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Hey everyone!

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Thanks for checking back.

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This week's video is about the holidays, thanksgiving

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all those stupid things that we hate that revolve around food.

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So hang on, I'm going to talk to you about it.

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So, here in the States,

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cause I know many of you are all over the world watching this,

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but here in the states,

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it's november.

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It's creeping up on the end of november

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Thanksgiving is coming! AHH!

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Everybody is freaking out.

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And I've been hearing from many of you

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I'm already worried.

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Isn't it too early to be worried already?

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About thanksgiving? But I've been thinking about it!

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AHH!

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Right?

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We're all freaking out.

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And I know that Canada, all my Canadians

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whut?

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You already had Thanksgiving.

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and I'm sorry that I missed that.

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But I do have my coping with the holidays video.

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And I hope you checked that out.

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And for many of you, you can go back and check that out now.

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But this is a time of the year,

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right? We're into fall, and then to december, and then we're into Christmas,

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it's Hanukkah, it's all sorts of holidays, all revolving around food.

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Ugh!

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Not only is it food, but it's family.

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Urgh!

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Even more stressful, right?

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So, no, it's not too early to start freaking out.

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I understand.

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This is probably the two worst combinations that we can have

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right?

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Also, everybody's kind of on edge in general.

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Holidays make people a little nervous.

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Family can make everybody a little nervous.

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Not to mention Christmas and the shopping and the gifts and, you know.

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So it's stressful.

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[sighs]

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I even get stressed out just talking about it right now.

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Right?

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So. Something that I want to talk to you a little about as far as Thanksgiving,

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and for those of you who don't have Thanksgiving or you've already had your Thanksgiving,

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just keep this in mind for this time of year.

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Because this is something that I need to work on.

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Something we should all constantly be thinking about and doing.

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This is reflecting.

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Okay?

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You know how I tell you guys, you know,

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"Oh that is so exciting!"

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"Good job!"

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"I am so proud of you!"

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"Yes!"

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You know when I'm getting comments and getting excited about all the progress you're making?

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And you think, "Kati, that was just... that was just little."

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"I barely did anything. Eurgh."

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Your ED tries to take it back from you, like,

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"That wasn't that good"

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"Kati's lying."

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I'm not lying, your ED's lying.

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And we need to look back and see how far we've come.

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Often we don't look back.

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Because we're too focused.

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It's so hard and we're working all the time, and "I messed up this day"

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"But I did okay this day"

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and, you know, we're in it.

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Sometimes, even those of us who don't have an eating disorder

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we just need to [sigh]

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just need to take a breath.

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I need to sit back. I need to look, where was I a year ago?

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You know where I was a year ago?

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I was just deciding to start doing this.

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Can you believe it's already been a year?

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HOLY MOLEY!

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I remember, I was having Christmas, and I was in California, and I was so excited.

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I was like, "Mom, you're never going to believe it"

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"I have eleven views."

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Given, it was probably me, my fianceé, my mom and his parents watching. Right? Those were my eleven views.

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But I've never been so excited.

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Now we're like at 83,000 or something. Right?

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That's a huge change!

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Holy moley!

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And all of you have things like that going on in your life.

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And I want you to look back. Where was I a year ago?

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How far have I come?

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What's changed?

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What stressed me out?

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What did I struggle with?

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What did I do?

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Think about it.

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Take some time.

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Okay?

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And that's really what I want to talk to you about.

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Today is just taking time to reflect.

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You know those recovery journals I told you to make?

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Might be a good thing to grab it, open it up, you know.

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It doesn't have to be Thanksgiving, you can just say "giving thanks."

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We should all be giving thanks every day, right?

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I have a roof over my head.

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I have clothes on my back.

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I have people in my life that I can call, I can count on.

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There's a lot of things going for us.

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Even the small things.

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So let's say, maybe I have friends who I've isolated, maybe I have friends who aren't very close,

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but we still have a roof over our head.

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We still have some way to get help, whether it's contacting the treatment team or anything like that,

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you have me.

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You have my community.

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You have each other, right?

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Let's give it a thumbs up. I think it's down here somewhere.

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Thumbs up! Right?

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We're here to support one another.

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[thumbs up] That's a good thing.

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Sometimes we just need that little boost.

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So take some time out.

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Grab your journal.

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What am I thankful for?

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Start small.

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I'm thankful that I had a shower today.

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You know? I live in LA and there's a lot of homeless people.

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And that's kind of sad, if you can't shower.

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You know how nice it is to put on a new pair of socks, like a clean fluffy new pair of socks?

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Ooo! I love that feeling.

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Simple things. Start writing little things down.

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You know?

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I can watch TV! Not everybody has electricity or television. Right?

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I have you guys. I get to communicate with you all day!

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What a joy, right?

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I'm thankful for you!

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And so, take the time to let people know.

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I think it can make us feel really good to give to other people as well.

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So other people in your life know, "hey I'm thankful for you"

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"Thanks for being there for me and I know things have been a little rough, but you've really stuck it out, and I love you."

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You know, let people know.

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We used to have this thing we did in my family, in our Thanksgiving, growing up, in the morning of thanksgiving

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before we went to my grandma's, we'd go around the table and talk about our number one thing we're thankful for this year.

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What's happened?

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What are we thankful for?

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Right?

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I used to think about it days in advance, cause I'm like, "I only get one thing!"

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You know? We're so fortunate.

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So take time. Grab that journal.

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Tell people around you that you love them, that you're thankful for them,

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because that's really what this holiday season is about.

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We're going to try and stay focussed on that.

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In Healthy mind, Healthy Body, we're focussing on what we're thankful for.

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We're not focussing on the food, and all that shenanigans,

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we'll deal with that later, in another video,

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but right now, today,

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grab that journal!

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Write it down!

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You know, "thankful".

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What am I thankful for?

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Start with something small.

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And you can say, I'm thankful for Kati, Kati's thankful for me,

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I'm thankful that I have people in this community to talk to,

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There's quite a few right there.

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So let's get started.