WEBVTT 00:00:17.930 --> 00:00:20.197 Today I am going to tell you 00:00:20.197 --> 00:00:21.706 about a revolution. 00:00:21.896 --> 00:00:24.222 A revolution of communication 00:00:24.553 --> 00:00:27.036 a scientific revolution of observation. 00:00:27.446 --> 00:00:29.756 With this revolution we become 00:00:30.146 --> 00:00:31.866 the dog’s best friends 00:00:32.106 --> 00:00:34.447 and we start to truly see dogs 00:00:34.447 --> 00:00:36.149 as they deserve to be seen: 00:00:36.379 --> 00:00:38.859 as our best friends. 00:00:39.279 --> 00:00:41.969 You will see how dog training 00:00:41.969 --> 00:00:44.669 can improve your own relationships, 00:00:44.669 --> 00:00:46.519 and not just with dogs. 00:00:46.519 --> 00:00:49.369 We already have the tools and knowledge, 00:00:49.719 --> 00:00:52.119 and it's happening all over the world. 00:00:52.549 --> 00:00:54.099 So picture this: 00:00:54.719 --> 00:00:57.799 You come home, after a long day at work, 00:00:58.279 --> 00:00:59.589 an annoying boss, 00:00:59.589 --> 00:01:01.749 a never-ending traffic-jam 00:01:01.749 --> 00:01:04.499 and as you reach home, your sanctuary, 00:01:04.499 --> 00:01:07.369 you open the door, and instead of getting 00:01:07.369 --> 00:01:10.529 that moment of peace and quiet 00:01:10.529 --> 00:01:12.919 your dog attacks you at the doorway 00:01:12.919 --> 00:01:15.529 jumping on you, barking and bouncing 00:01:15.529 --> 00:01:17.169 and loving you to death - 00:01:17.169 --> 00:01:21.169 not a fun way to be greeted, right? 00:01:21.586 --> 00:01:23.066 So how do we react? 00:01:23.556 --> 00:01:26.736 Do we get mad? Yell? Raise our knee? 00:01:27.126 --> 00:01:28.986 And us reacting the way that we do 00:01:28.986 --> 00:01:33.006 out of impatience, anger or misconception 00:01:33.006 --> 00:01:35.076 is only understandable. 00:01:35.076 --> 00:01:38.276 Misconception because most of the world 00:01:38.276 --> 00:01:41.146 sees a dog's "unwanted behaviors" 00:01:41.566 --> 00:01:43.726 as dominance based behaviors 00:01:43.816 --> 00:01:45.036 power struggles 00:01:45.036 --> 00:01:46.806 where dogs try to take charge 00:01:46.806 --> 00:01:48.696 and boss us around. 00:01:48.696 --> 00:01:51.476 Out of this misinterpretation 00:01:51.476 --> 00:01:54.596 of dog's behavior we, dog lovers, 00:01:54.596 --> 00:01:56.906 were convinced our relationship with 00:01:56.906 --> 00:01:59.866 our dogs is based on a power struggle, 00:01:59.866 --> 00:02:01.646 and that for the sake of our dogs 00:02:01.646 --> 00:02:03.386 we should win this battle 00:02:03.386 --> 00:02:07.096 assertively handling our best friends. 00:02:07.568 --> 00:02:09.488 We had to punish them, 00:02:09.488 --> 00:02:11.768 to subdue them, yell at them 00:02:11.768 --> 00:02:13.618 and even hurt them 00:02:13.618 --> 00:02:15.558 in the name of training. 00:02:18.370 --> 00:02:20.280 Pelle, come! 00:02:21.409 --> 00:02:22.069 Sit 00:02:22.161 --> 00:02:22.831 Down 00:02:23.038 --> 00:02:24.538 Good dog! 00:02:26.307 --> 00:02:31.697 This is Pelle. Her name means wonder. 00:02:32.841 --> 00:02:35.541 Even though she is a wonder-dog, 00:02:35.541 --> 00:02:37.601 even Pelle had to be taught 00:02:37.601 --> 00:02:39.831 there is a better way of showing 00:02:39.831 --> 00:02:42.411 and getting affection than jumping on me. 00:02:42.411 --> 00:02:44.611 I like that she’s exited to see me 00:02:44.611 --> 00:02:46.281 but I don’t like to be attacked, 00:02:46.281 --> 00:02:48.221 even if it is out of love. 00:02:48.621 --> 00:02:50.851 So she was taught that the best way 00:02:50.851 --> 00:02:52.802 to get the attention she wants, 00:02:52.802 --> 00:02:54.702 is to come and sit in front of me 00:02:54.702 --> 00:02:55.972 and wait. 00:02:55.972 --> 00:02:57.232 And she also learned that 00:02:57.232 --> 00:02:59.562 the attention is worth the wait. 00:03:00.902 --> 00:03:02.682 Pelle, good dog! 00:03:05.550 --> 00:03:06.680 The point is that we should 00:03:06.680 --> 00:03:08.220 all know better, 00:03:08.542 --> 00:03:11.322 science has proved it to us decades ago 00:03:11.322 --> 00:03:14.952 dogs are not dominance driven creatures! 00:03:14.952 --> 00:03:17.282 So why do we keep training them 00:03:17.282 --> 00:03:18.872 as if they are? 00:03:19.734 --> 00:03:22.144 Yet some of us don't appreciate dog hair 00:03:22.144 --> 00:03:24.244 on our couch and want the dog 00:03:24.244 --> 00:03:25.794 not to sit on it. 00:03:25.794 --> 00:03:27.714 We have to understand 00:03:27.714 --> 00:03:29.454 that when a dog sits on a couch, 00:03:29.454 --> 00:03:32.304 he does it not because it represents 00:03:32.304 --> 00:03:33.794 some ideal of control, 00:03:33.794 --> 00:03:36.164 some representation of dominance 00:03:36.164 --> 00:03:37.564 over our living room, 00:03:37.637 --> 00:03:39.137 but because it is the most 00:03:39.137 --> 00:03:41.427 comfortable place to lie in. 00:03:41.427 --> 00:03:43.727 that is why you bought the couch 00:03:43.727 --> 00:03:45.417 in the first place! 00:03:45.590 --> 00:03:47.760 So once we understand that, 00:03:47.760 --> 00:03:50.010 the dog only wants a nice worm 00:03:50.010 --> 00:03:52.930 cozy place to rest on next to us. 00:03:53.770 --> 00:03:55.410 Pelle, Place. 00:03:56.661 --> 00:03:57.931 Good dog! 00:03:58.139 --> 00:03:59.599 Then we can teach the dog 00:03:59.599 --> 00:04:00.799 and reinforce the dog, 00:04:00.799 --> 00:04:01.819 reward the dog, 00:04:01.819 --> 00:04:04.929 for using that nice, warm, soft, 00:04:04.929 --> 00:04:07.709 cozy place to rest on next to us. 00:04:08.459 --> 00:04:10.379 Dogs should have rules, 00:04:10.539 --> 00:04:12.109 and have boundaries, 00:04:12.479 --> 00:04:14.369 but how do we do it? 00:04:14.549 --> 00:04:15.979 There's a great example 00:04:15.979 --> 00:04:18.339 that dog behaviorist, Kathy Sdao 00:04:18.459 --> 00:04:21.289 uses to explain what usually happens 00:04:21.289 --> 00:04:23.419 when people try to set boundaries: 00:04:24.763 --> 00:04:26.353 Say you need to get somewhere, 00:04:26.613 --> 00:04:28.873 so you hail a taxi, you jump in, 00:04:28.873 --> 00:04:30.663 you close the door, you buckle up, 00:04:30.663 --> 00:04:32.673 and you tell the driver: 00:04:32.673 --> 00:04:33.933 "Don't take me to Tel-Aviv, 00:04:33.933 --> 00:04:36.283 And also don't take me to Jerusalem, 00:04:36.283 --> 00:04:38.133 And don't take me to Haifa". 00:04:38.922 --> 00:04:40.272 Do you think the cab driver 00:04:40.272 --> 00:04:41.472 will have any idea 00:04:41.472 --> 00:04:43.342 where you want him to take you? 00:04:43.806 --> 00:04:46.256 Of course the driver’s obvious question 00:04:46.256 --> 00:04:48.916 would be "Where do you want to go?" 00:04:49.175 --> 00:04:51.905 And dogs are just like that, 00:04:51.905 --> 00:04:53.735 they want us tell to them 00:04:53.735 --> 00:04:55.655 what we want them to do, 00:04:55.655 --> 00:04:58.135 in fact they are desperately waiting 00:04:58.495 --> 00:04:59.995 for our guidance. 00:05:00.286 --> 00:05:03.676 It’s so easy when we tell people 00:05:03.676 --> 00:05:04.896 what it is we want, 00:05:04.896 --> 00:05:07.406 and then we get what we want. 00:05:08.067 --> 00:05:09.907 People are no different: 00:05:10.519 --> 00:05:11.839 I have this friend, 00:05:12.169 --> 00:05:14.219 and I'm not going to mention names, 00:05:14.493 --> 00:05:15.933 but she had this boyfriend, 00:05:16.315 --> 00:05:17.835 and they were going out for about a year, 00:05:17.835 --> 00:05:19.535 and things were about to get serious, 00:05:19.745 --> 00:05:22.255 but the guy had this one trait 00:05:22.255 --> 00:05:23.775 that drove her mad: 00:05:24.358 --> 00:05:27.048 the guy possessed the incredible ability 00:05:27.096 --> 00:05:29.546 to completely ignore a messy house. 00:05:29.596 --> 00:05:32.226 I mean piles of laundry everywhere, 00:05:32.476 --> 00:05:34.946 dishes in the sink overflowing, 00:05:35.132 --> 00:05:37.732 stuff on the table – the works. 00:05:37.732 --> 00:05:39.492 It drove her insane 00:05:39.492 --> 00:05:41.522 and they used to fight about it 00:05:41.581 --> 00:05:42.961 all the time. 00:05:43.392 --> 00:05:45.662 And then, tired of fighting, 00:05:45.662 --> 00:05:48.352 she decided to try a different approach. 00:05:48.793 --> 00:05:49.613 Mine. 00:05:50.000 --> 00:05:52.450 So she started capturing behaviors 00:05:52.450 --> 00:05:53.930 she wanted him to keep, 00:05:53.930 --> 00:05:55.600 small stuff at first, 00:05:55.600 --> 00:05:56.830 when he put 00:05:56.830 --> 00:05:58.730 his socks in the laundry basket, 00:05:58.730 --> 00:06:01.390 when he washed one cup. 00:06:01.663 --> 00:06:03.763 She rewarded those behaviors 00:06:03.763 --> 00:06:05.453 with things he liked: 00:06:05.978 --> 00:06:08.098 a hug, a movie, 00:06:08.098 --> 00:06:10.558 anything that made him happy. 00:06:11.206 --> 00:06:14.136 Gradually the house got cleaner 00:06:14.136 --> 00:06:15.646 and less messy, 00:06:15.646 --> 00:06:16.996 which was great! 00:06:16.996 --> 00:06:19.964 But what was really amazing to her was 00:06:19.964 --> 00:06:22.794 the affect this had on their relationship. 00:06:22.855 --> 00:06:24.415 She started noticing 00:06:24.415 --> 00:06:25.785 the things he did right, 00:06:26.032 --> 00:06:29.172 and she found herself liking him more. 00:06:29.718 --> 00:06:32.268 Today they are happily married. 00:06:34.386 --> 00:06:35.906 And our graduates of the 00:06:35.906 --> 00:06:38.374 Marker Training institute here in Israel, 00:06:38.374 --> 00:06:39.904 led by Nuvi Carmel, 00:06:39.904 --> 00:06:42.524 will testify the same thing: 00:06:42.584 --> 00:06:44.284 how learning to train dogs 00:06:44.710 --> 00:06:47.930 has completely changed their perspective, 00:06:47.930 --> 00:06:49.960 not only in the dog training world, 00:06:49.960 --> 00:06:52.950 but everywhere: their relationships with 00:06:52.950 --> 00:06:55.100 their partners, their parents, 00:06:55.100 --> 00:06:57.230 their neighbors, their children. 00:06:57.786 --> 00:07:00.296 They stopped looking for what everyone 00:07:00.296 --> 00:07:02.296 was doing wrong, and started 00:07:02.296 --> 00:07:04.676 seeing the things that were right. 00:07:05.082 --> 00:07:06.802 And that's the trick basically: 00:07:07.152 --> 00:07:09.702 focusing on behavior you want to keep 00:07:09.712 --> 00:07:10.972 and encourage, 00:07:10.972 --> 00:07:12.708 then helping your subject - 00:07:12.708 --> 00:07:15.198 whether it's a dog, or a person, or 00:07:15.198 --> 00:07:18.438 any living being - to learn to offer it. 00:07:19.409 --> 00:07:22.059 That's what the revolution is all about: 00:07:22.059 --> 00:07:23.799 helping them learn. 00:07:24.873 --> 00:07:27.363 Sounds simple in theory, right? 00:07:27.944 --> 00:07:30.294 But what about the extreme cases? 00:07:30.294 --> 00:07:31.964 Let's get back to dogs. 00:07:32.900 --> 00:07:34.250 There’s a common example 00:07:34.250 --> 00:07:35.640 that happens in many homes: 00:07:35.640 --> 00:07:37.540 Let's take a ten month old 00:07:37.540 --> 00:07:39.790 Golden Retriever mixed, "Keila". 00:07:40.120 --> 00:07:43.210 Now Keila is your common house dog: 00:07:43.210 --> 00:07:46.300 happy for attention, loves to be petted, 00:07:46.300 --> 00:07:47.790 great with children. 00:07:48.244 --> 00:07:49.804 The problem with Keila starts 00:07:49.804 --> 00:07:52.344 when there's food or bones around. 00:07:52.715 --> 00:07:54.455 Whenever anyone comes close 00:07:54.455 --> 00:07:55.805 to her and her bone, 00:07:55.989 --> 00:07:58.669 the dog tenses up and growls. 00:07:59.176 --> 00:08:01.086 According to what we were lead to believe, 00:08:01.146 --> 00:08:04.316 in order to take charge of a growling dog 00:08:04.316 --> 00:08:07.436 and control the situation, 00:08:07.436 --> 00:08:09.526 we had to punish them 00:08:09.526 --> 00:08:11.776 every time such behavior occurred. 00:08:11.776 --> 00:08:13.296 We had to raise our voice, 00:08:13.296 --> 00:08:16.136 we had to yell: "Stop it Keila, bad dog!” 00:08:16.569 --> 00:08:18.389 But is Keila a bad dog? 00:08:18.732 --> 00:08:22.732 The truth is she is just a frightened dog, 00:08:23.229 --> 00:08:25.259 terrified of the possibility 00:08:25.259 --> 00:08:27.529 that someone might take her food 00:08:27.529 --> 00:08:28.929 or her bones away. 00:08:29.933 --> 00:08:31.123 In the past 00:08:31.123 --> 00:08:33.303 we would have punished the growling, 00:08:33.648 --> 00:08:35.088 the symptom really, 00:08:35.401 --> 00:08:36.841 but in Marker Training 00:08:36.841 --> 00:08:40.020 we want to treat the cause of the problem, 00:08:40.020 --> 00:08:43.320 the emotion that is behind the behavior. 00:08:43.897 --> 00:08:45.637 If Keila could speak our language, 00:08:45.637 --> 00:08:47.177 this would be easy - 00:08:47.177 --> 00:08:48.537 “Hey Keila, you have nothing to worry 00:08:48.537 --> 00:08:50.267 about, we’re not going to take your stuff, 00:08:50.267 --> 00:08:51.417 everything is OK!” - 00:08:52.122 --> 00:08:53.352 But she doesn’t. 00:08:53.625 --> 00:08:55.205 So let’s communicate with her 00:08:55.205 --> 00:08:57.415 in a way she will understand. 00:08:57.415 --> 00:09:00.325 Let’s teach her she has nothing to fear. 00:09:00.878 --> 00:09:04.028 We’ll use classical conditioning to teach Keila 00:09:04.028 --> 00:09:06.038 that every time we come close to her 00:09:06.038 --> 00:09:07.268 and her bones, 00:09:07.336 --> 00:09:09.466 we give her good things. 00:09:09.466 --> 00:09:10.886 Good things happen 00:09:10.886 --> 00:09:12.946 and we’re not taking anything away. 00:09:12.946 --> 00:09:15.186 Then soon Keila will start to look forward 00:09:15.186 --> 00:09:16.716 to us coming closer to her, 00:09:16.724 --> 00:09:18.964 and the growling will disappear. 00:09:18.964 --> 00:09:22.754 But most importantly – so will the fear. 00:09:23.491 --> 00:09:27.221 How easy it is when doing it right. 00:09:27.221 --> 00:09:31.221 It’s so simple without using force. 00:09:31.221 --> 00:09:34.101 It’s such common sense, it’s so obvious. 00:09:34.101 --> 00:09:36.721 So how come we still use force 00:09:36.721 --> 00:09:38.781 as a dog training method? 00:09:39.397 --> 00:09:42.347 The truth is a lack of knowledge. 00:09:42.347 --> 00:09:44.127 And false believes about 00:09:44.127 --> 00:09:46.117 what truly motivates dogs. 00:09:46.117 --> 00:09:49.807 And this is what we’re all here to change. 00:09:50.877 --> 00:09:52.147 The thing with dogs 00:09:52.147 --> 00:09:54.057 is that they learn all the time, 00:09:54.057 --> 00:09:56.197 they learn from us and about us. 00:09:56.475 --> 00:09:58.715 And if they show this amazing ability 00:09:58.715 --> 00:10:01.145 to learn, don't we owe it to them 00:10:01.145 --> 00:10:02.845 to take responsibility 00:10:02.845 --> 00:10:04.765 and teach them properly? 00:10:05.419 --> 00:10:07.969 Our revolution is ongoing. 00:10:08.409 --> 00:10:10.489 Dog lovers all over the world 00:10:10.489 --> 00:10:13.499 have found a better way, a way to 00:10:13.499 --> 00:10:15.859 establish constructive communication 00:10:15.859 --> 00:10:17.009 with our learner, 00:10:17.009 --> 00:10:18.809 to read their body language, 00:10:18.809 --> 00:10:20.979 relying on studies that help us 00:10:20.979 --> 00:10:22.829 to better understand dogs, 00:10:22.829 --> 00:10:24.339 so we can help them 00:10:24.339 --> 00:10:26.319 to better understand us. 00:10:26.860 --> 00:10:28.820 And for those who found this way, 00:10:28.820 --> 00:10:30.570 the results are amazing! 00:10:30.974 --> 00:10:33.524 The dream of having a dog in our home 00:10:33.524 --> 00:10:36.924 stopped being a nightmare – no more having 00:10:36.924 --> 00:10:40.234 to be the ever vigilant "pack leader" 00:10:40.234 --> 00:10:43.214 forever engaged in a battle for control. 00:10:44.749 --> 00:10:47.499 It brought peace and love 00:10:48.199 --> 00:10:49.939 back into our homes, 00:10:49.939 --> 00:10:51.939 the way only dogs can. 00:10:55.012 --> 00:10:59.012 The revolution is going on as we speak. 00:10:59.583 --> 00:11:02.623 We have the tools and knowledge. 00:11:03.069 --> 00:11:05.049 You can start doing this yourself. 00:11:05.452 --> 00:11:08.912 With your spouse, your dog, your child, 00:11:09.221 --> 00:11:11.711 start small, and you will see 00:11:11.711 --> 00:11:13.881 big change happening. 00:11:14.139 --> 00:11:17.449 Our dogs deserve it. And so do we. 00:11:17.858 --> 00:11:19.008 Thank you.