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>> Stop crying
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>> Stop with the tears
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>> Don't cry
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>> Pick yourself up
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>> Stop with the emotions
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>> Don't be a pussy
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>> Don't let nobody disrespect you
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>> Be cool
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>> And be kind of a dick
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>> Always keep your mouth shut
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>> Nobody likes a tattle-tale
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>> Bros come before hoes
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>> Don't let your woman run your life.
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>> You're a bitch.
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>> What a fag.
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>> Get laid.
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>> Do something.
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>> Be a man.
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>> Be a man!
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>> Grow some balls!
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>> The 3 most destructive words
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that every man receives
when he is a boy,
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is when he's told to be a man.
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>> We've constructed an
idea of masculinity
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in the United States
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that doesn't give young boys
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a way to feel secure in their masculinity.
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So, we make 'em go prove it all the time.
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>> Within their peer group culture
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each of them is posturing
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based on how the other
boys are posturing,
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and what they end up missing
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is what they each really want,
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which is just that closeness.
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>> In good times guys are,
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like, really close to each other,
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but when things get a little bit worse
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you're on your own.
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>> From middle school
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I had four really close friends.
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Once I went kind of went into high school,
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I struggled finding people I can talk to
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because I feel like I'm not supposed to get help.
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>> Our kids get up every morning.
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They have to prepare their mask
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for how they're going to walk to school.
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A lot of our students don't know how
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to take the mask off.
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What is it you don't let people see?
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Almost 90% of you have pain and anger
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on the back of that paper.
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>> If you never cry
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then you have all these feelings
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stuffed up inside of you,
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and then you can't get them out.
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>> They really buy into a culture
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that doesn't value what we feminized.
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If we're in a culture that doesn't value caring,
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doesn't value relationships,
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doesn't value empathy,
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you are going to have boys and girls,
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men and women go crazy.
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>> I had anger issues in high school.
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I felt like an outcast.
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I've been suspended at least once
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every year I was here.
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We would just look for trouble
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and just like, try to fight.
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>> Boys are more likely to act out,
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they're more likely to become aggressive.
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Most people miss that as depression,
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or see it as a conduct disorder,
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or just a bad kid.
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>> I felt like just giving up on life,
you know,
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see I had suicide thoughts
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in my head in sixth grade.
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>> I felt alone for-for a long time,
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and I actually thought about killing myself.
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>> Whether it's homicidal violence,
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or suicidal violence,
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people resort to such desperate behavior,
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only when they are feeling
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shamed and humiliated,
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or feel they would be
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if they didn't prove that they were real men.
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>> If you're told from day one
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'don't let nobody disrespect you',
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and 'this is the way you handle it as a man',
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respect is linked to violence.
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>> If I can man up,
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why step down from that,
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you feel me?
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>> It's like instinct.
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>> So man up!
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>> Man up.
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>> Man up.
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>> Man up.
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>> Grow some fucking balls!
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>> Act like a man.
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>> Be a man.
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>> Be a man!
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>> For my kids,
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I was gonna end this
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hyper masculine narrative here.
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