WEBVTT 00:00:07.840 --> 00:00:10.952 Look at my two arms. 00:00:12.320 --> 00:00:15.741 My right arm... 00:00:16.157 --> 00:00:18.865 it can do calligraphy, 00:00:19.115 --> 00:00:21.506 it has written... 00:00:22.125 --> 00:00:24.914 hundreds of poems. 00:00:27.840 --> 00:00:32.544 It can invite the bell. 00:00:36.160 --> 00:00:41.106 And yet, my right hand is never... 00:00:41.520 --> 00:00:43.840 proud of itself. 00:00:46.720 --> 00:00:52.879 My right hand will never tell my left hand, 00:00:53.420 --> 00:00:55.760 "You are good for nothing. 00:00:58.301 --> 00:01:01.436 "You don't write any poem, 00:01:02.890 --> 00:01:06.454 you don't practice calligraphy." 00:01:11.440 --> 00:01:13.459 Why? Because in my right hand... 00:01:13.459 --> 00:01:17.635 there is the wisdom of equanimity, "upeksha." 00:01:17.635 --> 00:01:23.893 It knows that it is the left hand at the same time. 00:01:24.720 --> 00:01:28.373 And it behaves according to that wisdom. 00:01:28.706 --> 00:01:36.103 One day I was using my left hand to hold a nail... 00:01:36.400 --> 00:01:41.964 I wanted to hang something on the wall. 00:01:42.172 --> 00:01:46.578 And my right hand was using the hammer. 00:01:47.898 --> 00:01:53.102 That day I don't know why it was not so skillful... 00:01:53.560 --> 00:01:56.570 Instead of pounding the nail, 00:01:56.570 --> 00:02:01.179 it pounded my finger. 00:02:01.387 --> 00:02:05.788 The moment it made the mistake and created suffering, 00:02:05.788 --> 00:02:12.408 it put down the hammer and took good care right away. 00:02:12.991 --> 00:02:16.074 It did not have to say, "I'm sorry." 00:02:16.074 --> 00:02:19.385 But the way it behaves is perfect. 00:02:19.750 --> 00:02:26.737 It considers the left hand as itself. 00:02:26.946 --> 00:02:28.513 There's no distinction that... 00:02:28.513 --> 00:02:32.676 "You know, I am the right hand. I'm taking care of you, the left hand. 00:02:32.676 --> 00:02:35.840 You have to remember that!" 00:02:37.520 --> 00:02:43.321 So it practices the emptiness of loving, 00:02:43.321 --> 00:02:47.591 emptiness of transmitting in a very perfect way. 00:02:47.799 --> 00:02:51.280 And we know that in our body, in our consciousness, 00:02:51.280 --> 00:02:59.365 there is that wisdom we call "the wisdom of non-discrimination." 00:03:01.252 --> 00:03:04.815 The sanskrit term is nirvikalpajnana, 00:03:04.815 --> 00:03:10.344 the wisdom of non-discrimination. 00:03:47.315 --> 00:03:50.430 This means discrimination... 00:03:50.430 --> 00:03:54.299 This is non-discrimination wisdom. 00:03:55.120 --> 00:04:01.329 We have it. We have that seed of wisdom within us 00:04:01.329 --> 00:04:06.824 within our body, within our consciousness. 00:04:12.320 --> 00:04:18.065 We can develop it in order to... 00:04:20.000 --> 00:04:24.546 to have its guidance in our daily life. 00:04:25.920 --> 00:04:32.501 We have to treat our partner, our mother, our children... 00:04:32.501 --> 00:04:39.483 we have to treat other groups in exactly the same way. 00:04:40.160 --> 00:04:46.850 The Hindus should treat the Muslims in that way; 00:04:46.850 --> 00:04:51.980 the Muslims should treat the Hindus in that way. 00:04:55.600 --> 00:04:59.559 Whites should treat Blacks in that way; 00:04:59.559 --> 00:05:03.218 Blacks should treat Whites in that way. 00:05:04.532 --> 00:05:07.386 Israelis and Palestinians... 00:05:07.386 --> 00:05:15.620 they should look at each other like the right and the left hands. 00:05:16.037 --> 00:05:22.740 Only the wisdom of non-discrimination can bring about true peace, true love. 00:05:23.406 --> 00:05:29.301 And it will help remove the fear. 00:05:30.240 --> 00:05:34.381 I don't think that the right hand is afraid of the left hand, 00:05:34.560 --> 00:05:37.509 and that the left hand is afraid of right hand, 00:05:37.509 --> 00:05:40.894 because both of them have the wisdom of non-discrimination. 00:05:40.894 --> 00:05:45.420 They know that they belong to each other; they are inside of each other. 00:05:45.587 --> 00:05:49.790 Everything that happens to the right hand will happen to the left hand. 00:05:49.790 --> 00:05:53.797 The suffering of one finger... 00:05:54.400 --> 00:06:01.045 is the concern of all ten fingers. 00:06:02.880 --> 00:06:06.110 This is the way we have to train ourselves. 00:06:06.110 --> 00:06:09.659 Mindfulness, looking deeply... 00:06:10.800 --> 00:06:17.208 is the only way for us to touch the nature of interbeing 00:06:17.680 --> 00:06:22.300 that can make the wisdom of non-discrimination manifest. 00:06:22.675 --> 00:06:26.561 If we act, if we love, if we give... 00:06:26.800 --> 00:06:31.132 according to this spirit of non-discrimination, 00:06:31.132 --> 00:06:37.433 we can only create happiness and well-being. 00:06:45.280 --> 00:06:48.132 I remember 15 years ago, 00:06:48.132 --> 00:06:56.090 I had the first chance to  taste a peanut butter cookie. 00:06:56.382 --> 00:07:01.635 It was at the Zen center in Tassajara. 00:07:02.050 --> 00:07:04.917 I liked it very much. 00:07:05.250 --> 00:07:11.375 I learned that, in order to make peanut  butter cookies, you have to prepare... 00:07:13.581 --> 00:07:20.324 before putting the cookies into the oven you have to separate... 00:07:20.324 --> 00:07:22.925 to make individual cookies. 00:07:23.092 --> 00:07:25.911 But when the cookies come to the oven, 00:07:25.911 --> 00:07:28.548 they begin to discriminate against each other, 00:07:28.548 --> 00:07:30.650 push [each other] a little bit on the other side, 00:07:30.650 --> 00:07:34.127 "Let me be in the central position!" 00:07:34.396 --> 00:07:35.936 "You are ugly!" 00:07:35.936 --> 00:07:38.860 "You are not brown, beautiful like me!" 00:07:39.068 --> 00:07:42.494 "You don't deserve that place!" And then... 00:07:43.120 --> 00:07:46.373 discrimination begins to take place. 00:07:46.748 --> 00:07:50.174 And the war, and the suffering. 00:07:50.341 --> 00:07:54.953 They don't know that they are one. 00:07:56.000 --> 00:08:00.284 And that is very much the way we deal with each other 00:08:00.284 --> 00:08:05.912 because we don't know how to touch our ground of being. 00:08:06.620 --> 00:08:11.840 We have lost our wisdom of non-discrimination. 00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:19.093 When I spoke to you about Four Elements of True Love, 00:08:19.093 --> 00:08:23.408 I did not say much about Upeksha [non-discrimination]. 00:08:23.408 --> 00:08:26.468 because Upeksha is difficult. 00:08:26.676 --> 00:08:31.334 Upeksha comes after Mudita [joy]... 00:08:31.578 --> 00:08:37.714 after Karuna [compassion], and after Maitri [lovingkindness]. 00:08:37.714 --> 00:08:40.607 The first element of true love is Maitri, 00:08:40.607 --> 00:08:45.514 the capacity of offering joy and happiness. 00:08:45.848 --> 00:08:52.541 Karuna, the capacity of removing the pain, the sorrow and transforming them. 00:08:52.720 --> 00:08:59.028 And joy [Mudita] - True love should be able to give us joy. 00:08:59.410 --> 00:09:03.053 When we cry all day, all night, 00:09:03.053 --> 00:09:06.095 we know that our love is not true love. 00:09:06.095 --> 00:09:10.872 And finally the fourth element of true love is Upeksha. 00:09:10.872 --> 00:09:15.462 That is translated "equanimity." 00:09:15.462 --> 00:09:19.779 Equanimity is exactly the wisdom of non-discrimination. 00:09:20.000 --> 00:09:27.134 When you are a true lover, you don't discriminate anymore. 00:09:27.680 --> 00:09:32.185 The one who loves and the one who is loved, 00:09:32.185 --> 00:09:35.542 you become one. 00:09:36.292 --> 00:09:38.881 Your beloved is you. 00:09:39.520 --> 00:09:42.418 And you are your beloved. 00:09:42.585 --> 00:09:50.000 Only by having that kind of wisdom of equanimity, 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:52.889 your love becomes perfect. 00:09:52.889 --> 00:09:57.039 And there will be no suffering, no discrimination. 00:09:59.760 --> 00:10:04.220 And if, looking into the nature of your love, 00:10:04.220 --> 00:10:09.425 you don't see any element of equanimity, you have to practice. 00:10:09.800 --> 00:10:18.828 Because the love that is based on notions of self and other, 00:10:19.055 --> 00:10:26.012 and "this" is outside of "that," that love is not deep yet. 00:10:28.800 --> 00:10:32.887 If you are a psychotherapist, 00:10:33.095 --> 00:10:35.751 I think you can learn a lot from this teaching. 00:10:36.496 --> 00:10:39.829 According to psychotherapy, 00:10:41.280 --> 00:10:50.000 the aim of the therapy is to regain, to restore a healthy self. 00:10:59.120 --> 00:11:05.599 But even if you have a so-called healthy self, you continue to suffer 00:11:05.599 --> 00:11:09.133 because you cannot come out of your self. 00:11:09.133 --> 00:11:11.756 You are still locked in the idea of self. 00:11:11.756 --> 00:11:15.173 That is why suffering continues. 00:11:15.920 --> 00:11:21.653 The true relief is you get out of the notion of self. 00:11:21.861 --> 00:11:26.673 In a relationship, if the self is still very strong, 00:11:26.858 --> 00:11:28.855 you know what will happen. 00:11:28.855 --> 00:11:32.292 There will be clash between self and self. 00:11:32.751 --> 00:11:38.240 To give up your self, to become one with your beloved... 00:11:38.240 --> 00:11:40.503 is to practice non-self. 00:11:40.503 --> 00:11:44.335 And your degree of happiness, understanding and love... 00:11:44.335 --> 00:11:48.098 will increase by 1000 times. 00:11:49.773 --> 00:11:55.840 In this perspective, I think  the teaching of the Buddha can... 00:11:56.880 --> 00:12:02.645 can help a lot with psychotherapy. 00:12:05.360 --> 00:12:11.986 Looking deeply to realize the nature of interbeing, 00:12:11.986 --> 00:12:16.204 to know that the self is only made of non-self element, 00:12:16.204 --> 00:12:23.840 That kind of practice can greatly enhance the quality of the healing. 00:12:25.572 --> 00:12:30.639 Only with that practice  fear can be dealt with.