[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've been asked to speak about the cultivation Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of mental and emotional balance. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which I imagine many of us Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,perhaps all of us here are interested in already Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I'm quite sure everyone is interested in Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,having a clear mind, having mental well being Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,emotional well being, a sense of health. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the implication in the title here is that balance Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is a key to both mental and emotional balance Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so how do we go about cultivating that? Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would suggest the key is attention. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think we all know from our own experience Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that our own minds Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can be our worst enemies Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can drive us mad Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while sitting quietly in a room with no stimuli from Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the environment at all, we can be abjectly miserable Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just by the rumination, the thoughts going through our minds Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,getting caught up, snared, in the grip of Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which i call rumination. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In other words we know we can Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,miserable all by ourselves with no help from outside Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's an inside job Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and many, but perhaps not all, people know Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it's also possible Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be sitting quietly in your chambers Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,quietly in a cave, quietly in a serene place in nature Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and with little or no stimulation from the environment Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have a sense of being truely well, happy Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you look around, and think, what's making me happy Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can't find anything outside Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that sense of well being is coming from Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,inside Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we should be sherlock holmes Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,here Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tracing this to the source. now in this marvelous Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,presentation I have the luck of being to listen to off stage Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,causation the agent was uniformly attributed to the brain Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's no question the brain is implicated Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in all of our subjective experiences Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the notion the only true explanation is a neurological one Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and i never heard the speaker say that Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i think, is limited. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes i think we have a brighter light shed Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on what's going on in subjective experience Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by looking into subjective experience itself. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looking for a psychological explanation Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so i suggested that attention is the key Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a person who can control his attention Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his or her attention Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can control the type of reality that person has a sense of Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,experiencing and living. for after all, Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as William James, the great pioneer of modern psychology stated Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the moment what we attend to is reality Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we take seriously, we count as real, only that which we attend to. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so when our minds are caught up Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in attention hyper activity, whether or not it's clinical Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,diagnosed, i think we all know what it's like, Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when the mind is like a runaway train Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like a elephant in rut Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to use on of the great indian Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,classic metaphores Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it can give us Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an enormous amount of grieve, especially Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when this rumination Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this obsessive compulsive flow of thinking Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is negative. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dwelling on passed misfortunes, the misbehaviour of other people Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,negativeness of once or another and they Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,catch us in their claws Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we really become victims of our own minds. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so negative rumination. If we're looking for Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mental balance, emotional balance, in so far Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that our minds are still prone to do Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,such negative rumination, such attention hyper activity Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where the mind really is out of control Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we're kinda just being dragged along in its wake Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then, as long as we are prone to that, Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or to the extend that we are prone to that, Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mental and emotional balance will be an unreachable ideal. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I call this OCDD Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this tendency. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not to be confused with the OCD obsessive compulsive disorder which is clinically diagnosed, Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the OCDD will not show up in the current version, the 5th version of Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the encyclopedia of mental diseases. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Probably because all of the editors of DSM have it, Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as do most of us, if not all of us here in the audience Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i call it obsessive compulsive delussional disorder Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but see how familiar it sounds. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,obsessive and in the sense that you would like to be just quiet Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nothing to think about, nothing you need to think about Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'd like to be quietly present Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,simply attending to... your body, your mind another person Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can't because the mind is like a chatterbox Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it always has something to say Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,obsessively thoughts are flowing out, one after another Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and as much you would love to turn it off, Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at least have a respite once in a while Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a bit of quiet in the chamber of your mind Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it does not give you that option Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it always has an answer Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you want to be quiet. Good let's talk about it. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's obsessive. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you think you have control Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,try to not think for one minute while your still awake Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's obsessive. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well and if that's not enough Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's also compulsive, that is the thoughts arise Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but don't just simply arise Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like images on a television screen Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they arise and we generally are compulsively drawn into them Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's a syphon, as if it sucks our attention in Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our focus is on the reference of the thought Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are there and then thinking about this and that Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was a really awfull image in that movie "little miss sunshine" Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,remember where they tied the dog to the back of the station wagon Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then forgot? Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yeah, it was a comedy so no animals were harmed in that sequence Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but nevertheless, we're the dog Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the rumination is the stationwagon Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it draws us in, it drags us along. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,does that resonate with your experience? Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's worse than that. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,obsessive would be bad enough. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compulsive is even worse Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it gets worse Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's delusional Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that is when we get caught in the vortex of this kind of flow Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of rumination Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the general tendency Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and see for yourself, i'm not trying to tell you what your experience is like, Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i'm making a generalisation Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,see whether the shoe fits. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we tend to take seriously whatever we're thinking Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,eventhough we're not thinking it Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is thinking us Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the dog is not driving the car. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but is it not true that when we're thinking about something Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fixating, ruminating, obsessing Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about something Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there's a general tendency to think Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i think therefor it's true Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,psychologist call that refractory period. Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where the mind gets caught in the grip of an emotion Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a memory, a desire, and we can't see outside of that filter system Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if i'm ruminating negatively about some person Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,resentment is arising, maybe contempt or disgust is arising Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,towards that person Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in so far as i am in the flow of that rumination Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that obsessive compulsive delusional disorder Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,i cannot imagine that person has any good qualities Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or even any neutral qualities