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(Question from the audience)

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If you have a youth group

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with a lot of single people;

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they're not married or anything.

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Let's say one of the girls visits one of the boys

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and she sees that he's a professing Christian,

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but she accidentally sees that

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he has porn on his computer,

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for example.

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Would it be wrong for her to confront him

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and say I've seen this sin in your life;

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that's wrong - repent from it?

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(Charles speaking) Well, it would not be wrong

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for her to confront him with his sin.

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Usually, if you're dealing about something like that,

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that's getting into an area

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where it's more appropriate for a brother

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to take care of that.

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A girl that really wants to minister to a guy,

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one of the best things she can do is

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say you know this guy over here is a real Christian,

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you ought to go and talk to him.

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That's one of the best things she can do.

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(from the audience) Is it the other way around for a guy?

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(Charles) Absolutely.

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He ought to direct that girl to Christian girls.

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One of the worst things a girl can do

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is say to a non-Christian guy is,

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"I'm a Christian and I can't really have time with

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you unless you're a Christian."

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What she's doing is setting him up

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to make a false profession.

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To try to use God to get something that he wants,

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which is her.

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And that keeps him from true faith

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and true repentance.

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Most of the things that take place between

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girls and guys where they're supposedly

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witnessing or ministering -

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most of it is worthless.

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It's worse than nothing.