[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.47,0:00:06.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to discuss with you this afternoon Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.15,0:00:08.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why you're going to fail\Nto have a great career. Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.61,0:00:09.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.01,0:00:12.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm an economist. Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.71,0:00:14.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I do dismal. Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.82,0:00:18.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,End of the day, it's ready\Nfor dismal remarks. Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.20,0:00:22.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I only want to talk to those of you\Nwho want a great career. Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.18,0:00:26.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know some of you have already decided\Nyou want a good career. Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.93,0:00:28.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're going to fail, too. Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.34,0:00:29.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.44,0:00:32.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because -- goodness,\Nyou're all cheery about failing. Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.07,0:00:33.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.11,0:00:34.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Canadian group, undoubtedly. Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.93,0:00:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.08,0:00:40.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those trying to have good careers\Nare going to fail, Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.92,0:00:43.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because, really, good jobs\Nare now disappearing. Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.30,0:00:47.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are great jobs and great careers, Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.66,0:00:50.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then there are the high-workload, Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.31,0:00:54.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,high-stress, bloodsucking,\Nsoul-destroying kinds of jobs, Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.81,0:00:56.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and practically nothing in-between. Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.54,0:00:58.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So people looking for good jobs\Nare going to fail. Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.96,0:01:02.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to talk about those\Nlooking for great jobs, great careers, Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.17,0:01:05.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and why you're going to fail. Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.94,0:01:11.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First reason is that no matter\Nhow many times people tell you, Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.92,0:01:15.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"If you want a great career,\Nyou have to pursue your passion, Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.18,0:01:18.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to pursue your dreams,\Nyou have to pursue Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.45,0:01:21.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the greatest fascination in your life," Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.44,0:01:24.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you hear it again and again,\Nand then you decide not to do it. Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.72,0:01:28.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It doesn't matter\Nhow many times you download Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.06,0:01:32.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Steven J.'s Stanford commencement address, Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.26,0:01:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you still look at it\Nand decide not to do it. Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.10,0:01:37.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not quite sure\Nwhy you decide not to do it. Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.81,0:01:39.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're too lazy to do it. It's too hard. Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.92,0:01:42.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're afraid if you look\Nfor your passion and don't find it, Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.81,0:01:45.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll feel like you're an idiot,\Nso then you make excuses Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.56,0:01:48.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about why you're not going\Nto look for your passion. Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.31,0:01:50.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are excuses, ladies and gentlemen. Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.23,0:01:52.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're going to go through\Na whole long list -- Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.42,0:01:56.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your creativity in thinking of excuses\Nnot to do what you really need to do Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.72,0:01:58.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you want to have a great career. Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.96,0:02:04.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, for example,\None of your great excuses is: Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.61,0:02:05.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sigh) Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.99,0:02:09.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, great careers are\Nreally and truly, for most people, Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.77,0:02:11.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just a matter of luck. Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.92,0:02:14.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'm going to stand around,\NI'm going to try to be lucky, Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.02,0:02:17.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if I'm lucky,\NI'll have a great career. Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.29,0:02:18.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If not, I'll have a good career." Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.92,0:02:22.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But a good career is an impossibility,\Nso that's not going to work. Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.55,0:02:24.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, your other excuse is, Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.22,0:02:28.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Yes, there are special people\Nwho pursue their passions, Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.81,0:02:30.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they are geniuses. Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.17,0:02:31.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are Steven J. Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.74,0:02:33.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not a genius. Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.37,0:02:35.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was five, I thought I was a genius, Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.00,0:02:39.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but my professors have beaten that idea\Nout of my head long since." Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.95,0:02:41.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.32,0:02:45.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"And now I know\NI am completely competent." Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.84,0:02:48.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, you see, if this was 1950, Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.55,0:02:51.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being completely competent -- Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.59,0:02:53.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that would have given you a great career. Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.65,0:02:54.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But guess what? Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.83,0:02:58.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is almost 2012,\Nand saying to the world, Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.58,0:03:01.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I am totally, completely competent," Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.91,0:03:05.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is damning yourself\Nwith the faintest of praise. Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.42,0:03:08.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then, of course, another excuse: Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.42,0:03:11.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, I would do this,\NI would do this, but, but -- Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.100,0:03:15.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well, after all, I'm not weird. Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.96,0:03:18.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everybody knows that people\Nwho pursue their passions Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.68,0:03:20.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are somewhat obsessive. Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.10,0:03:21.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A little strange. Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.60,0:03:23.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hmm? Hmm? Okay? Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.26,0:03:26.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, a fine line\Nbetween madness and genius. Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.50,0:03:30.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm not weird. I've read\NSteven J.'s biography. Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.81,0:03:34.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh my goodness --\NI'm not that person. I am nice. Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.69,0:03:36.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am normal. Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.05,0:03:39.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm a nice, normal person,\Nand nice, normal people -- Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.00,0:03:42.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't have passion." Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.57,0:03:43.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.62,0:03:46.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Ah, but I still want a great career. Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.15,0:03:48.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not prepared to pursue my passion, Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.10,0:03:49.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I know what I'm going to do, Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.66,0:03:51.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I have a solution. Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.54,0:03:52.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have a strategy. Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.02,0:03:55.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the one Mommy\Nand Daddy told me about. Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.46,0:03:58.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mommy and Daddy told me\Nthat if I worked hard, Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.54,0:04:00.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd have a good career. Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.88,0:04:03.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, if you work hard\Nand have a good career, Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.64,0:04:05.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you work really, really, really hard, Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.67,0:04:06.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll have a great career. Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.02,0:04:09.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Doesn't that, like,\Nmathematically make sense?" Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.46,0:04:10.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hmm. Not. Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.96,0:04:13.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you've managed\Nto talk yourself into that. Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.45,0:04:15.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what? Here's a little secret: Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.55,0:04:18.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You want to work? You want to work\Nreally, really, really hard? Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.65,0:04:20.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what? You'll succeed. Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.12,0:04:22.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The world will give you the opportunity Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.05,0:04:25.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to work really, really,\Nreally, really hard. Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.69,0:04:28.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But, are you so sure Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.66,0:04:31.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that that's going to give you\Na great career, Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.60,0:04:34.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when all the evidence is to the contrary? Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.44,0:04:39.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So let's deal with those of you\Nwho are trying to find your passion. Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.97,0:04:42.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You actually understand\Nthat you really had better do it, Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.67,0:04:43.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,never mind the excuses. Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.02,0:04:46.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're trying to find your passion -- Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.66,0:04:47.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sigh) Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.68,0:04:49.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're so happy. Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.84,0:04:52.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You found something you're interested in. Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.12,0:04:54.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I have an interest! I have an interest!" Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.19,0:04:55.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You tell me. Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.37,0:04:58.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You say, "I have an interest!"\NI say, "That's wonderful! Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.42,0:05:00.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what are you trying to tell me?" Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.69,0:05:02.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, I have an interest." Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.23,0:05:03.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I say, "Do you have passion?" Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.81,0:05:05.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I have an interest," you say. Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.02,0:05:07.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Your interest is compared to what?" Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.77,0:05:09.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, I'm interested in this." Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.88,0:05:13.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"And what about the rest\Nof humanity's activities?" Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.00,0:05:15.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm not interested in them." Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.82,0:05:17.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You've looked at them all, have you?" Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.95,0:05:20.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"No. Not exactly." Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.69,0:05:22.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Passion is your greatest love. Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.33,0:05:25.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Passion is the thing Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.60,0:05:30.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that will help you create\Nthe highest expression of your talent. Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.65,0:05:33.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Passion, interest --\Nit's not the same thing. Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.24,0:05:35.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Are you really going to go\Nto your sweetie and say, Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.80,0:05:38.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Marry me! You're interesting." Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.68,0:05:41.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.82,0:05:43.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Won't happen. Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.78,0:05:45.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Won't happen, and you will die alone. Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.89,0:05:47.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.26,0:05:48.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What you want, Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.57,0:05:51.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what you want, what you want, Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.10,0:05:52.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is passion. Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.51,0:05:54.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is beyond interest. Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.35,0:05:57.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You need 20 interests,\Nand then one of them, Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.100,0:05:59.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of them might grab you, Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.77,0:06:02.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of them might engage you\Nmore than anything else, Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.37,0:06:04.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you may have found\Nyour greatest love, Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.99,0:06:09.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in comparison to all the other things\Nthat interest you, Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.20,0:06:10.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's what passion is. Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.94,0:06:13.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have a friend, proposed to his sweetie. Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.00,0:06:16.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was an economically rational person. Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.32,0:06:19.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said to his sweetie, "Let us marry. Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.36,0:06:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let us merge our interests." Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.62,0:06:25.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.52,0:06:26.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, he did. Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.26,0:06:30.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I love you truly," he said.\N"I love you deeply. Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.01,0:06:35.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I love you more than any other woman\NI've ever encountered. Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.31,0:06:39.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I love you more than Mary,\NJane, Susie, Penelope, Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.89,0:06:41.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ingrid, Gertrude, Gretel -- Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.93,0:06:44.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was on a German exchange program then. Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.41,0:06:47.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I love you more than --" Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.47,0:06:49.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All right. Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.04,0:06:50.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She left the room Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.45,0:06:55.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,halfway through his enumeration\Nof his love for her. Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.82,0:06:59.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After he got over his surprise\Nat being, you know, turned down, Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.98,0:07:03.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he concluded he'd had a narrow escape Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.74,0:07:07.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from marrying an irrational person. Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.51,0:07:10.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Although, he did make a note to himself\Nthat the next time he proposed, Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.92,0:07:12.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was perhaps not necessary Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.61,0:07:17.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to enumerate all of the women\Nhe had auditioned for the part. Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.79,0:07:19.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.91,0:07:21.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the point stands. Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.37,0:07:25.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You must look for alternatives\Nso that you find your destiny, Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.04,0:07:27.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or are you afraid of the word "destiny"? Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.69,0:07:30.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Does the word "destiny" scare you? Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.55,0:07:32.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what we're talking about. Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.14,0:07:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you don't find\Nthe highest expression of your talent, Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.11,0:07:38.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you settle for "interesting,"\Nwhat the hell ever that means, Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.31,0:07:41.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do you know what will happen\Nat the end of your long life? Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.49,0:07:44.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your friends and family will be\Ngathered in the cemetery, Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.73,0:07:48.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there beside your gravesite\Nwill be a tombstone, Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.24,0:07:49.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and inscribed on that tombstone Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.87,0:07:53.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it will say, "Here lies\Na distinguished engineer, Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.74,0:07:55.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who invented Velcro." Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.50,0:08:02.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what that tombstone should have said, Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.50,0:08:05.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in an alternative lifetime, Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.20,0:08:09.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what it should have said if it was\Nyour highest expression of talent, Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.67,0:08:14.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was, "Here lies the last\NNobel Laureate in Physics, Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.25,0:08:17.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who formulated\Nthe Grand Unified Field Theory Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.61,0:08:21.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and demonstrated\Nthe practicality of warp drive." Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.60,0:08:23.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.80,0:08:25.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Velcro, indeed! Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.58,0:08:27.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.69,0:08:30.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One was a great career. Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.69,0:08:35.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One was a missed opportunity. Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.65,0:08:38.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then, there are some of you who, Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.07,0:08:41.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in spite of all these\Nexcuses, you will find, Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.45,0:08:43.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you will find your passion. Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.100,0:08:47.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you'll still fail. Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.18,0:08:51.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're going to fail, because -- Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.04,0:08:54.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you're not going to do it, Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.64,0:08:58.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you will have\Ninvented a new excuse, Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.65,0:09:02.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,any excuse to fail to take action, Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.45,0:09:06.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this excuse, I've heard so many times: Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.57,0:09:13.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Yes, I would pursue a great career, Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.50,0:09:20.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but, I value human relationships -- Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.26,0:09:21.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.28,0:09:22.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more than accomplishment. Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.39,0:09:25.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to be a great friend. Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.78,0:09:28.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to be a great spouse. Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.04,0:09:29.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to be a great parent, Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.92,0:09:32.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I will not sacrifice them Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.06,0:09:35.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the altar of great accomplishment." Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.59,0:09:37.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.73,0:09:39.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do you want me to say? Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.25,0:09:42.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, do you really want\Nme to say now, tell you, Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.04,0:09:44.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Really, I swear I don't kick children." Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.56,0:09:46.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.23,0:09:49.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Look at the worldview\Nyou've given yourself. Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.01,0:09:52.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're a hero no matter what. Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.42,0:09:56.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I, by suggesting ever so delicately Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.25,0:09:59.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you might want a great career,\Nmust hate children. Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.44,0:10:01.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't hate children. I don't kick them. Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.48,0:10:04.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, there was a little kid\Nwandering through this building Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.40,0:10:06.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I came here, and no,\NI didn't kick him. Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.84,0:10:08.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.31,0:10:11.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Course, I had to tell him\Nthe building was for adults only, Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.45,0:10:13.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to get out. Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.07,0:10:14.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He mumbled something about his mother, Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.99,0:10:18.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I told him she'd probably\Nfind him outside anyway. Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.54,0:10:21.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Last time I saw him,\Nhe was on the stairs crying. Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.25,0:10:22.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.36,0:10:23.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What a wimp. Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.54,0:10:24.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.57,0:10:27.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what do you mean?\NThat's what you expect me to say. Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.19,0:10:29.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you really think it's appropriate Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.19,0:10:35.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you should actually take\Nchildren and use them as a shield? Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.83,0:10:38.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what will happen someday, Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.06,0:10:41.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you ideal parent, you? Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.07,0:10:45.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The kid will come to you someday and say, Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.11,0:10:47.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I know what I want to be. Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.55,0:10:49.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know what I'm going to do with my life." Dialogue: 0,0:10:49.59,0:10:50.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are so happy. Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.79,0:10:53.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the conversation\Na parent wants to hear, Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.03,0:10:54.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because your kid's good in math, Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.91,0:10:57.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you know you're going to like\Nwhat comes next. Dialogue: 0,0:10:57.73,0:10:59.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Says your kid, Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.21,0:11:02.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I have decided I want to be a magician. Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.64,0:11:05.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to perform\Nmagic tricks on the stage." Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.32,0:11:08.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.78,0:11:10.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what do you say? Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.16,0:11:13.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You say, you say, Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.66,0:11:16.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"That's risky, kid. Dialogue: 0,0:11:17.00,0:11:19.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Might fail, kid. Don't make\Na lot of money at that, kid. Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.82,0:11:22.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know, kid, you should\Nthink about that again, kid. Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.82,0:11:24.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're so good at math, why don't you --" Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.82,0:11:26.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The kid interrupts you and says, Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.37,0:11:29.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"But it is my dream.\NIt is my dream to do this." Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.29,0:11:32.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what are you going to say? Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.34,0:11:33.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know what you're going to say? Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.00,0:11:36.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Look kid. I had a dream once, too, but -- Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.60,0:11:39.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But --" Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.79,0:11:42.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So how are you going to finish\Nthe sentence with your "but"? Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.72,0:11:47.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"But. I had a dream too, once,\Nkid, but I was afraid to pursue it." Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.78,0:11:51.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or are you going to tell him this: Dialogue: 0,0:11:51.38,0:11:53.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I had a dream once, kid. Dialogue: 0,0:11:55.16,0:11:56.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then, you were born." Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.73,0:11:59.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.06,0:12:01.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.73,0:12:06.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you really want to use your family, Dialogue: 0,0:12:06.80,0:12:11.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do you really ever want to look\Nat your spouse and your kid, Dialogue: 0,0:12:11.37,0:12:12.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and see your jailers? Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.60,0:12:18.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was something\Nyou could have said to your kid, Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.24,0:12:20.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when he or she said, "I have a dream." Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.01,0:12:23.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You could have said -- Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.97,0:12:27.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looked the kid in the face and said, Dialogue: 0,0:12:28.02,0:12:29.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Go for it, kid! Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.16,0:12:32.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just like I did." Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.58,0:12:37.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you won't be able to say that, Dialogue: 0,0:12:37.18,0:12:38.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you didn't. Dialogue: 0,0:12:38.86,0:12:40.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you can't. Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.46,0:12:42.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.09,0:12:48.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so the sins of the parents Dialogue: 0,0:12:48.28,0:12:50.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are visited on the poor children. Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.28,0:12:57.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why will you seek refuge\Nin human relationships Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.82,0:13:03.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as your excuse not to find\Nand pursue your passion? Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.53,0:13:05.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know why. Dialogue: 0,0:13:06.36,0:13:08.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In your heart of hearts, you know why, Dialogue: 0,0:13:08.90,0:13:11.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm being deadly serious. Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.15,0:13:13.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know why you would get\Nall warm and fuzzy Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.86,0:13:16.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and wrap yourself\Nup in human relationships. Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.54,0:13:19.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is because you are -- Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.97,0:13:22.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know what you are. Dialogue: 0,0:13:22.76,0:13:25.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're afraid to pursue your passion. Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.18,0:13:28.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're afraid to look ridiculous. Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.24,0:13:29.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're afraid to try. Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.77,0:13:31.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're afraid you may fail. Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.04,0:13:41.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Great friend, great spouse,\Ngreat parent, great career. Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.08,0:13:45.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is that not a package?\NIs that not who you are? Dialogue: 0,0:13:46.25,0:13:48.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can you be one without the other? Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.41,0:13:51.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you're afraid. Dialogue: 0,0:13:52.17,0:13:57.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's why you're not\Ngoing to have a great career. Dialogue: 0,0:13:59.40,0:14:01.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unless -- Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.79,0:14:06.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"unless," that most evocative\Nof all English words -- Dialogue: 0,0:14:07.00,0:14:08.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"unless." Dialogue: 0,0:14:09.37,0:14:13.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the "unless" word is also attached Dialogue: 0,0:14:13.83,0:14:18.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to that other, most terrifying phrase, Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.80,0:14:20.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"If only I had ..." Dialogue: 0,0:14:21.46,0:14:24.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"If only I had ..." Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.19,0:14:29.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you ever have that thought\Nricocheting in your brain, Dialogue: 0,0:14:29.46,0:14:31.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it will hurt a lot. Dialogue: 0,0:14:33.01,0:14:35.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, those are the many reasons Dialogue: 0,0:14:35.66,0:14:37.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why you are going to fail Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.66,0:14:39.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have a great career. Dialogue: 0,0:14:41.20,0:14:42.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unless -- Dialogue: 0,0:14:46.70,0:14:47.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unless. Dialogue: 0,0:14:49.91,0:14:51.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you. Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.09,0:14:54.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)