, 00:02:12.805 --> 00:02:16.715 but they already sense uncomfortable changes at the microlevel. 00:02:16.735 --> 00:02:19.795 Jeans don't sit properly in places, the swimsuit doesn't do up. 00:02:20.408 --> 00:02:24.498 At the microlevel, they're already uneasy, but are not yet doing anything about it. 00:02:24.638 --> 00:02:27.818 They are not ready to take real action. 00:02:28.459 --> 00:02:31.329 The indulgent like to talk a lot about losing weight, 00:02:31.359 --> 00:02:34.799 love to put it into heads all around that they need to lose weight. 00:02:36.741 --> 00:02:37.871 Sounds familiar? 00:02:38.741 --> 00:02:42.071 I think men will understand me now, 00:02:42.101 --> 00:02:44.501 if they have "indulgent" women. 00:02:44.743 --> 00:02:46.483 Some are frankly given to hysterics, 00:02:46.613 --> 00:02:48.613 others behave more delicately, 00:02:48.813 --> 00:02:51.503 tearfully grimacing, portraying painful emotion. 00:02:51.876 --> 00:02:56.266 In a word, those who whine a lot, and, ultimately, do nothing. 00:02:57.238 --> 00:02:59.469 I'll tell you about the games they play 00:02:59.489 --> 00:03:04.189 by which they manipulate us and deceive themselves. 00:03:04.800 --> 00:03:09.070 The indulgent do not feel pain from the excess weight itself. 00:03:09.090 --> 00:03:11.750 They feel guilty because they see the problem 00:03:11.770 --> 00:03:13.520 and do not do anything about it. 00:03:13.711 --> 00:03:15.572 In order to somehow justify themselves, 00:03:15.572 --> 00:03:19.582 they, at first, go on about it a lot, because it gives them a sense of action, 00:03:19.582 --> 00:03:21.801 or an illusion of action towards a solution. 00:03:21.821 --> 00:03:26.153 We often do this regardless of whether there's a weight problem or not. 00:03:26.478 --> 00:03:30.318 And the second: those who indulge and take on the role of a martyr, 00:03:30.408 --> 00:03:32.090 they seem to suffer. 00:03:32.260 --> 00:03:33.626 Why do they suffer? 00:03:33.626 --> 00:03:36.868 Because martyrs in our society are always justified, always good. 00:03:36.878 --> 00:03:40.198 With us, this is even found on a legislative level. 00:03:40.248 --> 00:03:43.748 Repentance as a mitigating circumstance in determining guilt. 00:03:43.778 --> 00:03:47.768 I just happen to have a legal education, at least it came in handy somewhere. 00:03:48.102 --> 00:03:50.402 So, the indulgent. 00:03:50.422 --> 00:03:52.889 On the one hand, they submittingly admit they do, 00:03:52.889 --> 00:03:54.241 on the other, they're OK. 00:03:54.241 --> 00:03:56.721 They assuage themselves with: "It's no problem, 00:03:56.751 --> 00:03:59.177 one can continue to indulge and not lose weight." 00:03:59.207 --> 00:04:01.697 This is a visceral, manipulative game they play. 00:04:01.727 --> 00:04:05.337 With this, they really irritate us, because we all have to listen to it. 00:04:06.036 --> 00:04:08.116 The suffering are the second category. 00:04:08.156 --> 00:04:10.936 The suffering are of the indulgent. 00:04:12.047 --> 00:04:14.197 The principal difference from the first 00:04:14.227 --> 00:04:17.906 is that it is a full blown problem with inescapable extra kilos. 00:04:18.156 --> 00:04:21.976 The suffering are girls who will no longer be whining. 00:04:22.327 --> 00:04:26.017 They will not say that they have put on weight and need to lose weight, 00:04:26.047 --> 00:04:29.167 because they know that it will result in the response 00:04:29.167 --> 00:04:32.781 "Yes, you need to lose weight," or silence confirming their own view. 00:04:32.806 --> 00:04:36.544 They already, most likely, have problems with self-esteem and confidence, 00:04:36.547 --> 00:04:38.237 they do not like to go shopping. 00:04:38.257 --> 00:04:41.967 Most likely, one of them has already lost a guy citing outright the problem. 00:04:42.773 --> 00:04:44.783 They do not like to be photographed. 00:04:47.511 --> 00:04:53.431 The suffering experience pain directly from the excess weight. 00:04:53.461 --> 00:04:57.041 If the pain of the indulgent is a sense of guilt from inaction, 00:04:57.047 --> 00:05:00.541 then the pain of the suffering is in the excess weight itself. 00:05:01.036 --> 00:05:04.276 The suffering also fall into this category of slimmers. 00:05:05.015 --> 00:05:06.049 The third category. 00:05:06.049 --> 00:05:10.465 The indulgent or the suffering may well become familiar with effort, 00:05:10.465 --> 00:05:13.663 and with the help of effort they manage to lose those extra kilos. 00:05:13.663 --> 00:05:15.135 They become slimmer, 00:05:15.165 --> 00:05:18.695 but go on to the next category: sectarian slimmers. 00:05:19.223 --> 00:05:21.673 Sectarian slimmers are slim people. 00:05:22.172 --> 00:05:24.442 Physiologically they have no weight problem. 00:05:24.462 --> 00:05:27.332 The problem is that they still continue with their efforts. 00:05:27.705 --> 00:05:30.245 They continue their efforts, they're fixed on them. 00:05:30.245 --> 00:05:33.745 They're fixed on food, what they eat: when, at what time and how much? 00:05:33.745 --> 00:05:37.955 They're fixed on diet, nutrient values, diet compatibility, exercise: 00:05:37.985 --> 00:05:41.245 when, at what time, before or after exercise? 00:05:41.465 --> 00:05:44.055 They are not well balanced, they are pendulums. 00:05:45.068 --> 00:05:47.428 They tend to periodically put on weight 00:05:47.428 --> 00:05:50.298 in order to feel alive and then start to lose weight again. 00:05:50.989 --> 00:05:53.479 Sectarians: why do I call them sectarians? 00:05:53.519 --> 00:05:57.999 Because sectarians tend to create a religion around their body. 00:05:58.439 --> 00:06:00.759 They are people who believe in effort, 00:06:00.785 --> 00:06:05.205 who believe that the body is to be subjected to just such hard work. 00:06:05.365 --> 00:06:08.785 This work is superhuman expenditure yielding a result. 00:06:09.015 --> 00:06:11.085 Faith unites them in their effort. 00:06:11.165 --> 00:06:12.755 I study physiology, 00:06:12.785 --> 00:06:15.615 the theory of functional systems of Pyotr Kuzmich Anokhin. 00:06:15.645 --> 00:06:18.166 And I want to talk about effort and willpower. 00:06:18.166 --> 00:06:20.318 There are two concepts: willpower and effort. 00:06:20.318 --> 00:06:23.895 Two different concepts, though many put an equals sign between them. 00:06:23.895 --> 00:06:25.168 [Willpower ≠ effort] 00:06:25.168 --> 00:06:28.849 Effort is not physiological, and today I'll tell you what it's fraught with. 00:06:28.849 --> 00:06:32.016 Exercising on the energy of willpower is not dangerous in itself. 00:06:32.236 --> 00:06:34.296 First, you know that you have the willpower 00:06:35.197 --> 00:06:37.017 as well as strength in your biceps. 00:06:37.248 --> 00:06:39.518 You know that without any outward display. 00:06:39.588 --> 00:06:42.438 You can apply willpower towards a possibility 00:06:42.468 --> 00:06:44.678 since one might say 00:06:44.718 --> 00:06:48.718 that given the availability, there is some potential. 00:06:48.758 --> 00:06:50.988 When movement is willpower driven, 00:06:51.008 --> 00:06:53.558 you do not need recovery, deep rest. 00:06:53.588 --> 00:06:56.788 Willpower does not create a fear of future steps, 00:06:56.818 --> 00:06:58.638 of future accomplishments. 00:06:58.664 --> 00:07:00.014 Effort is the opposite. 00:07:00.322 --> 00:07:04.792 Effort: the etymology of the word implies a doubling of force, put simply. 00:07:04.911 --> 00:07:08.011 You apply twice the force, you overstrain yourself. 00:07:08.031 --> 00:07:11.701 Half of that force is spent suppressing internal resistance 00:07:11.711 --> 00:07:14.751 which is all out of line with your natural physiology. 00:07:14.771 --> 00:07:15.981 Only with the other half 00:07:16.011 --> 00:07:18.551 do you seem to be progressing towards a possibility. 00:07:18.921 --> 00:07:22.281 All physiology is based on the principles of balance. 00:07:22.451 --> 00:07:26.291 If your system deviates from the norm, your system wants to restabilize itself: 00:07:26.291 --> 00:07:31.001 to stabilize itself by balancing out deviations to the degree necessary. 00:07:32.004 --> 00:07:35.015 In other words, for the deviations resulting from your effort - 00:07:35.015 --> 00:07:36.324 and you deviate 00:07:36.554 --> 00:07:40.639 because there is a discharge of energy and a recoil from it - 00:07:40.894 --> 00:07:43.774 your system provides a balance, to wit a positive feeling. 00:07:43.794 --> 00:07:46.744 So when you put effort into your body, 00:07:46.774 --> 00:07:48.574 you expect a reward. 00:07:48.874 --> 00:07:51.294 You add to what you demand of your body, 00:07:52.196 --> 00:07:55.986 but the body is physiological and can give you nothing but the norm, 00:07:55.996 --> 00:07:58.857 because the body or organism is like the Sun or the weather, 00:07:58.857 --> 00:08:00.836 it is impossible to meet this demand, 00:08:01.246 --> 00:08:03.746 it does not play with us in these demand games. 00:08:03.753 --> 00:08:05.401 But we know how to get round this. 00:08:05.401 --> 00:08:07.836 We need recompensation in some way for our efforts. 00:08:07.866 --> 00:08:12.506 And what recompensation provides a positive feeling for us? 00:08:12.536 --> 00:08:15.946 It's hearing flattery and compliments about our bodies. 00:08:16.176 --> 00:08:20.786 Vanity was not simply acknowledged as one of the most basic mortal sins: 00:08:21.756 --> 00:08:24.486 its test is passed by few. 00:08:25.705 --> 00:08:28.575 Sectarians are people who believe in effort, 00:08:29.429 --> 00:08:32.609 and in order to balance deviation with positive feeling 00:08:32.610 --> 00:08:34.633 they need to hear the voice of believers. 00:08:34.635 --> 00:08:36.505 Their bodies are a totem, 00:08:36.697 --> 00:08:39.246 a temple of worship, an altar of worship. 00:08:39.722 --> 00:08:43.217 The indulgent and the suffering, their believers come every day 00:08:43.217 --> 00:08:44.458 to the temple of Instagram 00:08:44.458 --> 00:08:46.341 and put candles in the form of "likes". 00:08:46.612 --> 00:08:50.242 The sectarians themselves are deeply rooted in faith in their own bodies, 00:08:50.272 --> 00:08:52.212 consider themselves to be special. 00:08:52.232 --> 00:08:54.042 Believe me, I know trainers, 00:08:54.302 --> 00:08:56.542 who see that they are really worshipped. 00:08:56.562 --> 00:08:57.632 That's not religion? 00:08:57.772 --> 00:09:00.637 But all would be nothing, but for another law of physiology 00:09:00.637 --> 00:09:03.274 about adaptation to an already existing deviation, 00:09:04.042 --> 00:09:06.062 about adaptation to external stimulus, 00:09:06.092 --> 00:09:10.452 according to which any deviation later becomes normal. 00:09:10.472 --> 00:09:13.492 The system adapts and ceases to respond to the stimulus. 00:09:13.504 --> 00:09:15.107 What does this mean for us: 00:09:15.108 --> 00:09:19.292 it means that, in order for the system to react again to the next stimulus, 00:09:19.322 --> 00:09:21.642 be aroused by the following stimulus, 00:09:21.662 --> 00:09:25.842 the dose must be constantly raised, or sectarians cease to feel worship. 00:09:26.142 --> 00:09:29.652 This means that they need the voices of new believers. 00:09:30.497 --> 00:09:32.687 And the indulgent and the suffering, 00:09:33.126 --> 00:09:36.866 they also restabilize with respect to the perception of the external stimulus, 00:09:36.886 --> 00:09:40.116 and they will put a new candle in the form of a "like" just in case, 00:09:40.136 --> 00:09:42.916 if a new sectarian action 00:09:43.246 --> 00:09:45.956 demonstrates a skill beyond the previous one. 00:09:46.216 --> 00:09:50.756 We drive ourselves into a system in which we constantly amplify deviations, 00:09:50.776 --> 00:09:53.386 deviating even more from the norm. 00:09:53.956 --> 00:09:56.306 So, we have three categories: 00:09:57.353 --> 00:09:58.563 the indulgent, 00:09:58.603 --> 00:09:59.723 the suffering 00:09:59.753 --> 00:10:00.883 and the sectarians. 00:10:02.462 --> 00:10:05.411 So, I've now told you about all three categories of slimmers. 00:10:05.462 --> 00:10:07.321 Why are sectarians treated as slimmers? 00:10:07.321 --> 00:10:10.143 Because despite the fact that it seems that physiologically 00:10:10.143 --> 00:10:11.793 they do not have a weight problem, 00:10:11.818 --> 00:10:15.498 they nevertheless, in their mindset, remain slimmers. 00:10:15.593 --> 00:10:18.543 They eat much the same way ... 00:10:19.123 --> 00:10:24.503 In the picture, coaches who do not know how to impress their believing followers. 00:10:25.193 --> 00:10:27.253 Here there is already overamplification. 00:10:27.456 --> 00:10:29.776 Sectarians use ideas in the same way. 00:10:29.846 --> 00:10:31.366 They preach effort, 00:10:31.476 --> 00:10:34.946 monitor, forbid, place great expectations on bodies, 00:10:34.946 --> 00:10:36.615 manipulate the rate of weight loss. 00:10:36.615 --> 00:10:38.736 They often have breakdowns in their lives, 00:10:38.742 --> 00:10:43.011 after which they have a sense of reversal, guilt, punish themselves, 00:10:43.011 --> 00:10:44.648 draw conclusions about themselves. 00:10:44.648 --> 00:10:47.400 The picture is identical: in terms of their mentality, 00:10:47.406 --> 00:10:50.402 they are no different from the indulgent and the suffering. 00:10:50.632 --> 00:10:52.964 Only, the sectarians have two further problems: 00:10:52.964 --> 00:10:54.620 fear of loss of results 00:10:54.620 --> 00:10:58.035 and fear of loss of surrogate pleasure from derived gains of vanity. 00:10:58.250 --> 00:11:00.900 Observing the practice of slimmers for very many years, 00:11:00.930 --> 00:11:03.390 being myself of the category, 00:11:03.983 --> 00:11:05.233 I noticed, 00:11:06.200 --> 00:11:08.890 slimmers forget how to be slim. 00:11:10.115 --> 00:11:12.556 And they begin to act out the image of the slender, 00:11:12.574 --> 00:11:15.944 follow their models, create models, the image of the slim. 00:11:15.966 --> 00:11:17.616 Whom do they see before them? 00:11:17.623 --> 00:11:19.771 An image of the sectarian slimmer 00:11:19.771 --> 00:11:22.355 with overplayed ideas on healthy living and nutrition. 00:11:22.355 --> 00:11:25.480 Right, after all, someone who creates a religion around her body 00:11:25.501 --> 00:11:27.422 is always going to be rather imperious. 00:11:27.422 --> 00:11:31.130 They need new followers, new believers, new candles in the form of "likes". 00:11:31.150 --> 00:11:34.120 They take banners, go outside, 00:11:34.140 --> 00:11:36.450 and try to convert everyone to their faith. 00:11:36.835 --> 00:11:38.455 And they are good at it. 00:11:38.475 --> 00:11:41.295 Slimmers do react to these signals. 00:11:42.040 --> 00:11:45.916 But, I remind you, I consider all three categories to be those of slimmers. 00:11:46.499 --> 00:11:49.009 And who are such "healthy, slender people"? 00:11:49.364 --> 00:11:53.007 The fundamental difference between a healthy, slender person and a slimmer 00:11:53.007 --> 00:11:56.254 is that healthy, slender people do not lose weight. 00:11:56.254 --> 00:11:58.957 First, they don't lose weight in their minds, 00:11:58.957 --> 00:12:00.678 don't lose weight in their thoughts. 00:12:00.678 --> 00:12:02.128 So they succeed. 00:12:02.500 --> 00:12:05.020 And if you get close to a healthy, slim person, 00:12:05.040 --> 00:12:06.770 do you know what you find? 00:12:07.488 --> 00:12:08.808 Nothing. 00:12:09.838 --> 00:12:12.108 You will discover nothing. 00:12:12.504 --> 00:12:13.964 They do not think about food, 00:12:13.984 --> 00:12:16.917 do not think more about eating than about using the toilet, 00:12:16.917 --> 00:12:18.764 don't make a religion of their bodies, 00:12:18.784 --> 00:12:22.114 photos of figures stripped for gym from all angles are also unlikely. 00:12:22.194 --> 00:12:24.134 Addressed with hot compliments, 00:12:24.154 --> 00:12:27.234 such people will most likely react with embarrassment, 00:12:27.249 --> 00:12:30.772 genuinely not understanding why there's such excitement about their body. 00:12:30.772 --> 00:12:31.977 And it's all just so. 00:12:31.977 --> 00:12:35.512 The excitement forms in the minds of those for whom to have such a body 00:12:35.512 --> 00:12:39.962 means work, effort, unearthly power of abstinence. 00:12:40.719 --> 00:12:43.229 Slimmers, becoming thinner through effort, 00:12:43.235 --> 00:12:46.310 crave for compensation for the lost calorie input. 00:12:46.439 --> 00:12:49.729 These people write books about the difficult path of the Samurai 00:12:49.759 --> 00:12:54.769 and film documentaries about themselves craving reward for their effort. 00:12:54.899 --> 00:12:57.509 For a healthy, slim person, such a body 00:12:57.539 --> 00:13:00.299 is completely natural, something given at birth. 00:13:00.669 --> 00:13:05.549 They do not do anything special to maintain their bodies. 00:13:06.244 --> 00:13:09.878 Healthy, slender people will not impose aggressive motivation 00:13:09.878 --> 00:13:11.285 with posters about slimming, 00:13:11.289 --> 00:13:13.419 because there is no gain from vanity. 00:13:13.445 --> 00:13:15.515 They don't get carried away with effort. 00:13:16.603 --> 00:13:19.843 Healthy, slender people won't call you a fat-ass 00:13:19.873 --> 00:13:23.533 because they are not angry about fat people. 00:13:23.633 --> 00:13:25.563 Fat people don't annoy them. 00:13:25.753 --> 00:13:27.646 They've no cause for anger with them. 00:13:27.646 --> 00:13:30.503 Anger dwells in those whose lives centre on effort. 00:13:30.503 --> 00:13:32.183 It is their own so special game. 00:13:32.213 --> 00:13:34.403 The more they hate fat and the fuller body, 00:13:34.414 --> 00:13:37.677 the easier it is for them not to give in and go that way themselves. 00:13:38.080 --> 00:13:41.270 Healthy, slender people are, for the most part, calm, 00:13:41.290 --> 00:13:44.510 at least not irritated by fat people. 00:13:44.620 --> 00:13:47.420 There is one problem with healthy, slender people. 00:13:48.475 --> 00:13:51.795 They do not pay any attention to themselves. 00:13:52.758 --> 00:13:55.545 They, for the most part, have no special characteristics. 00:13:56.543 --> 00:13:59.483 And I am here today, my talk devoted to this fact, 00:13:59.503 --> 00:14:03.233 to shift your focus of attention from those who go with banners 00:14:03.728 --> 00:14:06.728 to those who most often remain unnoticed. 00:14:06.758 --> 00:14:10.278 Because you should orientate yourselves towards them, 00:14:10.768 --> 00:14:12.768 no matter how strange it may sound. 00:14:13.104 --> 00:14:16.904 Do not expect healthy, slender people to sound off about their inconspicuity. 00:14:16.908 --> 00:14:19.179 It would be very strange. Nothing you'll hear. 00:14:19.292 --> 00:14:21.863 Healthy, slender people are inconspicuous. 00:14:21.879 --> 00:14:23.772 And your task, your job, 00:14:23.792 --> 00:14:28.502 is to pay attention to such people if you are worried about excess weight. 00:14:28.572 --> 00:14:32.012 Pay attention to them and start watching them. 00:14:32.514 --> 00:14:34.574 Who are they? How do they live? 00:14:35.134 --> 00:14:37.904 What do they think about? How do they relate to food? 00:14:38.714 --> 00:14:41.684 My sister became such a teacher for me. 00:14:41.694 --> 00:14:45.584 I lived together with her for 30 years, and I didn't notice that she was healthy. 00:14:45.754 --> 00:14:47.770 I looked to obsessed coaches 00:14:47.780 --> 00:14:50.340 who do not let go of motivational slogans, 00:14:50.610 --> 00:14:52.830 but I realized who was really my motivation, 00:14:52.850 --> 00:14:55.170 when I realized what result I wanted. 00:14:55.360 --> 00:14:57.250 I wanted to be just as crazy, 00:14:57.640 --> 00:15:00.940 or I wanted to be healthy, calm and slim? 00:15:01.450 --> 00:15:04.080 When I realized this, I did not tell my sister about it. 00:15:04.100 --> 00:15:05.760 I just started to watch her. 00:15:06.510 --> 00:15:08.540 And you know, it changed everything. 00:15:09.145 --> 00:15:11.795 I understood why I had not lost weight all that time. 00:15:12.506 --> 00:15:15.506 I had generally gone the entirely wrong way about it. 00:15:15.536 --> 00:15:18.816 You see, slim sectarians, after losing weight, 00:15:18.846 --> 00:15:21.226 became even more fixed on the topic of food. 00:15:21.266 --> 00:15:24.776 In their heads, there was ever more confusion about food. 00:15:25.688 --> 00:15:28.098 With my sister this was not the case. 00:15:28.726 --> 00:15:30.306 Not at all. 00:15:30.456 --> 00:15:32.266 She did not think about food. 00:15:33.141 --> 00:15:35.261 And it really shifted my thinking, 00:15:35.269 --> 00:15:37.667 because I realized the direction I had to go in. 00:15:37.685 --> 00:15:40.045 My direction had to be 00:15:40.075 --> 00:15:45.075 to rid my head of nonsense in my approach to slimming. 00:15:45.095 --> 00:15:48.255 Above all, no more nonsense. 00:15:48.285 --> 00:15:50.155 This was the path I took, 00:15:50.175 --> 00:15:53.455 but, on the other hand, it also became for me a strong test, 00:15:53.455 --> 00:15:55.163 one of the strongest tests, 00:15:55.163 --> 00:15:59.734 because I began to not understand how not to think about the white bear. 00:16:00.168 --> 00:16:03.198 How not to think about food, when you already think about it? 00:16:04.432 --> 00:16:07.242 It really was a very difficult task, believe me. 00:16:07.562 --> 00:16:09.642 But it was she who changed my idea, 00:16:09.672 --> 00:16:12.252 that's why I'm currently working with slimmers 00:16:12.252 --> 00:16:15.252 and helping them to renormalize away from food addiction. 00:16:15.777 --> 00:16:20.187 Slimmers cannot imagine how a healthy, slender person thinks. 00:16:20.427 --> 00:16:23.553 And your task is really to start watching 00:16:23.553 --> 00:16:28.777 those who for the most part remain unnoticed, balanced and calm. 00:16:29.209 --> 00:16:31.469 Start to observe the inconspicuous, 00:16:31.489 --> 00:16:34.979 start watching those who are even-keeled towards food, 00:16:35.109 --> 00:16:36.469 unworried. 00:16:36.754 --> 00:16:38.524 I'm now starting to conclude, 00:16:39.044 --> 00:16:44.284 and in closing I would like to address each of those categories 00:16:44.304 --> 00:16:45.854 about which I spoke today. 00:16:46.205 --> 00:16:49.055 Indulgent: stop spoiling yourself. 00:16:49.488 --> 00:16:52.198 Playing with being overweight is a very dangerous game, 00:16:52.658 --> 00:16:55.518 and recovery is a very time-consuming, long process. 00:16:55.548 --> 00:16:58.698 Believe me, I speak as a person who is still recovering. 00:16:58.718 --> 00:17:00.962 Noticing changes at the microlevel? 00:17:00.962 --> 00:17:02.048 Take action. 00:17:02.048 --> 00:17:03.993 Sign up at the gym, cut down portions. 00:17:04.012 --> 00:17:08.252 Act, don't whine, or you'll inevitably end up in the sufferer category. 00:17:08.464 --> 00:17:12.634 Sufferers, you can become subject to the hullabaloo of the sectarians, 00:17:12.654 --> 00:17:16.184 and if you fall in with effort, then for sure you will end up among them. 00:17:17.188 --> 00:17:19.404 You'll develop ever more fixed ideas on food, 00:17:19.404 --> 00:17:22.272 and you will become ever more confused about what to eat. 00:17:22.294 --> 00:17:24.854 You will realize that this was a false way, 00:17:24.854 --> 00:17:27.047 that you didn't find there what you sought. 00:17:27.047 --> 00:17:29.216 You are still not well balanced, not healthy. 00:17:29.234 --> 00:17:32.992 You've not recovered, you've just moved into another category of illness. 00:17:33.492 --> 00:17:36.442 Think about whether you need to make this detour? 00:17:37.012 --> 00:17:41.262 After all, at its height, it's the same, just removed from its normal location. 00:17:42.198 --> 00:17:45.408 Sectarians, forgive me for such a comparison, 00:17:45.428 --> 00:17:47.948 I know that among you there are many of my friends. 00:17:47.956 --> 00:17:50.153 I hope they'll not expose my critical remarks. 00:17:50.154 --> 00:17:51.794 I'm a fitness coach and understand 00:17:51.794 --> 00:17:55.806 that, in a sense, I spit into the well from which I myself drink. 00:17:55.806 --> 00:17:58.928 But I just want this well to be cleaner. 00:17:59.468 --> 00:18:02.098 I just want it to be less turbid. 00:18:02.218 --> 00:18:05.458 Sectarians, you already have the main thing - 00:18:05.478 --> 00:18:09.758 a slender body that is beautiful, that motivates and inspires. 00:18:09.974 --> 00:18:14.234 You are already chosen as a benchmark for those who indulge and suffer. 00:18:14.254 --> 00:18:16.254 You have power and influence. 00:18:16.485 --> 00:18:21.285 So become a true example of the health and integrity of a living cell. 00:18:21.975 --> 00:18:24.815 Healthy and slender people, my last appeal goes to you. 00:18:24.834 --> 00:18:27.647 Most likely, you do not even know that you are healthy. 00:18:28.045 --> 00:18:32.157 I personally know many healthy people who caught the weight loss bug 00:18:32.157 --> 00:18:34.017 because those around them began to slim 00:18:34.017 --> 00:18:37.633 and they decided that it was not normal to not think about eating so much. 00:18:37.670 --> 00:18:39.180 I have good news for you. 00:18:39.200 --> 00:18:40.540 You are perfectly fine. 00:18:40.570 --> 00:18:41.780 You are healthy. 00:18:41.800 --> 00:18:43.750 Remain an example to us all, 00:18:43.780 --> 00:18:45.450 well balanced, calm. 00:18:45.840 --> 00:18:49.220 We will quietly watch you and learn. 00:18:49.938 --> 00:18:51.093 Thank you. 00:18:51.121 --> 00:18:53.241 (Applause)