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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.76,0:00:05.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was a kid, I was obsessed\Nwith the Guinness Book of World Records,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.32,0:00:08.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I really wanted\Nto set a world record myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.80,0:00:11.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But there was just one small problem:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.52,0:00:13.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had absolutely no talent.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.52,0:00:17.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I decided to set\Na world record in something
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.96,0:00:20.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that demanded absolutely no skill at all.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.84,0:00:24.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I decided to set a world record
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.60,0:00:25.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in crawling.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.68,0:00:30.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.68,0:00:34.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, the record at the time\Nwas 12 and a half miles,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.84,0:00:39.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and for some reason,\Nthis seemed totally manageable.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.04,0:00:41.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.64,0:00:44.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I recruited my friend Anne,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.16,0:00:47.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and together we decided,\Nwe didn't even need to train.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.76,0:00:51.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.04,0:00:52.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And on the day of our record attempt,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.88,0:00:56.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we put furniture pads\Non the outside of our good luck jeans
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.56,0:00:57.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we set off,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.72,0:01:01.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and right away, we were in trouble,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.80,0:01:03.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the denim was against our skin
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.92,0:01:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it began to chafe,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.52,0:01:08.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and soon our knees were being chewed up.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.92,0:01:10.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hours in,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.16,0:01:12.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it began to rain.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.52,0:01:15.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, Anne dropped out.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.40,0:01:19.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then, it got dark.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.68,0:01:23.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, by now, my knees\Nwere bleeding through my jeans
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.52,0:01:25.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was hallucinating from the cold
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.76,0:01:28.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the pain and the monotony,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.48,0:01:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to give you an idea\Nof the sufferfest that I was undergoing,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.12,0:01:37.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the first lap around\Nthe high school track took 10 minutes.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.88,0:01:40.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The last lap took almost 30.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.00,0:01:46.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After 12 hours of crawling,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.44,0:01:47.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I stopped,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.80,0:01:50.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had gone eight and a half miles.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.88,0:01:55.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I was short of\Nthe 12-and-a-half-mile record.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.56,0:02:00.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, for many years, I thought\Nthis was a story of abject failure,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.12,0:02:02.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but today I see it differently,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.64,0:02:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because when I was\Nattempting the world record,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.52,0:02:07.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was doing three things.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.04,0:02:09.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was getting outside my comfort zone,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.40,0:02:11.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was calling upon my resilience,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.68,0:02:14.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was finding confidence in myself
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.44,0:02:15.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my own decisions.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.44,0:02:17.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't know it then,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.72,0:02:20.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but those are not\Nthe attributes of failure.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.48,0:02:24.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those are the attributes of bravery.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.28,0:02:27.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, in 1989, at the age of 26,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.88,0:02:30.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I became a San Francisco firefighter,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.80,0:02:34.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was the 15th woman\Nin a department of 1,500 men.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.00,0:02:38.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.24,0:02:43.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as you can imagine, when I arrived
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.12,0:02:45.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there were many doubts\Nabout whether we could do the job.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.84,0:02:51.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So even though I was a 5'10",\N150-pound collegiate rower,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.20,0:02:55.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and someone who could endure\N12 hours of searing knee pain --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.60,0:02:57.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.24,0:03:00.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew I still had to prove\Nmy strength and fitness.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.28,0:03:02.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So one day a call came in for a fire,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.12,0:03:04.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sure enough,\Nwhen my engine group pulled up,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.38,0:03:08.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was black smoke billowing\Nfrom a building off an alleyway.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.44,0:03:10.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was with a big guy named Skip,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.68,0:03:13.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was on the nozzle,\Nand I was right behind,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.44,0:03:15.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was a typical sort of fire.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.28,0:03:18.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was smoky, it was hot,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.68,0:03:20.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all of a sudden,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.40,0:03:22.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was an explosion,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.20,0:03:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Skip and I were blown backwards,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.40,0:03:26.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my mask was knocked sideways,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.56,0:03:28.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there was this moment of confusion.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.84,0:03:32.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I picked myself up,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.28,0:03:34.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I groped for the nozzle,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.12,0:03:36.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I did what a firefighter\Nwas supposed to do:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.64,0:03:38.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I lunged forward,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.40,0:03:39.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,opened up the water
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.88,0:03:41.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I tackled the fire myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.72,0:03:44.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The explosion had been caused\Nby a water heater,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.00,0:03:47.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so nobody was hurt,\Nand ultimately it was not a big deal,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.72,0:03:50.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but later Skip came up to me and said,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.00,0:03:52.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Nice job, Caroline,"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.76,0:03:55.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in this surprised sort of voice.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.08,0:03:56.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.60,0:04:01.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was confused, because\Nthe fire hadn't been difficult physically,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.44,0:04:05.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so why was he looking at me\Nwith something like astonishment?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.48,0:04:08.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then it became clear:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.16,0:04:11.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Skip, who was by the way a really nice guy
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.32,0:04:13.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and an excellent firefighter,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.56,0:04:16.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not only thought\Nthat women could not be strong,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.96,0:04:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he thought that they\Ncould not be brave either.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.76,0:04:22.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he wasn't the only one.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.56,0:04:25.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Friends, acquaintances and strangers,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.84,0:04:27.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,men and women throughout my career
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.92,0:04:29.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ask me over and over,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.40,0:04:33.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Caroline, all that fire, all that danger,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.36,0:04:34.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,aren't you scared?"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.32,0:04:38.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Honestly, I never heard\Na male firefighter asked this.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.92,0:04:40.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I became curious.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.20,0:04:44.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why wasn't bravery expected of women?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.76,0:04:47.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, the answer began to come
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.56,0:04:49.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when a friend of mine lamented to me
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.32,0:04:51.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that her young daughter\Nwas a big scaredy-cat,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.80,0:04:53.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so I began to notice,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.76,0:04:56.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yes, the daughter was anxious,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.48,0:04:59.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but more than that,\Nthe parents were anxious.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.12,0:05:03.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of what they said to her\Nwhen she was outside began with,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.40,0:05:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Be careful," "Watch out," or "No."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.92,0:05:11.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, my friends were not bad parents.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.60,0:05:14.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were just doing what most parents do,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.32,0:05:18.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is cautioning their daughters\Nmuch more than they caution their sons.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.44,0:05:23.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a study involving\Na playground fire pole, ironically,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.48,0:05:28.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in which researchers saw that little girls\Nwere very likely to be warned
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.60,0:05:32.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by both their moms and dads\Nabout the fire pole's risk,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.32,0:05:35.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if the little girls\Nstill wanted to play on the fire pole,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.80,0:05:38.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a parent was very likely to assist her.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.28,0:05:40.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the little boys?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.16,0:05:43.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were encouraged\Nto play on the fire pole
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.96,0:05:46.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,despite any trepidations\Nthat they might have,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.92,0:05:52.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and often the parents offered\Nguidance on how to use it on their own.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.48,0:05:57.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what message does this send\Nto both boys and girls?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.92,0:06:01.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, that girls are fragile\Nand more in need of help,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.88,0:06:05.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that boys can and should\Nmaster difficult tasks by themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.52,0:06:09.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It says that girls should be fearful
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.28,0:06:11.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and boys should be gutsy.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.16,0:06:15.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, the irony is that at this young age,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.68,0:06:18.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,girls and boys are actually\Nvery alike physically.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.20,0:06:20.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, girls are often\Nstronger until puberty,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.88,0:06:22.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and more mature.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.48,0:06:24.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yet we adults act
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.48,0:06:26.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as if girls are more fragile
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.84,0:06:28.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and more in need of help,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.80,0:06:30.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they can't handle as much.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.16,0:06:33.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the message that we absorb as kids
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.76,0:06:37.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is the message\Nthat fully permeates as we grow up.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.48,0:06:39.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We women believe it, men believe it,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.96,0:06:41.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and guess what?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.52,0:06:44.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As we become parents,\Nwe pass it on to our children,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.88,0:06:46.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so it goes.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.72,0:06:49.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, so now I had my answer.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.24,0:06:51.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is why women, even firewomen,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.84,0:06:53.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were expected to be scared.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.96,0:06:57.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is why women often are scared.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.92,0:07:01.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I know some of you\Nwon't believe me when I tell you this,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.08,0:07:03.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I am not against fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.20,0:07:08.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know it's an important emotion,\Nand it's there to keep us safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.04,0:07:11.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the problem is\Nwhen fear is the primary reaction
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.24,0:07:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we teach and encourage in girls
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.60,0:07:16.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whenever they face something\Noutside their comfort zone.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.76,0:07:20.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I was a paraglider pilot\Nfor many years --
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.80,0:07:23.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.72,0:07:26.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a paraglider is a parachute-like wing,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:26.16,0:07:29.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it does fly very well,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.92,0:07:32.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but to many people I realize\Nit looks just like a bedsheet
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.84,0:07:34.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with strings attached.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.36,0:07:35.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.56,0:07:38.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I spent a lot of time on mountain tops
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.04,0:07:39.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,inflating this bedsheet,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.64,0:07:41.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,running off and flying.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.56,0:07:44.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I know what you're thinking.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.16,0:07:47.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're like, Caroline,\Na little fear would make sense here.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.80,0:07:50.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you're right, it does.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.68,0:07:53.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I assure you, I did feel fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.20,0:07:54.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But on that mountain top,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.48,0:07:56.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,waiting for the wind\Nto come in just right,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.56,0:07:58.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt so many other things too:
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.80,0:08:01.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,exhilaration, confidence.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.00,0:08:03.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew I was a good pilot.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.80,0:08:06.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew the conditions were good,\Nor I wouldn't be there.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.84,0:08:10.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew how great it was going to be\Na thousand feet in the air.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.40,0:08:13.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So yes, fear was there,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.04,0:08:15.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I would take a good hard look at it,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.24,0:08:17.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,assess just how relevant it was
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.92,0:08:20.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then put it where it belonged,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.28,0:08:21.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which was more often than not
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.72,0:08:25.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,behind my exhilaration, my anticipation
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.72,0:08:26.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my confidence.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.40,0:08:29.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'm not against fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.44,0:08:31.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just pro-bravery.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.52,0:08:37.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I'm not saying\Nyour girls must be firefighters,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.76,0:08:39.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or that they should be paragliders,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.00,0:08:44.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I am saying that we are raising\Nour girls to be timid, even helpless,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.60,0:08:49.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it begins when we caution them\Nagainst physical risk.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.24,0:08:51.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The fear we learn\Nand the experiences we don't
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.88,0:08:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stay with us as we become women
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.72,0:08:57.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and morphs into all those things\Nthat we face and try to shed:
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.00,0:09:00.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our hesitation in speaking out,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.32,0:09:02.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our deference so that we can be liked
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.00,0:09:05.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our lack of confidence\Nin our own decisions.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.96,0:09:09.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So how do we become brave?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.44,0:09:12.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, here's the good news.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.24,0:09:14.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bravery is learned,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.24,0:09:15.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and like anything learned,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.68,0:09:17.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it just needs to be practiced.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:18.04,0:09:19.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So first,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.64,0:09:21.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have to take a deep breath
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.36,0:09:23.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and encourage our girls
Dialogue: 0,0:09:23.44,0:09:26.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to skateboard, climb trees
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.16,0:09:28.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and clamber around\Non that playground fire pole.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.48,0:09:31.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is what my own mother did.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.68,0:09:33.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She didn't know it then,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.48,0:09:35.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but researchers have a name for this.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.80,0:09:37.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They call it risky play,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.92,0:09:42.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and studies show that risky play\Nis really important for kids, all kids,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.40,0:09:44.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it teaches hazard assessment,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.00,0:09:47.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it teaches delayed gratification,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.20,0:09:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it teaches resilience,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.00,0:09:50.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it teaches confidence.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.08,0:09:52.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In other words,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.56,0:09:55.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when kids get outside\Nand practice bravery,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.88,0:09:59.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they learn valuable life lessons.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.60,0:10:05.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Second, we have to stop\Ncautioning our girls willy-nilly.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.36,0:10:07.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So notice next time you say,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.80,0:10:09.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Watch out, you're going to get hurt,"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.68,0:10:11.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or "Don't do that, it's dangerous."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.48,0:10:16.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And remember that often\Nwhat you're really telling her
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.08,0:10:18.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that she shouldn't be pushing herself,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.52,0:10:20.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that she's really not good enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.72,0:10:22.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that she should be afraid.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.32,0:10:25.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Third,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.08,0:10:29.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we women have to start\Npracticing bravery too.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.88,0:10:33.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We cannot teach our girls\Nuntil we teach ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.96,0:10:35.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So here's another thing:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.88,0:10:38.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fear and exhilaration
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.00,0:10:40.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feel very similar:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.76,0:10:44.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the shaky hands,\Nthe heightened heart rate,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.36,0:10:45.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the nervous tension,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.76,0:10:47.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm betting that for many of you
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.52,0:10:50.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the last time you thought\Nyou were scared out of your wits,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.36,0:10:53.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you may have been feeling\Nmostly exhilaration,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.32,0:10:55.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now you've missed an opportunity.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.72,0:10:56.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:57.56,0:11:00.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And while girls should be getting\Noutside to learn to be gutsy,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:00.56,0:11:06.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I get that adults don't want\Nto get on hoverboards or climb trees,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.68,0:11:10.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we all should be practicing
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.16,0:11:12.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at home, in the office
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.40,0:11:14.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and even right here getting up the guts
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.52,0:11:16.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to talk to someone that you really admire.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.36,0:11:22.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Finally, when your girl is, let's say,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.40,0:11:24.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on her bike on the top of the steep hill
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.52,0:11:27.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that she insists\Nshe's too scared to go down,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.96,0:11:30.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,guide her to access her bravery.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.72,0:11:34.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ultimately, maybe that hill\Nreally is too steep,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.00,0:11:38.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but she'll come to that conclusion\Nthrough courage, not fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.92,0:11:43.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because this is not\Nabout the steep hill in front of her.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.84,0:11:45.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is about the life ahead of her
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.40,0:11:48.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that she has the tools
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.20,0:11:50.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to handle and assess
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.32,0:11:53.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the dangers\Nthat we cannot protect her from,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.60,0:11:57.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the challenges that we won't\Nbe there to guide her through,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.16,0:12:00.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,everything that our girls here
Dialogue: 0,0:12:00.64,0:12:02.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and around the world
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.04,0:12:03.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,face in their future.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:06.20,0:12:07.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So by the way,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.40,0:12:11.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the world record for crawling today --
Dialogue: 0,0:12:11.20,0:12:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.60,0:12:16.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is 35.18 miles,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.52,0:12:21.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I would really love\Nto see a girl go break that.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.00,0:12:24.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)