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If you're still struggling with consent,

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just imagine instead of initiating sex,

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you're making them a cup of tea,

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You say, "Hey, would you like a cup of tea?"

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And they go, "Oh my god. Fuck yes!

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I would fucking love a cup of tea! [br]Thank you!"

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Then you know they want a cup of tea.

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If you say, "Would you like a cup of tea?"

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And they're like, [br]"Uhh... I'm not really sure.

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Then you could make them[br]a cup of tea, or not,[br]

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but be aware they might not drink it.

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And if they don't drink it, then-

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and this is the important part-

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DON'T make them drink it.

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Just because you made it

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doesn't mean you are entitled

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to watch them drink it.

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And if they say, "No, thank you."

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Then, don't make them tea,

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at all.

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Just don't make them tea.

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Don't make them drink tea.

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Don't get annoyed at them

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for not wanting tea.

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They just don't want tea, okay?

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They might say, "Yes, please!

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That's kind of you.[br]

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And then when the tea arrives,[br]

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they actually don't want the tea at all.

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Sure, that's kind of annoying,

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as you'd gone all the effort of[br]making the tea,

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but they remain under no obligation to drink the tea.

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They did want tea; now they don't.

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Some people change their mind

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in the time that it takes to[br]boil the kettle, brew the tea[br]

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and add the milk.

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And it's okay for people to change their mind.

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And you are still not entitled [br]

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to watch them drink it.

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And if they're unconscious, don't make them tea.

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Unconscious people don't want tea.

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And they can't answer the question:

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"Do you want tea?"

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Because they're unconscious.

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Okay, maybe they were conscious

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when you asked them if they wanted tea

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and they said yes,

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but in the time it took you

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to boil the kettle, brew the tea,

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and add the milk, they are now unconscious.

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You should just put the tea down.

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Make sure the unconscious person is safe.

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And this is the important part again:

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Don't make them drink the tea.

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They said 'yes' then, sure,

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but unconscious people don't want tea.

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If someone said yes to tea,

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started drinking it,

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and then passed out before they've finished it,

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don't keep on pouring it down their throat.

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Take the tea away, make sure they're safe.

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Because unconscious people don't want tea.

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Trust me on this.

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If someone said yes to tea

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around your house last Saturday,

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that doesn't mean they want you

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to make them tea all the time.

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They don't want you to come [br]around at their place

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unexpectedly and make them tea

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and force them to drink it, going,

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"But you wanted tea last week!"

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Or to wake up to find you pouring tea

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down their throat, going,

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"But you wanted tea last night!"

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If you can understand how completely

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ludicrous it is to force people

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to have tea when they don't want tea,

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and you're able to understand

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when people don't want tea,

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then how hard is it to understand it

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when it comes to sex?

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Whether it's tea or sex,

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consent is everything.

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And on that note,

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I'm going to go make myself [br]a cup of tea.